No sexual pleasure from punts

[JPin]

Interesting that there's a lack of actual pleasure.

I've had it quite a few times where I haven't been able to cum and ended up having a wank because I just had to make sure I finished somehow. But not feeling any pleasure is a new one to me.

Good luck, some really useful advice in this thread and much respect to everyone who brought honesty and maturity to their responses.

Based on my own experience I highly recommend trying some tantric self-massage and breathing techniques, which are designed to reinstate senstivity and connection to your body/gentials/sexual energy. There's loads online so just do a quick Google search for those keywords and you'll find plenty of info and advice.

[GreyDave]

i think most of the sp's want the guy to cum, they see it as you being happy and satisfied, and i think they must enjoy it too, most of the time too, thats their job satisfaction.

   Nah mate! They like being able to shout "Next " and do the next guy quick to ...I suggest a few walk ups in Soho before they close and become posh yuppie flats.

I used to pop in less than 5 mins    at that age Now with blue pill I can last and get up again but only one pop in a day or so now unless I am really lucky

I find the walking up to a soho door exciting to see if the maid remembers me if WG is what I fancy thats part of the excitement

[docdom]

I had some issues with this when I first started shagging years ago (not WGs). I was exposed to porn way too young (before I was even a teenager) and at my peak I was probably masturbating to porn 1 - 3 times per day for 6 or 7 years straight. It was very awkward when this would happen as the girls I was with would assume it was them and that I wasn't attracted to them or they weren't doing a good enough job, etc. I also never had a wet dream (still haven't) and morning wood was a lot rarer than it should've been back then (more common now). It'd also take me a lot to get hard, I'd pretty much never get hard before the act and would usually have to get oral to get hard. Condoms would pretty much kill my boner instantly (putting some lube inside the condom helped a bit).

If this sounds relatable at all it's probably porn addiction and death grip syndrome. Most say cut porn and masturbation out for a couple weeks to a month and then try returning to it. I did that once or twice which helped a little bit, but I'd quickly get back into my old habits. It took a much longer period (4 - 5 months) for me to start seeing and feeling a difference. During that I also wouldn't let my mind think about porn / sex at all which was insanely hard to do. Doing something multiple times a day for years will have a lasting effect on your mind as well as your body and it's important to try and fix that too. Your brain think sexual pleasure comes from your hand and a screen, which it shouldn't. When I did return to wanking / porn I was very concious to use a much lighter grip, not stroke so quick, and try limit myself to a lot less porn, more realistic amateur porn, and try get the whole thing over and done with in around 15 - 20 minutes, which for me was very new as I could go hours and hours previously watching tons of videos of various different acts. I think this was the thing which helped the most. Porn / masturbation isn't inherently bad, but having a bad relationship with it is!

It could be a variety of other things mind. Maybe punting just isn't for you and you need a more personal connection, or you just find the act of paying someone for sex unnatural (I felt this a bit and still do to some extent, I usually ask for them to take the lead to begin with and then I do once I feel more comfortable). You very well might have some nerves (even subconciously) or some insecurities holding you back from enjoying punts. Also keep in mind a lot of this is new to you, being intimate with a woman, maybe even touching one or being touched. I imagine it will get easier for you the more you do it, but if it does seem like death grip syndrome / porn addiction I would focus on fixing that first and then return to punting in a couple months time. You'll enjoy the sex a lot more and will get more value for your money from visits to WGs!

Also ignore the people having a go at you or suggesting you're gay, they're likely a different generation. This is an increasingly common problem these days for younger people as we've grown up watching porn and they likely cannot relate.

[Malvolio]

I'd suggest leaving your cock alone for a couple of weeks, then seeing a WG with brimming tanks.

If you still can't come after than perhaps it's time to see a psychiatrist.

