Could you handle it if your Wife or Partner was a Working Girl?

[formulajuan1]

I pose the question because I was recently laying in a state of post-orgasmic haze with a SP I see Regularly. I casually asked her whether being a SP resulted in a rather lonely life, whether Touring or not. The SP replied that some men were prepared to put up with the Escorting job. I was sceptical about this and suggested that said men were probably in love with the money the girls earned, rather than the girl herself. From my admittedly comfortable perspective on life, I find it difficult to believe that any committed Husband or Partner could be content knowing that his nearest and dearest would have sex with numerous men each week, for money, with all the Personal Safety and Health issues that entails. Is it that being a SP precludes many girls from "Normal" Relationships, or is "no ties" what the girls prefer?

[Waterhouse]

I pose the question because I was recently laying in a state of post-orgasmic haze with a SP I see Regularly. I casually asked her whether being a SP resulted in a rather lonely life, whether Touring or not. The SP replied that some men were prepared to put up with the Escorting job. I was sceptical about this and suggested that said men were probably in love with the money the girls earned, rather than the girl herself. From my admittedly comfortable perspective on life, I find it difficult to believe that any committed Husband or Partner could be content knowing that his nearest and dearest would have sex with numerous men each week, for money, with all the Personal Safety and Health issues that entails. Is it that being a SP precludes many girls from "Normal" Relationships, or is "no ties" what the girls prefer?

This question would be better placed (and probably has been already) on UKE.

[daviemac]

I pose the question because I was recently laying in a state of post-orgasmic haze with a SP I see Regularly. I casually asked her whether being a SP resulted in a rather lonely life, whether Touring or not. The SP replied that some men were prepared to put up with the Escorting job. I was sceptical about this and suggested that said men were probably in love with the money the girls earned, rather than the girl herself. From my admittedly comfortable perspective on life, I find it difficult to believe that any committed Husband or Partner could be content knowing that his nearest and dearest would have sex with numerous men each week, for money, with all the Personal Safety and Health issues that entails. Is it that being a SP precludes many girls from "Normal" Relationships, or is "no ties" what the girls prefer?

I'm curious about a couple of things, why are you asking questions about an escort's private life in a booking? and why do you care anyway?

Lots of escorts are married or have long term partners, just because you find something difficult to believe doesn't mean it isn't acceptable to others. Though I'm not sure how you expect punters, on a male dominated forum, to know what escorts prefer in regard to relationships.

[Colston36]

I'm curious about a couple of things, why are you asking questions about an escort's private life in a booking? and why do you care anyway?

Lots of escorts are married or have long term partners, just because you find something difficult to believe doesn't mean it isn't acceptable to others. Though I'm not sure how you expect punters, on a male dominated forum, to know what escorts prefer in regard to relationships.

Well put. Why do so many people have so little imagination they fail to understand that others aren't like them? That in fact quite a few love the idea of their partner being paid for sex?

[EnglishRebecca121]

escorting has cost me my last 2 relationships so id say no non punters could not handle it.

[scutty brown]

I reckon the OP is either a journalist after a cheap story, or another mumsnet troll.

[Moby Dick]

Extra income means I can punt more

[Jeremy]

I don't think I could. Not interested in trying to find out, at any rate.

[Hardpunt2]

Loads of couples are into swinging. What's the difference between your partner being a prostitute and taking her to a swinging club where she will get fucked for free.

There is a lot more to a relationship than just sex.

[LLPunting]

escorting has cost me my last 2 relationships so id say no non punters could not handle it.

Care to share the reasons why each failed?

[LLPunting]

This question would be better placed (and probably has been already) on UKE.

It's already been asked on both sites multiple times.   

[EnglishRebecca121]

Care to share the reasons why each failed?

They found out I escorted . Couldn’t handle it.

[LLPunting]

They found out I escorted . Couldn’t handle it.

And you wouldn't date a (former) punter?  Seems to be working for Priya.

