Mentally preparing for a FS punt if you are nervous or shy but want it?

[Fishface]

Hate to admit it but apart from some massage with HE I feel nervous of booking a FS punt even though that's what I think I really want. The fear of just 'going for it' and getting an erection to match! Don't know how some of you guys can book a 15 minute appointment and get straight into it, do everything and leave happy. Wish I could do this but fear I can't.

A question of temperament or something else?

Not a trolling question but genuine and yes I'm pissed right now and wouldn't have had the courage to ask otherwise.

How can I alter my state of mind to just pay for it and do it and enjoy it?

[Herts_Outcaller]

Don't wank the day before

Visualise how you want it to go, then when you're on your way just chill or listen to music or whatever you normally do on your commute to work. Make the first one an hour in case it does take you a while to get going.

After a few it'll feel like second nature. Like everything, the more you do, the easier it gets

[snaitram99]

Might be worth seeing a girl who can do genuine massage, book an hour, start with massage and move on to more than HE.

[Slowjoe]

First time? Have a few drinks. Not too pissed, but enough to be  relaxed. Then you won't be apprehensive and all will be fine. When one WG down you will wonder why you were ever nervous. Good luck.

[peter purves]

Personally, I think there must be something which is holding you back from having FS.

As a matter, of course, you will eventually move to FS...if you are patient enough, as your view to whatever is holding you will back will change

Good luck mate!

[londonpunter1]

If you've already had a massage with HE, then your almost there! Do some research and find a WG who is more dominant (but not a dominatrix  ), tell her what you want, massage first then on to the main course, and that you want her to take the lead. If she mentions in her profile that she is more submissive, leave alone for now, otherwise you might both be waiting for something to happen
As said by someone else, go for 60min to start with and give yourself time to relax. Personally 60min is my minimum as I don't like to be rushed or feel under pressure.

[OakTree]

I certainly wouldn’t go to a punt after having a few drinks. Dutch courage isn’t advised in these circumstances, besides most WGs smelling alcohol on your breathe may well turn you away.

The fact you’re having problems going through with full sex may mean that a paid for sex encounter is not the best path to get over this. Perhaps going to your doctor and asking for some sort of counselling/therapy may be the best route.

Fucking for cash is not a cure all sex panacea

[cueball]

Book an hour but stick to what you know you like and let it flow. Move onto podging when you're ready with a lass you've seen before.

[scutty brown]

Expect the first one to go wrong, its a learning game.
And book a girl who has a good reputation here, and let her know its your first time and you're nervous.

Don't book a romanian..............

[scutty brown]

First time? Have a few drinks. Not too pissed, but enough to be  relaxed. Then you won't be apprehensive and all will be fine. When one WG down you will wonder why you were ever nervous. Good luck.

No, don't drink - it'll fuck your erection when combined with the stress of the new situation. And the last thing you want mid fuck is a piss break

[the_exile]

After a few it'll feel like second nature. Like everything, the more you do, the easier it gets

A lot of truth in this it gets easier once you have seen a few WGs. Helps if you can book a longer session as has been suggested.

[LLPunting]

Here's the best possible piece of advice.

Go see someone you think is really sexy and has a reputation for delivering an enthusiastic service that matches your tastes.

Once you've got over the paying for sex bit you'll find you can shag almost anything and you can save a packet for a given rate of indulgence or you can fuck more than you dreamed of.  Enjoy, just avoid women who aren't willing.

[threechilliman]

Don't over think it. Its just a fuck at the end of the day. No biggie.

[Fishface]

Thanks for the replies.

So far it seems 60 minutes, not a Romanian, don't see it as the be all and end all of punts just a step on the way, don't drink, find an experienced well reviewed kind WG with a good attitude, someone pretty, young and sexy, I'm paying for it so why pick an old hag I might feel 'comfortable' with.

Attitude seems the key thing as I know from experience even with massage with HE, if they have a shitty attitude I can't get an erection and even if I can I struggle to cum or don't. Then I blame myself more than them and of course they blame me too!

