Struggling to ejaculate

[Jayj]

I’m struggling to climax during sex any others have the same problem?

I’ve no physical problems I’m aware of everything ok health wise, over the last few months more and more punts have resulted in me effectively running down the clock, I have and maintain a good erection I don’t use viagra but an increasing number of punts just end with me pulling stumps so to speak, never been an issue before, I don’t watch much porn or wank that often, sometimes it’s awkward as the SP is like 🤷🏻‍♂️ What’s wrong I’ve been banging away for 40+ mins with no end result, I make some excuse or other and leave with my boner tucked in my pants 🙈 I’m guessing it’s a physiological issue and I’m going to have to get professional medical help but thought I might see if it’s common with others.

[Stevelondon]

Once again I can offer no real assistance about this other than to suggest having a word with someone about it. Perhaps your GP for a start.
I would also agree with you it’s almost certainly a mental issue rather than anything physical.
The downside of things like this is that if you worry more about it the thing just exacerbates.

I am sure others on here might have advise or have had something similar. But everyone is different….. if you know what I mean.

Good luck.

[JPin]

Yes, intermittently since I started punting but has also been an issue in civvie relationships. Punting-wise I’d say it’s a combination of 1) overthinking or being in my head a bit too much and not being able to get into “liberated sex mode”, 2) condoms reducing sensitivity and 3) not feeling particularly aroused by the SP/situation, especially if the SP is dominating the punt. Any one of those can affect me and they’re, of course, interrelated. Depends on how I’m feeling on the day as well..

It’s complicated I guess but ultimately it’s all in the mind, so try not to let it get to you. (Easier said than done!). I’ve had it happen with the same SP in three different meets, my most expensive punts as well. The last two times I wanked myself to completion, which was ok but not really what I wanted and I left feeling glum. I figured there’s some kind of mental block with her, can’t quite work it out but won’t be spending any more money trying to.

Anyway feel free to PM me if you wanna chat more.

[oinki]

I’m struggling to climax during sex any others have the same problem?

I’ve no physical problems I’m aware of everything ok health wise, over the last few months more and more punts have resulted in me effectively running down the clock, I have and maintain a good erection I don’t use viagra but an increasing number of punts just end with me pulling stumps so to speak, never been an issue before, I don’t watch much porn or wank that often, sometimes it’s awkward as the SP is like 🤷🏻‍♂️ What’s wrong I’ve been banging away for 40+ mins with no end result, I make some excuse or other and leave with my boner tucked in my pants 🙈 I’m guessing it’s a physiological issue and I’m going to have to get professional medical help but thought I might see if it’s common with others.

I think the fact that this is now an issue for you it might build on your mind making it worse. Do you finish by hand at least so that you at least make your moneys worth? I would hate not to climax if Ive paid a SP. Maybe climaxing by hand will at least take the pressure away (assuming that is not an issue).

[lillythesavage]

Wank more often, do not over do it to porn or it has a worse effect, every few days keeps things working and the pipes clean, google it, diet helps too.

[Sibiu]

Are you doing lots of intense exercise. On aday when I do a heavy exercise session it’s harder to get an orgasm.

[Denhamhoop]

Just relax and enjoy what is happening if you cum then all well and good if not then that's life.

[JontyR]

(As always seek proper advice)
But seeing as you asked!... Do you during these 40 minutes ever feel like you are getting closer or are you just feeling like you aren't moving towards a conclusion? Do you have positions that may make it more likely? Are you booking SlackAlice59? Do you not indulge in other activities? Are you sure it's actually in?
 
I know that if I stop myself early on it can impact on ability to finish later.

Maybe seek a SP who is well renowned for extracting loads early in the sesh.

Explain the issue you face prior to booking and seeing if they back themselves to complete the deed.

[lillythesavage]

There was another thread on this and wanking, or regular sex is the answer often, of course if it does not help seek medical advise, but regularly keeping things moving and working is a great help, just do not get death grip syndrome or what ever it is called.

Where is @winkywanky when you need him lol, he would explain it better than me, he did on the last thread about it.

[daviemac]

There was another thread on this and wanking, or regular sex is the answer often, of course if it does not help seek medical advise, but regularly keeping things moving and working is a great help, just do not get death grip syndrome or what ever it is called.

Where is @winkywanky when you need him lol, he would explain it better than me, he did on the last thread about it.

Classic example of why advice of this type should not be sort on here. What you describe it related to premature ejaculation not delayed ejaculation (male orgasmic disorder).

The treatment for delayed ejaculation include sex therapy and exploring methods of increasing stimulation during sex.

