As a socially awkward guy, how to start?

[theconqueror]

I will be calling an escort to my hotel soon for 1h outcall. I am socially awkward, how to smoothly transition into action? I understand first 1-2 minutes would make payment in open envelope. But after that do I share a drink etc or just start teasing? How do you usually spend 1h?

[jgillis]

Don't overthink it. It's not a date. Tell her what you want and that you're unsure and let her take the lead. Trust me, she will have heard it all before. Just enjoy your hour. Let us know how you got on.

[Punting2022]

Get straight down to business. You are paying a high price. So maximise your time as much as possible. Offer a drink of water etc.
Dont drag it out. Get straight to it and try to cum as much as possible. Its your money paying for her time. Try to get the max value out of it

[VidiViciVeni]

Ask the girl to take the lead. If she's a good SP, she will probably sense your nerviness and take the lead herself. That's exactly what happened in my first punt. I personally found that a quick chatter about nothing helped to settle me down, though YMMV.

Enjoy your 1 hour, and try not to worry about cumming too early/not cumming at all etc. There is no need to put pressure on yourself and try to "impress" anyone. The SP won't give a shit about your "performance" so to speak, all that matters is that you have a great time.

[Iloveoral]

I’d just be open and say you’re a bit nervous / new to this, can you lead … most will be decent about it all and go slow.

Keep to a good time as mentioned above, don’t overthink it

But obviously review 

[sensualencounter]

I will be calling an escort to my hotel soon for 1h outcall. I am socially awkward, how to smoothly transition into action? I understand first 1-2 minutes would make payment in open envelope. But after that do I share a drink etc or just start teasing? How do you usually spend 1h?

If you’re brave enough to book a woman for sex, then you can do this. Just talk to her, try not to be embarrassed, if they’re any good they would have heard it all before and be able to adapt to you. Just try and enjoy it for what it is and don’t put pressure on yourself. If it’s all a bit shit, then write it down to experience and learn from it.

[sensualencounter]

Get straight down to business. You are paying a high price. So maximise your time as much as possible. Offer a drink of water etc.
Dont drag it out. Get straight to it and try to cum as much as possible. Its your money paying for her time. Try to get the max value out of it

What a load of bollocks. Not everyone is there to bang and cum for every second. Everyone is different. If that’s how you enjoy yourself then that’s fair enough but I certainly wouldn’t want a booking like that.

[LLPunting]

If you're socially awkward how would you handle it if she caused a scene in your hotel room or in the hallway?

Perhaps tell us more about the escort you've chosen, is she a well-reputed SP?

Personally if I'd never punted before I would do an incall with a known experienced SP, if you choose right and talk to her beforehand about your likes, expectations and perhaps anxiety you can gauge her replies for how reassuring they are and thus choose to book or not.  Once you're there you are in control as you choose to stay or walk.

[PilotMan]

Get straight down to business. You are paying a high price. So maximise your time as much as possible. Offer a drink of water etc.
Dont drag it out. Get straight to it and try to cum as much as possible. Its your money paying for her time. Try to get the max value out of it

Ignore most of the above, especially the bit highlighted in bold.

"Your paying a high price" - you haven't even mentioned the price, sounds to me that the OP has price issues that he's trying to transfer on to you.

It's your hour, go at your pace, do what you feel comfortable with. Don't be afraid to tell the SP you're new to this. If she's a good SP she will treat you accordingly and the encounter like a badge of honour that she broke your punting cherry 

[Anallover6969]

Don't overthink it. It's not a date. Tell her what you want and that you're unsure and let her take the lead. Trust me, she will have heard it all before. Just enjoy your hour. Let us know how you got on.

+1

[Puntingutils]

I was(still partly am) inept at this whole situation and still learning so here's my( non superficial- don't overthink it) advice for a smooth transition:

First things first, if you haven't gotten the escort yet do research! There are plenty of escorts reviewed by her, use the search function and find out. A good SP will ease your nerves. Maybe stick with one that specialises in GFE. So when you don't know what to talk about between rounds, she'll just be all over you making you feel comfortable  Go for one that has many positive reviews, could potentially increase a good service but as always -- YMMV. .

