Well, you could try treating women as your equals, who can choose who THEY want to be with to the same degree that you can choose who YOU want to be with.
Just reflect your "problem" into a mirror and try to see yourself from her point of view.
Oh, and no means No. Simple as that.
If you dropped the paternalistic, patronising, "women are second class citizens" mentality, and start to think of other people as human beings who have feelings based on past experiences that you're not privvy to, and will therefore have preferences you will never be allowed to understand because of the way they've been treated in the past.
You're displaying a fundamentally selfish, ego centric attitude to others, which speaks volumes about you, all negative.
And if true, for someone to go to those lengths to expose you means you've probably pissed them off big time. Why bother otherwise?
Personally, I don't care if someone's white, black, brown, yellow or purple.
I DO care what they're like and how they treat other people.
Perhaps she's the same?
BTW, this is from another guy.