Catching feelings with a regular

[ah333]

Try not to judge, I'm aware how sad and pathetic this sounds but hoping for some advice if anyone's been in a similar situation.

I've seen the same escort a few times, she's outcall only and originally bid on an RB of mine. We really hit it off the first time and she stayed for maybe 4-5 hours on a one hour booking. After that I was keen to meet again, which we did a week later and it was even better than the first time. She again stayed for hours and I'm really certain she enjoyed herself just as much as me. I had gotten cash out but kind of forgot about it as she walked through the door snogging me and things just barreled from there. She left without being paid but didn't mention it.

After that I've messaged a couple of times and been blanked. Despite my head knowing that what I'm feeling is absolutely ridiculous, I'm mortified.

My style over the years has always been hit it and quit it with escorts that I'd researched, fancied and made sure I was going to have a good time with. Then I got into a period of just having quickies with anything cheap that took my fancy on Vivastreet etc as the options in London diminished. I thought I'd met someone I could have a good time with on a semi regular basis without the risk of disappointment you get with so many working girls and now I'm massively feeling like I've fucked up a good thing very early on.

Someone please give me a slap in the face and tell me to just let this go. I keep opening my phone to send a text and I feel like a silly teenager.

[Thecunninglinguist]

FFS not ANOTHER EAS thread. Read the previous ones for advice and just get over yourself.

[Waterhouse]

Just let it go.

[winkywanky]

Try not to judge, I'm aware how sad and pathetic this sounds but hoping for some advice if anyone's been in a similar situation.

I've seen the same escort a few times, she's outcall only and originally bid on an RB of mine. We really hit it off the first time and she stayed for maybe 4-5 hours on a one hour booking. After that I was keen to meet again, which we did a week later and it was even better than the first time. She again stayed for hours and I'm really certain she enjoyed herself just as much as me. I had gotten cash out but kind of forgot about it as she walked through the door snogging me and things just barreled from there. She left without being paid but didn't mention it.

After that I've messaged a couple of times and been blanked. Despite my head knowing that what I'm feeling is absolutely ridiculous, I'm mortified.

My style over the years has always been hit it and quit it with escorts that I'd researched, fancied and made sure I was going to have a good time with. Then I got into a period of just having quickies with anything cheap that took my fancy on Vivastreet etc as the options in London diminished. I thought I'd met someone I could have a good time with on a semi regular basis without the risk of disappointment you get with so many working girls and now I'm massively feeling like I've fucked up a good thing very early on.

Someone please give me a slap in the face and tell me to just let this go. I keep opening my phone to send a text and I feel like a silly teenager.

You're probably not as mortified as her after you fucked her for nothing  .

99% she is pissed at you for not paying her.

1% she has feelings for you and decided to cut it off.

I assume as soon as you realised you hadn't paid her, that you apologised profusely and asked her how you might pay?

Consider yourself bitch-slapped 

[ah333]

Sorry, probably should have guessed this was something that came up a lot.

You're probably not as mortified as her after you fucked her for nothing  .

99% she is pissed at you for not paying her.

1% she has feelings for you and decided to cut it off.

I assume as soon as you realised you hadn't paid her, that you apologised profusely and asked her how you might pay?

Consider yourself bitch-slapped 

Yeah that was the message I sent - and then I played mind-wrestling with myself wondering if she was actually offended for the opposite reason. To say I feel stupid is an understatement, just wanted to get it off my chest in an arena with like minded people I guess.

[Imp8]

You're probably not as mortified as her after you fucked her for nothing  .

99% she is pissed at you for not paying her.

1% she has feelings for you and decided to cut it off.

I assume as soon as you realised you hadn't paid her, that you apologised profusely and asked her how you might pay?

Consider yourself bitch-slapped 

Sounds about right......
She forgot to take her money  / You forgot to pay , you didn't chase it up as vigorously as you should have,obviously she provided a service which you paid for,she thought   ' Cheap  Bastard '....and Fucked you off.
Definitely a plot line there   !!!!!