Now for the formalities and ettiqute:
Open the door, greet them, ask how their day has been, then offer them beverages, tell them what you are looking for/services you want to do in the meet, when they confirm and you are happy, make payment, then you or her can take the lead(you can specifically ask them to take the lead if you find it awkward you initiate).
Always make payment once you are happy with the services/want you are looking for in the booking, that she said she'll provide.

You don't need to hand the money in an envelope as shown in movies/TV shows - but you can if you want to.
You don't need.to offer them a beverage - but it's a nice gesture

[southcoastpunter]

Always make payment once you are happy with the services/want you are looking for in the booking, that she said she'll provide.

this bit is important (generally not just for a newbie). I always confirm what i want by text/message at the time of the booking and then again verbally with the lady directly. Remember not all ladies handle their own bookings. So if for example kissing and OWO are important to you then confirm with her before handing over the money.

The important thing is that its YOUR hour (or whatever time you have paid for) so enjoy it. (within the boundaries set and agreed of course and review afterwards.)

[Puntingutils]

this bit is important (generally not just for a newbie). I always confirm what i want by text/message at the time of the booking and then again verbally with the lady directly. Remember not all ladies handle their own bookings. So if for example kissing and OWO are important to you then confirm with her before handing over the money.

The important thing is that its YOUR hour (or whatever time you have paid for) so enjoy it. (within the boundaries set and agreed of course and review afterwards.)

100%. That's a good point about them not doing their comms. Some also don't even read the text properly. There are also ladies who just tick their are loaded who just tick their like box with services they don't provide, so once the money's handed over it's pretty much wasted if you wanted a particular service.

It was always strange to me to list all the services I'm looking for, but I'm sure this is a common thing and not just a select few punters do this, and it makes sense - it's my time and money - I am required to know that they will be able to provide me the services I request before I give them my time and money.

[Stevelondon]

“Try to cum as much as possible”  😂

That’s as far removed from ANY of my punts as possible.

I guess we all seek sexual pleasure differently, so if shagging and cumming lots is your bag……. So be it.

My advice for the OP is simple. First time………. Go with the flow. Tell her your expectations and just enjoy. Worrying too much about it will only make matters worse.

[Steely Dan]

Some good advice already.  So I have added this thread to the Wiki. 

External Link/Members Only

As well as the advice in the text on the page I link, there are links at the bottom to some earlier threads on similar topics.  Worth a scan.

Focusing on the specific question, one way to get things moving is to get naked.  Some escorts (reading your vibe) may think you want to sit and chat and sip wine for an hour.  If you are uncomfortable saying, 'time for a blowjob', you might find it more comfortable to suggest you both get naked.  Sometimes I get naked myself and say, 'one of us is wearing too many clothes'.  Speeds things up without needing to be graphic.  Might work for some.

[Punting2022]

“Try to cum as much as possible”  😂

That’s as far removed from ANY of my punts as possible.

I guess we all seek sexual pleasure differently, so if shagging and cumming lots is your bag……. So be it.

My advice for the OP is simple. First time………. Go with the flow. Tell her your expectations and just enjoy. Worrying too much about it will only make matters worse.

Its about getting your moneys worth tbh. Escorts are used to multiple cums, so get your moneys worth

[jesse4585]

I will be calling an escort to my hotel soon for 1h outcall. I am socially awkward, how to smoothly transition into action? 

Worthy question as there must be countless newbie & wantabe punters out there in this boat. Having sensible expectations is a good start.

* Money is a most effective social lubricant. There are likely countless experienced escorts who have helped dozens of awkward punters have a successful first punt.  So you should expect there is a good chance you'll have one yourself.

Also - you're far from the worst when it comes to being socially awkward, at least when it comes to online.  The sincere & concise way you phrased this question has got you a dozen uniformly friendly replies.  Never seen that happen before when it's a query from someone who has yet contributed with a review.

* While you should expect things to go well, also be prepared for the worst.  A combination of nerves, below average skills on behalf of the escort, or it just it being a bad day for her, could lead to a bad punt.  Be prepared then it shouldn't put you off having another go soon after.  Social skills are the same as others - you'll get better & less awkward with practice.

* Dont forget to review the punt!  And if it doesn't go too well, ask us before your next one, we can recommend good WGs who are calm, non judgmental, nice & socially skilled themselves - and therefore  ideal for putting an awkward punter at ease.

But after that do I share a drink etc or just start teasing?

