Dinner dates

[hzilla1999]

Just recently had a dinner date with a fabulous GFE (review to follow when I get around to it). Although I had several multi hour bookings before, a dinner date felt a lot more special. The sex afterward didn’t feel mechanical. I couldn’t believe how long she could keep her bj going (must have been 20 minutes in a single go). She was dripping wet when I finally went down on her. I could imagine myself becoming a regular if I lived in the uk (instead of visiting for work every couple of months). Even though I know it’s all transactional, it felt like a fantasy worth paying.

Does anyone else prefer dinner dates? I’m new to the whole punting business but the gradual escalation in the conversation, the charm of meeting someone new, and the guaranteed sex afterward just makes the whole event a different level from the 1 to 2 hr multi pops I had been used to.

[standardpostage]

I would like to try a dinner date.
"But" due to the cost involved, I would not be able to afford it.
Glad you enjoyed yours though 

[newhere456]

I agree that removing the time pressure entirely can allow for more of a 'build-up' and lead to a more satisfying natural conclusion,  I've had a couple of overnighters while visiting Tijuana (thanks to External Link/Members Only) although find that this is cost prohibitive in the UK.

[bortas2k8]

OP, you should try seeking; check out the threads, might be a good fit for you (though requires more work over time, it does lead to repeat sugar baby style interactions with dinners, dates, adult playtime, overnighters etc). In the long run that’s cheaper than similar experience with a pro but if you’re just in-and-out of London maybe you prefer the sure bet.

[hendrix]

Don't really do dinner dates, but do really enjoy overnights which will involve dinner.

[Steely Dan]

Social time with the right ladies really does add to the event.  I used to enjoy a 3 hour outcall meeting in London where the middle hour was lunch.  I priced a RB so the social time was free (or the ghost of Smiths would haunt me).  In almost all cases, the first 2 hours were great, and the 3rd hour was off the scale fun.

[Chazz]

I once took a reg out to lunch after we'd worked up an appetite during a particularly vigorous morning session.  I paid for lunch but her time was free. Good job too, as it was a fucking disaster- she got really pissed and started to be a real cunt to the waitresses- so much for trying to keep a low profile! In the end I had to grab her arm and walk her out as she couldn't manage to walk in a straight line. I imagine the regular lunchtime diners of that particular small town restaurant are still talking about it!

[willie loman]

if money is no object why not, with the right girl.

[Stevelondon]

I’ve had lunch/dinner meets a few times. But with SP’s who had become friends so the social aspect of things was never a business transaction.
I agree it makes for a more connected sexual experience.

But to be honest I’m not one who fancies paying fur the privilege of paying fir the food kind of thing 😘

[8MillionDollarMan]

Bar one SP I've seen I think I'd spend the meal listening to them talk about themselves and their problems,not for me.
Scintillating conversation would appear to be low on most SPs skill levels.

[EUGENE TACKLEBERRY]

Ive had many a "date night " experience with a few different girls, all been excellent, all girls ive seen multiple time prior and built a decent rapor with, girls off top.of my head include Evie P, Riley lee,  and sexy sophie

[nightbot]

I did dinner date for my last birthday with my regular it was nice, really nice. We talked all sorts of stuff freely and took pictures and all, it basically felt like I was with a friend who I pay to have sex with.

My first few punts when I originally started were dinner dates actually as I used to be very nervous, and it helped me get more comfortable when I thought of it as a date. My ex is someone I met as a client originally, and the last booking we ever did before we got together was a dinner date where I just paid a pre agreed amount and the cost at restaurant but she just ended up spending the whole evening with me. That was basically the last dinner date booking I had done until the one with my regular last month where I covered the food/drinks.

As much as I like them, I don't think I'd do them anymore if I was to pay for that time and the food both as it'd be really expensive and I'd feel like I was wasting money, additionally I'd probably only do it with someone I am familiar with and enjoy spending time with rather than a stranger.

[lewisjones23]

punt to shag and be blown by women usually out of my reach

no interest at all in paying them to waffle on about whatever shite is going through their heads, quite frankly I couldn't care less and don't especially enjoy spending time with women unless its getting physical

[jamiekinkxxx]

Bar one SP I've seen I think I'd spend the meal listening to them talk about themselves and their problems,not for me.
Scintillating conversation would appear to be low on most SPs skill levels.

I've met many SPs that I spend hours (very occasionally longer) with and find them both engaging, interesting and some great conversationalists.

Maybe we just see different type of SPs

[poundstock]

To all those who enjoy dinner dates, and clearly there are many of you, good luck. But it’s not for me. Turn up, pay, polite conversation, shag and go. I don’t feel inclined to want to pay for dinner and chat and I’m not sure what I would want to talk about without giving away private details. And isn’t this where EAS could start? Just saying.

[nuckingfuts]

Never done a proper dinner date tbh, so I’d not turn one down but I’d rather do drinks and/or overnight since I’m more of a PSE/Fetish punter.

It’s a shame I rarely have the budget for an overnight.

[hendrix]

To all those who enjoy dinner dates, and clearly there are many of you, good luck. But it’s not for me. Turn up, pay, polite conversation, shag and go. I don’t feel inclined to want to pay for dinner and chat and I’m not sure what I would want to talk about without giving away private details. And isn’t this where EAS could start? Just saying.

It's definitely an area where EAS could start, but I find it quite easy to compartmentalise punting from real life, and never forget that I'm paying for whatever service I'm getting. It's also why I don't accept extras/freebies etc (as many punters seem to do based on the threads here) - The lines are clear for me.

[MissWolf]

It's definitely an area where EAS could start, but I find it quite easy to compartmentalise punting from real life, and never forget that I'm paying for whatever service I'm getting. It's also why I don't accept extras/freebies etc (as many punters seem to do based on the threads here) - The lines are clear for me.

Sadly the lines get very easily blurred on both sides.
Some girls have their MO which includes extra messages, little flirts between bookings, going over time and going out after a booking, just 'off the cuff'. It's designed to make the punter feel special and I'm sure it does, we see reviews all the time where they are described as the best gfe etc
Those who are unconsciously or unwittingly vulnerable to falling for the less transactional elements of a booking and seeing it as something they got because she liked them or there was a really deep connection can then go on to get EAS and we all know what a mess that can make of anyone.
The fallout is almost always messy and invariably brings others down or into it through jealousy or over sharing.

[Ivor Hunch]

Sadly the lines get very easily blurred on both sides.
Some girls have their MO which includes extra messages, little flirts between bookings, going over time and going out after a booking, just 'off the cuff'. It's designed to make the punter feel special and I'm sure it does, we see reviews all the time where they are described as the best gfe etc
Those who are unconsciously or unwittingly vulnerable to falling for the less transactional elements of a booking and seeing it as something they got because she liked them or there was a really deep connection can then go on to get EAS and we all know what a mess that can make of anyone.
The fallout is almost always messy and invariably brings others down or into it through jealousy or over sharing.

It is risky where one is looking for the illusion of a non-transactional (or not purely transactional) encounter (or "relationship")- there is a danger of falling into the trap of believing that in fact it is not entirely transactional, or might become entirely non-transactional.  One needs to remember the basis of the whole arrangement- payment for time and services.

On the other hand, as you say, there must also be some cases, presumably, where SPs do actually like spending time with particular punters.

[Strawberry]

In my experience EAS has not been associated with long bookings, it's been 1 hour bookings who become attached - mostly those who enjoyed overruns or going for a meal or coffee off the clock after a 1 hour booking. This seemed to become a sign to them that there was more involved.

These became quite upset, acted as if I was being unreasonable when I explained I couldn't offer this everytime, particularly when they has been kept on previous rates. One said "You are treating me like a client!". On the whole I have found multi-hour bookers, dinner dates, over nights tend to know they are paying for the time.

[nuckingfuts]

In my experience EAS has not been associated with long bookings, it's been 1 hour bookings who become attached - mostly those who enjoyed overruns or going for a meal or coffee off the clock after a 1 hour booking. This seemed to become a sign to them that there was more involved.

These became quite upset, acted as if I was being unreasonable when I explained I couldn't offer this everytime, particularly when they has been kept on previous rates. One said "You are treating me like a client!". On the whole I have found multi-hour bookers, dinner dates, over nights tend to know they are paying for the time.

I mean, I barely enjoy my own company after a few hours, let alone someone else’s.

After a WS meeting, I just want to indulge in some good old fashioned gluttony without being judged

[jamiekinkxxx]

I mean, I barely enjoy my own company after a few hours, let alone someone else’s.

After a WS meeting, I just want to indulge in some good old fashioned gluttony without being judged

Me too! 

 

[RandomGuy99]

Do they still have the toadstool seats down McDonald's?

McDonald's isn't cheap these days.

[B4bcock]

McDonald's isn't cheap these days.

No, but you clearly are !!   

[nuckingfuts]

Do they still have the toadstool seats down McDonald's?

McDonald's isn't cheap these days.

Some even have play areas! Especially for the kids who drive up in their corsa’s!

Sadly I don’t think they do birthday cakes anymore :O

[RandomGuy99]

Some even have play areas! Especially for the kids who drive up in their corsa’s!

Sadly I don’t think they do birthday cakes anymore :O

Awww 

[ragged]

I very much enjoy dinner dates, but only book them when circumstances suit, mostly when I'm in a big city for work.

I'm staying in the hotel anyway.
I'll be having dinner in a restaurant anyway.
I'll be seeing an escort anyway.
Might as well have a little bit of overlap, and dine with an attractive companion, rather than being Billy No-Mates.  The marginal cost is quite small, and I get to know the woman a little, which adds to the experience for me.  The women I choose tend to be slightly older part-time indies anyway, and I usually get a very positive response to the offer of dinner - it can be a nice treat for them too.  A happy, relaxed, fed escort with half a bottle of red in her makes for a much more 'giving' experience, I find.

[8MillionDollarMan]

I've met many SPs that I spend hours (very occasionally longer) with and find them both engaging, interesting and some great conversationalists.

Maybe we just see different type of SPs

I guess so.

[hendrix]

I've met many SPs that I spend hours (very occasionally longer) with and find them both engaging, interesting and some great conversationalists.

Maybe we just see different type of SPs

Yes, I have to say that I've met some really interesting women via punting. Business minded with good knowledge around markets, artists, highly educated professionals etc.. Like any other walk of life really, there are all sorts.

[8MillionDollarMan]

Yes, I have to say that I've met some really interesting women via punting. Business minded with good knowledge around markets, artists, highly educated professionals etc.. Like any other walk of life really, there are all sorts.

Few of those in the sticks in fact none in my experience the only remotely bright SP I've met was in MK,that or my idea of interesting and intelligent is higher.

[hendrix]

Few of those in the sticks in fact none in my experience the only remotely bright SP I've met was in MK,that or my idea of interesting and intelligent is higher.

Well, I can only speak for London 

[Alexmck]

Bar one SP I've seen I think I'd spend the meal listening to them talk about themselves and their problems,not for me.
Scintillating conversation would appear to be low on most SPs skill levels.

So true

[alabama1]

Bar one SP I've seen I think I'd spend the meal listening to them talk about themselves and their problems,not for me.
Scintillating conversation would appear to be low on most SPs skill levels.

Are you a 'scintillating' conversationist then 

[Alexmck]

I've met many SPs that I spend hours (very occasionally longer) with and find them both engaging, interesting and some great conversationalists.

Maybe we just see different type of SPs

Some can be engaging, interesting etc but rare. 2 in the past decade for me

[marc_hotsteppa]

Never tried a dinner date with an SP.

I know everyone is different in how they punt & their routines but I think I would struggle being full from eating to want to bother with anything sexual.  I'd be more inclined to want a nap after eating a meal 

Which is why I always go to regular punts with an empty stomach and after the punt then go get something to eat.

[lewisjones23]

Never tried a dinner date with an SP.

I know everyone is different in how they punt & their routines but I think I would struggle being full from eating to want to bother with anything sexual.  I'd be more inclined to want a nap after eating a meal 

Which is why I always go to regular punts with an empty stomach and after the punt then go get something to eat.

Used to do the same when Sandys was open then get myself a chippy from the top of the row of shops

[Mango_007]

I've done one dinner date, didn't think too much of it. Sitting opposite the girl limited any of physical contact, and the private time flowed like a normal 1 or 2 hour booking.
I've done a couple of overnights which is much more fun, had food (boring) but also drinks in a bar much more fun.

Think I'll try a dinner date again but instead of dinner do something that is more social like drinks/an experience

[JonasG]

To all those who enjoy dinner dates, and clearly there are many of you, good luck. But it’s not for me. Turn up, pay, polite conversation, shag and go. I don’t feel inclined to want to pay for dinner and chat and I’m not sure what I would want to talk about without giving away private details. And isn’t this where EAS could start? Just saying.

Yeah i honestly i don't get it either. The idea has never entered my mind.

That's what dating is for.

[JonasG]

Sadly the lines get very easily blurred on both sides.
Some girls have their MO which includes extra messages, little flirts between bookings, going over time and going out after a booking, just 'off the cuff'. It's designed to make the punter feel special and I'm sure it does, we see reviews all the time where they are described as the best gfe etc
Those who are unconsciously or unwittingly vulnerable to falling for the less transactional elements of a booking and seeing it as something they got because she liked them or there was a really deep connection can then go on to get EAS and we all know what a mess that can make of anyone.
The fallout is almost always messy and invariably brings others down or into it through jealousy or over sharing.