[winkywanky]

Sorry, probably should have guessed this was something that came up a lot.

Yeah that was the message I sent - and then I played mind-wrestling with myself wondering if she was actually offended for the opposite reason. To say I feel stupid is an understatement, just wanted to get it off my chest in an arena with like minded people I guess.

Even if she actually really liked you, the fact that you didn't pay her will make her feel cheap.

Did you immediately apologise and ask how you might pay her? Or did you assume she gave you a freebie because she didn't ask for the money?

Be honest.

And if you did do the above, did she simply not reply?

Please tell us the whole story because then we can tell you what really happened here. You're unable to judge properly because you are blinded by feelings.

[daviemac]

Sorry, probably should have guessed this was something that came up a lot.

You mean to say in the 8 years you've been a member you haven't noticed EAS being mentioned. 

A quick search brings this one up first and it was posted 2 years after you joined.  https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=67722.msg863414#msg863414

And another one a year later. - https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=98679.0

[ah333]

You mean to say in the 8 years you've been a member you haven't noticed EAS being mentioned. 

A quick search brings this one up first and it was posted 2 years after you joined.  https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=67722.msg863414#msg863414

I basically only ever look at the London reviews section, but yes, point taken.

[alabama1]

I'm sorry but i just cannot believe that she stayed with you for 5 hours on a one hour booking. 

[ah333]

Even if she actually really liked you, the fact that you didn't pay her will make her feel cheap.

Did you immediately apologise and ask how you might pay her? Or did you assume she gave you a freebie because she didn't ask for the money?

Be honest.

And if you did do the above, did she simply not reply?

Please tell us the whole story because then we can tell you what really happened here. You're unable to judge properly because you are blinded by feelings.

At first I assumed the latter. She had messaged me OTW home to let me know when she got home safe (she took the bus). The next day I messaged saying along the lines of thanks for a great time and sorry I got carried away without even discussing money. After that I it was radio silence. I sent a further message to say sorry if I'd been a prick but that's it.

[winkywanky]

At first I assumed the latter. She had messaged me OTW home to let me know when she got home safe (she took the bus). The next day I messaged saying along the lines of thanks for a great time and sorry I got carried away without even discussing money. After that I it was radio silence. I sent a further message to say sorry if I'd been a prick but that's it.

What you've done there is to possibly make her think payment is 'negotiable' as far as you're concerned.

What you should have said was you were really sorry, you got carried away and forgot to pay her, and how can you get the money to her.

[Atrueyorkie]

Ffs I never understand these ones.

Please separate the two. It’s a business transaction. She didn’t willing come over, you “paid”. It’s good having a regular but never forget she’s probably getting dug out by Paul from down the road a couple hours later.

Of course you have a good vibe and understanding relationship because they’re human too. Please don’t text.

A regular I saw, visited a number of times and then had gotten a text for an outside session. She just wanted dick and as we had a mutual understanding it was beneficial for both parts. Not for a split second would I ever muddy the water and think I’m the next James Bond. Punting is for me a NSA scenario. The moment it’s not your in dangerous territory.

I’ll give you a virtual slap for now OP, Wake up 

[ah333]

Yep. I'm sure you're right.

FWIW I'm well aware how fantasist this may all sound. It all caught me off guard too in every aspect. Live and learn I guess. Clearly I'm more of a big softy than I thought I was!

[winkywanky]

You got a free fuck, what's not to like? 

[pa5151]

Imagine falling in love with a a prostitute.

[winkywanky]

We can't help our feelings, and some do. Having feelings is nothing to be ashamed of.

But if you're 'the sensitive kind' then you need to consider why you punt and whether it's good for you, and if you decide to continue then you need to be able to deal with it and move on. You need a coping strategy.