Offering a drink is probably the thing to do. It's good manners for a reason, it's an effective start for helping to put the other at their ease. And when the WG is at ease with you, you'll likely to get far more enjoyable service. 
I like to have a choice of wine ( I tend to buy 3x mini bottles of wine which you can get for a tenner in many stores)  and Apollonius water (any sort of sparkling mineral water is fine if you can't get that brand.)

How do you usually spend 1h?

As you probably know, the key thing is to decide on an approach that works for you. There's no one formulaic way to guarantee success. But here's my typical MO, with notes when helpful.

0 - 1  mins "Hello there!"  |  "Welcome - come in" - (only if she's slow comming in)  |   "My names Jesse"  (pause for a second in case she says anything - if not I continue with:  "Great to see you."  and / or  "How are you"

1-2 mins  "Would you like a drink" -  I then gesture to to a table that will have a choice of wine or mineral water. The table will also have her fee (which personally I never bother to put in an envelope - if ever I was to do that though,  I'd be sure to write her name on the front.).

2-3 mins    "You're welcome to use the shower if you wish.  -  Mi Casa et su Casa"     (Mi Casa et su Casa  is Spanish, but even folk who dont speak the language normally know it means 'my house is your house' - just another way to help put the guest at their ease.

4-20 mins:  I've not done that many outcalls, but half the time they accept the shower, half the time they dont.  If they decline, I might say "Take your clothes off."  in a friendly but firm tone of voice.  I'll say this if I'm getting a good submissive vibe from them - otherwise I might say. "Could we start by you giving me a massage"  or occasionally I offer to give them a massage first.  Even in cases when I ask them to massage me first,  I always switch to massaging them (this happens with almost all my in calls too.)  I'm quite good as massage,  & it's my best & final way to put them at their ease.

20-40 mins: After the massage (& perhaps having a brief lie back to rest) I always switch to being dominant, if I wasn't earlier on.  As others have said, if you feel really nervous you might be better of letting the lass lead, or maybe you even prefer this  (I think close to half of punters do).  Personally I prefer to lead the punt, and I think most women prefer that as long as you're not OTT about it, especially if she senses you care about her.  I often bend her over for a spanking, or I might ask her to get down on her knees in a firm tone of voice. (Just about any women knows you tell her that you want her to suck our dick).  After this I'll sort out a condom & order her into various positions for sex, normally reminding her to put on some lube first if she needs it. I never try to stop myself cuming as this isn't civvy sex so no reason to think the WG would want me to last a long time, and a couple of times when I've held back an orgasm I've found myself not able to cum within the punt (being middle aged, things dont always work as well as the used to.)

40-60 mins: I'll normally just chat for the last part of the punt.

[Munter84]

There's a fine line between being prepared and overthinking, I would adopt the KISS principle when possible.

Welcome her in. Briefly reconfirm duration, and the agreed services and price. Get payment sorted. I would offer her water or a beverage, and it's probably in both your best interests to offer her the chance to freshen up if she needs it. You yourself will be recently showered and with brushed teeth, naturally.

Whatever happens after this point is at the discretion of two consenting adults, as they say. If you're inexperienced or nervous, don't be too shy to tell her so. If there's anything you particularly want to try in the session, again make it clear early, she can't read your mind.

Most important is to stay safe, but a close second is simply to have fun 

[LLPunting]

Its about getting your moneys worth tbh. Escorts are used to multiple cums, so get your moneys worth

Yet more horsepoo.  SPs are used to lots of pushy punters treating them like shit, "hammering this, pounding that" without regard for the SP, cumming like they're teenagers who have just discovered their own dicks.  This kind of behaviour is what wears and ruins SP attitudes, along with rude behaviour, poor punter hygiene, lack of simple manners and consideration.
You don't have to date them or go OTT with the charm but mind your P's and Q's only get assertive if the SP starts with a swindle or reneging on agreed services, by that I mean it's better to get (some) money back and bail, this is why I suggest against taking outcalls until you really know how to handle yourself with strangers (grifters) in a sex for money situation.  That said if you're choosing an escort who might have a shitty manner then you need to be sure about your reasoning or intent given your social inadequacy.  Perhaps you are just about "smashing it" but as you will see, if you read reviews, even some of our sex athlete porn star types use some charm and respect to get the best out of the girls for such a performance.

