WGs helping avoid mid-life crisis

[jcdmj12]

I was reading some stupid newspaper article today about a woman whose bloke was leaving her after 20 odds years of marriage, triggered by his dad dying. He was blatantly having a midlife crisis and running off with some younger bird.

It got me thinking - surely punting helps reduce the risk of that happening? If you have as many fit 20-somethings as you need on-tap by the hour, you're a lot less likely to fuck off with your secretary and upset the applecart.

What do you reckon?

[willbred]

I'm 62, I've been shagging prossies since I was 35.......sounds like a very nice, very long mid-life crisis to me

[Jay-Jay]

Perhaps we should be able to get it on prescription to save money on the mental health budget?

Jay

[Dani]

Perhaps we should be able to get it on prescription to save money on the mental health budget?

Jay

I have said this often. Instead of throwing a go depressants at everyone give them an hour punt a month. The chemicals released are far better and more natural than the pills so leave them with the feel good factor and also gives them something to look forward to and a reason to make an effort and get out if the house and socialise. It would work out a hell of a lot cheaper than the cost of the pills the prescribe

[Carmel]

I agree, I think punting must save a lot of marriages. Whether the wives would agree is another thread for mumsnet.

[SirFrank]

If life has taught me anything it's that the grass is rarely greener. It's a wise cow who looks over the fence and says oh there's shit in that field too. Most blokes jump out of the frying pan and then soon realise it's same shit different day. That said if you really are unhappy in your relationship punting ain't going to change that

[jcdmj12]

I have said this often. Instead of throwing a go depressants at everyone give them an hour punt a month. The chemicals released are far better and more natural than the pills so leave them with the feel good factor and also gives them something to look forward to and a reason to make an effort and get out if the house and socialise. It would work out a hell of a lot cheaper than the cost of the pills the prescribe

Agreed - after a really good punt, I come out feeling really relaxed and happy, a feeling which lasts for ages.

[jcdmj12]

If life has taught me anything it's that the grass is rarely greener. It's a wise cow who looks over the fence and says oh there's shit in that field too. Most blokes jump out of the frying pan and then soon realise it's same shit different day. That said if you really are unhappy in your relationship punting ain't going to change that

True - but if your relationship is find apart from the sex, it really helps there.

[SirFrank]

True - but if your relationship is find apart from the sex, it really helps there.

Isn't that why most of us punt ? My point is and was, there's a huge difference between having less action than pandas and being desperately unhappy

[jcdmj12]

Isn't that why most of us punt ? My point is and was, there's a huge difference between having less action than pandas and being desperately unhappy

Yep.   

[Private Parts]

Isn't that why most of us punt ? My point is and was, there's a huge difference between having less action than pandas and being desperately unhappy

Quite Sir F.
Love the prescription idea especially as my free ones start in a few months.
PP

[SirFrank]

Apologies for not quite making the point last night. I was a bit worse for wear when I posted

[Corus Boy]

Apologies for not quite making the point last night. I was a bit worse for wear when I posted

Pray tell, why?

[claretandblue]

i think most people,ie non punters,would describe sneaking around blowing loads of cash on hookers as a decent definition of a mid life crisis

[cueball]

To pick up on what the op said. Yes, podging prossies helps keep me faithful (sounds daft don't it), I've got a roving eye and without prossies I'd be chasing much more home wrecking lasses

[DG]

To pick up on what the op said. Yes, podging prossies helps keep me faithful (sounds daft don't it), I've got a roving eye and without prossies I'd be chasing much more home wrecking lasses

I agree with the wise Cueball again. I'm 30 years married this  year and since starting to punt last July, the pressure is definitely off me looking for it from the wife. If she would just shut the fuck up and stop moaning, we would have perfect married bliss 

[squeezebox]

There are some that punt in their twenties, so won't qualify as a mid-life crisis.

A mid life crisis according to Elliot Jaques, 1965, can start in your forties and continue until your early sixties. Today, due to better health and better fitness levels, you could argue there is no end and it continues in perpetuity....

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My view, life is too short. Keep your health and reap all the benefits whereever it can be found.
ie: Punting, swinging, fuck-buddies. If you're married too, happy days! 

[SirFrank]

Pray tell, why?

I'd been on the sauce all day for the rugby fest and had to check my posts this morning to make sure I hadn't made a cunt of myself last night.

[Aspen]

If life has taught me anything it's that the grass is rarely greener. It's a wise cow who looks over the fence and says oh there's shit in that field too. Most blokes jump out of the frying pan and then soon realise it's same shit different day. That said if you really are unhappy in your relationship punting ain't going to change that

All this is true.

My belief is that if you are unhappy in a relationship, you have to look back at whatever it was that got you together in the first place. If you can do that and talk about it, then that's a big step towards solving the issues. There's a big catch though ~ both parties have to do it, and want to do it.

[Aspen]

I have said this often. Instead of throwing a go depressants at everyone give them an hour punt a month. The chemicals released are far better and more natural than the pills so leave them with the feel good factor and also gives them something to look forward to and a reason to make an effort and get out if the house and socialise. It would work out a hell of a lot cheaper than the cost of the pills the prescribe

I'm not sure once a month is often enough for everyone.

[Aspen]

Agreed - after a really good punt, I come out feeling really relaxed and happy, a feeling which lasts for ages.

When I did it when in a relationship it tore me apart nearly every time. Yet I still did it, and still not sure why. In a way I was looking for self improvement and motivation, and all I can say about that is that in the end it was an illusion.

If you truly love your partner, you have to involve them in your feelings more, otherwise the relationship is doomed. Even if you feel resentful towards them, you still have to put those feelings aside and do it. I even realised that at the time but I left it way too long without doing anything about it. Big lesson learned, but usually you only get one go at it.

