seeking.com - Open Topic

[andyhot]

Looking to find others experiences of seeking on line

For the last 8 months Iv been using exclusively seeking arrangement have 2 current girls I see fortnightly off the site you carnt compare the services these girls offer as compared to traditional escorts
300 for overnights with girls who actual want you as much as you want them I mean there soaking wet when you take there pants off you’ve actually got to put some effort in like compliments meals out etc more nice words but in my opinion the girls you can find on seeking are far far better than anything you will find on Adult work or with agency girls

Does anyone agree

[Niggledebits]

Looking to find others experiences of seeking on line

For the last 8 months Iv been using exclusively seeking arrangement have 2 current girls I see fortnightly off the site you carnt compare the services these girls offer as compared to traditional escorts
300 for overnights with girls who actual want you as much as you want them I mean there soaking wet when you take there pants off you’ve actually got to put some effort in like compliments meals out etc more nice words but in my opinion the girls you can find on seeking are far far better than anything you will find on Adult work or with agency girls

Does anyone agree

Hi Andy

It is more expensive to find girls on Seeking but if they are overnight then that has the advantage over escorts.  For those who just want to unload then escorts are far cheaper and I find most to be good company.

You do get closer to girls on Seeking and you know that when you see them they haven’t been rogered 4 times that day before you get time with them.

[EspressoAndChill]

Looking to find others experiences of seeking on line

For the last 8 months Iv been using exclusively seeking arrangement have 2 current girls I see fortnightly off the site you carnt compare the services these girls offer as compared to traditional escorts
300 for overnights with girls who actual want you as much as you want them I mean there soaking wet when you take there pants off you’ve actually got to put some effort in like compliments meals out etc more nice words but in my opinion the girls you can find on seeking are far far better than anything you will find on Adult work or with agency girls

Does anyone agree

Is the full stop key broken on your keyboard? 

[Jumping Jack Flash]

Since I first started to use SA I’ve hardly used AW. I’ve met and fucked some fantastic young women who are fresh and don’t have that jaded WG view of life.

I have been seeing one woman off SA now for over 2 years, she accommodates and it’s free. I reward her in other ways like takeaways or the occasional night out and we are more like FWB. When I have an itch, I scratch it and she knows exactly what to do. EAS is a possibility but that’s not something that either of us are looking for so for the moment we are enjoying ourselves.

[andyhot]

That’s refreshing to hear talking to woman on the site a lot of guys are making the mistake of going straight into offering money for sex. Where they need to take things slower and things happen most of the best looking girls on there want to be wined and dinned, again something I have found refreshing and then the fun starts and boy it is awesome

[JamesKW]

If you are not in a relationship then seeking maybe a good option,there are many of us who don't get the opportunity to wine and dine girls and have over nights unless we are away on business, that's why we have escorts.Also you are more likely to get caught by the o/h using seeking.

[Niggledebits]

If you are not in a relationship then seeking maybe a good option,there are many of us who don't get the opportunity to wine and dine girls and have over nights unless we are away on business, that's why we have escorts.Also you are more likely to get caught by the o/h using seeking.

Good points made James. I am very much constrained time wise so when a potential Sb mentions going for a meal or coffee first in order to get to know you first I tend to move on to one who knows that intimacy is a requirement pretty much straight away. If I was single then I would have the time to wine & dine and perhaps this has a better chance of freebies!

[Fuzzyduck]

Looking to find others experiences of seeking on line

For the last 8 months Iv been using exclusively seeking arrangement have 2 current girls I see fortnightly off the site you carnt compare the services these girls offer as compared to traditional escorts
300 for overnights with girls who actual want you as much as you want them I mean there soaking wet when you take there pants off you’ve actually got to put some effort in like compliments meals out etc more nice words but in my opinion the girls you can find on seeking are far far better than anything you will find on Adult work or with agency girls

Does anyone agree

Do you work for seeking.com?

[andyhot]

No

Just got tired of all the lame punts and tried something different

[TPreston]

The line they want you as much as you want them, try not gifting £300 a meet each time and see how this works out for you.

It's a nice middle ground between dating and punting and the element of choice is much more clear. With the girl thinking ive slept with similar or worse on one nighters so why not and this time I get paid. Often the guy is far more experienced than the 20 year old they're used to fucking so the sex is good even if hes nowhere near what she would define as fit.

Seeking is more expensive and far more time consuming that AW. But there can be gems found amongst it all.

When it's good its great and the sex is far more GFE than any face a brass puts on for an hour. The time together tends to be far longer - often great overnight rates but with that comes larger costs with food and drink and ubers- but spending more time together means you become better at communication  with each other.

It's a bit of head fuck and both parties deleude themselves a bit. The girls often don't see themselves as sex workers and the guys not as punters and that the girl really likes them

[andyhot]

Both have there pluses and minus

In my area you can find a stunning 20 year old willing to spend the night after meal drinks out etc for 150. One of my regular girls stops over for a second night with no extra monies just food and a drink, she’s likes to be treat right after a few shit relationships. If you want a cover model level of girl then you will be looking at 300 per meet even with the meal / drinks etc is far less than a regular overnight in the world of punting and no I don’t work for seeking there’s a few other web sites available, this just fits into my lifestyle and has been a breath of fresh after punting for 10 years

[hungrypunt]

Along will comes a few Wgs in a mo, to say you/us guys are cheapening these girls by not paying 800 for overnights. They will then be told they are not up to SA standards and are not worth 800 blah blah.
And so the debate will begin again, and another thread deletion or lock..

[Home Alone]

Never looked on Seeking; can't imagine there'd be much of a queue of attractive women seeking a 73-year-old mobility-impaired non-sugar-daddy!

Me; I prefer being the customer on AW.

[king tarzan]

Facts
Simple
Some women operate on both sites...

Aw and agencies
Less hassle... Could never be bothered with wine dine conversation
And can't be with a woman no more than an hour anyways.

[Orion1953]

I would be interested in trying seeking but they have no PayPal option and the subscription fee is pretty high. I don’t want to leave my credit card details with seeking. I am sure they will get done by a acker soo er or later.

[xyfek]

I'm very tempted to give SA a go, but there's a few things putting me off...

1. The membership fee is a joke! Up to £30 or so would be fair, I think.
2. It seems like it's a lot of work, almost as much as actual dating. I'm single and I've been on a dating site for ages with no success. Somehow, I'm sceptical that some hottie would spend the night with me for £300...
3. Unlike girls from AW or agencies there are no reviews, so it's a lot harder to judge what you're getting into.

My 2 pennies anyway, if it wasn't so expensive I'd probably take the plunge.

[robsmith149]

Can't be arsed with SA, looks full of young hotties but just don't have the patience for endless messaging and getting to know them etc, can't even be arsed with that for civies when it's free.

[Sparta Prada]

I'm very tempted to give SA a go, but there's a few things putting me off...

1. The membership fee is a joke! Up to £30 or so would be fair, I think.
2. It seems like it's a lot of work, almost as much as actual dating. I'm single and I've been on a dating site for ages with no success. Somehow, I'm sceptical that some hottie would spend the night with me for £300...
3. Unlike girls from AW or agencies there are no reviews, so it's a lot harder to judge what you're getting into.

My 2 pennies anyway, if it wasn't so expensive I'd probably take the plunge.

I have been a member on Seeking a few times. I’ll reply to some of the point you make.

1) I think membership was £40 per month when I first joined, now £70. Yes it is a lot of money but that’s the whole point of Seeking; if membership was affordable to loads of guys then every Tom, Dick and xyfek would be a member and it would be like any dating site where guys massively outnumber girls. By having a membership fee for guys that is a bit on the high side this means there’s less guys than girls on the site which makes the odds on meeting attractive girls higher.

2) I’m a very average guy in my early 50s and I have fucked quite a few different girls from the site. Maximum I have paid any girl is £250, lowest is £100. Yes you do have to add drinks, maybe dinner, hotel costs (unless one of you are willing to accommodate) so it does all add up. But remember that you are not paying someone who has not fucked multiple men already that day, and you are not paying per hour. And if you both agree to have some bedroom fun it’s because you both want to.