[EnglishRebecca121]

And you wouldn't date a (former) punter?  Seems to be working for Priya.

?? My ex before these 2 was a client we were together for 2 years but he wasn’t the one

[LLPunting]

?? My ex before these 2 was a client we were together for 2 years but he wasn’t the one

But he did cope with you being an escort.  Perhaps there's another tolerant soul better suited out amongst all the riff raff in punterville.  All depends on the conditions you can agree on wrt to your work intersecting with having a private (sex) life.

There's an idea for an app... punter/escort dating for real... Oh the musts/must nots/dos/donts criteria on the profiles will be quite enlightening.

[Cellular40]

Well put. Why do so many people have so little imagination they fail to understand that others aren't like them? That in fact quite a few love the idea of their partner being paid for sex?

This.
It amazes me how people think because they view the world one way, that everyone else views it the same.

That’s not the case. I personally could date an active WG. I used to swing as a couple, I do so as a single now, so fucking others has been the “norm” for me for years.
Maybe I’m more open minded than others, but if the person was someone I wanted to be with and I could see a future, it wouldn’t be of an issue.

[LLPunting]

This.
It amazes me how people think because they view the world one way, that everyone else views it the same.

That’s not the case. I personally could date an active WG. I used to swing as a couple, I do so as a single now, so fucking others has been the “norm” for me for years.
Maybe I’m more open minded than others, but if the person was someone I wanted to be with and I could see a future, it wouldn’t be of an issue.

Guess you'll be knocking on ER's door with a bunch/box of (r/R)oses then.

[Colston36]

Guess you'll be knocking on ER's door with a bunch/box of (r/R)oses then.

"Honesty is rare enough nowadays to make you pleasantly conspicuous" is something I once read and liked. I'm surprised ER who seems to me very bright though I've never met her and doubt I will didn't tell the truth at the start of the relationship. I know three girls quite well who have maintained successful relationships, in one case for over 15 years, in another for over 20. They have rows no doubt, but then so do many couples.

[Cellular40]

Guess you'll be knocking on ER's door with a bunch/box of (r/R)oses then.

Definitely not.
Just with the right amount of cash and a clean cock. 

[LLPunting]

"Honesty is rare enough nowadays to make you pleasantly conspicuous" is something I once read and liked. I'm surprised ER who seems to me very bright though I've never met her and doubt I will didn't tell the truth at the start of the relationship. I know three girls quite well who have maintained successful relationships, in one case for over 15 years, in another for over 20. They have rows no doubt, but then so do many couples.

But how many men did they tell the truth to at the start before one said "No worries, I still want to date you," and then subsequently said much further along, "I'm alright with this, I still want to be with you"?

[LLPunting]

Definitely not.
Just with the right amount of cash and a clean cock. 

Oh what you will do to avoid having to pay for "free" sex.

[hungrypunt]

They found out I escorted . Couldn’t handle it.

Couldnt handle you being an escort or you hiding the fact you were?

I wouldn't have a problem with the right person being a wg as a gf, but marraige would be another thing, reason being aint no way in this world would I ever marry again 

[Doc Holliday]

It's already been asked on both sites multiple times.   

Indeed just like buses ... but this happens repeatedly, year on year, because the punter/wg relationship is a huge fantasy for a sizeable section of punters, very few of whom will ever achieve or come close to experiencing.

Re swinging as I posted in the other thread running side by side with this one

However with swinging you are largely in control of who you choose to swing with? The male may lose much of that control with prostitution

Prostitution and swinging are far from the same thing and whilst in a purely sexual 'fuckbuddy' relationship the difference matters less, once further emotions are involved in a relationship the psychological coping mechanism to deal with prostitution, becomes more difficult for both parties but especially the male.

[freeze44]

I think you need to be a certain type of person to be able to handle being a partner to a wg.

I would say that it's normal to feel difficult about another porking your woman and to get over that then think you would either need to be in full control, bit like a pimp, or a sub type who might even get off on it.