[hfe689343]

I had some issues with this when I first started shagging years ago (not WGs). I was exposed to porn way too young (before I was even a teenager) and at my peak I was probably masturbating to porn 1 - 3 times per day for 6 or 7 years straight. It was very awkward when this would happen as the girls I was with would assume it was them and that I wasn't attracted to them or they weren't doing a good enough job, etc. I also never had a wet dream (still haven't) and morning wood was a lot rarer than it should've been back then (more common now). It'd also take me a lot to get hard, I'd pretty much never get hard before the act and would usually have to get oral to get hard. Condoms would pretty much kill my boner instantly (putting some lube inside the condom helped a bit).

If this sounds relatable at all it's probably porn addiction and death grip syndrome. Most say cut porn and masturbation out for a couple weeks to a month and then try returning to it. I did that once or twice which helped a little bit, but I'd quickly get back into my old habits. It took a much longer period (4 - 5 months) for me to start seeing and feeling a difference. During that I also wouldn't let my mind think about porn / sex at all which was insanely hard to do. Doing something multiple times a day for years will have a lasting effect on your mind as well as your body and it's important to try and fix that too. Your brain think sexual pleasure comes from your hand and a screen, which it shouldn't. When I did return to wanking / porn I was very concious to use a much lighter grip, not stroke so quick, and try limit myself to a lot less porn, more realistic amateur porn, and try get the whole thing over and done with in around 15 - 20 minutes, which for me was very new as I could go hours and hours previously watching tons of videos of various different acts. I think this was the thing which helped the most. Porn / masturbation isn't inherently bad, but having a bad relationship with it is!

It could be a variety of other things mind. Maybe punting just isn't for you and you need a more personal connection, or you just find the act of paying someone for sex unnatural (I felt this a bit and still do to some extent, I usually ask for them to take the lead to begin with and then I do once I feel more comfortable). You very well might have some nerves (even subconciously) or some insecurities holding you back from enjoying punts. Also keep in mind a lot of this is new to you, being intimate with a woman, maybe even touching one or being touched. I imagine it will get easier for you the more you do it, but if it does seem like death grip syndrome / porn addiction I would focus on fixing that first and then return to punting in a couple months time. You'll enjoy the sex a lot more and will get more value for your money from visits to WGs!

Also ignore the people having a go at you or suggesting you're gay, they're likely a different generation. This is an increasingly common problem these days for younger people as we've grown up watching porn and they likely cannot relate.

Thanks a lot for sharing this. Looks like your problem was even worse than mine. I figured it will take time for things to get better. I already tried in the past to stop porn (for about 6 weeks) and masturbating (2 or 3 weeks at most), but then got back to it when I thought nothing was changing. I can stop porn for a very long time without much trouble, but not masturbating is challenging. When I really have the need to do it, my strategy right now is to use, two fingers, a very light grip and a slow pace. I would just get bored and stop at some point. I'm hoping to get more and more sensitivity with time.

In my case, I was exposed to porn around 13 IIRC, but most people of my age I knew back then were also (that's also how I discovered it). I wouldn't be surprised if a lot of people of my generation were having the same issue, with different severity, and I hope this thread can be useful for some people in the future. I'll definitely come back here in a few months, with an update, once things have improved.

[1599337]

I used to have this issue when I first started having sex, and I was a frequent masturbator too. In my case at least it helped to just keep trying out various kinds of touching with a partner. I had a VERY patient partner at the time and enough attempts without pressure (and also holding off from wanking for a good while) helped me get out of it and get used to sex without the VICE GRIP only your own hand can provide.
I would hope something similar could help you, but frankly there are a million and one different things that could cause this problem.
I wish you the best of luck, I know it sucks to deal with.

[tidytuz]

first thing you need to determine is which side you're batting for.  if you tend to pull yourself off over women, then I doubt you're gay. 

second you may be suffering from 15 years of death grip?  the stroke rate and pressure you apply when jacking off is not likely to be achieved during intercourse, even with the WG giving you a HJ.
Give yourself posh wanks through a stroker or hump a pillow for a few weeks to desensitize.  don't use your hand!

figure out which position tips you over the edge during porn and ask the WG for that position (within reason/boundaries of course!!).

  humping a pillow is terrible advice, that will make it worse.

OP needs to get on NoFap.