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tallguy74

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Why on earth would a guy be into that

Offline stevedave

I've often wandered the same, but plenty advertise it so it must be relatively popular!

More money than sense, if you ask me.

vw

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Wonder if there are any pay piggys on here to explain themselves ?  I see no benefit in it, I understand pain punishment but financial submission is beyond me !

Offline Sir Lance-a-lot

Isn't it also called "marriage"?

If anyone wants it without the hassle of getting married, plenty of WG's on the Thieves section of the UKP blacklist offer it.  Though they don't usually ask the punter' s permission first.

Offline dboy74

More money than sense  :dash:

Never see a WG who has this shit on her profile.

tallguy74

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More money than sense  :dash:

Never see a WG who has this shit on her profile.


It puts me off any WG


Oberyn1

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Really grinds my gears that and it's not even my money. I just feel it's a shit thing to do. Women want equality and yet you have plebty women who would do this given half the chance. If it's your own hard earned money then you shouldn't be giving it away freely to some workshy layabout with a nice face, body tits and pussy. That's another reason i would never consider being a toyboy for an older woman because the shame in receiving gifts and other stuff and not paying with my own money.

vw

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Was funny about 6 months back there was a FinDom war going on on Twitter about new girls tweeting to their PayPiggies trying to steal their flock.

Fucking hilarious !

Reminds me of this

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Offline od13218

Wonder if there are any pay piggys on here to explain themselves ?  I see no benefit in it, I understand pain punishment but financial submission is beyond me !

I'm seriously into submission, some of it pretty extreme stuff that I would hesitate to post about on here ;)
BUT this makes absolutely NO sense to me. I guess it's something only someone with shed loads of disposable income and no family ties might consider...but even then I don't get it.
Doug

Offline CatBBW

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I've often wandered the same, but plenty advertise it so it must be relatively popular!

More money than sense, if you ask me.

Plenty advertise it because there was a flurry of TV progs and mag articles about it a few years back so everyone jumped on the bandwagon. What MANY of the ladies who advertise it ACTUALLY want is a sugar daddy(s) or gullible mug(s) or admirer(s)/fan(s) to like them (usually just physically) so much that the guys send them money and gifts for doing literally nothing but looking pretty. They are wrongly advertising findom, but also the guys are now confused and call themselves finslaves/finsubs when they clearly are *just* submissive wanting to be "owned" online for a small amount of time (ie: paying for a wank on cam) or *just* want to give a pretty girl a gift.

What findomming actually is: Financial Domination. That is dominating the man via his finances. It's not "gimme all ur money NOW cos I iz worth it". It's a power exchange. Money (and the lack of or handing over of it) emasculates the man and makes him feel more submissive. Giving to his Mistress (the one who "owns" him) pleases him, gives him a rush, gives him a hard on. Findomming from the point of view of a WG is actually a lot of hard work. Finsubs/finslaves are usually pretty needy, demanding your attention, boundary pushing, contacting you when they have an erection (which seems to be rather a lot when you're not allowing them to cum), and thanking you when you tell them to go for a cold shower. Ten mins later they're back, needing you again. You get emails and texts in the middle of the night, and they thank you for telling them to fuck off and put an ice pack on it.

There are lots of different ways of findomming, generally ladies will employ one, two, maybe three of them depending on personality and how good an actor they are. Ripped shamelessly from a FetLife writing (PM me if you want to read the whole article and thread) there is: The Banker or Accountant, The Siren, The Gangsta, The Deity, The Owner, The Pro....and myself I would add The Mother Hen (cos that's often how I play it, it comes more natural to me). All of these mean you have to get to know your sub, get inside his head, find out what makes him tick, what makes him excited, all about his life, his finances, etc. Then deploy your findom onto him via tasks, tease & denial, sub games, promises of future games, meets for coffee etc.

It's certainly not for everyone, and it's probably THE most misunderstood/not understood at all kink. But anyone who's into D/s, domination, BDSM etc will know that power exchange is normal, that it is normal to enjoy the D/s dynamic, and everyone has different scenes they enjoy or don't like at all. For example: I don't get how a (domme) woman could repeatedly stamp on a (sub) man's testicles and enjoy it, or how a (sub) woman would enjoy having her face slapped or spat in. (Neither do I understand how anyone would enjoy being fisted, nor any kind of hardsports!!). Findomming is just another way to play at D/s.

So, that's my (limited) knowledge of Findom. I can honestly say that 99.99% of guys who *think* they are finsubs/finslaves are not (they are freeloaders who get off on TALKING about giving money without actually doing so <<< that's a whole different kind of special snowflake), just as the majority of ladies who *think* they are findommes (and it's easy money) are not.
« Last Edit: October 17, 2015, 01:40:33 pm by CatBBW »

Offline CatBBW

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If it's your own hard earned money then you shouldn't be giving it away freely to some workshy layabout with a nice face, body tits and pussy.

This isn't findomming, I believe it's called rinsing (aka: gold digging). There's no DOMINATION happening if she's relying on her looks.

Offline nike

Was funny about 6 months back there was a FinDom war going on on Twitter about new girls tweeting to their PayPiggies trying to steal their flock.

