Scammed, now know the escorts real name

[Tom97531]

Been scammed by an escort. I’ve now figured out her name from her address. If I send her a massage telling her I know her real name (subtle threat here) and asking for my money back (only that) am I going to be in trouble with the police if she reports it?

[Jt0290]

It’s a slippery slope from here, just take the “L” and move on. Nothing is going to come good through this approach imo. Unless we’re talking substantial amounts here is it really worth it?

[signy]

I very much doubt the police would have the slightest interest. However, you would just be digging yourself a hole; ask yourself who would have the most to lose if this escalates. As Jt said, take this as a lesson learned and move on; occasional disappointment is a fact of punting life.

Do make sure you name and shame on here.

[Blackpool Rock]

I don't see any issue with using a legitimate way to get your money back however don't make any threats as that could be used against you and i'd say this site would also take a dim view of making threats whether or not you have been scammed.

Other things to consider is that if you know her name then could she know / find out yours and make things difficult for you / family on social media etc etc, depending on your circumstances you may be digging yourself a big hole to try and get back a relatively small amount of cash.

Could do with knowing a bit more about how the scam worked and a link to the girls profile so the rest of us can avoid her

[Billy no mates]

Yeah, unless you’ve lost hundreds, I would move on, especially if you have a lot to loose

Name and shame and help your fellow punter, is the most important thing.

It is worth noting that both of your two reviews have the word scam or scammed in the title, so perhaps you should be clear about what exactly happened.

[daviemac]

Been scammed by an escort. I’ve now figured out her name from her address. If I send her a massage telling her I know her real name (subtle threat here) and asking for my money back (only that) am I going to be in trouble with the police if she reports it?

I've just read your last review and to be honest I don't know what you expected, she doesn't know you from Adam and the first thing you do is turn the light off, that's enough to worry any escort, no wonder she kicked you out.

If it's her you're going to threated I would expect a knock from the police if I were you when she tells them how unsafe she felt.

I would forget the money, take this as a lesson learned and next time don't do anything that's going to worry the escort.
 

[Mr Sinister]

I've just read your last review and to be honest I don't know what you expected, she doesn't know you from Adam and the first thing you do is turn the light off, that's enough to worry any escort, no wonder she kicked you out.

If it's her you're going to threated I would expect a knock from the police if I were you when she tells them how unsafe she felt.

I would forget the money, take this as a lesson learned and next time don't do anything that's going to worry the escort.
 

Looked like he wanted to turn the main lights on but accidentally turned them all off and she freaked out. Don't see that as an legitimate excuse to kick OP out, she seems pretty unhinged from the way OP describes her. He should have stood his ground got his money back and walked.

[Colston36]

The great benefit of UKP is it helps people make good choices. Why don't profit from it? Anyhow your behaviour seems a bit odd.

[daviemac]

Looked like he wanted to turn the main lights on but accidentally turned them all off and she freaked out. Don't see that as an legitimate excuse to kick OP out, she seems pretty unhinged from the way OP describes her. He should have stood his ground got his money back and walked.

She didn't know it wasn't on purpose and the fact is he did turn them off, he should have got her to turn the light on.

If he had stood his ground and she did call the police it wouldn't have ended well for him, a woman felling threatened by a bloke turning the lights off, who's side are they going to be on? 

Seems a bit odd that you thinking it's alright for an escort to feel threatened and she should just carry on regardless.

The basic rule is if you want a booking to go well don't do anything that's going to worry or cause the SP to be concerned. All actions have consequences whether accidental or not.

[Tom97531]

Guys, I genuinely was trying to make it brighter. You could barely see in there so I thought she only had the side light on.

As you say, I’ll leave it. I have a lot to lose (all be it highly unlikely). She has virtually nothing to lose.

[Blackpool Rock]

Guys, I genuinely was trying to make it brighter. You could barely see in there so I thought she only had the side light on.

As you say, I’ll leave it. I have a lot to lose (all be it highly unlikely). She has virtually nothing to lose.