3) The biggest issue with Seeking are the number of timewasters, flakes and scammers. So long as you keep your wits around you and follow your gut instinct then you won’t get scammed, and certainly I have not. I’ve probably met around 20 girls from Seeking over the past 3 years and only two have disappointed me in terms of how crap they were in bed. The rest have generally been excellent shags with younger attractive girls that I wouldn’t have a hope to fuck in any other situation.

My last two regulars have been a 23 year old Nepalese slim student nurse and a 30s English slim tall milf with great tits. I’d put both at 7/10 in terms of looks. Most importantly both are much better shags and better value for money than seeing my favourite girl on AW who charges £120 per hour.

[king tarzan]

Can't be arsed with SA, looks full of young hotties but just don't have the patience for endless messaging and getting to know them etc, can't even be arsed with that for civies when it's free.

Hotties on AW and especially agencies..
Albeit not home grown but non the less still burning hot hotties..👅👅👅👅😋😋😋😋😋😋😋🥊👅👅👅

[Redpunter]

Never looked on Seeking; can't imagine there'd be much of a queue of attractive women seeking a 73-year-old mobility-impaired non-sugar-daddy!

Me; I prefer being the customer on AW.

Im also in that club, £70 a month quite a hole in the OAP!! 

[BigBoi1955]

If you are not in a relationship then seeking maybe a good option,there are many of us who don't get the opportunity to wine and dine girls and have over nights unless we are away on business, that's why we have escorts.Also you are more likely to get caught by the o/h using seeking.

I understand your points but I think your conclusions are wrong

I've fucked around 20+ different girls off SA and never had a proper meet and greet never mind wined and dined them. I think I only spoke to two of them on the phone beforehand.

When doing the online chat it becomes obvious that it is sex for money and so the only question is the amount of money required. In conversation I am respectful to them and always tell them we can meet outside the hotel (or their place) first and if they don't like me they can walk.

Using a punting phone and punting E mail account makes it no more risky than AW. The only potential problem to SA and being in  a relationship is EAS but to some that could be a good thing.

The big disadvantage of SA and it is a big one is that is incredibly time consuming. In my opinion the investment of time is worth it but others with a more busy life won't agree

[DrConners]

3) The biggest issue with Seeking are the number of timewasters, flakes and scammers. So long as you keep your wits around you and follow your gut instinct then you won’t get scammed, and certainly I have not. I’ve probably met around 20 girls from Seeking over the past 3 years and only two have disappointed me in terms of how crap they were in bed. The rest have generally been excellent shags with younger attractive girls that I wouldn’t have a hope to fuck in any other situation.

Sorry to partially quote you SP, but yeah I totally agree with you here  - I think SA varies from area  - I subscribed for about three months & this was definitely the case I found in the South East.

Picture sellers, timewasters, fake profiles, sympathy cases "my son/daughter/dog/cat/gerbil (delete where applicable) is sick & I need money to help care for them" - Might be true, might not be - I don't care.

I did have a few genuine leads but was either not available at a mutually convienient time or other issues got in the way.

You have to put in the work & as I have read other members have had much more success using it.

I would try again funnily enough as a FWB situation is something I've had before & would try to establish again.

I had some great advice from a UKP member on SA etiquette & what to look out for as well as general rules of conduct.

Opportunities vary & fluctuate so thinking about it I might have a look on there now 

[gordoncharles]

The line they want you as much as you want them, try not gifting £300 a meet each time and see how this works out for you.

I know you'd like to be find a way of being paid for advice TP but if you do ever get round to publishing your seeking guide, that sentence covers Chapter 2 in its entirety. 

[king tarzan]

I understand your points but I think your conclusions are wrong

I've fucked around 20+ different girls off SA and never had a proper meet and greet never mind wined and dined them. I think I only spoke to two of them on the phone beforehand.

When doing the online chat it becomes obvious that it is sex for money and so the only question is the amount of money required. In conversation I am respectful to them and always tell them we can meet outside the hotel (or their place) first and if they don't like me they can walk.

Using a punting phone and punting E mail account makes it no more risky than AW. The only potential problem to SA and being in  a relationship is EAS but to some that could be a good thing.

The big disadvantage of SA and it is a big one is that is incredibly time consuming. In my opinion the investment of time is worth it but others with a more busy life won't agree

Let's just keep it very simple

Prostitution under disguise SA...
only difference is much more effort...

Can't just briefly text and talk max 2 max..
Go round and be in bed within a minute or 2..

This angle of prostitution requires time and effort..

Just think it's not a clear motorway but a heavily traffic congested motorway but the destination is the same...
Just takes longer.

[BigBoi1955]

Just think it's not a clear motorway but a heavily traffic congested motorway but the destination is the same...
Just takes longer.

I agree but would add that sometimes you are driving  blindfolded or the navigator to trying to get you to go to a different place than the one you want.

I've had a few extended message exchanges with girls hoping to get money without opening their legs. The catch 22 is that the way to find out is ask some direct questions early but if you do that you risk spooking some real possibilities who may think you're being too pushy

[TPreston]

I have been a member on Seeking a few times. I’ll reply to some of the point you make.

1) I think membership was £40 per month when I first joined, now £70. Yes it is a lot of money but that’s the whole point of Seeking; if membership was affordable to loads of guys then every Tom, Dick and xyfek would be a member and it would be like any dating site where guys massively outnumber girls. By having a membership fee for guys that is a bit on the high side this means there’s less guys than girls on the site which makes the odds on meeting attractive girls higher.

2) I’m a very average guy in my early 50s and I have fucked quite a few different girls from the site. Maximum I have paid any girl is £250, lowest is £100. Yes you do have to add drinks, maybe dinner, hotel costs (unless one of you are willing to accommodate) so it does all add up. But remember that you are not paying someone who has not fucked multiple men already that day, and you are not paying per hour. And if you both agree to have some bedroom fun it’s because you both want to.

3) The biggest issue with Seeking are the number of timewasters, flakes and scammers. So long as you keep your wits around you and follow your gut instinct then you won’t get scammed, and certainly I have not. I’ve probably met around 20 girls from Seeking over the past 3 years and only two have disappointed me in terms of how crap they were in bed. The rest have generally been excellent shags with younger attractive girls that I wouldn’t have a hope to fuck in any other situation.

My last two regulars have been a 23 year old Nepalese slim student nurse and a 30s English slim tall milf with great tits. I’d put both at 7/10 in terms of looks. Most importantly both are much better shags and better value for money than seeing my favourite girl on AW who charges £120 per hour.

Bob on.

The time, effort and cash required make seeking unsuitable for the average punter.

Its more expensive and the time invested can be scary and often leads to you being blocked for no reason on the day of the meet planned for 5 days as the girl gets cold feet.

The longer meets mean way to many questions for someone with a partner unless you've a solid alibi.

the extra costs of hotel (large % are students not having you in their dorm, and the rest don't like hosting generally) and food and drink as well as allowance means you're looking at £300 for a 'cheap' meet. compare this to a £80 half hour once a week and it racks up.

And with all this you're often expected to charm the girl and make it seem non escorty as they'll have cognitive dissonance about being a sex worker. Often similar with the men tbh. But there are differences with some but the waters are Muddy

[wonko88]

If I had the resources, and the capability, I would prefer an SA type thing.

Unfortunately I don't, so I accept the occasional company of a local SP despite it falling well short of what I actually want.

I'm not, and never will be, after a 'relationship' but a little more connection than is possible with a SP would be nice.

[DrConners]

If I had the resources, and the capability, I would prefer an SA type thing.

Unfortunately I don't, so I accept the occasional company of a local SP despite it falling well short of what I actually want.

I saw a couple of your other posts & I see your a newish member - experiences with WG's currently working that you'll be willing to share in the form of a review at some point in the future ? 

I'm not, and never will be, after a 'relationship' but a little more connection than is possible with a SP would be nice.

I'd be wary there, that's a slow, steady slide into a distinctive case of EAS, or Emotional Attachment Syndrome, puts you at risk of an emotional ................... & financial rinsing 

[wonko88]

I'm not in a position to leave any reviews ATM. Sorry, I realise it's expected but it's unlikely until I get more of a feel for this game.

It's unlikely I will be financially 'rinsed' - that would require me to have some money for them to take

EAS - unlikely given my past experiences and the amount of contact I can physically manage and afford.

[Trenlover]

Advantages and disadvantages to both,

With Seeking you get access to girls who are not fucking 5 guys a day and theres alot more social interaction. Some girls will turn into friends and youll be doing stuff with them outside of bedroom fucking. Its just an all-around better experience.



Negatives :

Seeking is FAR FAR more expensive than AW, especially if you want to fuck different girls. Youll be paying for hotels and other bits on-top of £150 + for the meets.  Its very easy to do over £1000 a month.

The girls on Seeking will judge you by your looks. Not all  of them, but a good deal of them wont fuck you if they dont like your pictures.

Generally I have found AW girls better shags,  AW girls approach it more from the perspective that they are working a job and providing a customer a service, while Seeking girls will be very passive and submissive.



Conclusion :

I prefer seeking but it is just far too expensive. Youll need £1000 a month spare if you really want to enjoy it.

[Brumish]

£70 per month isn’t a bad investment if you think of the potential overnight rate you’d pay. From experience these are the generous rates that seem to be applied-
£150 - £250 overnight for students/young professional.
£100 - £150 for students/professionals for an evening.

For soiled-goods it can be anything from a bottle of wine to or few quid (£50) to 150 for a hosted evening. By soiled-goods I do mean girls that have had kids.

Worth the effort if you’re willing to put the effort in.

Compare that to AW -
Highly likely to be a mediocre punt if you’re lucky.
Far cheaper but is there value? Suppose it depends what you consider value?

[Niggledebits]

Advantages and disadvantages to both,

With Seeking you get access to girls who are not fucking 5 guys a day and theres alot more social interaction. Some girls will turn into friends and youll be doing stuff with them outside of bedroom fucking. Its just an all-around better experience.



Negatives :

Seeking is FAR FAR more expensive than AW, especially if you want to fuck different girls. Youll be paying for hotels and other bits on-top of £150 + for the meets.  Its very easy to do over £1000 a month.

The girls on Seeking will judge you by your looks. Not all  of them, but a good deal of them wont fuck you if they dont like your pictures.

Generally I have found AW girls better shags,  AW girls approach it more from the perspective that they are working a job and providing a customer a service, while Seeking girls will be very passive and submissive.



Conclusion :

I prefer seeking but it is just far too expensive. Youll need £1000 a month spare if you really want to enjoy it.

It is expensive and addictive. The amount of times I have thought I would leave it alone then come across a real genuine hottie (as I will be in 30mins!)
Watch out for the scammers. Any contact from really fit girls outside your area should get the spidery tingles going. They nearly always ask for money up front and are very convincing.
£1000 sounds about right.

[Brumish]

The usual suspects lads - this is our Pro-Bono stint? 

[TPreston]

£70 per month isn’t a bad investment if you think of the potential overnight rate you’d pay. From experience these are the generous rates that seem to be applied-
£150 - £250 overnight for students/young professional.
£100 - £150 for students/professionals for an evening.

For soiled-goods it can be anything from a bottle of wine to or few quid (£50) to 150 for a hosted evening. By soiled-goods I do mean girls that have had kids.

Worth the effort if you’re willing to put the effort in.

Compare that to AW -
Highly likely to be a mediocre punt if you’re lucky.
Far cheaper but is there value? Suppose it depends what you consider value?

these prices take hard work mind. and you'll deal with wasted times that lead nowhere.

They aren't standard but can be achieved.

Dunno why we're not keeping this in the main thread to be fair. those that are interested will join, those that see it as a scam/myth/rip off wont.

If you've spare time and money. You'll have fun. if you dont have either you wont. The additive nature means you'll be hooked and the monthly sub in and out means you'll not be able to dip in and out. you'll be on there constant and constant costs and time drain

[wonko88]

Dunno why we're not keeping this in the main thread to be fair. those that are interested will join, those that see it as a scam/myth/rip off wont.

Possibly coz no one new can even view the main thread let alone post in it.

[king tarzan]

All this is part of the hooker hierarchy...
Sex for money
Money for sex
Sex for material
Material for sex


Porn stars
Courtesan/Seeking Arrangements
Brothel whore
Street whore


All very simple....


I just stick to Aw and agencies. ( Some aw whores have told me they whore on seeking arrangement)

[TPreston]

All this is part of the hooker hierarchy...
Sex for money
Money for sex
Sex for material
Material for sex


Porn stars
Courtesan/Seeking Arrangements
Brothel whore
Street whore


All very simple....


I just stick to Aw and agencies. ( Some aw whores have told me they whore on seeking arrangement)

none of the guys here are denying its sexwork. and a few of the level headed women on there will admit it as well.

But it caters to different  needs and wants. for those of us who want longer meets and more of a bond rather than a pump and dump, it works for us. Its far more effort and often more money but we're enjoying.

there is no one size fits all

[xyfek]

I have been a member on Seeking a few times. I’ll reply to some of the point you make.

1) I think membership was £40 per month when I first joined, now £70. Yes it is a lot of money but that’s the whole point of Seeking; if membership was affordable to loads of guys then every Tom, Dick and xyfek would be a member and it would be like any dating site where guys massively outnumber girls. By having a membership fee for guys that is a bit on the high side this means there’s less guys than girls on the site which makes the odds on meeting attractive girls higher.

2) I’m a very average guy in my early 50s and I have fucked quite a few different girls from the site. Maximum I have paid any girl is £250, lowest is £100. Yes you do have to add drinks, maybe dinner, hotel costs (unless one of you are willing to accommodate) so it does all add up. But remember that you are not paying someone who has not fucked multiple men already that day, and you are not paying per hour. And if you both agree to have some bedroom fun it’s because you both want to.

3) The biggest issue with Seeking are the number of timewasters, flakes and scammers. So long as you keep your wits around you and follow your gut instinct then you won’t get scammed, and certainly I have not. I’ve probably met around 20 girls from Seeking over the past 3 years and only two have disappointed me in terms of how crap they were in bed. The rest have generally been excellent shags with younger attractive girls that I wouldn’t have a hope to fuck in any other situation.

My last two regulars have been a 23 year old Nepalese slim student nurse and a 30s English slim tall milf with great tits. I’d put both at 7/10 in terms of looks. Most importantly both are much better shags and better value for money than seeing my favourite girl on AW who charges £120 per hour.

Cheers for the input, it's much appreciated! If you don't mind me asking, is it expected for men to have photos on their profiles? Or even a detailed profile like in a regular dating site?

I guess what bothers me most is actually point 3, as although I have the time to spend chasing some hottie, timewasting/scamming tactics would drive me nuts.

As others have said, I'm looking for more than a fleeting connection and in that sense SA seems to be the right place to look in.

[TPreston]

Cheers for the input, it's much appreciated! If you don't mind me asking, is it expected for men to have photos on their profiles? Or even a detailed profile like in a regular dating site?

I guess what bothers me most is actually point 3, as although I have the time to spend chasing some hottie, timewasting/scamming tactics would drive me nuts.

As others have said, I'm looking for more than a fleeting connection and in that sense SA seems to be the right place to look in.

Opinion on photo need is split. But in my opinion it helps. Even if a vague photo from a distance to hook in, when you talk on WhatsApp theyll expect a photo 9 times out of 10.

And a detailed profile helps. Think more plenty of fish than adultwork. So that's part of the problem. You have all the problems of online dating and its gonna cost you. But once you wrap your head round it, you get in the swing.

And the conversion to meets is probably 20 chats to 1 meet. I'll often have multiple meets planned for a week knowing that a few will fall by the wayside.

But when you have an established reg, things are more plain sailing. But again costs can wrack up, with everything on your dime (ubers to and from meets etc). You set a tone early and its expected to continue, but if you don't set this tone the meet might not happen (it doesn't matter that you've travelled for an hour and its only a 15 min walk for them, You don't want a barrier for a girl to go I can't be arsed with this).

If you're single with 800+ per month disposable income - then you'll enjoy seeking. Less than that and I think it could be a struggle if you want a shag once a week or so.

[manc36]

Used to be great. It can take 2, maybe 3 months to really get your game together. Some never do.