Fucking hilarious !

Reminds me of this

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:lol: :lol: :lol:
I'm surprised I haven't seen that on the front page of the sun or sport.
Bring back spitting image, they would have had a field day with this. :wacko:

vw

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This isn't findomming, I believe it's called rinsing (aka: gold digging). There's no DOMINATION happening if she's relying on her looks.
Think the whole scene has been infiltrated by imposters (God Diggers), and maybe that's what I see going on !

Thanks interesting post !

Offline Anadin

Based on the tweets I've seen quite a few chaps seem to be into randomly buying hot women stuff with seemingly no expectations, what pleasure they derive from this is beyond me but each to their own as people say. It's not quite the same as findomming but it's always made me wonder why.

Little Katie

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Good post Cat.  :thumbsup:
As you say, many people advertising this service are fakers and scammers who do not truly understand nor appreciate the time, patience and effort a real Domme would put into this in order for it to be a success and fulfil the needs of the sub.
I can see how it could potentially work as part of a D/s relationship where trust, love and commitment were also being exchanged alongside any power dynamic but for any male sub to just hand over vast quantities of cash willy nilly to a complete stranger masquerading as a 'service provider' is just utter madness and pure naivety on his behalf and laziness/abuse on the 'dommes'.  :scare:

Offline Bangers and Gash


As you say, many people advertising this service are fakers and scammers who do not truly understand nor appreciate the time, patience and effort a real Domme would put into this in order for it to be a success and fulfil the needs of the sub.

What a load of airy fairy bollocks.  :wackogirl:

SuitedandBooted

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Have seen a few of the top end girls and am often amazed by some of the gifts their clients buy them. I'm not talking a toy or some lingerie, that you might buy if you see them a lot and will get pleasure and use out of it. But guys buying stuff as they haven't got time to see the girl and want her to not forget!

Some bloody crazy to me. But certainly in London there is a lot of money. And I'm not even talking about people who work and make good money. Serious money is from people who own businesses and others who have real family money. It shocks me!

No surprise some of the girls think they can attract that action. For most it is a dream. I doubt some of the less established ones actually have people giving them large amounts of cash!


Offline dboy74

I would suggest if these ladies want this stuff they either get a second job or increase the time they spend on their backs.

No offence meant  :hi:

Offline smiths

Why on earth would a guy be into that

Because they are sad mugs. I view the women who do this as real leeches, at least an honest WG offers guaranteed sex in exchange for sex. However, its the guys money so up to him how he spends it.

Offline Anadin

I would suggest if these ladies want this stuff they either get a second job or increase the time they spend on their backs.

No offence meant  :hi:

Odd suggestion when there are blokes happy to buy it for the cost of a few insults.

Offline CatBBW

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Odd suggestion when there are blokes happy to buy it for the cost of a few insults.

And again, that's NOT Findom. It's domination, or abuse, but not findom (hence my lament about how the lines have been blurred back earlier in the thread). Men (SOME MEN) wish to be insulted over their small/large/ugly/acorn cocks, or their looks or girlfriend/wife/lifestyle. They want to be put down, laughed at, dressed as a lady, sissyfied, made to abuse themselves...but if they pay a lady specifically for these services, IT IS NOT FINANCIAL DOMINATION. It is a WG being paid to fulfil a man's fantasy or desire.

Buying insults isn't Findom. Being pretty for the sake of a car isn't Findom.
« Last Edit: October 18, 2015, 12:46:48 am by CatBBW »

Offline od13218

Plenty advertise it because there was a flurry of TV progs and mag articles about it a few years back so everyone jumped on the bandwagon. What MANY of the ladies who advertise it ACTUALLY want is a sugar daddy(s) or gullible mug(s) or admirer(s)/fan(s) to like them (usually just physically) so much that the guys send them money and gifts for doing literally nothing but looking pretty. They are wrongly advertising findom, but also the guys are now confused and call themselves finslaves/finsubs when they clearly are *just* submissive wanting to be "owned" online for a small amount of time (ie: paying for a wank on cam) or *just* want to give a pretty girl a gift.

What findomming actually is: Financial Domination. That is dominating the man via his finances. It's not "gimme all ur money NOW cos I iz worth it". It's a power exchange. Money (and the lack of or handing over of it) emasculates the man and makes him feel more submissive. Giving to his Mistress (the one who "owns" him) pleases him, gives him a rush, gives him a hard on. Findomming from the point of view of a WG is actually a lot of hard work. Finsubs/finslaves are usually pretty needy, demanding your attention, boundary pushing, contacting you when they have an erection (which seems to be rather a lot when you're not allowing them to cum), and thanking you when you tell them to go for a cold shower. Ten mins later they're back, needing you again. You get emails and texts in the middle of the night, and they thank you for telling them to fuck off and put an ice pack on it.