When I see a wg I know full well another punter has recently been there and am ok with that as not in any kind of a relationship with her. To accept that your partner will do all the things that you wanted as a punter is a tough ask. Maybe it's why some prefer SA type things as not so obvious the wg's getting pork sword all over the place!

[Strawberry]

I pose the question because I was recently laying in a state of post-orgasmic haze with a SP I see Regularly. I casually asked her whether being a SP resulted in a rather lonely life, whether Touring or not. The SP replied that some men were prepared to put up with the Escorting job. I was sceptical about this and suggested that said men were probably in love with the money the girls earned, rather than the girl herself. From my admittedly comfortable perspective on life, I find it difficult to believe that any committed Husband or Partner could be content knowing that his nearest and dearest would have sex with numerous men each week, for money, with all the Personal Safety and Health issues that entails. Is it that being a SP precludes many girls from "Normal" Relationships, or is "no ties" what the girls prefer?

I would say there is a wide range of experiences, some Escorts have partners some do not. I've had several relationships alongside Escorting the ones which ended ended for non-paid-sex reasons. One didn't finish ending in marriage.

I've been told I will be supported if I quit which means financially, I'm also supported in non-financial ways if I carry on. Previous partners had a variety of incomes and standard of living. The only time a partner leached from me was years before I was paid for sex, during a very difficult time financially - I was on low income using credit cards and loans left right and centre all of which he knew about.

[Strawberry]

I think you need to be a certain type of person to be able to handle being a partner to a wg.

I would say that it's normal to feel difficult about another porking your woman and to get over that then think you would either need to be in full control, bit like a pimp, or a sub type who might even get off on it.

When I see a wg I know full well another punter has recently been there and am ok with that as not in any kind of a relationship with her. To accept that your partner will do all the things that you wanted as a punter is a tough ask. Maybe it's why some prefer SA type things as not so obvious the wg's getting pork sword all over the place!

I agree with the first sentence, it's not easy but it is possible.

[James999]

escorting has cost me my last 2 relationships so id say no non punters could not handle it.

Because you were charging them and they felt they could get better elsewhere for less 

[slippyin]

So twenty years ago pre-punting life, I ended up in a short relationship with a WG. She was forthright and honest from day one, student who used work at weekends. In the beginning i was a bit apprehensive but she was stunning, i was punching way above my weight. The sex was great and she was loads of fun.

But then overtime i started getting paranoid/jealous, when we walked down the street and some guy checked her out, had he fucked her etc

Then as the weekend would come around my mood would drop and i just wasn't happy, not her fault all in my head.

Had to break it off as i was driving myself nuts. Didn't ask her to stop or change just couldn't deal with it myself.

Back then i was young and immature and a little naive, if it was now i think it might be different and i would be more understanding.

[finn5555]

It is amazing how many go from swinging to prostitution I guess the lure of the money is the driving force, the only difference being they can’t cherry pick who they fuck 

[django0700]

I'm curious about a couple of things, why are you asking questions about an escort's private life in a booking? and why do you care anyway?

Lots of escorts are married or have long term partners, just because you find something difficult to believe doesn't mean it isn't acceptable to others. Though I'm not sure how you expect punters, on a male dominated forum, to know what escorts prefer in regard to relationships.

Agreed, I punt because:
I like variety
I don't want the complications of an extra marital relationship and one with a WG would be a huge mental cluster fuck.

[m4rmite]

If my wife decided to become a wg she's owe more money in redunds.
1 availability slot every 10 years wouldneed to be a big fee.

[Jonestown]

I thought it was a reasonable question and it was reasonable for the OP, during his paid time with the escort, to ask the question in the ordinary course of casual conversation.

So you would be happy and comfortable for the SP to quiz you on how your wife/partner/girlfriend/mother/daughter feels about you having sex with prostitutes, it would be just a normal part of the service to ask you questions of this nature, is that correct ?

