Hook up websites?

[Danger!WillRobinson]

Other than "Seeking Arrangement", has anyone any experience of successfully finding a hook up on, e.g. "Adult Friend Finder", or similar? Or is the general thinking that these should be approached with caution?

[DrConners]

Your chosen handle says it all IMO Will 

[hungrypunt]

Most are bollocks I find. Tinder or POF possibly from what I hear but Ive not had much experience of them.
Ive used apps abroad like baddo and hang outs, had a couple of shags there.
Ive used whats your price (shite)
Secret benefits (shite)
illicit encounters, few flings from clingy milfs/bored housewives

[Grenadier36]

Avoid anything run by "Venntro" as they are a shower of shit, your "Free" account will get shit tons of "views" and messages to bait you into paying - when you do surprise no fucker's bothered 

[MilleMiglia]

Other than "Seeking Arrangement", has anyone any experience of successfully finding a hook up on, e.g. "Adult Friend Finder", or similar? Or is the general thinking that these should be approached with caution?

Going back @ a decade, the M/F ratio on AFF was 13:1. Unsurprisingly, I got nowhere.

[potbellypete]

Perhaps surprisingly I had one great success on AFF which for me made it worth it. That was 10+ years ago though.

The work was tough though. Lots of ppl with no patience (too much choice) and lots of time wasted.

If you think it through and you are a girl that wants help or just wants to shag a stranger why would you choose anything other than SA?
I don't the bargain of 'Ill help you with a shag if you can help me financially' is as socially unacceptable as it once was.

[brianthedog21]

My experience has been as this.......

AFF fucked a fatty once. I had no other joy. This was many years ago. Loads of women on there then said they weren't interested if you were married, which I was and still am.

IE had some success here. A few fucks and one really long term lover. I did work hard at it though as it was expensive. Loads of irritating women who as its free for them enjoy the attention, guys chasing them without actually wanting to meet. Saying this though IE is where I had most success. But have not been on there for many years.

Recently I tried SA and it didnt suit me. I think maybe the time needed did not work with me being married. I also felt it was like  chatting up a prossie. That is you "chatted up" and then they would tell you how much money they wanted to fuck you. Had women sending me naked pics without knowing anything about me or what I looked like. Using terms like "Hun". But saying this I have read on the SA thread how many have found diamonds who will hook up for sex for just covering their expenses or nothing. Enjoying the sex with older experienced men. But likewise I gather there are also plenty of scammers.

As I said this is just my experience. Those in a different home situation I am sure could find things very different 

[Jumping Jack Flash]

I was on AFF for about 8 years and got one fuck out if it. I had more success out of craigslist personals which are now no more. Even this success was tempered by the number of time wasters and scammers so IMHO, Seeking Arrangement is the best out there but even then it’s full of scammers.

[shagmore]

I went onto one site about 6mths ago, cant remember the name of it. Filled in the profile shite as per usual, then did a local search and a photo of Brenda James (porn star) came up saying she was about 15miles away. So I knew straight away that any other good looking lass would be fake and a load of bollocks.

[MilleMiglia]

My best "find" on AFF was this one, listed as somewhere in England:

External Link/Members Only

Given that the woman herself lives in Stavanger, I think that it may not have been genuine!


 

[donnybob]

I am on fabswingers, and I think I do okay on there

But like everywhere its bloody hard work

I have had one verfification on fab which was a 4 hour round trip plus the meet time, and yes petrol wise its pricey, but i'm not paying the lady or sometimes the couple, another was a 3 hour round trip

If you look at my reviews ( not many ) I tend to have massage meets with HE as its a nice contrast from the full sex on fab

[martini2429]

I am on one at the moment "Shag City" made a free profile, said what I am looking for, yet all you get is the opposite, I have even got my email addy in my profile, yet no one has emailed me even though it is there, all they want you to do is buy credits and try to arrange meets with non existent women, learnt that lesson last year, I currently have 2500 messages offering me the fuck of a life time, I am on SA but getting bored with that.