So is it the girl in your last review 

[Stevelondon]

Guys, I genuinely was trying to make it brighter. You could barely see in there so I thought she only had the side light on.

As you say, I’ll leave it. I have a lot to lose (all be it highly unlikely). She has virtually nothing to lose.

So it’s this SP your on about is it ?

Not so much a scam in this instance I’m thinking.

Just a bit of light misunderstanding

I’ll get me coat 👍🏻

Things happen in this punting lark. I’d just move on if it was me.

[Blackpool Rock]

So it’s this SP your on about is it ?

Not so much a scam in this instance I’m thinking.

Just a bit of light misunderstanding

I’ll get me coat 👍🏻

Things happen in this punting lark. I’d just move on if it was me.

Well we still need to know it's that girl, so far this thread had produced plenty of heat and not much light   

[mr.bluesky]

So is it the girl in your last review 

Reading his last review I would say highly likely. Perhaps he could shed some more light on the subject 

[lewisjones23]

How does someone making punting such hard work and fuck it up all the time?

Doesn’t sound like the OP is right for this game?

[Tom97531]

Yes, it’s that girl. I think it was probably an act by her hence why I wrote scam. There are some moderators on here. So if you think I’m wasting people’s time by all means delete my post.

[Munter84]

An illuminating discussion, and I'm glad it triggered a lightbulb moment in OP. If I was in his position I would have been incandescent at being ripped off, as I too have a dim view of scammers. But the bright thing to do was always to say "screw this" and make light of the situation.

[Tom97531]

I definitely should have been more switched on

[Tom97531]

It’s been an enlightening experience.

[Blackpool Rock]

It’s been an enlightening experience.

Having read the review I wouldn't say that she's set out to scam you as such but IMO she's not a good SP (sounds like she was perhaps on something from what you posted).
Perhaps it did unnerve her slightly however if she was genuinely threatened then she would have given you the cash back just to get you out of there rather than refuse which is let's face it quite likely to raise the stakes and provoke a reaction

Anyway I know it's hard but try to forget the money and move on, I joined this site 8 or 9 years ago after being robbed by a girl and I was directly threatened that her BF was going to come and sort me out.
It still pisses me off even now when I think about it but that doesn't do anyone any good, you have done a review and warned others and that's basically the best thing you could have done 

[RandomGuy99]

Just drop it. Learn the lesson. Move on.

Harrassing an SP is not on.

[Tom97531]

Yes, I won’t harass anyone, nor do anything. Apologies for the post. I was wrong to post it and I make no excuses for myself.

[Strawberry]

She didn't know it wasn't on purpose and the fact is he did turn them off, he should have got her to turn the light on.

If he had stood his ground and she did call the police it wouldn't have ended well for him, a woman felling threatened by a bloke turning the lights off, who's side are they going to be on? 

Seems a bit odd that you thinking it's alright for an escort to feel threatened and she should just carry on regardless.

The basic rule is if you want a booking to go well don't do anything that's going to worry or cause the SP to be concerned. All actions have consequences whether accidental or not.

I don't know if this is of any use but even in ordinary circumstances it can be scary being in a darkened room with someone you do not know particularly as a woman with a man (who is likely to be stronger, more aggressive, larger, can penetrate you) even something like you can't see the condom box for example. Some punters do actually like the lights off, they usually ask if it's ok. I like lights on when finding condom, applying it, tidying up afterwards (incall or outcall) just to make sure belongings aren't being left or taken. An accidental switch off could trigger a sense of loss of control. Sometimes can be useful to think of what you would advise or expect a female friend or relative to do in the same situation - for many reasons however this suggestion doesn't always work for everyone.

[Lou2019]

Yes, I won’t harass anyone, nor do anything. Apologies for the post. I was wrong to post it and I make no excuses for myself.

harassment and threats will likely lead to you being black listed so to speak. So don’t be a dick.
Curious however, how do you figure out someone’s name from their address? You must have done some digging or is it BS?

[Tom97531]

Lou, as I said nothing has been done by me and nothing will. It’s over and that’s that.