There are lots of different ways of findomming, generally ladies will employ one, two, maybe three of them depending on personality and how good an actor they are. Ripped shamelessly from a FetLife writing (PM me if you want to read the whole article and thread) there is: The Banker or Accountant, The Siren, The Gangsta, The Deity, The Owner, The Pro....and myself I would add The Mother Hen (cos that's often how I play it, it comes more natural to me). All of these mean you have to get to know your sub, get inside his head, find out what makes him tick, what makes him excited, all about his life, his finances, etc. Then deploy your findom onto him via tasks, tease & denial, sub games, promises of future games, meets for coffee etc.

It's certainly not for everyone, and it's probably THE most misunderstood/not understood at all kink. But anyone who's into D/s, domination, BDSM etc will know that power exchange is normal, that it is normal to enjoy the D/s dynamic, and everyone has different scenes they enjoy or don't like at all. For example: I don't get how a (domme) woman could repeatedly stamp on a (sub) man's testicles and enjoy it, or how a (sub) woman would enjoy having her face slapped or spat in. (Neither do I understand how anyone would enjoy being fisted, nor any kind of hardsports!!). Findomming is just another way to play at D/s.

So, that's my (limited) knowledge of Findom. I can honestly say that 99.99% of guys who *think* they are finsubs/finslaves are not (they are freeloaders who get off on TALKING about giving money without actually doing so <<< that's a whole different kind of special snowflake), just as the majority of ladies who *think* they are findommes (and it's easy money) are not.
Thanks for a thoughtful response- food for thought. (though still not for me!)
Doug

Offline tazz

I have to admit I like the thought of loading a women who isn't rich with tons of cash in exchange for endless sex, but am not rich so don't do it. It's just the thrill of making someone well off. Meet one escorts who had a huge collection of handbags clients had given her, another who'd been bought 4 role watches. I've done role plays with escorts in which I pretend to buy the lots of expensive gifts.

Offline Anadin

And again, that's NOT Findom.

Don't care what it is or isn't I was merely mentioning that it exists. :hi:

Offline Donnie69

I think you have to be either really stupid, or a real mug to do findom.  I don't mind giving good WGs reasonable money (advertised fees), but I do expect sex in return. 

I might give the odd bottle of perfume as a Christmas present to a very good regular, but that is about all.

Offline tazz

I could also ask why so many guys like to pay to be tortured, kicked in the balls and whipped black and blue. Far worse than financial domination for me.

baretta

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This is the profile of a Findom I dnt understand how a sane guy would allow a woman to do this to them. She talks about walking atm guys buying her clothes holidays paying her rent  :dash: :scare: wtf is the world coming to

Offline tazz

Just seen this video of dumb guys wanting to parts with silly sums for no sex External Link/Members Only

baretta

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Just seen this video of dumb guys wanting to parts with silly sums for no sex External Link/Members Only

Walletrape

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I can offer financial domination at a discount rate... or at an excessive rate if that's your thing. Anyone interested Pm me. ;)

Offline Mr Farkyhars

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I could also ask why so many guys like to pay to be tortured, kicked in the balls and whipped black and blue. Far worse than financial domination for me.

All of those activities are disqualified (by reason of insanity) from the 'safe, sane and consensual' test.

americandianna

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I made a profile here because I offer "regular" services when I travel in the U.K. (and have had a hell of a good time doing it ... the idea that we don't ever enjoy it is quite wrong, but that's another post). Back home I have a great deal of experience in the U.S. kink scene, on both sides of the whip. I know my shit, and I'm here to tell you that CatBBW totally nailed it. If she is really not into kink, I am impressed with the breadth of her intel.

"Financial domination" is a type of BDSM wherein the man is aroused and fulfilled by being used financially, where it's an act of submission and abasement. For some men it is a primary fetish. For others, it is one aspect of what they enjoy about seeing a pro domme; the fact that they are paying her makes the whole thing more humiliating rather than just being necessary to secure the session.

Many, MANY greedy women have latched onto this, thinking it's all about yelling abuse at some guy while he pays them for nothing. Similarly, there are many cute 19-year-olds who think putting on leather and buying a cheap whip makes them dominatrices. It's almost as laughable if a lot less lazy than "Yeah, I'm a findomme, send me money."

Being aroused and/or fulfilled by being beaten, licking a woman's boots or giving her money is very hard to understand if you are not wired that way. Which is why, IMHO, the best dominatrices are former submissives or swtiches, but again that is another topic for another day.


willbred

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Isn't it also called "marriage"?
 
If anyone wants it without the hassle of getting married, plenty of WG's on the Thieves section of the UKP blacklist offer it.  Though they don't usually ask the punter' s permission first.

Correct, sir. It is AKA marriage  :lol:

willbred

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Guys who are into / go along with this bollocks = rich / soon to be bankrupt super -fluffies. I couldn't do it on medical grounds, I have a case of ingrowing dignity.

baretta

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Guys who are into / go along with this bollocks = rich / soon to be bankrupt super -fluffies. I couldn't do it on medical grounds, I have a case of ingrowing dignity.

Magnificent  :sarcastic:

Offline tazz

Think if lots of prossies read this article they may quite whoring and just do domination. this women rakes in a 6 figure sum from guys online. Think any guy just sending money online to a women and not getting any sex needs therapy.

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aniz

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i like to pay the escort and fuck her but definitely not get fucked by her. :thumbsdown: