My eyes have been opened

[Oneatatime]

Hello, first post.

After a long rubbish marriage, I find myself single. Tried the dating sites, with only a modicum of success, ie getting my end in after splashing out on drinks all evening, so gave that up and entered the world of punting. I suppose at first I did what any newbie does, shagged anything and everything available (I didn't do badly from the divorce). That all changed when I met the woman who has become my regular, I haven't punted elsewhere as I reserve all my spare for meeting her. I suppose I've fallen into the trap many like me have, thinking that what she does is only for me, not for all the other visitors she receives too. The glossary informs me that I could possible be a fluffy, although I've only displayed fluffy behaviour in my mind, not in the written word, and I certainly have symptoms of EAS. So reading this forum has made me think in a different way.

The road to recovery and sanity has begun

[Corus Boy]

Welcome Onesie.

Hope the recovery continues.

The magic words of the spell breaker are; "How about a freebie?"

[Jimmyredcab]

Nothing wrong with sticking with a reliable regular ------------------- there is plenty of shit out there, just read the reviews on here.     

[Oneatatime]

Question.. why can't I see the off topic subforum?

[ickydicky]

Question.. why can't I see the off topic subforum?

first you have to be a member for a wee while before you get access to it. and the ask for a freebie to break the spell is good advice. sure punt with a regular hoor if she floats your boat but just remember she is a hoor.

[Ben4454]

Just like me you have become disappointed with the current state of women in the modern times and choose to punt instead. You have found that it is much cheaper to pay for a shag instead of paying for dates and the mind games that come with it. This means you have more time/money to do your passions and everything else in your life.

Some like the chase ---- but do us busy men really have the time to chase women around the playground anymore? I see guys constantly texting/sending compliments to these women all day long hoping for a shag. They are literally sacrificing 80% of their time in life to securing a hole. They will spend constant hours on POF and constant financial resources on 'wooing' their woman. They'll abandon friends, family, and entertain a toxic woman who controls them on a leash.

They'll allow this woman to change them on the inside and be at her beck and call. They'll allow their woman to turn off the sex and still offer her the fruits of a good relationship. A relationship is a two-way stream. When your girl turns off the sex -- you turn off the relationship (basically always be out doing your own thing putting zero effort into improving and withdrawing your attention) Women have sex to secure relationships and men get into relationships to get sex. This is why when a woman secures marriage and commitment - she can turn off the sex and control you without any reprocussions - same for men when they secure sex they withdraw attention without feeling any reprocussions.

Sex will ALWAYS be a transaction. Whether it is indirect or direct. At least with punting everything is put on the table and both parties get what they want out of it.

The trick to defeating EAS is to offer your favourite prossie a deal where she shags you for free. You will quickly be pulled back into reality as to how that turns out. No woman is a perfect snowflake. Shag 10 other prossies and you'll quickly forget her existance.

[Oneatatime]

I sort of mentioned it to her, to which she replied that her partner wouldn't approve it.

[Ben4454]

I sort of mentioned it to her, to which she replied that her partner wouldn't approve it.

 

[Oneatatime]

It made me wonder if he is actively pimping her, or tolerates her activities as long as she's paid.

[mh]

...she replied that her partner wouldn't approve it.

It made me wonder if he is actively pimping her, or tolerates her activities as long as she's paid.

Well that makes no difference to your EAS. What should make a difference to your EAS is that she won't shag you for free. Whether that's because she wants paying in order to shag you or because she respects her husband's view that as long as she is paid then she's not playing away from home, bottom line is she isn't having a thing with you other than as a paid transaction.

[Oneatatime]

Yes, the lightbulb over my head has started to glow a dull orange, the message is sinking in.

[purple_t]

Nothing wrong with a good regular - just don't tip her, or buy her presents etc, and you're all good. A good regular is hard to find; after straying from a mine recently it has made me appreciate them more, if anything.

[Oneatatime]

I don't tip, but I take flowers and maybe chocolate sometimes.

[mh]

I don't tip, but I take flowers and maybe chocolate sometimes.

Is she too skinny for you at the moment? 

[Oneatatime]

Lol, the fluffy in me would say she is perfectly formed, but I'll just say she is just my body type, I'm learning 

[ickydicky]

I don't tip, but I take flowers and maybe chocolate sometimes.

fucks sake why. you are already paying her for your hole

[Oneatatime]

We do have a friendship of sorts, wether real or perceived by me is debatable, and I'm always there a lot longer than I've paid for.

[Tricks]

Instead of asking for a free shag, ask if she would like to meet for a coffee sometime

[cueball]

When are we going to a review of this chocolate munching, married flower girl?

