Falling for a W/G is the Biggest Mind-Fuck

[Ron89]

I’ve experienced this feeling as recently as last week, but hadn’t done so for years prior to that. The hilarity and absurdity of it means I usually just bury the feelings and go about my day, but the recent experience had me thinking that this must be something A LOT of punters go through, given that typically we’re fucking girls we’d admit are several notches above us within the ‘sexual marketplace’ - and that men are drawn most to physical beauty. It’s only ever happened to me when the W/G is my absolute ideal aesthetically, and usually when they have the full package personality-wise.

It’s quite the mind-fuck when it does happen, you’re crushing on a girl who’s sells her body - you’re just a notch on the headboard and all you can think about is how she’s undoubtedly moments away from getting pounded by an old beer-bellied fucker, and the heaps of punters that follow after him. Apologies to old beer-bellied members Her competence in her line of work means she gives the illusion that you’re connecting, that you’re being treated differently to how she is with the other punters. In reality, that’s just her understanding the service-oriented nature of the game and maybe even merely enjoying her job, sometimes we forget that’s allowed. The following days you end up checking if her green light is on, hoping that it isn’t, and heart sinking when it is. You check UKP to see if she has any new reviews, and when she does, you read it with reluctance because at that point there simply isn’t any way you can’t. Don’t get me started on how it feels reading the play by play detail. It’s a very odd and unique experience and almost feels as painful as getting cheated on, that’s an exaggeration but the pain isn’t a million miles apart.

The hilarity lies in that unlike similar thoughts and experiences when dating in the real world, there is absolute certainty that she’s taking a lot of dick, rather than mere suspicion or a chance. The mental images you get, especially when you know the extent of her likes list and the services she’d likely be offering to punters. My experience was worsened by the fact that I punted said girl in a secluded part of town and could see the next punter waiting to be called up. An old, ugly, fat and greasy looking dude - the images circling of him rubbing all over her; her being made to suck on his hairy bollocks. She was very feminine, very submissive and assertive men like I usually am could easily do with her as they please; it all made me feel quite sick.

How many of you are able to relate to this? Granted, to admit as such in this level of detail like I have takes vulnerability, but we’re all strangers in the end, so it doesn’t matter unless your internet reputation really means a lot to you.

[PaulRuff]

Nice post, and yes more of us have been there then are willing to admit as such.

[oddson1970]

lts a paid for shag.lts her job to make you feel special and it sounds as if she is doing a damn good job of it.lf you find yourself developing feelings for a WG,the best thing to do is move on and find another .....it is only ever going to end badly.This topic has been discussed at length before and the end result is nearly always the same.Find ,fuck and flee

[hendrix]

I should be a prime candidate for this given my preference for overnights and trips with WG's. But, can honestly say it's never happened. I don't date, which might be a factor as any female close interaction with me is paid. So it's an easy equation for me, Women=Money. That's it.

[Colston36]

There have been a few other threads about this.

Personally I like whores but they are all different - as are we all.

When young I lived with one. She hated her clients. Was the most jealous woman I ever met. Nearly  stabbed me to death.

When much older I fell for one briefly. Had some great times but she was doing too much coke.

[newpuntingguy]

Many of these threads recently. I knew a gent who fell head over heels. Cost him his sanity and a lot more cash than he’d have spent on other fun encounters. WG’s don’t want to date and if they do it’s often because their date is buying them a shit load of drinks and it’s saving her dipping into her own pocket 

Best advice is don’t fall for a WG. The second you think of it as any more than a transaction you should be moving on before you end up doing something stupid. It has never happened to me but if I was you I’d remind myself it’s a transaction and move on otherwise you are only going to end up broken hearted and sitting in the corner of your local with several pints wishing things turned out differently

[JPin]

Appreciate the vulnerability here. It can get sticky out there, in more ways than one!

I've had mild EAS a couple of times, and 100% relate to the aesthetic + personality + connection thing... part of which we all know is illusory, yet still, perhaps theose of us who are more sensitive/emotional can't help but fall for.

Oddly though, punting has really impacted on my jealousy demons, which were not great when I was younger and have been dissipating over the years. Obviously self-esteem related. I've been with women lately (in the dating world) who I have an open situation with... we're both fucking other people and you know what, it barely bothers me.