I googled the address and a local authority report of crimes committed in the area gave me her full name from her address. Further google matched the name to the face. (Note crimes she had committed).

[Mr Sinister]

She didn't know it wasn't on purpose and the fact is he did turn them off, he should have got her to turn the light on.

If he had stood his ground and she did call the police it wouldn't have ended well for him, a woman felling threatened by a bloke turning the lights off, who's side are they going to be on? 

Seems a bit odd that you thinking it's alright for an escort to feel threatened and she should just carry on regardless.

The basic rule is if you want a booking to go well don't do anything that's going to worry or cause the SP to be concerned. All actions have consequences whether accidental or not.

Didn't know accidentally turning off the light was a crime 

Maybe you should read OP story again and try comprehend from his side. He asked her to turn them on NOT OFF, if she felt threatened she should have given OP money back and told him to leave.

Seems a bit odd you're taking the side of an unhinged scammer and thinking it's right to keep the punters money while delivering no service

[RandomGuy99]

Didn't know accidentally turning off the light was a crime 

Maybe you should read OP story again and try comprehend from his side. He asked her to turn them on NOT OFF, if she felt threatened she should have given OP money back and told him to leave.

Seems a bit odd you're taking the side of an unhinged scammer 

There's always two sides of every story. The SP might have had a similar situation happen before but it turned into a bad situation. It could really have triggered her if she suffered from PTSD.

Best not to analyse it over and over again.

Just drop it, learn the lesson and move on. 

[myothernameis]

Been scammed by an escort. I’ve now figured out her name from her address. If I send her a massage telling her I know her real name (subtle threat here) and asking for my money back (only that) am I going to be in trouble with the police if she reports it?

I would say if you know her name and address, be honest and contact the police.  Tell them the circumstances in what has happened, and let the police deal with her

[Strawberry]

I would say if you know her name and address, be honest and contact the police.  Tell them the circumstances in what has happened, and let the police deal with her

What exactly will the police do? As I understand it legally the sex contract is not binding, could argue for time but that surely will be a consumer action not criminal. The police might also wonder why she was frightened.

[RandomGuy99]

So..... moving on...........

[Lou2019]

So..... moving on...........

Who made you mod 

[dexpunt]

Am I the only person more concerned by the the fact that the OP has been on here a year and a half and the only 2 reviews are about scammers?
Must be the most unlucky person on here

[RandomGuy99]

Who made you mod 

Nobody. I am just suggesting that further discussion of the matter is leading nowhere. What has happened happened. Nobody can change it. All everyone can do is learn from it and move on. The end.

Alternatively the thread could go on and on and on and on.

[finn5555]

harassment and threats will likely lead to you being black listed so to speak. So don’t be a dick.
Curious however, how do you figure out someone’s name from their address? You must have done some digging or is it BS?

If they work from home its easy to find out their personal details  why he would want to do so is another question altogether

[Lou2019]

Nobody. I am just suggesting that further discussion of the matter is leading nowhere. What has happened happened. Nobody can change it. All everyone can do is learn from it and move on. The end.

Alternatively the thread could go on and on and on and on.

It may well do  but that’s not for you to decide.

[JustaPunter]

Been scammed by an escort. I’ve now figured out her name from her address. If I send her a massage telling her I know her real name (subtle threat here) and asking for my money back (only that) am I going to be in trouble with the police if she reports it?

Yeah, I think a Stalker intent on  Blackmailing an Escort may well be breaking a few Laws

[JustaPunter]

Am I the only person more concerned by the the fact that the OP has been on here a year and a half and the only 2 reviews are about scammers?
Must be the most unlucky person on here

Or he is a beings it on himself due to his poor behaviour?

Though more likely a fantasist or his only reason for reviewing is to attempt to get revenge on an SP that has blacklisted him for some reason

[akauya]

@Tom97531

As others have noticed, you've been a member of UKP for over a year. That should be long enough to give you the ins and outs of punting. Also, I would suggest for your next punt you (and all newbies) look at the well reviewed WGs in your area and avoid any TOFTT for the time being.