 Many of us did it when it was £40 a month and with a lot of very helpful hints and tips shared. Also they're MUCH stricter on seeking now then what they were a year or 2 back, you used to be able to go for it on the site before exchanging numbers - now you have to take it straight to whatsapp, which means going through plenty of pic sellers/scammers and bullshit etc, SA used to ban them, unbelievable now, the person( us ) doing the reporting are much more likely to be banned as seeking are cunts to be honest.

It's very easy to get banned now and lose you money.

[Hobbit]

Do you work for seeking.com?

Good point!    If it is going so well for you then why do you want to brag about it on here?

 I have been using Seeking on and off for three years now and have mixed experiences. It isn’t as good as most people make out and requires a lot of effort and is very time-consuming. Sometimes you can find a gem but with hookers on AW you know what you’re going to get (Well most of the time).

[DeanoDeano]

If you look at the spectrum of websites that look to connect men with women and put the truly transactional on one side and a completely emotion driven relationship finder on the other then you would get something like this.

Adultwork       ->      Fetlife / Fabswingers     ->      Seeking      ->    Tinder       ->          Bumble / Match / Hinge      ->      Match / Guardian Soulmates

Based on this, guys will use the websites that suit what they want, and the women will advertise on the websites that suit what they are comfortable with.

Is it all sex work? No.

is it all men trying to connect in some way with women that at some point will cost them some of their hard earned cash? Yes.

[dingledongle]

I signed up to seeking but didn't pay for it. Did a search and there was about 1 girl in the area and looked a right minger. This was searching in a reasonably large city too... do you have to pay to see all search results or something?

Currently trying a site with a similar idea. A fair few profiles seem fake, but I have got a few through to the whatsapp stage (punter phone, I'm not stupid haha ), though a couple flaked after a while. I'll write a review of the site if I see any proper potential.

[puntingpumping1920]

One thing about Seeking every punter yields different results
 
It takes more time and certain factors may weigh in your favour (money, negotiation skills, chemistry, physical looks, age, race)
 
Women on seeking have a non-pro attitude meaning that while money is an important factor, it's not the most important one.
 
You may get flakers/ timewasters when you have agreed to a deal
 
Having nonpro attitude means there are more open to BB too

[TPreston]

One thing about Seeking every punter yields different results
 
It takes more time and certain factors may weigh in your favour (money, negotiation skills, chemistry, physical looks, age, race)
 
Women on seeking have a non-pro attitude meaning that while money is an important factor, it's not the most important one.
 
You may get flakers/ timewasters when you have agreed to a deal
 
Having nonpro attitude means there are more open to BB too

while i agree with the jist of your post, i think money is often the most important factor.

Other things matter but if you're legit and offering a decent amount of money other factors can be forgotten.

A normal looking guy in his 30s offering 150 overnight would probably get left waiting at the bar if a 50 year old overweight guy offered the girl 400 for the same gig. IMO.

doesn't apply to all, but my experience has led me to believe that way. If they wanted a fuck they can find that easy enough on tinder.

[BigBoi1955]

If you look at the spectrum of websites that look to connect men with women and put the truly transactional on one side and a completely emotion driven relationship finder on the other then you would get something like this.

Adultwork       ->      Fetlife / Fabswingers     ->      Seeking      ->    Tinder       ->          Bumble / Match / Hinge      ->      Match / Guardian Soulmates

Based on this, guys will use the websites that suit what they want, and the women will advertise on the websites that suit what they are comfortable with.

I think you've put Seeking & Fabswingers/Fetlife in the wrong order. Majority of Fetlife and Fabswingers connections are  free, many more than Seeking.

[yobbra]

I have used seeking for 4 years on and off and it is the best site i have ever used for punting/dating/casual sex.  I think it is perfect in midlands/northern university towns and cities (where i live).  In more rural areas i don't think it will be worth the time and money.

Most of the guys here have it spot on tbh.  FWIW i am a good looking educated guy in my early 40s who looks early 30s not rich by any means and have zero desire to flash big cash to get laid.  I have met over 50 girls on seeking in this time and many haven't involved any money/allowances being paid at all. 