I could just say I'm not suited to punting but that's a bit like saying I should just lay down and die and not have what others take for granted.

[PepeMAGA]

where are you based? people could recommend a girl that's local for you

[scutty brown]

Thanks for the replies.

So far it seems 60 minutes, not a Romanian, don't see it as the be all and end all of punts just a step on the way, don't drink, find an experienced well reviewed kind WG with a good attitude, someone pretty, young and sexy, I'm paying for it so why pick an old hag I might feel 'comfortable' with.

Attitude seems the key thing as I know from experience even with massage with HE, if they have a shitty attitude I can't get an erection and even if I can I struggle to cum or don't. Then I blame myself more than them and of course they blame me too!

I could just say I'm not suited to punting but that's a bit like saying I should just lay down and die and not have what others take for granted.

You're close to it, but don't get too hung up over "young"......experience can count more than age, and a 35-year old with experience of life can be more rewarding than a 20-year old who just wants to party.............

[wristjob]

Expect the first one to go wrong, its a learning game.
And book a girl who has a good reputation here, and let her know its your first time and you're nervous.

Don't book a romanian..............

Scutty talks a lot of sense. Don't drink, don't go Romanian, expect it to go crap. if it were me starting again I would book any random 15 min just to get it out the way and keep most your money for a proper punt. It's not the first time then is it. In the past when I've had a couple of years out I've been a bit nervous picking up the phone but once I've got a couple of punts down it's just a normal thing.

[webpunter]

It's all about preparation
Get to bed early the night b4
Have your mum make you some hot chocolate & read you a story

In the morning its time for a bath & some fresh underpants
Some pocket money & a map with some directions
A flask with a hot drink & some sandwiches in silver foil
For sustinence

If you ain't back by the time it gets dark your mum will call the Police
Good luck

What could possibly go wrong ? 

How can I alter my state of mind to just pay for it and do it and enjoy it?

[scutty brown]

Scutty talks a lot of sense. Don't drink, don't go Romanian, expect it to go crap. if it were me starting again I would book any random 15 min just to get it out the way and keep most your money for a proper punt. It's not the first time then is it. In the past when I've had a couple of years out I've been a bit nervous picking up the phone but once I've got a couple of punts down it's just a normal thing.

and remember - its supposed to be fun. If it blows up in your face, just laugh and learn.

[Stevensmiles]

Scutty does talk sense, but not about everything 


Why not have a drink or two.
Why do you feel nervous about going all the way.

It’s a punt for Christ’s sake. Not a matter of life or death. It’s fun, or it should be, well most of the time it is.

If you’ve been having happy endings then what’s so psychologically different in having FS.
A WG your paying couldn’t give a toss wether you perform or not, so why worry. She’s not your gf or bf or wife whatever.

Man up for gods sake.

Oh and stop drinking only when your posting on here. 

[scutty brown]

Scutty does talk sense, but not about everything 


Why not have a drink or two.
Why do you feel nervous about going all the way.

It’s a punt for Christ’s sake. Not a matter of life or death. It’s fun, or it should be, well most of the time it is.

If you’ve been having happy endings then what’s so psychologically different in having FS.
A WG your paying couldn’t give a toss wether you perform or not, so why worry. She’s not your gf or bf or wife whatever.

Man up for gods sake.

Oh and stop drinking only when your posting on here. 

If I drink half a pint I can't get an erection, and a lot of blokes are the same

[webpunter]

Crikey 
Getting it up can be a struggle when bladdered
Solution = viagra or kamagra
Not bashing one out for a while helps 
As for getting it over the line - an entirely different matter 
However in the morning the hangover horn appears & a decent R&T session is the ideal cure 

If I drink half a pint I can't get an erection, and a lot of blokes are the same

[bushman]

Go for a Rom. She will treat you as a business transaction and wouldn't care if you under perform.
You therefore don't need to either. It's business you want to fuck and she wants the easy money. Nothing more to this than that.   So no need to stress about anything.  After the Rom start looking for more decent WG's and it will all make sense after a while.
Just remember it's not a date and don't ever fall for a WG.