As ever the official NHS website is a good place to start.  External Link/Members Only

 

[willie loman]

early on in my punting career i took the decision to shoot on sight, hence i usually ejaculate after 4 minutes, we are not meant to spend 40 minutes banging away, too many punters want their moneys worth, not saying this is you, but it might be something to think about

[cotton]

I think its natural to find it harder to orgasm as you get older.  Personally for me a sucessful punt comprises a bit of touchy feely at the start to get hard and then its just about getting it over with asap. Unless your with a particular hooker you feel comfortable and relaxed with like you would your wife or gf and shes not going to stress you out because your taking forever and you keep stopping for a break. If your happy banging away for 40 minutes to no effect then do that, if you arnt then the obvious question is are you able to reach orgasm and if so how ? and you need a hooker who is able to do whatever it is that makes you cum. No point banging away if that isnt gonna do it.
And when you find a hooker who has the proficiency to make you cum then you will stop worrying about it cos you know shes got it sorted and just that knowledge will make you relax and make it easier.

[expeller]

Have you thought of visiting an SP who specialises in prostate massage?

[drillaaaa]

wish i had this problem

[Watts.E.Dunn]

First port of Call is your GP to rule out any physcial issues and after that he/she sould be abte to point you in the right direction!!

The info on here is often very usefull, peoples real world experence has a use but in this instance thats what I'd do!..

[Hotpocket]

Had this problem years ago when in my 20's, at the time i was under a massive amount of stress and probably smoking too much, similar to op i could maintain an erection but couldn't cum, this kept happening and really became bigger in my mind every time. After seeking help for stress and stopping smoking it no longer became a problem, dont know if this helps but hope so.

[char45]

Agree with asking your GP, (although I haven't and probably should). I have the same thing, what I find often works is to slow down and try something else, e.g if I don't think I'll come through sex then stop and have a teasing handjob. I've also decided to accept it, particularly in shorter bookings, just enjoy the sensation.

I used to punt alot more than I do now and I'd do it to relieve stress, however worrying about cumming was another form of that stress. I now only punt when I'm relaxed and it's more enjoyable.

Finally the SP might help, some will up the pace and faster action might not help but many will have experienced this and want you to come. Rather than calling it a day maybe say to the SP you don't think you'll come through whatever and let them take charge. I used to see alot of Thai girls and in my head I wanted everything, after a while pumping away in anal and not coming I realised I wasn't actually enjoying it, the next few punts I asked them to lead and it was far better and I came more as well.

If I get round to asking the GP I'll post what she says, would be interested in anyone else gets advice.

[Comicman]

I have had this same problem for years i can last  a  while without coming  for me it's condoms i find it easy to get and maintain an erection but very rarely do i ejaculate with a condom on so that's why i always look for girls that do owo cim/swallow  as this is a good way to finish

[Sisterwinter]

Since entering my 50s, this has happnened occasionally to me. I was aroused, fully erect etc, but couldn't cum.

The problem seems to be that if my orgasm approaches at the height of my arousal and I sort of "swallow" the cum, then it is very difficult to restart the process (without a 30-60 rest, which obviously isn't possible under most punts)

So, as soon as i feel the urge to build up to a cum, just let it happen, and not try and prolong it.

[willie loman]

Since entering my 50s, this has happnened occasionally to me. I was aroused, fully erect etc, but couldn't cum.

The problem seems to be that if my orgasm approaches at the height of my arousal and I sort of "swallow" the cum, then it is very difficult to restart the process (without a 30-60 rest, which obviously isn't possible under most punts)

So, as soon as i feel the urge to build up to a cum, just let it happen, and not try and prolong it.

couldnt agree more, shoot on sight is my view, we keep reading that to be a great shag we have to have stamina etc, the truth is women are nt that keen on a shag that goes on too long, that goes for paid and unpaid encounters,

[MadMonk67]

Have you been put on any medication recently? I've been put on pills in the past that made it very difficult to finish and I gave up punting  for a while (before I set up on here) until I was taken off them.

[joe diddley]

Wank more often, do not over do it to porn or it has a worse effect, every few days keeps things working and the pipes clean, google it, diet helps too.

I have had this problem and a sympathetic WG with whom I was a regular told me that I ought to wank less, as choking the chicken too often results in a degree of desensitisation that can inhibit ejaculation. I reduced my episodes of spaking the monkey and after a little while, I found ejaculation easier. Note that like the OP I hadn't had any trouble getting a stiffy.

[alabama1]

couldnt agree more, shoot on sight is my view, we keep reading that to be a great shag we have to have stamina etc, the truth is women are nt that keen on a shag that goes on too long, that goes for paid and unpaid encounters,

That's a good way of putting it " shoot on site", and so true. I also agree that wg's in particular prefer as little "wear and tear" as they can get away with.