Punishment giving and domination giving

[Wonderbrawl]

Hi what can I expect from punishment giving and domination giving  from a wg? It is something I am interested in.
Any help appreciated

[Colston36]

What do you think the words mean? To be punished - i.e. whipped, spanked etc. and dominated - i.e. to be told what to do - and punished if you don't.

The degree to which this will happen depends on what you want; do your research. There are not that many on here that are seriously interested, though a few.

[Ali Katt]

Hi what can I expect from punishment giving and domination giving  from a wg? It is something I am interested in.
Any help appreciated

Colston36 summed it up. It depends how far you want to go. Punishment as Colston36 mentioned has many different levels everything from soft spanking (although some would say that's a reward) to having objects inserted in your uretha to orgasm denial. Domination once again, IMHO most of it is psychological, there are physical aspects like restraint and the punishment side mentioned, although domination is often not just about punishment. Then you could also add Humiliation\degradation, name calling, insults, made to do degrading acts like lick boots.

[mj]

As others have said, it all comes down to what you are looking for.

The only advice I would add is that whilst most escorts claim to offer it, not many really know what they are doing. I would recommend seeing a professional mistress. They will respect whatever limits you agree and will know how to read you so that you get the best experience.

[Wonderbrawl]

Thanks .

[Ali Katt]

As others have said, it all comes down to what you are looking for.

The only advice I would add is that whilst most escorts claim to offer it, not many really know what they are doing. I would recommend seeing a professional mistress. They will respect whatever limits you agree and will know how to read you so that you get the best experience.

Huge downside is many mistresses don't offer sex, some don't even offer oral. So, it depends what he's looking for.

[signy]

If you don't really know what to expect, then it is best to start slow and easy and work up to harder sessions. Not good to start with a pro dom who will thrash you to bits, even if you think that's what you want.

Many WGs will offer a femdom and spanking session even if they are not full-on pro doms. Look for one who describes her activities in the text, not just someone who adds it to their likes list. They should describe what they do/don't, and more importantly how they discuss limits and safewords, etc. beforehand. Decide what sort of session you want: roleplay? leather/uniforms? verbal and/or physical domination/abuse? Then pick a WG who has been generally well reviewed on here, and also will allow the dom session to drift into a normal sex session at the end, that way you should have a good time even if the dom bit is not all you expected.

Finally don't be afraid to discuss the session at the end (allow 5 minutes for this). A good SP will tell you what worked or didn't and how you might take it forward (even if they are touting for a repeat visit it's useful info.).
 

[Senior Citizen Punter]

You also need to be honest with yourself. What is it that attracts you to the FemDom scene? For some it is the the trappings and ritual, the "dungeon" with the equipment, black leather (or rubber) and all the accoutriments. For others the physical and psychological interaction is paramount. I have had some of my most intense and satisfying sessions in a wholly domestic setting, not a whipping bench or St Andrews Cross in sight but I have experienced equally rewarding sessions in the more "traditional" locations. For me what matters is the psychology and understanding of needs that will satisfied and that can only be met by clear and frank communication beforehand.

Don't worry,mistress will not be offended, she's heard it all before.

SCP

[Ali Katt]

If you don't really know what to expect, then it is best to start slow and easy and work up to harder sessions. Not good to start with a pro dom who will thrash you to bits, even if you think that's what you want.

Many WGs will offer a femdom and spanking session even if they are not full-on pro doms. Look for one who describes her activities in the text, not just someone who adds it to their likes list. They should describe what they do/don't, and more importantly how they discuss limits and safewords, etc. beforehand. Decide what sort of session you want: roleplay? leather/uniforms? verbal and/or physical domination/abuse? Then pick a WG who has been generally well reviewed on here, and also will allow the dom session to drift into a normal sex session at the end, that way you should have a good time even if the dom bit is not all you expected.

Finally don't be afraid to discuss the session at the end (allow 5 minutes for this). A good SP will tell you what worked or didn't and how you might take it forward (even if they are touting for a repeat visit it's useful info.).

Half truth. If they do that they're not a very good domme.

[ulstersubbie]

As others have said, it all comes down to what you are looking for.

The only advice I would add is that whilst most escorts claim to offer it, not many really know what they are doing. I would recommend seeing a professional mistress. They will respect whatever limits you agree and will know how to read you so that you get the best experience.

Very sensible advice, Escorts and Pro Dommes are not the same thing. BDSM is not for everyone, you either like it or you don't, many people are curious but will never indulge. Find a PD that appeals to you and book an initial session, be very clear about what you want, communication is key in this business.

[Colston36]

If you could be more specific it would help. In fact it is essential.

As others have pointed out escorts tend to say they dominate as it sounds like easy money for them, but real domination calls for special skills, and dominas vary enormously in what they offer.

I see four regularly; they are all quite different.

[timsussex]

As noted above there is  wide range of Domme types
Some offer verbal rather than physical, some offer domestic type others have dungeons etc

If you really want to experience it then pick a girl that offers what you want and then enquire on here if she doesnt have a review.

the one thing that I have found is that  I am yet to get a true domme experience from any girl that offers sex - I am beginning to think that the two are incompatible 

[Colston36]

As noted above there is  wide range of Domme types
Some offer verbal rather than physical, some offer domestic type others have dungeons etc

If you really want to experience it then pick a girl that offers what you want and then enquire on here if she doesnt have a review.

the one thing that I have found is that  I am yet to get a true domme experience from any girl that offers sex - I am beginning to think that the two are incompatible

Well, some give more of a sexual element - physical contact - than others though they may not fuck.

MadameMeave is as physical as they come; vicious and unbelievably filthy: External Link/Members Only or External Link/Members Only

I have also spent many happy hours licking Morgan of Cheltenham all over: External Link/Members Only or External Link/Members Only. She spent a while doing hurtful things with clothes pegs to me a while ago - but we did a lot of other stuff.

Quite a few switch from being escorts to becoming Dommes because they can get the money without being fucked. Some don't allow any skin to skin contact. I avoid them, but each to his own.

[jesse4585]

If a session with a dom goes well for you, you can expect to experience one or more of the following:
* a blissful feeling of surrender
* relieve from anxiety
* a pleasurable feeling of timelessness
* after painful punishment, a thrilling endorphin rush

Most AW girls that list 'BDSM giving' on their likes aren't likely to be true doms.  The demand for female domms massively exceeds the supply. So many girls will put it there just to make extra easy,  thinking it's enough to act dom. Some of them might have a genuine dom side to them though.

You might find you get a good experience with an  'BDSM giving' AW girl , as long as your needs aren't truly hard core.

If you want to explore your sub side to the limits, then as others are saying you might want to visit the specialist dungeons and agencies. Probably rather expensive, experiencing female domination is not the cheapest or easiest aspect of our hobby.