Blue Pill Red Pill

[Jayj]

This might be one for those of us with rather a few more years on the punting clock  😂 if you had the chance to go back and not walk through the door of that first massage parlour knowing now X years on what you do now would you?

It’s a tricky one for me looking back over 4 decades I’ve parted with enough cash to own a row of houses and had some shocking experiences on the way, on the other hand I’ve seen some smashing girls had nice escort punter friendships, just simply some of the best times and experiences 

Tricky one, a virtuous life a better husband with a decent financial reward or a life of wild fun and debauchery?

[Stevelondon]

Different strokes for different folks.

Yes I’ve spent a fortune on punting and yes I dare say. I probably could have put that money to use elsewhere.
Not sure about a row of bloody houses though. I live in Womble territory and a row of houses here would cost............ you get the idea.

I kind of look at it this way. I’m ok financially so what’s the fuss....... I always agree with the argument of your punting is getting you into debt etc.

People spend a fortune on ciggies..... look what good they do you. A mate of mine buys at least one pack a day. So what’s that 8 or 10 quid (fuck knows I don’t smoke) let’s say he’s spending £60 a week.
That’s more or less £240 a month.
Jeeez...... some folk don’t spend that much on shagging.

Me....... I’ve spent a fortune on motors over the years. Don’t mention when I rode motor bikes.
I said don’t mention those.
Yes a car just gets you from A to B and cheaper ones do that. But that’s not the point for me.

Don’t live the future regretting the past.

[Mr Doodle]

You only live once, so you have to live the life you want to.. If that is a life of destitude debauchery, so be it, but of course, you need money to lead any debaucherous life.

With what I now know. I would have:
- Started earlier and skipped the whole relationships thing
- Walked when not all is what was sold to me.
- Focus on having a good time rather than any expectations (this doesn't mean not being aware of the SP)
- Avoid EAS at all costs (not actually happened to me - learned from others on this great resource)
- Variety IS the spice of life - simples.
- Not take it too seriously.. It could take me a week or so to select an SP and plan the whole thing to try and make it as perfect as possible - for an hour of sex! Crazy.. It has probably cost me more in time and doing other productive things than the actual cost of punting.
- Push the boundaries a bit.. If it turns me off, I will never do it; but somethign that is taboo or a bit way out there could be worth it.

[geostorm1]

Tricky one, a virtuous life a better husband with a decent financial reward or a life of wild fun and debauchery?

I'd argue that seeing WGs makes me a better husband in some ways, (hear me out):

- If I get into an argument with the wife and she's being unreasonable but not a hill to die on, I often find that a nice chinese massage cheers me up and then I'm over it and don't continue the argument for 3 days

- The lack of sex, rather than causing me to build up resentment and anger, I simply fulfil my needs with a WG of choice.. as long as there are no underlying sex issues with the wife such that she is "not putting out due to falling out of love" then it seems to solve the problem. If you maintain a happy life with the wife but she has a lower libido then seeing WGs are a win win in my book.

- Due to not building up sexual resentment against my wife, I'm much happier when at home, the kids see me a lot happier, everyone wins.

- WGs can offer something the vast majority of wives would not - DUOS - I have to say they are a guilty pleasure of mine whenever the chance arises I jump at it. I'm sure some wives would entertain a 3-way but it is an emotional minefield and a rarity if you ask me. Also the other services WGs offer that many wives would not such as CIM / swallow / anal / BDSM etc.

I do regret starting as early as I did, because in my early 20s it did lead to some debt, but now I'm in a much better financial position so I don't mind.

[Home Alone]

Different strokes for different folks.

Yes I’ve spent a fortune on punting and yes I dare say. I probably could have put that money to use elsewhere.
Not sure about a row of bloody houses though. I live in Womble territory and a row of houses here would cost............ you get the idea.

I kind of look at it this way. I’m ok financially so what’s the fuss....... I always agree with the argument of your punting is getting you into debt etc.

People spend a fortune on ciggies..... look what good they do you. A mate of mine buys at least one pack a day. So what’s that 8 or 10 quid (fuck knows I don’t smoke) let’s say he’s spending £60 a week.
That’s more or less £240 a month.
Jeeez...... some folk don’t spend that much on shagging.

Me....... I’ve spent a fortune on motors over the years. Don’t mention when I rode motor bikes.
I said don’t mention those.
Yes a car just gets you from A to B and cheaper ones do that. But that’s not the point for me.

Don’t live the future regretting the past.

Totally agree with most of this, @Stevelondon.

I don't live in an expensive part of the country and I own my flat which is paid off. I've no kids so don't need to be a branch of the 'Bank of Mum and Dad'; I gave up driving when I took early retirement 14 years ago and I don't smoke, although I  do like my Red wine.

I don't say I dedicate my life to punting; but, particularly since the enforced savings plan known as lockdown, my savings are at their highest level since the OH left me!

My two luxuries are my holidays - I'm really looking forward to resuming them when the final Covid all-clear sounds - and my punting. But even there, I'm careful to the point of being frugal: I've a monthly punting budget, which I'd only exceed if someone on my HL announced she was touring in my locality after I'd already had my monthly punt.

I particularly agree with Steve's final sentence. For me, it's, "Live every day as if it were your last because that day will dawn sooner than you think, or want it to!"