How does this relate to what they OP is saying? Well, he mentions other punters a lot in that post and I've come to realise that seeing SPs and acknowledging that they're fucking lots of other men (whether it's for work or whatever) has helped me to be a lot more accepting and really subdued any possible feelings of jealousy. I think a little jealousy is always good, shows you care, but it's nice to have had the punting experience which has really trained my mind to be cool with women who are taking lots of other dicks.

[Colston36]

Appreciate the vulnerability here. It can get sticky out there, in more ways than one!

I've had mild EAS a couple of times, and 100% relate to the aesthetic + personality + connection thing... part of which we all know is illusory, yet still, perhaps theose of us who are more sensitive/emotional can't help but fall for.

Oddly though, punting has really impacted on my jealousy demons, which were not great when I was younger and have been dissipating over the years. Obviously self-esteem related. I've been with women lately (in the dating world) who I have an open situation with... we're both fucking other people and you know what, it barely bothers me.

How does this relate to what they OP is saying? Well, he mentions other punters a lot in that post and I've come to realise that seeing SPs and acknowledging that they're fucking lots of other men (whether it's for work or whatever) has helped me to be a lot more accepting and really subdued any possible feelings of jealousy. I think a little jealousy is always good, shows you care, but it's nice to have had the punting experience which has really trained my mind to be cool with women who are taking lots of other dicks.

It is the fact that they are fucking a lot of men that I like.

[Hobbit]

It's always an illusion even if they say they like you a lot and want to have your children! Truth is, it's all about money to them, so just keep it simple and straightforward. If you feel that you are getting EAS, then see someone else or keep the bookings short so there is minimal time to chat.

[jonesfromthere]

Fucking hell Ron, that's like reading my own inner monologue from about a year ago. Commiserations man, time is a great healer though.

[lamboman]

There have been a few other threads about this.

Personally I like whores but they are all different - as are we all.

When young I lived with one. She hated her clients. Was the most jealous woman I ever met. Nearly  stabbed me to death.

When much older I fell for one briefly. Had some great times but she was doing too much coke.

Ever considered writing a book Colston?

[isaac_gauss]

It is the fact that they are fucking a lot of men that I like.

Same here. And that goes for the first WG I met, became infatuated with, then disappeared. And the more recent one  that's ghosted me.

Maybe the next one, I'll try to actually get her to be my girlfriend. Her continuing to fuck other men would be a matter of course. I realise this is hazardous territory - some consider sexual jealousy to be an essential part of masculinity. They might just lie about that.

[Wood2017]

It’s certainly an interesting topic and I appreciate you opening up on your experience OP 

I could be barking up the wrong tree here OP but you might be putting too much importance on the intimacy and one on one nature of a booking. By that I mean from the minute you arrive for your punt you know you’re going to be kissing/shagging/rimming etc the escort that you’re meeting and that you’ll have her full undivided attention for the time you’re together, at least I hope you would lol. But in that respect there’s simply no-one else around to distract you & as such you can ‘get lost in the moment’ so to speak. But that’s the thing it is just a paid interaction, it’s a role play as such.

The reason I say the above too is because I’ve had chance encounters or crossed paths with a few escorts outside of a booking environment whether that’s when shopping, in a train station or in a bar etc & for me at least anyway there’s undeniably a different mindset than when you see them scantily clad in a booking and you’re about to shag them. Even the escorts that I found very very attractive when you see them in a public place fully clothed & surrounded by others they might not even stand out, they’re just another person & no different to the girl working in Starbucks etc.

I’ve gone off on a tangent a little bit but my point is almost that they’re merely providing a service for the period of time you’ve paid them. And it is a role play of such, were you not paying her she likely wouldn’t be greeting you in stockings & suspenders and deep throating you within 10 minutes of meeting you lol. So try where possible to not place too much significance on what you two get up to as she’s probably doing the same with multiple other men that same day.

[pantywetter]

Had it recently. 

As an experienced punter I know it’s mental but agree it still gets in your head. 
Still feel sad about it now months later.

It’s my 2nd or 3rd time albeit over many, many years. 

I am going to try to stop going down the route of exchanging numbers and opening up about personal stuff as it’s a road to nowhere.  Very little good can come of treating as anything other than a business transaction

[golden bull]

Err…… no never lol. I just love different hot pussy ❤️

[threechilliman]

Err…… no never lol. I just love different hot pussy ❤️

Same here.