[Gordon Bennett]

It is amazing how many go from swinging to prostitution I guess the lure of the money is the driving force, the only difference being they can’t cherry pick who they fuck 

I suppose it's a litmus test to discover if they can physically/emotionally cope with having a lot of sex with strangers? Some folks seem to be very horny all the time and thus might think they could fuck strangers for cash but I'd guess it's not as straightforward in reality so swinging is possibly a good way to "dip your toe in the water".

[finn5555]

I suppose it's a litmus test to discover if they can physically/emotionally cope with having a lot of sex with strangers? Some folks seem to be very horny all the time and thus might think they could fuck strangers for cash but I'd guess it's not as straightforward in reality so swinging is possibly a good way to "dip your toe in the water".

Exactly and from experience a lot of couples end up splitting up due to their swinging activities so I guess prostitution would only exasperate that.
It’s funny how many known prossies I spot on the swinging site

[Colston36]

Exactly and from experience a lot of couples end up splitting up due to their swinging activities so I ld only exasperate that.
It’s funny how many known Sex Workers I spot on the swinging site

True. I think most of the ones I know go swinging. I feel vaguely cheated by that, as in could I have got it free? I think it's what they call a busman's holiday. My parents who ran a restaurant used to visit other restaurants.

[Payyourwaymate]

Perhaps if I was in to cuckholding maybe  . In all seriousness though, no.

[Steely Dan]

I think we put up with all sort of compromises to have a partner.  I put up with the fact that she doesn't even fuck me.  Actually, while hard to be sure, if I could flip a switch and she was -poof- a hot escort and fucked other guys 5 days a week, and fucked me once or twice on the w/e I think Id flip it.

[LLPunting]

I think we put up with all sort of compromises to have a partner.  I put up with the fact that she doesn't even fuck me.  Actually, while hard to be sure, if I could flip a switch and she was -poof- a hot escort and fucked other guys 5 days a week, and fucked me once or twice on the w/e I think Id flip it.

Don't go short on the fantasy, have her also give you some of the proceeds or at least treat you with them! 

[ffstiap]

I once had a punt with what I considered to be a nymphomaniac and it was just like talking to a mum at a school bake sale only you were having sex.  Kept going on about schools and her kids and house prices and what her husband had done all while bouncing on top of me. Kept expecting me to converse with her. Sex was completely unacknowledged. She and her husband had been swinging a lot but it got so bad he encouraged her to go punting.  From what I understand she was a three times a day girl.  They had kids together and where happily married but he just could not cope anymore.  Which one of us could? 

[zulu1964]

My first wife was WG,found it mega turn on !! We also swung on a regular basis.
We actually split because she found out I was playing away.

[zulu1964]

My first wife was WG,loved it.We also swung.
Sadly we split,she found out was having affair with woman at work,and got jealous/possessive.

[LLPunting]

My first wife was WG,loved it.We also swung.
Sadly we split,she found out was having affair with woman at work,and got jealous/possessive.

Was this a long while ago and is she now retired?

[zulu1964]

Split 2002.
No idea if she still works,she still swings as we have bumped into her at Chams a couple of times with her new chap

[neil_williams]

My ex wife was escorting while we were married but we were singers aswell so we looked at it as her getting paid for something she was already doing.

[freeze44]

My ex wife was escorting while we were married but we were singers aswell so we looked at it as her getting paid for something she was already doing.

Bit like Peters and Lee? 

[neil_williams]

Bit like Peters and Lee? 

Meant swingers lol

[mradventures]

i think it would eat away at me tbh

[Jerk Chicken]

Could I date an ex escort/ get married to her? 100% yes. All depends on the circumstances.

Could I date/get married to an escort who tells me we are a couple but my escort work continues as that is my job just like you have your job but for sure you will know I'll always be in your bed come night time (unless I get a lucrative overnight offer) . 100% no!

[Happiness]

Wouldn't be about handling it or not, I'm not a cuck. The answer is no. If she used to be one I wouldn't care don't care. But while in a relationship with me? Then no.

[Home Alone]

Nope. I'm far too fluffy.