I find it really interesting to read through everyone's comments. There are some diverse attitudes, but most people
seem to be on the same page here. And I'm heartened that I seem to be in line with the majority:
- not much happening at home, and what there is doesn't engage me as much as I"d like
- feel that the outlet of punting, and everything that goes with it, has actually saved my marriage
- don't do it every month and I see the money spent as my money not the family's
- don't feel guilty about it, but have worries about being caught and all the devastation to my family that might ensue...
And that is not guilt, as much as fear. But without wanting to sound like a bit of a tit, I actually think it's good for us
to do things that scare us now and again. Our lives are pretty relaxed now, compared to even 50 years ago, never mind
500 years ago. But we're still the same animal really...
Trying to think around the problems punting creates for a man in a relationship is actually part of the 'fun' for me.
How to get away and organise sessions inbetween work and family... thinking what I might get caught out by and how
I might explain it away. I've had two close calls now, and whilst I hated every second when I was in it, I found a way
and lived (in my relationship) to tell the tale - except you are the only fuckers I can talk to about it :-/
Sure my partner suspects a little, but to be honest if you or I suspected our partners were playing away, we could react
in one of two ways: try to encourage them to stop by being a better partner and giving them what (you know) they want
or be more of a twat to them.
And this is the other bonus of punting versus affairs which others have touched upon... punting is a much better way to
fill a void in a relationship than actually having a relationship with someone else. Part of the reason we are paying escorts
money is not just to let us fuck them, but also to fuck off afterwards and not bother us.
My wife had secret affair for over two years with a work colleague. It was the relationship between them which destroyed me
not the sex they had. And by the sounds of it, her friend paid just as much as we do with gifts, expensive meals and hotels.