[Colston36]

Had it recently. 

As an experienced punter I know it’s mental but agree it still gets in your head. 
Still feel sad about it now months later.

It’s my 2nd or 3rd time albeit over many, many years. 

I am going to try to stop going down the route of exchanging numbers and opening up about personal stuff as it’s a road to nowhere.  Very little good can come of treating as anything other than a business transaction

It's a cliche, but everyone really is different.

Yesterday I went to visit a retired girl. She made an amazing lunch for me complete with wine. We reminisced a bit, had a few laughs. No money changed hands. I can think of four I know that I still get on very well with.;

Nothing to do with true love or obsession; I just found them good company besides the sex, so I still do.

[stewpid]

Yep and it fucked with my mind for a good couple of years after but time is a healer and now it is only a background thought on occasion.

The problem with mine is the WG asked me out first. I would never have crossed that line myself, although I did like her and saw her regularly because of that and the sex was phenomenal, because I try to know the game. She was a popular WG (and is still active occasionally) so I should have known better and just kept it professional or cut ties altogether but I hadn't had any female attention for a long time so when a sexy girl asks you out (regardless of situation) that goes out the window. I mean I was flattered that out of the guys who were ploughing her she wanted to try and see me outside of that situation.

I was concerned it might be a possible fleece set up but she was a smart girl with her own finances and a career outside of sex work (I did see evidence of this) so it didn't worry me too much and she told me she was quitting the game soon. I stopped seeing her punting-wise and we dated but it didn't work out, mostly my fault as I'm just not amazing relationship material and there was always the thought in the back of my head that she wasn't totally done with the game. This turned out to be true as she was and is still working sporadically but who knows what could have been and I do occasionally still kick myself about it. Still smarts like hell to see a review about her (I never reviewed her myself before you ask and won't reveal her identity) but I try not to read them.

Ce la vie 

[Stevelondon]

It's a cliche, but everyone really is different.

Yesterday I went to visit a retired girl. She made an amazing lunch for me complete with wine. We reminisced a bit, had a few laughs. No money changed hands. I can think of four I know that I still get on very well with.;

Nothing to do with true love or obsession; I just found them good company besides the sex, so I still do.

I think we are similar in this regard. I have made friends with some of the SP's I have seen over the years. I can aslo see where you coming from with regard to your comment about actually liking the fact they have sex with other men.
Maybe your inner cuckold. 

I have always taken SP's to be people rather than just paid for sex objects and has been said. Everyone is different.
I've enjoyed some out of punt relationships with more than four WG's over the years. Girls I found to be attractive, normal....in fact quite like me. 

[Atrueyorkie]

I saw this thread and then clocked Ron and instantly said nooooooooooooo. Not RON!

It’s hard but like you’ve said they have to create this illusion it’s easier for both parties that way, the money is what they’re after and you need to have a consistent reminder to that fact and detach any feelings. Ask yourself if they’d welcome you for a freebie session due to the vibes and good connection. Should wake up any punter with EAS with the WG response to that.

It’s natural for it to happen in certain cases. It’s human nature to want to. I have to separate the two even when I had a great session it’s definitely surprises me some WG’s are in the game and true that some gross looking person who looks like they’re ready to play darts is gonna take next dibs.

I’ve seen two WG of recent who are stunning. Hoping to make them two regulars as they tick all boxes. To the point I was thinking how are you here and why are you so cheap. One of which loved the session and showered with compliments. But you gotta have thick skin, because it’s likely part of the service and no way am I getting EAS. I’m paying for a service, nothing more.

Do I enjoy the shag? Hell yeah! But I keep emotions separate not looking to muddy the water.

[Brompton]

I am going to try to stop going down the route of exchanging numbers and opening up about personal stuff as it’s a road to nowhere.  Very little good can come of treating as anything other than a business transaction

I bet many of us have done this, I know I did once with a regular ‘back in the day’ & it became lunches, meeting for coffee, even nights out, movies etc (not involving monetary transactions) & at the lady’s original suggestion but yes you are right “it’s a road to nowhere” it puts you on a high at the time especially if you’re going through a lonely stage in life but you have to live with the pain afterwards 

Never again, although I never regretted it & thank goodness too old now to be drawn in.

