Married or single - does it make differences

[BrumTallGuy]

Just curious whether it makes a difference how you feel after any kind of sw interaction,  bet it fs or fbsm.
Prompted a bit by the cum guilt post.

[Brumbrum]

When I was with someone I cared about it was difficult but ended up going more the massage route. Did think about it a lot. When single now I’m ticking off all the things I couldn’t do before I meet the next girl

[Kev40ish]

When I was with someone I cared about it was difficult but ended up going more the massage route. Did think about it a lot. When single now I’m ticking off all the things I couldn’t do before I meet the next girl

If I cared for someone, I couldn’t cheat on them. So can’t say what it’s like seeing WGs whilst married.
If you feel guilty or are questioning it maybe it’s not for you.,
Your the only one who can decide the risk your willing to take.

[BrumTallGuy]

When with someone it was legit massage or nothing. Hence my big window till posting.
Now its feasting on all the good recommendations 

[Kev40ish]

When with someone it was legit massage or nothing. Hence my big window till posting.
Now its feasting on all the good recommendations 

I had a bucket list when I got divorced, make the most of it..

[dave67]

I've had this dilemma for 12 months now, hence this being my first comment and no reviews yet. Last punted 20 years ago and did so regularly whether single or seeing someone. But now I keep bottling it and worry it'll mess with my head afterwards as in a long term relationship.

Maybe I should bite the bullet and try FBSM and see how I feel afterwards ?

Plus My god prices have risen faster then my pay packet !!! lol

[Arbetare]

Married and I thought I'd be riddled with guilt.

I've never felt it, which tells me all I need to know.

[Brumbrum]

I remember being a relationship thinking the amount of money I saved from having a long sex session for like 6 hours thinking that would of probably been around £500 minimum so can work both ways

[m4rmite]

Im married and it's  punt or have no sex.

[The Owl]

I'm only here because I'm single. I'm not interested in having a girlfriend unless I'm prepared to give up punting for her. I did have a girlfriend briefly but I was also on the verge of returning to punting when she turned up. I hadn't shagged her and I realised I wanted to pay to fuck an escort I'd wanted to fuck for a year so I ended the relationship so she could find someone who really wanted her.

I'm not bothered about fucking an escort if she's in a relationship or married. It's up to her and her partner to negotiate their boundaries, I'm just there to have enjoyable sex.

[seandana]

Im married and it's  punt or have no sex.

+1

[seandana]

I’ve been in a sexless marriage for quite a while now it took me a long time to grow a pair of balls to go to a massage shop for the first time I have never felt guilty afterwards but I have had a few times when I have said to myself you need to pack this in before you get rumbled but I think it’s all part of the thrill or rush you get from punting (not getting caught).

[The Owl]

Out of curiosity.

Punters in sexless marriages. What do you think your wives reactions would be if they caught you? Would they be more angry or upset that you're fucking another woman or would they be more pissed off at the money you were giving to another woman?

[seandana]

My wife wouldn’t think anything she would cut my balls off mind you it feels  like she did that a long time ago

[SalmonJunkie]

+2

in a sexless marriage, I think punting is just like an expensive wank. It’s a FAR better option than having an affair; which more often than not includes emotional connections. With punting you’re far less likely to be caught etc, especially if you’re sensible about what you do, where & when.

I’d feel no guilt, as if the mrs fucked, punting wouldn’t be needed.

[Arbetare]

Out of curiosity.

Punters in sexless marriages. What do you think your wives reactions would be if they caught you? Would they be more angry or upset that you're fucking another woman or would they be more pissed off at the money you were giving to another woman?

Angry about fucking another woman, the incandescent fires of Hell would be a mere glimmer compared to her wrath in regard to the money spent 

[m4rmite]

Out of curiosity.

Punters in sexless marriages. What do you think your wives reactions would be if they caught you? Would they be more angry or upset that you're fucking another woman or would they be more pissed off at the money you were giving to another woman?

Upset and hurt at the thought of me fucking someone else, but after an  hour or 2 i reckon she would say to don't rub her nose in it and don't bring back the clap.

Well that's the optimistic thought pattern.
I think she knows i don't want to fuck her any  more so she has no power over my dick, amazing what removing the leverage does to the relationship .

[Rook69]

Ironically I got into punting because of a comment off my missus. I had a bad shoulder and neck so I asked her if she could massage it for me to which she said "No, you need to find somewhere that can do that". So I had a look online one lunchtime and tried a local massage lady. I was so innocent to it all that I was utterly shocked when after a very nice massage she offered extras which I didn't know existed......... Can't remember if it helped my shoulder but it definitely helped elsewhere.

[shyboy1]

I never punted whilst in a relationship. I was lucky in that we were having great sex through our entire time together, right up to the end when she left me and ran off with my accountant 
It was a good few years of celibacy before I took the plunge and started punting. I’m not interested in relationships anymore and avoid going out with women like the plague so I have no guilt seeing SP’s.
As far as the SP’s relationship status goes I see it as none of my business and have no wish to know. That is her private life and no concern of mine.
If the impossible did happen and I was tempted back into a relationship my punting activities would stop completely, I’m no good at deception or covering tracks, I’d find it exhausting and also if I didn’t respect the woman enough to be faithful to her then I just wouldn’t see the point of a relationship with her.
I know a lot of guys on here are married and a lot of them very happily, I’m full of admiration for how they make it work but I know I couldn’t do this, I’d mess it up and give myself away within a week.
SB

[The Owl]

Upset and hurt at the thought of me fucking someone else, but after an  hour or 2 i reckon she would say to don't rub her nose in it and don't bring back the clap.

Well that's the optimistic thought pattern.
I think she knows i don't want to fuck her any  more so she has no power over my dick, amazing what removing the leverage does to the relationship .

I've always suspected that the partner who wants sex the most is often open to manipulation and exploitation in a bad relationship.

That's not a judgment on you, just a theory.

[m4rmite]

Take away the sex and the relationship is fine, but without sex is it a relationship?

[The Owl]

Take away the sex and the relationship is fine, but without sex is it a relationship?

A sexless relationship is no relationship at all, it would be like having a relationship with someone you had no interest in or being with someone because they have money.

There are exceptions. I know some couples are unable to have sex due to medical or health issues for one of them but stay together because the love is still there, that's harsh. I suppose there are some couples who are both willingly celibate, if that's what they want then fine.

What you do and what you think is up to you. My rules on what is a relationship is just for me should I ever venture back that way again.

[Moby Dick]

Doesn’t bother me if the WG is married or not.

[BrumTallGuy]

As op thanks for all these posts. Good to know we can share even if i thought it might get rejected as fluffy shit. When i was young, naive and fit and better looking it was or seemed easier to get fwb.
However every fwb arrangement always brought with it hassle and 'emotions'.
After 2 years or so celibate and then in fwb i realised paid for contact is so much better. No hassle, just choose a service and go.
Still looking for that perfect fbsm with oral though.