[Jayj]

I can relate as I had feelings for a SP last year and the “relationship” (we spent time together had sex which wasn’t always paid meet outside her working world) this lasted for best part of a year, it ended in Feb (she returned to her previous 9to5 life stopped working as an escort)  and I’ve now had the benefit of 6 months where I initially felt incredibly let down 6 months on I’m actually quite philosophical about it, the reality was we liked each other, I was a handy free maid, driver, checked out locations for her to work, vetted clients, so the “free” sex I was actually paying for, did we get along yes was it more than a friend with benefits no, would I do it again absolutely I really liked her and I had a wonderful year.

In the cold light of day 6 months on I had a great year with someone I liked she had the best part of a grand out of me and a load of free time, did she shed any tears when she said goodbye only as far as her car.

The reality is your paying for her time, now that shouldn’t stop you feeling attracted or enjoying that time together but always remember when the money stops so will the sex.

Enjoy it but remember why your both together money and sex, that said enjoy it for what it is but be nice and enjoy being together 👍

[Lou2019]

Imagine falling in love with a a prostitute.

what an odd comment? care to expand? You know we are just women doing a job at the end of the day we are not some alien being or something    : still, we are all entitled to our opinion. 

[alabama1]

Imagine falling in love with a a prostitute.

Having spent many an intimate hour with some absolutely gorgeous  ladies half my age ( mainly Polish), yes i can very easily imagine that, many times over. 

[mr.bluesky]

Don't worry she will probably send Sergei round to your gaff with a baseball bat to collect payment 

[Fuzzyduck]

Try not to judge,
...

You lost me here, buddy.

My style over the years has always been hit it and quit it with escorts that I'd researched, fancied and made sure I was going to have a good time with. Then I got into a period of just having quickies with anything cheap that took my fancy on Vivastreet etc as the options in London diminished. I thought I'd met someone I could have a good time with on a semi regular basis without the risk of disappointment you get with so many working girls and now I'm massively feeling like I've fucked up a good thing very early on.

So you got several hours of fucking and social time for one hour of payment, and let her get the bus home? Classy guy. I don't see this as EAS at all: you're more concerned about missing out on an easy, cheap fuck rather than spending time with someone you really like, e.g. you initially thought it must have been a freebie.  If you genuinely have feelings for her (which I don't believe you do) then you'd make more of an effort to tell her that.

You could have handled the post-punt comms a little better but there's little point trying to speculate what's going through her head. She's decided she doesn't want to be involved with you (for whatever reason) and is happy to forego the money you still owe her. Tough shit. Deal with it and move on.

Personally I know I'd be tempted to see if the situation could be salvaged but that might be more trouble that it's worth.

[tynetunnel]

As soon as it came to light that you had not paid, remedying that situation should have been your priority. That it wasn’t, says a lot 

[puntingpumping1920]

Imagine falling in love with a a prostitute.

 
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[lillythesavage]

You lost me here, buddy.


So you got several hours of fucking and social time for one hour of payment, and let her get the bus home? Classy guy. I don't see this as EAS at all: you're more concerned about missing out on an easy, cheap fuck rather than spending time with someone you really like, e.g. you initially thought it must have been a freebie.  If you genuinely have feelings for her (which I don't believe you do) then you'd make more of an effort to tell her that.

You could have handled the post-punt comms a little better but there's little point trying to speculate what's going through her head. She's decided she doesn't want to be involved with you (for whatever reason) and is happy to forego the money you still owe her. Tough shit. Deal with it and move on.

Personally I know I'd be tempted to see if the situation could be salvaged but that might be more trouble that it's worth.

Agreed,

[Happiness]

Sounds like she was lonely considering massively overstaying twice. The fact payment didn't take place (even if by accident) probably really upset her, so she had to cut contact for her own sanity. I couldn't imagine paying at the end, can't believe some of you do that. Fair enough offering to do a split - 50% at the start and 50% at the end. But nothing upfront and all at the end is taking the piss in my view - nothing will change my mind about that.

[winkywanky]

Agree with Fuzzyduck's comment about not driving the girl home.

But of course the OP may well be only 18 and not got a car yet. Bless  .