Yes I know similar posts have come up in the past but not seen for a good while 

[JontyR]

OP, why not tell her how you feel?

She may feel the same.

If she doesn't she'll help you by probably freaking out at your increasingly obsessive behaviour.

Yes, she may try and fleece you....but lets be honest here....right now you are fleecing yourself.

I know, you may not want to give up what you have - but isn't that a sign that you have more of and addiction than a desire to change the nature of your "relationship".

And yes, I know this looks harsh. Its not personal. There for the grace of god all us punters go. Thank you for sharing.

[SimonSays2108]

Please don't tell her how you feel - been there / done that - started dating / an affair  (I am married) - no money exchanged after the 2nd booking on which i spent the night.

Asked for a divorce - blew up - she was / is messed up - realised my mistake after six months - now back home, still married, almost a costly divorce settlement.

Had therapy which has kept me grounded - i'd suggest looking up 'Limerance' that is what i was - Limerant for her - i think its the typical white knight in us all for girls that do this.

[lillythesavage]

It is the fact that they are fucking a lot of men that I like.

Reading the original post I was thinking exactly that, monogamy is not for me. from my first girlfriend, to the first wife, and the second of more than 30 years.

The first GF had me confessing my guilt, early in the relationship after bedding, well car seat, her best friend, turned out she had called her, landline from the party house while GF was grounded after a long session in Epping Forest the weekend before, to grass me and was told to go for it.

First wife was younger, a virgin when we met, after a meal with another couple, drinks at theirs, swapping seemed fair enough

[Colston36]

Reading the original post I was thinking exactly that, monogamy is not for me. from my first girlfriend, to the first wife, and the second of more than 30 years.

The first GF had me confessing my guilt, early in the relationship after bedding, well car seat, her best friend, turned out she had called her, landline from the party house while GF was grounded after a long session in Epping Forest the weekend before, to grass me and was told to go for it.

First wife was younger, a virgin when we met, after a meal with another couple, drinks at theirs, swapping seemed fair enough

Wonderful! Set your priorities right from the starting gate.

[pythondan]

I have had this twice in my punting career. Both times with girls that were very much my type looks and personality wise.

With one, as I got to know her, the initial infatuation faded as I realised that we would never be compatible but the other I became pretty besotted by although I always knew deep down that I was not anything special to her.

I think other than her being ideal from a looks and personality type the strong attraction was based upon me thinking that, had I met her under different circumstances, we could have had a great relationship. She was in a relationship with a guy who I considered to be my inferior looks wise and I certainly earnt more than him so there was a big element of "she should be with me rather than him" going on in my head.

I saw her for around six years before she retired and after that occasionally would bump into her around town which kickstarted the feelings again. It also did not help that I had paid her to film some of our sessions so the memories did not fade as the otherwise would.

Despite my feelings for her I never mentioned how I felt and had the same feelings as the OP on reading reviews, AW feedback etc. It took quite a while to get my head straight but I got there in the end and now realise that I was causing myself a lot of unnecessary grief for no good reason.

I have since had a couple of regulars who I have found attractive and greatly enjoyed seeing but with none of the same obsessive feelings. I think the problem was that the girl at one stage seemed "attainable" and it was easy to envisage a "happy ever after" scenario with her. This was encouraged by her having quite a quiet nature which allowed me to construct all sorts of fantasies around her. The first girl that I had feelings for who I mentioned at the start shattered the illusion by turning out to be a strong, outspoken person as I got to know her.

Feel free to call me a white knight fuckwit - I had  done so in the mirror many times.

[Doc Holliday]

Ron, I’m sure you are aware this topic in its various guises, has been done to death and you must have read some of the threads?

I wouldn’t normally chip in any more. However, you yourself have used the terminology 'Mind Fuck' and from the content of your post and in particular the characteristics and level of detail of your thought processes, I would be quite concerned about where your head is on this. You have described elements of irrational infatuation, jealousy and overprotection.

There are hints of obsessive behaviour, such as contemplating the physical characteristics of the next punter and checking out reviews.

This is not healthy and you need to get a grip on this especially as, by your own admission, this is not the first time and you describe her as 'out of your league'.