I have had 3 long term arrangements (4 months, 2 years and 6 months) all of which didn't involve any money at all at any stage (otherwise than paying for dates etc) and all 3 were effectively gf's but FWB style just meeting up a few times a month for drinks and sex with no commitment at all.  A decent chunk of girls on seeking are happy to meet decent looking educated guys without being paid if you treat them well ad the sex is good(not financially).  A fair few girls use seeking as a high class tinder style dating site to meet dominant older men they wouldn't meet in their everyday life and discretely without their friends/family not knowing.  I use it for pretty much the same reasons.

i have also met a fair few girls on one off basis with a small allowance paid.  Most of these were overnights as well  These have varied frrom £50 to £200 with the vast majority between £100-£150 for the overnight.  I have seen numerous girls for £100 overnight (5pm to 10am the next morning) who would easily go out at £1000 a night if they were escorting looks wise but you have to be willing to charm them beforehand and treat them special mentally.

I only see student type young sub types so the vast majority of these girls were under 26.  I am lucky in that i am based in a big uni city with hundreds of young student girls on this site which definitely drives the price down when money is required.

The downside is you do have to spend a lot of time emailing/whats app/dealing with scammers but once you have settled into a routine (i call it doing the daily admin in a copy and paste and efficient manner to save time) it isn't that much hassle.  It definitely isn't suitable to married guys or guys with gf's as you would struggle to interact with the seeking girls as a lof of them want to talk to you more often than an escort but the upside is you get a lot of stuff for free/tiny allowances relative to an escort.  I am lucky in that i work online from home for a living so have hours of spare time to kill so its like entertainment for me whilst working.  I appreciate this wouldn't be the case for 99% of men to have this level of time on their hands to use the site.

My last comment would be that the monthly fee at £70 is a total bargain if you have the time to commit to it.  I tend to sign up for a month then cancel and in that month i have enough material/numbers to work for a couple of months.  You have exhausted the site in your local area in a month if you do it properly so need a couple of months off as there isn't much new meat on there the second month to work with.

So maybe sign up £70 a month 3 or 4 times a year and cancel would be my advice.  I wish the male joining fee was £200 a month tbh to put even more men off the site and make it even easier than it already is.

[yobbra]

One other thing i would add it is a numbers game way more than escorting.  You need to have zero emotional attachment to it and expect a lot of rejection as these girls don't consider themselves escorts so most will want to actually fancy you prior to sleeping with you.  The upside is that if they do it costs a fraction of an escort.

You need to email literally hundreds of girls (copy and paste proforma general opening email is fine 99% don't ever question it the ones that do get auto blocked because they are obviously going to be hard work) and just thin them out like a sales target list for a salesman would his targets.  You get a reply from x%, then get y% of those replies onto whats app and will arrange a meet with z% of those.  W% of those will get cold feet about meeting because a lot of them are genuinely nervous about doing this and it is there first time in a lot of cases.

I know my approach works for other similar guys to my age because several of my friends have used the site successfully in different areas/cities for longer than me and they introduced it to me.

[Brumish]

Nice one Yobbra. Pity you can’t get into the main board that a lot of us are able to, as we all share some decent tips on there daily.
I like your MO of dealing with minimal outlay and the freebies. I’m very similar to that and I think most of us in the main board are too. It does help if the attraction is there but then again, I doubt the majority of us are on the higher percentile of that barometer.

One of the main reason of the main board is dealing with the ever evolving scammers. I’m sure you’ve had your fair share of attempts.

[yobbra]

how do i get transferred into that group?  It would be great to be added because i have a lot of experience of seeking to share and would love to 'swop notes' with other guys on here about time wasters/scammers etc and obviously the really good girls i meet and vice versa.  Could the mods put me in that group?

I have a whats app chat group purely with several friends as well who all use seeking and compare notes on girls there so i could also share that information on the main thread.  We have met several of them whilst the girls all claim to have only seen one of us and are exclusive then we expose them as total liars when we are done with them.

I am new here so no idea how to get into that main group you speak about.  Can you assist?

If you ever wonder why the quality of girls on AW/massage parlours has fallen rapidly in the last 5-10 years you will realise why when you join seeking as they are all on there now.  Shame it took me so long to discover it.