[jamiekinkxxx]

Yet more horsepoo.  SPs are used to lots of pushy punters treating them like shit, "hammering this, pounding that" without regard for the SP, cumming like they're teenagers who have just discovered their own dicks.  This kind of behaviour is what wears and ruins SP attitudes, along with rude behaviour, poor punter hygiene, lack of simple manners and consideration.

Well said LLP 

[sensualencounter]

Yet more horsepoo.  SPs are used to lots of pushy punters treating them like shit, "hammering this, pounding that" without regard for the SP, cumming like they're teenagers who have just discovered their own dicks.  This kind of behaviour is what wears and ruins SP attitudes, along with rude behaviour, poor punter hygiene, lack of simple manners and consideration.
You don't have to date them or go OTT with the charm but mind your P's and Q's only get assertive if the SP starts with a swindle or reneging on agreed services, by that I mean it's better to get (some) money back and bail, this is why I suggest against taking outcalls until you really know how to handle yourself with strangers (grifters) in a sex for money situation.  That said if you're choosing an escort who might have a shitty manner then you need to be sure about your reasoning or intent given your social inadequacy.  Perhaps you are just about "smashing it" but as you will see, if you read reviews, even some of our sex athlete porn star types use some charm and respect to get the best out of the girls for such a performance.

+1

But it will fall on deaf ears as he’s a troll. Or bitter and twisted. Likely both.

[stonebow1]

I remember my first time was awkward af and i couldn't get fully hard. I'd had very limited experience at that point so it was natural that it was going to be daunting.

If you get through it then you've made progress. Just make sure that you come back and review.

[PilotMan]

Its about getting your moneys worth tbh. Escorts are used to multiple cums, so get your moneys worth

You clearly don't listen 

The OP said it was about his awkwardness and social ability.

Not once has he mentioned money, or asked how to get his money's worth.

[LLPunting]

I remember my first time was awkward af and i couldn't get fully hard. I'd had very limited experience at that point so it was natural that it was going to be daunting.

If you get through it then you've made progress. Just make sure that you come back and review.

I honestly can't remember my first time though I remember lots of sheepish darting into various Soho walk-ups and baulking at the rough girls on offer.  Possibly researching through the review sites at the time and finding Les Girls and The Cottage which were a lot easier to deal with.  Followed some real dodgy AW trails to various iffy locales about town and got nightmarishly double-teamed by some older Brit hags in a council high-rise.  Learned my lessons and spent many years sampling the EE agencies in their heyday, lots of bruises but more fun times, freebies and brushes with EAS.

Getting comfortable dealing with the "nice" girls in the trade is always worth doing.  Getting inured to the shitty confrontations isn't something to accept, it means the game is getting the worst of you, developing some resilience to deal with the ropey situations safely is however necessary.

[Cum_again]

I will be calling an escort to my hotel soon for 1h outcall. I am socially awkward, how to smoothly transition into action? I understand first 1-2 minutes would make payment in open envelope. But after that do I share a drink etc or just start teasing? How do you usually spend 1h?

First bit of advice is good luck and enjoy yourself…
Think about your first punt, do you want looks or service? Bath is always harder!
There are some girls who are great at putting you at ease, probably more your milf type.
Personally I’d go and see Sarah Taylor. She’s got enough personality to keep a mute happy 

But girls are pretty used to it generally, especially the better reviewed ones.

Happy fucking!

[hendrix]

Yet more horsepoo.  SPs are used to lots of pushy punters treating them like shit, "hammering this, pounding that" without regard for the SP, cumming like they're teenagers who have just discovered their own dicks.  This kind of behaviour is what wears and ruins SP attitudes, along with rude behaviour, poor punter hygiene, lack of simple manners and consideration.
You don't have to date them or go OTT with the charm but mind your P's and Q's only get assertive if the SP starts with a swindle or reneging on agreed services, by that I mean it's better to get (some) money back and bail, this is why I suggest against taking outcalls until you really know how to handle yourself with strangers (grifters) in a sex for money situation.  That said if you're choosing an escort who might have a shitty manner then you need to be sure about your reasoning or intent given your social inadequacy.  Perhaps you are just about "smashing it" but as you will see, if you read reviews, even some of our sex athlete porn star types use some charm and respect to get the best out of the girls for such a performance.

Spot on LLP