Please don't take offence, I am posting this out of genuine concern for your wellbeing. 

There is an excellent warning post from Pythondan above mine.

[one eyed panda]

I think I was lucky, back in the day when I started the punting lark, I had a significant conversation with a working girl who was a lifestyle lesbian - she had a long term female partner. I fancied the pants off her and found her a fascinating person and was curious as to how she handled her job and her life. I should add she was pretty attractive, great body, and her service included French Kissing as long as you didnt smoke. The lesson I got was to compartmentalise the sex - enjoy it and really go for it, but not to let it cross into your private life. I wasnt very confident in my abilities at that point but she was one of the girls that got me functioning properly (no more ed or prem. ejac.  ). After one very good outcall session she said to me - (X) - I think you've cracked it. Not having sex but having a great, nothing left, fun time with all baggage left at the door.

Lucky I had learnt the lesson and it has stayed learnt for the next 24 years. My sex life is a separate thing to all my other life activities of work family etc, and stays that way. Lucky I learnt the lesson as a few months later this girl introduced me to one of her friends who was just divorced and needing a good seeing to - I was able to do it without getting into any issues of relationship or rebound things.

I think if you never have that conversation, the its just sex conversation, you can be dangling in the wind

[lillythesavage]

Wonderful! Set your priorities right from the starting gate.

 , I was helped on the way by a horny stunner.

In between wives I moved in with a girl I met on a punt, a black girl in Tottenham. Never bothered me if she was earning while I was working, never really thought about it much, certainly not thinking about other punters or what she was doing.

[JPin]

It is the fact that they are fucking a lot of men that I like.

Yeah nice  Love that.

[HappyHarryIV]

I think that we all have fallen for a WG at some point, we are human as are they.

I remember getting very close to one, her intention was to just be a WG for a short period of time until she got herself on her feet. We would end up spending a lot of time together without monies exchanged. I knew what she did and it didn't really bother me as I understood it to be work. It did kind of turn me on though to know that other guys were real lucky and getting their knob sucked by her. After a while I met someone else and when I told her she was genuinely upset and revealed that she did have real feelings for me. She moved away from the area I was living in at the time shortly after this as she felt awkward. We still keep in touch, she did only do the job for about 1 1/2 years and has a mainstream job now. If the opportunity was there to date her again I sure would.

Of course there are others that are just playing their part of the script and I also think that when they have been doing this kind of work for an extended period of time they are less likely to be able to commit in a relationship as the idea of easy money and mis-trust of men becomes too entrenched.

[usroads]

I think that we all have fallen for a WG at some point, we are human as are they.

Of course there are others that are just playing their part of the script and I also think that when they have been doing this kind of work for an extended period of time they are less likely to be able to commit in a relationship as the idea of easy money becomes too entrenched.

This is how it is. If the idea of a relationhip is coming on remember - whores are natural born liars, lying to family, friends and neighbours and they wil certainly be lying to you.

[Dead_Pool]

Always interested when see topics like this, you can see the broadstoke of opinions and experiences guys have had. Mind-Fuck is probably the best description you can have, as it really can. I don't know if admiration is the right word, or just respect to those guys to can completely seperate the intimate act of shagging someone they think is amazing, to just a cash transaction without emotion at all. 99 times out of 100 i've been the same, but I have fallen for one in the past so I know its a possibility with me.

In my experience about 5 years ago now, started regularly seeing an incredibly popular forum girl who is still active today. It got complicated as the messaging to arrange a meet, turned into multiple messages before and after. She initiated the messaging as well, which took me by surprise as you always hear of how escorts hate contact outside of a bookings being made. But she started sexting with pics and messages about how much she looked forward to seeing me, then how much she had enjoyed seeing me. It continued to just messages about how each other was and things going on in our lives. The sex was great and the build up of chatting to her about what we we do when we'd see each other made it even more exciting. It crossed the line shortly after about 7 meets in space of 4 months. When she declared one night texting just randomly on a friday saying she wanted to see me outside of being an escort. Having a girl who was very popular messaging reguarly with me was a thrill, but her saying flat out she just plain likes me and wants to see me away from paid sex was a major thing for me at the time. Who doesnt like to be told someone likes them, the fact it was a WG who had countless guys wanting to see her and wrote on here about how good she was, obviously made me feel fucking great.