Indeed. Anytime you receive one of those texts after a booking of how brilliant a time it was or some compliment about your looks or other nonsense just say Cheers and forget about it.

I get why escorts use this MO but it's so unnecessary. I will return if i had a good time, this whole buttering up routine i actually find a bit offensive lol. They must think we're silly.

[jamiekinkxxx]

Each to their own on this one and we all fuck in many different ways.

I for one think there is a great deal to be said by fucking with our minds as much as our bodies.

Having a social interaction time (need not be dinner could be drinks etc.) before the fun starts is a great way to start that process. This is why most of my bookings are 3+ hrs... to give me that 1hr of social time.

This is why I am very picky about the girls I see. Why I would never entertain some of the conveyor belt girls and generally prefer outcalls to my home or a hotel I'm staying in if away.

[hendrix]

Indeed. Anytime you receive one of those texts after a booking of how brilliant a time it was or some compliment about your looks or other nonsense just say Cheers and forget about it.

I get why escorts use this MO but it's so unnecessary. I will return if i had a good time, this whole buttering up routine i actually find a bit offensive lol. They must think we're silly.

Yeah I just ignore all that, and regs now know me well enough that they don't try it on.

[Sibiu]

On a number of occasions for home visits (outcalls) I've cooked a meal after sex. It's always been very relaxed and fun. Sitting eating a salmon salad with a beautiful woman dressed only in her knickers finishes the evening off perfectly. I've never been charged extra for doing this!

[jamiekinkxxx]

On a number of occasions for home visits (outcalls) I've cooked a meal after sex. It's always been very relaxed and fun. Sitting eating a salmon salad with a beautiful woman dressed only in her knickers finishes the evening off perfectly. I've never been charged extra for doing this!

It is indeed amazing how far great hospitality can take you 

[Bru1901]

OP, you should try seeking; check out the threads, might be a good fit for you (though requires more work over time, it does lead to repeat sugar baby style interactions with dinners, dates, adult playtime, overnighters etc). In the long run that’s cheaper than similar experience with a pro but if you’re just in-and-out of London maybe you prefer the sure bet.

Girls on seeking are not as good at sex as they are as escorts

[KatieEdinburgh]

On a number of occasions for home visits (outcalls) I've cooked a meal after sex. It's always been very relaxed and fun. Sitting eating a salmon salad with a beautiful woman dressed only in her knickers finishes the evening off perfectly. I've never been charged extra for doing this!

As long as the only fish you can smell is the salmon, all good 👍

[Bru1901]

It's definitely an area where EAS could start, but I find it quite easy to compartmentalise punting from real life, and never forget that I'm paying for whatever service I'm getting. It's also why I don't accept extras/freebies etc (as many punters seem to do based on the threads here) - The lines are clear for me.

Its not about feelings. If you have rhe mindset on paying for sex then the freebies are just a bonus

Consider it fwb with an allowance

[Doc Holliday]

This world of financial transactions allows you to pay for pretty much whatever scenario you wish. If some people hope to recreate a dating type scenario which includes a meal beforehand then so be it. Good luck to them, but not something I have ever chosen.

I also understand that for some the company may be the most important part of a meeting and in some cases the only part. Once again its your money.

What I cannot get my head around though is the concept that whilst for some people, pleasant and interesting conversation may help you perhaps relax, I fail to see how that affects the skill level of the SP, when it comes to the sex component of the transaction? Am I missing something?

[ragged]

What I cannot get my head around though is the concept that whilst for some people, pleasant and interesting conversation may help you perhaps relax, I fail to see how that affects the skill level of the SP, when it comes to the sex component of the transaction? Am I missing something?

You've got it the wrong way round.  It's not about what the SP does.  It's about how much I enjoy what they (we) do.

[Doc Holliday]

You've got it the wrong way round.  It's not about what the SP does.  It's about how much I enjoy what they (we) do.

Sorry you've lost me?

[hendrix]

Its not about feelings. If you have rhe mindset on paying for sex then the freebies are just a bonus

Consider it fwb with an allowance

That concept doesn't work for me at all - no interest in fwb, never had one and never would. Each to their own obviously, but for me, whether it's an hour or overnights, or trips away etc they're easily managed and enjoyed if the specific job (that's what it is for the WG) is well understood by both (or more ) parties and kept completely professional.