[scutty brown]

Crikey 
Getting it up can be a struggle when bladdered
Solution = viagra or kamagra
Not bashing one out for a while helps 
As for getting it over the line - an entirely different matter 
However in the morning the hangover horn appears & a decent R&T session is the ideal cure 

even with viagra the alcohol takes precedence....
this guy is going to be worried enough to cause problems on his first punt, booze will just make it worse

[webpunter]

IMO the OP is a worrier.  Some you just can't help

even with viagra the alcohol takes precedence....
this guy is going to be worried enough to cause problems on his first punt, booze will just make it worse

[Spiceoflife]

Ring the girl to discuss a booking and have a brief chat. You'll get a feeling of their attitude and whether you'll hit it off. I find I'm less nervous when I then meet them for the first time. Helps if they speak decent English.

[Sleet]

Why not have a drink or two.
Why do you feel nervous about going all the way.

At my last booking the SP offered me a drink, she suggested beer and produced 2 pints of Stella.
Great ice breaker and had a great punt.

[Stevensmiles]

I’m not asking the OP to get bladdered for fucks sake and anybody who can’t get an erection after half a shandy........... I really need to take that person out on a date.
Cheap or what 

Sorry Scutty 

But we all react differently to alcohol.
I’ve taken a pop with a blue pill a couple of times and followed the rules. No beer beforehand and just water.

But for me a couple of drinks before helps. Everybody different like I said.


Bloody hell. Would the OP have difficulties in civvie street if he met a sure thing in a pub I wonder.

Or is it just a head thing cos he’s paying for it.

[Arbetare]

My first punt I was shitting myself on the walk-up, a real case of rubber legs! I think this is quite a normal feeling if you've not done this before.

I did a load of research before my first FS. Settled on a very well reviewed SP who appealed to me; check the Puntingwiki links in your area (links above reviews) as they tend to have a "league table" of reviewed SPs. This'll increase the chances that your first punt will be a good one.

Just keep the booking simple with regards to services, this will reduce the pressure you'll place on yourself. Don't worry about her satisfaction, just concentrate on you. As mentioned above, an hour would be a good length as well.

I did mention in my booking that it was my first time seeing an escort - as she was an experienced (ex-parlour) SP, she was able to guide me through it all, taking the pressure off me. This might be something worth considering as well.

If you've not, have good read through the puntingwiki for more "new punter" guidance.

Perhaps to help distract your mind, make the punt part of a series of events. Research a cafe to visit before the punt, grabbing a drink and use the toilet there. Also sort somewhere to eat after the punt. This might help take your mind off things.

[Fishface]

It's all about preparation
Get to bed early the night b4
Have your mum make you some hot chocolate & read you a story

In the morning its time for a bath & some fresh underpants
Some pocket money & a map with some directions
A flask with a hot drink & some sandwiches in silver foil
For sustinence

If you ain't back by the time it gets dark your mum will call the Police
Good luck

What could possibly go wrong ? 

Well if it works for you its got to be worth a try, thanks

[webpunter]

Very good ! 

How's about you popping your review cherry ?

Well if it works for you its got to be worth a try, thanks

[lvtpunt]

and remember - its supposed to be fun. If it blows up in your face, just laugh and learn.

If it blows up in her face then you've done good 

He's right, its supposed to be fun, don't over think it. Also remember you're paying for a service. You don't have to worry if you aren't good enough or how your cock measures up to what she's seen before. My first time I was pretty nervous, she realised, told me to relax and got down on her knees. Nowadays jitters are are thing of the past.

[Mothball15]

Don't base your day around the punt itself. Do something before, or after such as a pub, or film.
Make a day of it, this works if you're travelling far.