[Watts.E.Dunn]

When I did it when in a relationship it tore me apart nearly every time. Yet I still did it, and still not sure why. In a way I was looking for self improvement and motivation, and all I can say about that is that in the end it was an illusion.

If you truly love your partner, you have to involve them in your feelings more, otherwise the relationship is doomed. Even if you feel resentful towards them, you still have to put those feelings aside and do it. I even realised that at the time but I left it way too long without doing anything about it. Big lesson learned, but usually you only get one go at it.

One of the problems in long marriages is that over time people change, is it even possible to expect people to stay together for long, lets say 10's of years?. Perhaps best if they were renewable "contracts"?..

Course nowt wrong with punting and as alluded to it does take the no sex strife away from the marriage and it helps fulfill that fundamental desire to spread thy seed but happy is the man who does find the right woman;).

However do such exist?..

If they do please let me know if anyone does find one.

ta;!..

[jcdmj12]

i think most people,ie non punters,would describe sneaking around blowing loads of cash on hookers as a decent definition of a mid life crisis

Not if you started in your 20s it isn't 

[od13218]

In my case it is definitely a bit of a mid-life crisis.
45, married for 15 yrs, happily but sex is not as often or as kinky as I'd like.
Did some exploratory punting in my 20s then settled down.
Started to visit pro-dommes for BDSM stuff after a while when it became clear that wasn't going to happen at home - but never felt the need (though occasionally tempted) to go for a vanilla punt.
A few months ago the urge came and I succumbed after a few pints one night in a Soho walk-up (Mary at 52 Greek St by the way)- it felt amazing, like a huge relief and release in every sense of the word. Had a few days of guilt and anxiety but learned to handle it - I've learned to be very good at covering my tracks though my biggest fear is still picking up an STD so I am ultra cautious about that (tend to avoid OWO eg).
Since then I've tried the whole range from 10 min walk-up quickies to an hour of GFE with a few kinks. Feels great - and very much like a mid-life splurge; my biggest worry is getting addicted and blowing shedloads of money which should be going to the family, so I'm thinking about imposing a strict limit (say once or twice a month) - recently it's just been a case of whenever I can (twice this week!) which I can't sustain.
I don't suppose I'll ever stop but if I could get it out of my system with a bit of uninhibited shagging now then perhaps I could settle down to the occasional favourite girl every month or so after a while...we'll see!
I do feel much happier and more relaxed, and my relationship with wife and family has definitely improved. I'm not going to be writing in to any agony aunts recommending it though - one to work out for yourselves, chaps
Anyway that's my 2p-worth!
 

[OakTree]

They call it a mid life crisis but for me I see it as mid life realisation. The dawning that you've probably got less days ahead of you than behind. I've just become more selfish about what I do with my life. I please myself and am not prepared to take the shit that I would of done when I was younger. If this is a crisis I wish I'd had the same attitude when I was starting out in life.

[LL]

I have said this often. Instead of throwing a go depressants at everyone give them an hour punt a month. The chemicals released are far better and more natural than the pills so leave them with the feel good factor and also gives them something to look forward to and a reason to make an effort and get out if the house and socialise. It would work out a hell of a lot cheaper than the cost of the pills the prescribe

That's too risky. A good punt can give someone a massive confidence boost yes, but conversely, a shit one can be soul destroying and leave somebody feeling much lower than they were before.

[jcdmj12]

In my case it is definitely a bit of a mid-life crisis.
45, married for 15 yrs, happily but sex is not as often or as kinky as I'd like.
Did some exploratory punting in my 20s then settled down.
Started to visit pro-dommes for BDSM stuff after a while when it became clear that wasn't going to happen at home - but never felt the need (though occasionally tempted) to go for a vanilla punt.
A few months ago the urge came and I succumbed after a few pints one night in a Soho walk-up (Mary at 52 Greek St by the way)- it felt amazing, like a huge relief and release in every sense of the word. Had a few days of guilt and anxiety but learned to handle it - I've learned to be very good at covering my tracks though my biggest fear is still picking up an STD so I am ultra cautious about that (tend to avoid OWO eg).
Since then I've tried the whole range from 10 min walk-up quickies to an hour of GFE with a few kinks. Feels great - and very much like a mid-life splurge; my biggest worry is getting addicted and blowing shedloads of money which should be going to the family, so I'm thinking about imposing a strict limit (say once or twice a month) - recently it's just been a case of whenever I can (twice this week!) which I can't sustain.
I don't suppose I'll ever stop but if I could get it out of my system with a bit of uninhibited shagging now then perhaps I could settle down to the occasional favourite girl every month or so after a while...we'll see!
I do feel much happier and more relaxed, and my relationship with wife and family has definitely improved. I'm not going to be writing in to any agony aunts recommending it though - one to work out for yourselves, chaps
Anyway that's my 2p-worth!
 

Definitely.  I generally get on fine with my wife, but she goes through short phases of being very unpleasant. I used to get angry/upset about it, now I just zone out and think about the hot 22 year old I was nailing last week.   

[charger70]

I think we all seem to agree that a punt is a better tonic than an affair!

Sir Frank is most definitely right, there is always shit in the next field, or a fucking drought cuts in as soon as you move there!

I have seen so many mates who have jumped ship, and  been just as miserable if not more so within six months.

Er indoors has many benefits,  and punting can resolve the one issue that probably  bugs us most. Problem solved!

Punting certainly takes my stress away.

[od13218]

Exactly - no interest in jumping ship, but spending my life frustrated is also shit. Even just the option of punting makes me more relaxed about everything