I did cross that line and we did starting seeing each other. Really great for a bit, it really was. But you can't help yourself thinking about all those other guys, or at least I couldn't. But the main reason it never went further than 6 months, was that when I met up with her, it was just like a meet. We never really went anywhere or did anything like a couple would do. I wanted too, but she was always working and we lived quite far away from each other. It was all just sex in the main. So we basically became fuck buddies and eventually it went stale, as if you can't connect or at least make the effort too outside of fucking, nothing will ever come of a relationship whether its a WG or just any girl for that matter. Anyway I don't regret it, even tho it played on my mind for a while when over, as would still find myself reading a new review even though it made my feel pretty crap knowing I had that great girl for a time but it was over.

[cunningman]

Ever considered writing another book Colston?

Fixed that for you.

[WelshClipper]

Early in my punting career I had this bad, really bad just like the OP described. I clearly remember watching her profile and seeing feedback after mine.

The worst part was reading the soppy fucking field reports from some punter waxing how wonderful she was. Equally bad was reading her UKP reviews. I pondered what to do about it over about a three month period and then I realised it was as simple as only seeing a WG once.

Its one of the reasons I dont want a regular......  it keeps me sane and reminds me its a paid fuck, no more, no less.   

[Dipper]

It’ll pass. 

As long as you allow it to.

[Thecunninglinguist]

I think you are delusional if you think you/us make it as far as a notch on the headboard as you describe it? 

[Thephoenix]

Very interesting reading.
I can't really relate as I've never been interested in a regular so no chance of EAS developing.
It's variety for me. Plain and simple.
However I understand the 'mind fuck' but in my case with an affair I had with a gorgeous sexy lady twenty years my junior who was into every aspect of sex imaginable, unlike my other half.
She basically just wanted unlimited sex, whereas without realising it, I became besotted with all the complications that entails.

[The0neAnd0nly]

My experience was worsened by the fact that I punted said girl in a secluded part of town and could see the next punter waiting to be called up. An old, ugly, fat and greasy looking dude - the images circling of him rubbing all over her; her being made to suck on his hairy bollocks.

Have you ever stopped to think there is probably someone watching you approach a SPs door thinking exactly the same thing about you 

Quis Custodiet Ipsos Custodes

[Asmodeus]

Great initial post and some interesting replies. Can 110% relate...

Had EAS with an escort 20 years my senior who eventually stopped being a WG, but was still banging several other guys as well as seeing me. We really connected on several levels, but as I was/am married, it never really went anywhere. The stupid pangs of jealousy of wanting complete exclusivity with her, but still being able to shag whoever you want 🤷‍♂️. Goddamn my stupid ape brain!

In fact, I saw a WG for the first time recently for a 30 minute punt. And we ended up sitting on her sofa just chatting for about 30 min! She was such a lovely person. Eventually, we made it to the bedroom, and she had the perfect MILF/GILFy body 😍 Long story short, I couldn't finish/cum! Was aroused and fully turgid and everything but that little voice in the head had me all nervous and doubting myself. She was so nice about it too, cuddled me and changed the subject completely! But no, my mind was all over the shop and thinking how nice, fit and "perfect" she was.

100% not going back! Otherwise will be EAS from second meet. Haven't reviewed that punt and won't be! She is already reviewed on here.

[Colston36]

Ever considered writing a book Colston?

I have written a few. My first was published in 1964 - have banged out 7 or 8 since. Currently going mad because I'm collaborating on one with two other writers - tricky.

As a rule I put something out on line 5 days a week; this is just for fun, as with everyone else. I think writing about sex without making a fool of yourself is incredibly hard.

I am constantly amazed at how many people on here cannot spell or write properly. A terrible comment on how bad teachers are. Mind you, when you write about sex excitement easily takes over and you end up spewing out drivel.

[Jayj]

Yes it is a total Mind-Fuck I’ve experienced it with a girl several years ago we became good friends meet socially even with our respective family and friends, we would go out for dinner spend time together to the outside world a couple of mates, we had similar interests and a similar normal job that said the majority of our time together was while she was working as an escort, I used to keep her company on her escort days sat in her rented flat while see serviced clients.