[newpuntingguy]

I understand OP but you’ve got to realise that if it wasn’t for you opening your wallet, these women wouldn’t be doing what they’re doing for you. I don’t mean you specifically but any of us. For them it’s a job to make money. I’ve just posted a similar thread because I’ve got a WG who texts me unsolicited and it makes me wonder does she like me etc but I will not go falling in love with her because that wouldn’t end well for any of us.

[lillythesavage]

Agree with Fuzzyduck's comment about not driving the girl home.

But of course the OP may well be only 18 and not got a car yet. Bless  .

So I am not the only one  , Tbf that probably pissed her off more than anything, bonus time and shown the door and the bus stop, more so if there was a car on the drive.

[KerachiDope]

Imagine falling in love with a a prostitute.

Sounds like a Country and Western song.

[winkywanky]

  

[ah333]

I should have known better than to post this 

Lots of fair, correct and salient points. I did actually offer to drive her or book a cab and she said no. First time I saw her I paid her when she got there (and always do whether visiting or being visited) but as stated the nature of how the second meet started didn't allow for that.

With all that said, I'm definitely in the wrong and learnt a lesson. It is what it is. Will give it some time and judge whether it's worth apologising and offering again to pay but as has been said it's probably past the point of being worthwhile.

[lillythesavage]

I should have known better than to post this 

Lots of fair, correct and salient points. I did actually offer to drive her or book a cab and she said no. First time I saw her I paid her when she got there (and always do whether visiting or being visited) but as stated the nature of how the second meet started didn't allow for that.

With all that said, I'm definitely in the wrong and learnt a lesson. It is what it is. Will give it some time and judge whether it's worth apologising and offering again to pay but as has been said it's probably past the point of being worthwhile.

Very few will refuse money, if you manage to get through.

[mr.bluesky]

I should have known better than to post this 

Lots of fair, correct and salient points. I did actually offer to drive her or book a cab and she said no. First time I saw her I paid her when she got there (and always do whether visiting or being visited) but as stated the nature of how the second meet started didn't allow for that.

With all that said, I'm definitely in the wrong and learnt a lesson. It is what it is. Will give it some time and judge whether it's worth apologising and offering again to pay but as has been said it's probably past the point of being worthwhile.

You know what they say " a problem shared is a problem halved " or in UK punting terms " a problem shared is a problem ridiculed " 

[willie loman]

you forgot to pay, she forgot to ask, unlikely, but why did neither of you resolve it, quick text either way, seems a load of tosh to me.

[punter6199]

I wish this happened to me a free bang yes please

[Bonker]

Sounds like a Country and Western song.

She ate ma dawg, left me destitute

[Payyourwaymate]

Try not to judge, I'm aware how sad and pathetic this sounds but hoping for some advice if anyone's been in a similar situation.

I've seen the same escort a few times, she's outcall only and originally bid on an RB of mine. We really hit it off the first time and she stayed for maybe 4-5 hours on a one hour booking. After that I was keen to meet again, which we did a week later and it was even better than the first time. She again stayed for hours and I'm really certain she enjoyed herself just as much as me. I had gotten cash out but kind of forgot about it as she walked through the door snogging me and things just barreled from there. She left without being paid but didn't mention it.

After that I've messaged a couple of times and been blanked. Despite my head knowing that what I'm feeling is absolutely ridiculous, I'm mortified.

My style over the years has always been hit it and quit it with escorts that I'd researched, fancied and made sure I was going to have a good time with. Then I got into a period of just having quickies with anything cheap that took my fancy on Vivastreet etc as the options in London diminished. I thought I'd met someone I could have a good time with on a semi regular basis without the risk of disappointment you get with so many working girls and now I'm massively feeling like I've fucked up a good thing very early on.

Someone please give me a slap in the face and tell me to just let this go. I keep opening my phone to send a text and I feel like a silly teenager.

Don't give up. I believe in you. It sounds like true love at first sight. Go and rescue your damsel in distress, she needs to be saved. Go get her bro..... . What's wrong with you.... we don't love em hoesss  .