She might be worth a podging, she'll need her own choccies and flowers though

[Nagilum]

I don't tip, but I take flowers and maybe chocolate sometimes.

Stop that, it will not help your EAS.  What you need to do is find another girl and start to form a network of regulars if that is what you like (nothing wrong with it).  This way you will not focus on one and become infatuated.

It's normal when coming out of a marriage. You was a devoted man (I assume) and its manifesting itself in your new hobby .  Many punters have been burned by EAS, but its important to remember where you are and what you are engaged in. She is there to provide a service and in turn you pay for her time.  When your time is up she will provide the same service to the next punter.  If you want to test the theory, just ask her out for a drink later and see what happens.  If you really want to scare yourself go and have a read of the Saafe website forum topics.

Have a read of he Punting Wiki at the bottom and welcome 

[stewpid]

Nothing wrong with sticking with a reliable regular ------------------- there is plenty of shit out there, just read the reviews on here.     

Yep, I have a great regular WG and see her monthly if possible. I try to also see other girls too but always look forward to shagging my reg as I find her very attractive and the sex is so much more passionate because we are relaxed around each other and know what we both like. She's also extremely professional and has never fucked me about which I appreciate even more. 

[stewpid]

Just like me you have become disappointed with the current state of women in the modern times and choose to punt instead. You have found that it is much cheaper to pay for a shag instead of paying for dates and the mind games that come with it. This means you have more time/money to do your passions and everything else in your life.

Some like the chase ---- but do us busy men really have the time to chase women around the playground anymore? I see guys constantly texting/sending compliments to these women all day long hoping for a shag. They are literally sacrificing 80% of their time in life to securing a hole. They will spend constant hours on POF and constant financial resources on 'wooing' their woman. They'll abandon friends, family, and entertain a toxic woman who controls them on a leash.

They'll allow this woman to change them on the inside and be at her beck and call. They'll allow their woman to turn off the sex and still offer her the fruits of a good relationship. A relationship is a two-way stream. When your girl turns off the sex -- you turn off the relationship (basically always be out doing your own thing putting zero effort into improving and withdrawing your attention) Women have sex to secure relationships and men get into relationships to get sex. This is why when a woman secures marriage and commitment - she can turn off the sex and control you without any reprocussions - same for men when they secure sex they withdraw attention without feeling any reprocussions.

Sex will ALWAYS be a transaction. Whether it is indirect or direct. At least with punting everything is put on the table and both parties get what they want out of it.

Totally agree with this. The last girl I pursued ended up making me feel and look a total cunt (worse was it was someone I work with so that shit is with me every day), so bollocks to searching for a relationship now. Also all my friends moan about the state of their marriages and how they hardly get any sex these days.

By punting I have the time to do what I want, don't have to compromise about anything and a couple of punts a month takes care of the need to shag. Sure, sometime you just want a little female companionship but is that really worth all the headaches that eventually come with it? 

[peter purves]

Hello, first post.

After a long rubbish marriage, I find myself single. Tried the dating sites, with only a modicum of success, ie getting my end in after splashing out on drinks all evening, so gave that up and entered the world of punting. I suppose at first I did what any newbie does, shagged anything and everything available (I didn't do badly from the divorce). That all changed when I met the woman who has become my regular, I haven't punted elsewhere as I reserve all my spare for meeting her. I suppose I've fallen into the trap many like me have, thinking that what she does is only for me, not for all the other visitors she receives too. The glossary informs me that I could possible be a fluffy, although I've only displayed fluffy behaviour in my mind, not in the written word, and I certainly have symptoms of EAS. So reading this forum has made me think in a different way.

The road to recovery and sanity has begun

Good luck mate!!

I did not quite understand the above

Nonetheless would you like to say how has the forum made you think differently and are you happy with the new you?

Cheers!!

[Oneatatime]

Well, I am totally smitten by this wg, and hate seeing her feedback go up, the things that the punter says about "my" woman, although very true bring my mood down. I think more time spent here will temper those feelings, already I'm getting a true(r) picture of the situation. It's my lack of experience with women in general that has brought this about, and being starved of any affection from the ex for the last 10-15 yrs, but now I must remember, the woman that I'm shagging is doing it for the money and that she is a wg and a whore, there I've said it.

[peter purves]

Well, I am totally smitten by this wg, and hate seeing her feedback go up, the things that the punter says about "my" woman, although very true bring my mood down. I think more time spent here will temper those feelings, already I'm getting a true(r) picture of the situation. It's my lack of experience with women in general that has brought this about, and being starved of any affection from the ex for the last 10-15 yrs, but now I must remember, the woman that I'm shagging is doing it for the money and that she is a wg and a whore, there I've said it.

