What age bracket are you out of curiosity? I am considering Illicit Encounters but it is a hefty fee for a relatively unknown site. Most of the profiles don’t have pictures which I can understand due to discretion. Do you get them in to WA and exchange pics?
I'm early 40s.
Profiles have pictures but they're password protected. People share their password when they feel comfortable. I just included my password in my initial message to save time.
I also broadened my search, covering
London - Berkshire - Oxfordshire - Bucks and even down to
Bath/Bristol... One of the women I'm chatting to is in Taunton but she's cool with me being where I am because she used to drive to Ruislip and back to see someone there. Which is way further than where I live.
Personally, I thought it was worth the fee. Ok it was more work than simply selecting a girl on AW and booking her, but for the fee I paid I've pretty much got four women in the bag. I'm sure if I'd been more focused/committed I'd have got even more. Once I'd got my standard message template sorted, then it was a bit of a breeze to be honest. Just carpet bombed the profiles and waited for responses.
With every messaged I tailored it slightly to appeal to the woman's profile. Always finding commonalities or making jokes about things they'd said... Didn't always work but the more you message the higher the chances of success.
I have to admit, and I found this with all the dating sites/apps, I got impatient with all the inane chatter and went cold on a few women where I probably could have made more effort and got better results.
It's mostly women looking for everything they're not getting at home; companionship, attention, kisses, cuddles, fun... sad really, but that means there's a lot of members who want a long-term, exclusive extramarital partner. But there are those who just want a casual fling, and the rare ones who just want to get banged.
I just thought I can pretend to be in a relationship, get a few meets in and then call time using my "relationship" or "family" as an excuse, and they're none the wiser.
Dunno what's happened to my morals this year!