[s0whatsnew?]

It seems to me primarily a problem of how to repair a fcukp-up.  Made much more complex and tricky by the EAS involved, but thats secondary to the main problem.  More difficult than a civvy relationship misunderstanding to sort out because  the mental cut-off after a session is more definite and final ('until the next time')

God knows i've been there so often myself.   A stupid mistake by me and its too late to repair however hard and sincerely  I try.   One of those stand-out occasions for me, I realized my mistake just five mins after leaving.  An immediate abject apology text with a follow-up some hours later and again the next day which seemed to be accepted.  But a couple of weeks later when I tried to re-book, i got a pretty curt rejection.   Nothing to do but suck it up.   

[webpunter]

This might be more on the money:  Buzzcocks - Ever Fallen In Love (With Someone You Shouldn’t’ve?)

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There's more chance of ManUtd winning the Prem than OP having a positive outcome with this burd 

Released 1978, now i'm feeling old 

Sounds like a Country and Western song.

[Crockers]

Hey, OP, send her a poem.

In fact, I wrote one for you to send. It will work.

'My love for you is true,
But now you've left my sack blue.

If you let me give you the Queen's notes,
On you I promise I will dotes,

So once again I can empty my sack in you.'

[Dopedj]

She’s a good actress whoever she is…she blanked your dumbass cos you didn’t pay her the second time. She felt used (free sex for 5hours with a weirdo) and so she blocked your number.
Move on …or ask her for her bank details/cashapp  to transfer the cash, I’m sure you will get a response.


 

[B4bcock]

Hey, OP, send her a poem.

In fact, I wrote one for you to send. It will work.

'My love for you is true,
But now you've left my sack blue.

If you let me give you the Queen's notes,
On you I promise I will dotes,

So once again I can empty my sack in you.'

I fear it may be too late.

OP fell in love as he played with her gash
But made the mistake of leaving no cash
She used to wank him
Now she will blank him
And leave him to feel the backlash.

[tynetunnel]

I fear it may be too late.

OP fell in love as he played with her gash
But made the mistake of leaving no cash
She used to wank him
Now she will blank him
And leave him to feel the backlash.

 

[PLeisure]

I fear it may be too late.

OP fell in love as he played with her gash
But made the mistake of leaving no cash
She used to wank him
Now she will blank him
And leave him to feel the backlash.

Excellent summary! 


OP, walk away. Even if she eventually accepts payment. Do NOT see it as an opportunity to get back to how you perceived things were. This is strictly a cash transaction. Wake up! 

[winkywanky]

This might be more on the money:  Buzzcocks - Ever Fallen In Love (With Someone You Shouldn’t’ve?)

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There's more chance of ManUtd winning the Prem than OP having a positive outcome with this burd 

Released 1978, now i'm feeling old 

Saw them at Hammersmith Odeon, in I think '79? 

Drummer (John Maher) spat his dummy out after the encore and kicked over his kit 

[Rochelle]

You're probably not as mortified as her after you fucked her for nothing  .

99% she is pissed at you for not paying her.

1% she has feelings for you and decided to cut it off.

I assume as soon as you realised you hadn't paid her, that you apologised profusely and asked her how you might pay?

Consider yourself bitch-slapped 

I think she fancied him and decided to cut it off.
I would think that most girls that left then realized they hadn't been paid, would have sent a message asking about their money. I certainly bloody would. I wouldn't just leave it alone without at least trying to get my money.

[winkywanky]

Don't tell him that, you'll get him all excited!   

[stevedave]

I think she fancied him and decided to cut it off.

You'll be getting his hopes up now 

[Doc Holliday]

I think she fancied him and decided to cut it off.
I would think that most girls that left then realized they hadn't been paid, would have sent a message asking about their money. I certainly bloody would. I wouldn't just leave it alone without at least trying to get my money.

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...although WWs 'cut it off' is not the most appropriate expression