[Ali Katt]

If you've already had a massage with HE, then your almost there! Do some research and find a WG who is more dominant (but not a dominatrix  ), tell her what you want, massage first then on to the main course, and that you want her to take the lead. If she mentions in her profile that she is more submissive, leave alone for now, otherwise you might both be waiting for something to happen
As said by someone else, go for 60min to start with and give yourself time to relax. Personally 60min is my minimum as I don't like to be rushed or feel under pressure.

Any experienced escort should be able to take the lead to an extent unless she is ultra submissive. I wouldn't look too deep into that.

Those that mentioned a massage and the sex sounds like a good option for him or I would do a 30 minute with a well established escort. just sex and then leave.

[webpunter]

OP - here's a suggestion:  have a look on HP's HL.  Plenty of options 

[Fishface]

The key things I take away from this discussion is its supposed to be fun, enjoy it as much as possible dont take it too seriously because its meaningless to the provider and I'm paying them to be good at their job (even though a lot are useless and don't care but then just move on to the next).

[Fishface]

OP - here's a suggestion:  have a look on HP's HL.  Plenty of options 

Not in to high risk possible death sex (bareback?) but thanks.

[Peter unter]

The key things I take away from this discussion is its supposed to be fun, enjoy it as much as possible dont take it too seriously because its meaningless to the provider and I'm paying them to be good at their job (even though a lot are useless and don't care but then just move on to the next).

Also make sure you’ve done your school homework before you go 

[Fishface]

Also make sure you’ve done your school homework before you go 

Your first post in three months

And a waste of time reading it.

[webpunter]

We're still waiting for you to pop your review cherry

Bout 'a waste of time' I'm tingling with anticipation as to what you will contribute in 2019 after an amazing 4.5 years on here 

Your first post in three months

And a waste of time reading it.

[Punterperson1971]

The key things I take away from this discussion is its supposed to be fun, enjoy it as much as possible dont take it too seriously because its meaningless to the provider and I'm paying them to be good at their job (even though a lot are useless and don't care but then just move on to the next).

The way you speak sounds like you punt all the time yet not a single review in the time you’ve been on here,so come on !!! Share your experience rather just your opinions .

[Bangers and Gash]

Also make sure you’ve done your school homework before you go 

Biology perhaps? 

[cueball]

We're still waiting for you to pop your review cherry

Bout 'a waste of time' I'm tingling with anticipation as to what you will contribute in 2019 after an amazing 4.5 years on here 

Bloody hell, I just checked, it's took him 3 and a 1/2 years to get to this stage... Bloody hell, that's some build up.

Well, if it's going to take that long, i see it going one of two ways.... He'll either stick her to the ceiling or suck the duvet up into his puckering, trembling arse 

My money is now on the duvet going to a place no duvet should ever go 

[webpunter]

Check the dates - joined in July 2015

That is indeed some build up.  My record is 50 mins on an hour booking before it was thunderbirds are go

Its gonna be SuperKingSize up where the sun don't shine

He even took my post bout HP's HL seriously.  Bless

Think you need to give him some of your bestest AW links to help him along the way 

[unless i've missed it you haven't done this for a while]

Bloody hell, I just checked, it's took him 3 and a 1/2 years to get to this stage... Bloody hell, that's some build up.

Well, if it's going to take that long, i see it going one of two ways.... He'll either stick her to the ceiling or suck the duvet up into his puckering, trembling arse 

My money is now on the duvet going to a place no duvet should ever go 

[Peter unter]

Your first post in three months

And a waste of time reading it.

I actually post a lot in the Seeking thread as don’t see SP’s anymore but seeing as you can’t shag a prossy you’d never get on with SA 

[Charliehutton]

FF, I've just read your question and haven't the time to read the replies so far. So:

Book half an hour. It's more than enough, without being rushed.

Remember there is no such thing as 'performance anxiety'. It's one of the great joys of punting. Only your pleasure matters. Relax, and enjoy. That's it.