Cheers mate!!

I think I understand better now.

Like many of us here I think you require a better form of relationship with a civvy/marital lady/wife. I just hope punting does not make matters worse in that the punt is becoming a replacement for that which you desire but by its very nature can never be achieved.

A tricky one

[James999]

Hello, first post.

Why do I get the distinct impression you're a Female troll 

[Oneatatime]

"Like many of us here I think you require a better form of relationship with a civvy/marital lady/wife".

Thanks, could you expand on this please, not being funny, just don't know how to read it.

[peter purves]

"Like many of us here I think you require a better form of relationship with a civvy/marital lady/wife".

Thanks, could you expand on this please, not being funny, just don't know how to read it.

It sounds to me it looks like you are looking for a loving partner whoccan provide good sex as well.

Unfortunately, a punt cannot fulfil this

[Oneatatime]

Then you are right, on both counts

[Oneatatime]

Why do I get the distinct impression you're a Female troll 

I don't know, why do you?

[cueball]

Are we going to see link to this special chocolate chomping flower lover?

Or are you keeping her all to yourself?

[vw]

Are we going to see link to this special chocolate chomping flower lover?

Or are you keeping her all to yourself?

I expect he paid her once in Coins like Theodore did   

https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=62967.msg804889#msg804889

[Oneatatime]

Are we going to see link to this special chocolate chomping flower lover?

Or are you keeping her all to yourself?

Maybe when I'm further down the line to recovery.

[cueball]

Maybe when I'm further down the line to recovery.

Hmm

[shaunogg]

Maybe when I'm further down the line to recovery.

Do you fall in love with every woman you sleep with?
Paid or unpaid?

Dont know about a ' road to recovery' sounds like you need a pair of bollocks installed, quick time.

[Pussydoc]

Yep, I have a great regular WG and see her monthly if possible. I try to also see other girls too but always look forward to shagging my reg as I find her very attractive and the sex is so much more passionate because we are relaxed around each other and know what we both like. She's also extremely professional and has never fucked me about which I appreciate even more. 

Ditto  the way I got ove EAS  now have 3 good regs all treated the same 

[Oneatatime]

Were you abused and accused of being a wanker while you were getting over it?

[CatBBW]

Were you abused and accused of being a wanker while you were getting over it?

I suggest you make the same opening post over on ukescorting.com ( UKE ) - it's not so 'locker room language' over there.

[cueball]

Were you abused and accused of being a wanker while you were getting over it?

You're on a forum full of grown men, it's never going to be sloppy and flowery is it 

[James999]

I don't know, why do you?

A few tell tale signs, but of course not going to tell you as it would make you more difficult to spot when you re register another nic 

[shaunogg]

Were you abused and accused of being a wanker while you were getting over it?

You came to the internet looking for some polite, compassionate councelling, where everyone would listen and understand your irrational behaviour and whiney posts?

Is this your first time using the internet?  FFS

[shaunogg]

You're on a forum full of grown men, it's never going to be sloppy and flowery is it 

Cat and Rebecca not included in the above of course.

[cueball]

Cat and Rebecca not included in the above of course.

They're for balance 

[shaunogg]

They're for balance 

Look at us on here being all warm and fuzzy and being all inclusive and challanging stero types.
Makes my heart smile.
Unlike the OP of this thread, who is a poorly sensitive flower whose first day on the internet is not going how he/she wanted it to.

[cueball]

Look at us on here being all warm and fuzzy and being all inclusive and challanging stero types.
Makes my heart smile.
Unlike the OP of this thread, who is a poorly sensitive flower whose first day on the internet is not going how he/she wanted it to.

He's banned now  he'll have to struggle on alone now, until his next incarnation 

[vw]

He's banned now  he'll have to struggle on alone now, until his next incarnation 

Shame isn't it another 20 mins and time for bed

[cueball]

Shame isn't it another 20 mins and time for bed

He can have an early night now 

[mrhappypants]

Well caught.  He(?) was smarter than the average I think.

Dave

[Ali Katt]

She said she read puntingwiki, I wonder what offended her most the descriptions of 10 commandments or the time wasting tactics guide.

[Marmalade]

Maybe when I'm further down the line to recovery.

Unplug your internet. Admin is overworked with idiots in nappies coming the cunt, otherwise a host of people would be nominating you for the get-tae-fuck wetneck of the week award.

edit: I never even noticed. Blink.