I just looked at East and West Midlands (apparently your punting grounds) and there are loads of well reviewed girls there. UKP is an amazing resource for punters, use it properly.

[finn5555]

It may well do  but that’s not for you to decide.

Your as bad as him leave it to the mods to decide if his comments are allowed or not or you just trying to wind him up 

[finn5555]

@Tom97531

As others have noticed, you've been a member of UKP for over a year. That should be long enough to give you the ins and outs of punting. Also, I would suggest for your next punt you (and all newbies) look at the well reviewed WGs in your area and avoid any TOFTT for the time being.

I just looked at East and West Midlands (apparently your punting grounds) and there are loads of well reviewed girls there. UKP is an amazing resource for punters, use it properly.

Wise words 👏

[Tyramhall]

I'd just let it go to be honest.
Can't wait to read your 3rd review 😂

[daviemac]

Didn't know accidentally turning off the light was a crime 

Maybe you should read OP story again and try comprehend from his side. He asked her to turn them on NOT OFF, if she felt threatened she should have given OP money back and told him to leave.

Seems a bit odd you're taking the side of an unhinged scammer and thinking it's right to keep the punters money while delivering no service

I would suggest you read my post again and this time try to take notice of the words I used, if there's any you have difficulty understanding let me know and I'll explain.

To reiterate for the hard of thinking. -

"She didn't know it wasn't on purpose and the fact is he did turn them off, he should have got her to turn the light on".

"The basic rule is if you want a booking to go well don't do anything that's going to worry or cause the SP to be concerned. All actions have consequences whether accidental or not".

BTW he didn't ask her to turn the lights on, he asked if he could turn the lights on and that was his mistake, had he let her do it the situation would not have arisen.

I make no apology for understanding an escort's reaction to feeling threatened.

To me it seems a bit odd that you label an SP an unhinged scammer when it was the OP's actions that caused the issue.

[scutty brown]

Curious however, how do you figure out someone’s name from their address? You must have done some digging or is it BS?

If she's on the open version of the electoral roll, then 192.com will list her

[Stevelondon]

What exactly will the police do? As I understand it legally the sex contract is not binding, could argue for time but that surely will be a consumer action not criminal. The police might also wonder why she was frightened.

Nothing wrong in reporting it to the police. They may have had other reports being made against this SP for similar goings on.

[Lou2019]

Your as bad as him leave it to the mods to decide if his comments are allowed or not or you just trying to wind him up 

And you are trying to wind me up as per usual     shouldn’t you be getting ready to go out Trick or Treating

[MissWolf]

There's always two sides of every story. The SP might have had a similar situation happen before but it turned into a bad situation. It could really have triggered her if she suffered from PTSD.

Best not to analyse it over and over again.

Just drop it, learn the lesson and move on.

Actually I think you will find there are 3 sides to a story
His, hers and the truth

Let's face it everyone writes with their own perspective in mind, I'm not saying intentionally bias but it's a natural lean to your own side, especially if putting it out on the Internet.
We have no her side on how he behaved in coms or in the booking, be that accidentally turning off the lights or any other mannerisms.
So we only have one out of 3 sides to this and any other tale told here 

[Lou2019]

Actually I think you will find there are 3 sides to a story
His, hers and the truth

Let's face it everyone writes with their own perspective in mind, I'm not saying intentionally bias but it's a natural lean to your own side, especially if putting it out on the Internet.
We have no her side on how he behaved in coms or in the booking, be that accidentally turning off the lights or any other mannerisms.
So we only have one out of 3 sides to this and any other tale told here 

 

[Doc Holliday]

Actually I think you will find there are 3 sides to a story
His, hers and the truth

You are absolutely right, but the truth rarely makes a good forum thread 

[MissWolf]

You are absolutely right, but the truth rarely makes a good forum thread 

100% true Doc 

[myothernameis]

Looks like Tom97531, has been punting since 2016, according to AW, so surely he would know his way round with escorts, and avoid the worsts ones