It amazes me the difference in perceptions going on here. A lot of guys commenting on here are saying that women are jealous or insecure about other women robbing their 'power' or are hate prostitution because they are jealous of the younger more attractive women snaring their men. It makes me wonder if any of you guys really talk to your women friends or partners.
No one so far has mentioned the key truth. That for many civvie women the perception of prostitution is a skewed one. That they see it as a profession mainly done by women who are either hooked on drugs, have been groomed or trafficked or have mental/emotional problems that have driven them to make a career decision that is desperate.
So sadly many, many, women see men that use prostitutes as nigh on sexual abusers/rapists. In their minds we are taking advantage of weak, vunerable women that actually need help rather than being paid to shove a cock down their throat. This isn't helped by the fact that any documentary or news story in the mainstream media focuses on the bad side of this industry. The abusers and the grooming gangs.
As we all know this side of prostitution does exist - we cant get away from it. There are some nasty dark corners of this little world. I like to feel however that the majority of right thinking people on here would certainly not be knowingly using trafficked women or even emotionally damaged ones that are doing this reluctantly. Many threads I have read on here bear this out. Theres a refreshingly zero tolerance on this forum to anyone that looks like they knowingly patronise trafficking. Im pretty sure Mumsnet aren't aware these conversations even take place or that they are the broad consensus.
As WE all know there are also strong women who make a consensual decisions to do this job either because they are highly sexed or like the flexibility mixed with the earning potential it gives them. Their stories are rarely told in the media and when they are they are often perceived as the small minority that have turned an otherwise dark profession into a success.
There are also sad men that actually love women and their company, who have separated or been widowed or haven't found the right person to fill that gap in their lives. Some for various reasons struggle to start or maintain relationships so seek out women they can pay to feel the warmth of arms around them once in a while. Men that are otherwise good and kind. This profession is as nuanced and as light and dark as the people that make it up. However womens perceptions of this world for all the reasons I have stated will almost universally be bleaker than the way we see it and I don't think that will ever change.
