performance anxiety

[heyjacky]

Hey!
I'm new here. Been reading around the forum this morning and am happy to see that everyone seems really cool and there's a very friendly atmosphere here. Not actually like I assumed this sort of forum would be like!

Anyway, I've recently been interested in the idea of punting. I'm 22 from south East England in Between Brighton and London.

My sex life thus far has been pretty crappy. I suffer a little with anxiety in everyday life, and it's spilled into my sex life.
I've only had sex with a few girls whereas i'm sure most of my friends are in the hundreds, lol.
I've also ruined lots of other opportunities with other girls due to what I believe in performance anxiety related erectile disfunction. (although on one of them occasions I can blame a drug that I was on that night!) Some I couldn't get hard with despite being very attracted to them,and some I just rejected out of fear of embarrassing myself!

Part of it is maybe a bit of concern over the size of my flacid penis (although I think it's OK when hard)
Also a fear of not getting hard (based on a few experiences in the past)

I seem to be OK with girls that I kind of know and where i'm able to do what I want to them, but the idea of a hooker kind of frightens me, and I fear that I wouldn't be able to get hard which I imagine being mortifying.
I was further put off my stories my friends told me who occasionally punted when they told me they weren't allowed to do lots of things (fingering, kissing etc), but they're kind of the bits that turn me on!
I don't think I really get 'turned on' when a girl just plays with my flacid penis like other guys seem too.

I'm trying to kind of 'teach'/train myself to get hard with just touching, though.
I've also recently tried to stop watching porn. I think I was actually addicted now that I think about it. (like 4 times per day for a while!)
HOPEFULLY this alone will help me out a fair bit.

Things like viagra haven't had any effect with me in the past. Possibly because i've been scammed and bought bunk gear, although, more likely that no pills will work if you're suffering some sort of anxiety attack!

I just wondered if anyone has any advice.
Also, were most of you already fairly experienced with 'regular' girls when you started punting?
Maybe i'm kind of jumping in at the deep end, but I feel as though I want more experience with girls, and I can't rely on my (lack of) good looks to pull girls in bars and get practice! That only really leaves me WG's!

[Bangers and Gash]

Been reading around the forum this morning and am happy to see that everyone seems really cool and there's a very friendly atmosphere here. Not actually like I assumed this sort of forum would be like!

 

What did you think ''this sort of forum'' would be like?

Don't forget, your own dad, mother or local MP could a member of ''this sort of forum''.

 

[Steely Dan]

Welcome.

I'll just echo advice captured in the Punting Wiki.  See a well reviewed girl that you fancy.  If you fancy an escort your age, then that is the right girl to see.  If you want a service, don't believe AW profile, believe what the UKP reviewers say. And I think it is best to be honest with the girls - they are not dates that you need to impress.  You are paying them.  So if you tell them your situation, they are more likely to help.

For more on ED, here is lots to read:

External Link/Members Only

[heyjacky]

What did you think ''this sort of forum'' would be like?

Don't forget, your own dad, mother or local MP could a member of ''this sort of forum''.

 

lol, I guess I just thought it would be more 'blokey'/'laddish' - building site type banter! Don't know why. (pre-conceptions, I guess)

Welcome.

I'll just echo advice captured in the Punting Wiki.  See a well reviewed girl that you fancy.  If you fancy an escort your age, then that is the right girl to see.  If you want a service, don't believe AW profile, believe what the UKP reviewers say. And I think it is best to be honest with the girls - they are not dates that you need to impress.  You are paying them.  So if you tell them your situation, they are more likely to help.

For more on ED, here is lots to read:

External Link/Members Only

Thanks. I'll give it a read.

[rogercock00]

 

[rogercock00]

I know a few people who cant get hard when they meet new girls but once they are used to them they have no problem. Meeting a stranger / WG is basically this scenario and is more common than you think. The problem is, the more you think about it the worse the issue becomes as it is then both mental and physical.

As a matter of course I would take Kamagra when meeting a WG but now I am more concerned with what crap I may be putting into my body and the effect of this so I tend not to these days.

I would suggest using a cock ring which will keep the blood in your dick long enough until she does her magic on you / you forget about your issue and just go for it.

[NIK]

lol, I guess I just thought it would be more 'blokey'/'laddish' - building site type banter! Don't know why. (pre-conceptions, I guess)

Thanks. I'll give it a read.

Ah, and we get the inevitable 'lol.' 

[threechilliman]

Is it half term already?

tcm

[threechilliman]

Hey!

....or female.

tcm

[vw]

....or female.

tcm

Or Both Schoolie and Female 

[heyjacky]

I know a few people who cant get hard when they meet new girls but once they are used to them they have no problem. Meeting a stranger / WG is basically this scenario and is more common than you think. The problem is, the more you think about it the worse the issue becomes as it is then both mental and physical.

As a matter of course I would take Kamagra when meeting a WG but now I am more concerned with what crap I may be putting into my body and the effect of this so I tend not to these days.

I would suggest using a cock ring which will keep the blood in your dick long enough until she does her magic on you / you forget about your issue and just go for it.

Thanks, Roger.

[vw]

Thanks, Roger.

You could suggest pegging to kill the time, turn you on and get you more familiar being intimate !  No stiffy required !

[cueball]

Hey!
Not actually like I assumed this sort of forum would be like! oh yes, it's all lovey dovey on here



I've only had sex with a few girls whereas i'm sure most of my friends are in the hundreds, that'll be bollox, your mates won't have podged hundreds


Part of it is maybe a bit of concern over the size of my flacid penis (although I think it's OK when hard) is ok too have a little pecker
Also a fear of not getting hard you'll deffo need an erection to go punting

the idea of a hooker kind of frightens me, if the idea of a hooker frightens you, I'll do some searching for you, I'll find some that will fuckin terrify you


I was further put off my stories my friends told me who occasionally punted when they told me they weren't allowed to do lots of things (fingering, kissing etc), but they're kind of the bits that turn me on! bollocks



I've also recently tried to stop watching porn. I think I was actually addicted now that I think about it. (like 4 times per day for a while!) stop watching porn, you'll go blind



I just wondered if anyone has any advice. get a train set

There you go hijacky, all the help you need

Give your head a sheck, pay your money, drop your trollies and get stuck in

[jcdmj12]

Ah, and we get the inevitable 'lol.' 

I'm sure it would save a lot of moderation work if there was a script which automatically banned any poster using lol in their first post. 

[DoberManic]

There you go hijacky, all the help you need

Give your head a sheck, pay your money, drop your trollies and get stuck in

.... and if you'll be podging one of CueBall's Cuties, for Gods sake, tie a plank to your arse!   

[capemall]

This made me lol!