Initially the voyeurism of seeing her meet guys take them into the bedroom and hearing her fuck them was a sexual turn on, the vast majority were just about money nothing more but every so often she would say he was nice, then occasionally she would say, he’s asking if he can pay to take me out or he wants to book a hotel and take me away, when the guys she said she liked also wanted to take her away then it became a problem for me, no amount of her explaining it’s just a night at a spar he’s paying for me and giving me 🤷🏻‍♂️£800 for the privilege it’s a job all be he’s a nice respectful guy.

In the end I drifted and our arrangement stopped, she is to the best of my knowledge still escorting but now just with regular clients who book nights out or weekends away.

Would I do it again given the chance absolutely, is it going to be relatively short lived and end painfully almost certainly.

[Ron89]

Thanks for all the replies/stories/advice/warnings/concern. I’ve also had a few private messages from people who preferred not to disclose their stories/admissions in public, I didn’t expect quite this response so thanks for that. It’s been interesting to read how it’s affected a lot of us, and really affected people’s lives/relationships. The polarity too given some simply can’t relate at all.

I haven’t got the time to reply individually to everyone but some follow up points. Yes I was sure it’s been discussed to death, but rather than resurrect an old thread I wanted to lay out my thought patterns in a way that others probably haven’t bothered to before. My focus on the physical and the flesh is an obvious one and I was surprised that so many didn’t seem to understand it. In the civvie world, a girl you crush on or date being defiled by another man is sickening to the core to most guys. Now add numbers to that and the grotesque nature of some punters and it’s quite the mind-fuck regardless of that being her job or it being expected.

An update; I went back to see her last night. After reading my post you’d probably think the idea of me being in her flat hearing her getting fucked is my idea of hell. You’d be right and that’s what happened. The maid stuck me in the waiting room, I could hear her getting pounded by some old dude, grunting whilst she moaned and squirmed. I had to leave, I couldn’t listen to it, came back when they were done - this time she was off with me, barely giving me anything, distracted by her phone etc. It was clearly all in my head so at least I can forget about her and move on. I think I need a break from punting, this experience was draining and probably best to take some time out and spend my money on something else for a while. As mentioned, I appreciate the concern/advise etc, it’s an old topic but one of the big drawbacks of punting that will always crop up.

[sim0256]

Been there and still am there in a way . Help came in the form the WG telling me that she saw what was going on in my head,  she told me to wise up and then suggested I'd better go see some others girls as well as herself.  She gave me names / numbers of a couple of her WG contacts and she told me not to contact her again til I'd seen them . Said she would check if I'd done that.

Heyho , it worked , we still meet up in professional way and I now visit others also .

Some times these girls are more clever than we give them credit for .

[GingerNuts]

Been there and still am there in a way . Help came in the form the WG telling me that she saw what was going on in my head,  she told me to wise up and then suggested I'd better go see some others girls as well as herself.  She gave me names / numbers of a couple of her WG contacts and she told me not to contact her again til I'd seen them . Said she would check if I'd done that.

Heyho , it worked , we still meet up in professional way and I now visit others also .

Some times these girls are more clever than we give them credit for .

Are you going to review any of the girls you've met?

[Colston36]

Been there and still am there in a way . Help came in the form the WG telling me that she saw what was going on in my head,  she told me to wise up and then suggested I'd better go see some others girls as well as herself.  She gave me names / numbers of a couple of her WG contacts and she told me not to contact her again til I'd seen them . Said she would check if I'd done that.

Heyho , it worked , we still meet up in professional way and I now visit others also .

Some times these girls are more clever than we give them credit for .

What a kind and thoughtful woman to sort you out.

And what an unappreciative, dumb remark from you. "Some times these girls are more clever than we give them credit for".

She is clearly much brighter than you.

[puntingking]

From the famous inbetweeners movie quote "finger them,  fuck them, forget about them" 

[jonesfromthere]

  I think I need a break from punting, this experience was draining and probably best to take some time out and spend my money on something else for a while. As mentioned, I appreciate the concern/advise etc, it’s an old topic but one of the big drawbacks of punting that will always crop up.

Thats probably a sensible move. Hope you find some peace mate.

[JPin]

Some times these girls are more clever than we give them credit for .

Sometimes?

[usroads]

What i find most suprising Ron is that with 143 notched up reviews you've been hit with EAS for one particular girl.