Tried AFF some years ago, again all they want you to do is spend money, never met anyone yet from these hook up sites, they are just a con, I even sat in a restaurant waiting for 2 women who surprisingly enough didn't show up, felt like a right twat

 

[Chorley]

I've been on pretty much all.of them, and the more mainstream ones like POF and Tinder.
It's mostly bollocks TBH, although I did manage  a fling with an absolutely stunning Thai milf.   

Unfortunately she turned out to be a total fruitcake, so I had to end it. 

[cash2spare]

Going back @ a decade, the M/F ratio on AFF was 13:1. Unsurprisingly, I got nowhere.

 

[cash2spare]

My best "find" on AFF was this one, listed as somewhere in England:

External Link/Members Only

Given that the woman herself lives in Stavanger, I think that it may not have been genuine!

really? lol 

[JV547845]

Dating websites, hookup apps, even the swinging scene.  They're still all a womens' market, and there are lots of crap immitations with members only features that either cynically or via being a brand like match.com, extract cash from lonely clueless men. I find the majority of women you meet are sick of receiving  approaches from men who only want a hook up and are sick of unrequested dick pics.  Most are after a long term relationship, if anything just to end the dating hell! 

You can have some success if you're persistent, attractive, bring your A game, and splash the cash, but it's always going to be on the woman's terms.  Also the sex can be either really really good or really shit.

[Heph]

External Link/Members Only

Full disclosure - I've a listing there myself, but I've never actually used it. A former long term fling began using it as additional revenue raiser. I was appalled at the outrageously cheap rates she was offering, but couldn't dissuade her, and that's the way it remained the last we spoke of it. She'd tell me all about her clients (as wise heads have often said - be very careful what you let slip that can easily be corroborated over several meets), their quirks, good and not-so-good characteristics. Her feedback from her punters suggests that essentially everyone using it (them and their other meets) used it for NSA paid sex.

Your feedback welcome.

[Heph]

Just been to re-check the above... Ha! she's still there.

The default settings need to be changed to your search area, then off you go. From a quick survey again just now of 20+ profiles, I have the impression that about 5% seem to have it confused with Tinder - the rest seem au fait with the deal. The form is very loosely as follows: you correspond a little, establish rapport; agree the broad parameters of a date (nb); you will end up paying for the date, at which, if rapport is confirmed and you're not obviously a fantasist or dickhead, you can discuss terms of a possible arrangement. With my former fling, that would usually involve a second meet, but occasionally (if pre-arranged) the first... fee agreed and off they trotted.

[Grenadier36]

Dating websites, hookup apps, even the swinging scene.  They're still all a womens' market, and there are lots of crap immitations with members only features that either cynically or via being a brand like match.com, extract cash from lonely clueless men. I find the majority of women you meet are sick of receiving  approaches from men who only want a hook up and are sick of unrequested dick pics.  Most are after a long term relationship, if anything just to end the dating hell! 

You can have some success if you're persistent, attractive, bring your A game, and splash the cash, but it's always going to be on the woman's terms.  Also the sex can be either really really good or really shit.

Absolutely spot on - IMO the whole charade is heavily weighted in women's favour 

[donnybob]

Absolutely spot on - IMO the whole charade is heavily weighted in women's favour 

It will always be so
reminds me of the old joke, little girl in the bath and father comes in to use the loo, little girl says Daddy when I grow up pointing to his penis will I have one of them, Daddy says with what you have you can have hundreds

[notcalledchris]

About 18 years ago met a local swigging counple on AFF.   I was 26 and in my prime but inexperienced and she was a dirty bitch who taught me alot about shagging.  Had my first and only dp with her and her husband and wanted to repeat that every since.

[MilleMiglia]

Absolutely spot on - IMO the whole charade is heavily weighted in women's favour 

An anecdotal from a while back. A guy in the US joined a site, and on getting access to members numbers, saw that there were very few women in his area. Nevertheless, he persisted but, after a while, with no success, he'd pretty well given up. Anyway, he decided to do a reverse search of sorts, and entered his own details, in order to see how many guys like himself he was competing against. After that, he did call it a day.

[Jock D]

This topic is raised on here on a monotonously regular basis...everytime, the overwhelming consensus from guys who've actually experienced these hook up sites is the same...Don't Waste Your Time