Who still has sex with the wife

[Smallperson]

As above im curious who still has sex at home as well

[budz]

Nothing at home for me and been as dry as a desert for 5 years or so. Don't mind as the women I'm fucking now are much better looking lol

[jaszyj87]

Every now and then, she has med problems now so it's hard for her, we used to do it all the time. She must have an idea I do stuff on the side people don't just go from wanting it at least everyday to not bothering her for a month

[bilbo]

Was sexless for 4 years ,had a sudden 2 week period back in the summer where it was all systems go then back to fuck all,no idea what caused the change in attitude could have understood if we where on holiday but we weren't

After the first dry 6 months I stopped asking even telling her that I wasn't even going to try anymore and to ask me in future if she wanted sex

[tesla]

20 years since I had sex with my partner, though I was punting before I met her

[the game]

Once in a blue moon for me but oral is completley out of the question.

Came back the other day from two seperate punts and the OH had decided that she wanted some action that day too 

[threechilliman]

I do, but I'm not saying who's wife I have sex with......

tcm

[Tdydl]

I do, but I'm not saying who's wife I have sex with......

If it's mine, has she got any better at it?

[thetinman007]

I'm curious about how long into the relationship the stagnation sets in.

[sharpshoes78]

I have a great active sex life with my OH
I punt because I am a dirty fuckers and love young curvy women

[budz]

I'm curious about how long into the relationship the stagnation sets in.

Thinking of getting married the are ya? 

If I had my time again I wouldn't bother. Done it twice now and both times the sex was great for about 4 years then it slowly decreased in frequency till it stopped altogether.

Fine by me as I have much more fun now and can choose who I want to fuck rather than being stuck with the same woman.

[hungrypunt]

weird thing is, I went to a halloween do last night, the ex wife (we still talk and stuff) was there and she stayed at same hotel as me. Seen her at breakfast , she quipped..."didnt get any last night then" I said no, Ill have to come and bang you before I go  she tuts.
I went over to hers as I was about to pack up to pass over the key for my sisters house (long story) "thought you was gonna bang me" she said as I turned round....fuck it, in I went and i banged it harder and longer than ever before by far,even with my hangover.... she said a few dirty things (unlike her) , gotta be honest it was a great fuck, I was knackered, sucked me off and unloaded on her tits. It was almost like a punt, I was walking down the corridor with a big grin, and feeling well please with myself. And all my money still in my pocket, no parking problems etc .

Ive gone from seeing young little maya@26 yest morn to the OH 45 yo next morn
WTF !!! crazy world. Funny thing is, if I hadnt been punting or seeing the girls Ive seen over the past couple years, theres no way I had have said and even done that, and theres no way shed have said and done what she did...maybe shes been punting too 

she can have it next week if she wants...not sure if anal is on hers likes tho

[hungrypunt]

If I had my time again I wouldn't bother. Done it twice now and both times the sex was great for about 4 years then it slowly decreased in frequency till it stopped altogether.

I wouldnt advise it either, not for malicious reasons, but dont see why we should be bound by rules.

[SJ772]

Yep still getting plenty at home probably 3 times a week, a couple of BJs as well if I am lucky 

[The Vicar of Dibley]

I'm curious about how long into the relationship the stagnation sets in.

Just after the last guest had left the reception.

[hungrypunt]

Just after the last guest had left the reception.

[noutathome]

Nope - hence my name!

[SUMO61]

I decided to stop on two counts:

1. I was fed up of asking/taking the initiative, then getting a crap shag.
2. That the whole STI /punting thing was a total head fuck, so if I didn't bang the wife, I could stop worrying about passing anything on.

Six years on now, she hasn't asked why and I don't worry anymore. And that all suits me fine.

Personally, I can't understand blokes who punt and still shag the missus. It's very risky with the stuff you can't control e.g. herpes/warts.

[Sureshot]

Its on tap whenever i want it. Problem is its just shite so i choose not to bother much.

She gets it a few times a month just to keep any suspicion down.

[Jumping Jack Flash]

What's this sex with a wife? It will never catch on!

[Hertsgent]

Its on tap whenever i want it. Problem is its just shite so i choose not to bother much.

She gets it a few times a month just to keep any suspicion down.

Pretty much the same for me, plus I got fed up with always being the initiator (pretty much zero effort on the OHs part)......just serving my time like many blokes waiting for a get out time that works for the kids.....

[madmania]

Guys is this not a bit sad?

For context I'm not married and my longest relationship has only been 2 years so I fully accept that I might be naïve but surely there's no point staying in a loveless marriage?

Now I know that sexless =/= loveless but from what some of you are saying it seems like you feel such indifference towards your wives if not outright disdain.

Why keep yourself in an unhappy situation? Wouldn't it would be better for both partners to go their separate ways?

[Hertsgent]

You make some good points madmania - my marriage is not a nightmare, and sometimes I think punting is the perfect accompaniment to it....at least while the kids are about!

Breaking up a marriage is incredibly simple ......if both partners are of the same mind. The problem comes when one thinks it is better to part and the other doesn't ...... Financial separation and custody challenges then being the main weapons of the one who doesn't want to separate in my experience.....

[NelsonH]

Marriage is about KIDS. Once married they are only interested in "their" home, "their" kids.
You are just a means to an end.

So unless you want this, stay single. This keeps them on keen and you can bin them from time to time.

BUT

Past 40/50 this plan is not so good. My wife has loads of smart friends, but they have all had kids and husbands and are NOT interested in men anymore.

So unless you have loads of money to attract young stuff, then later on you are likely to be lonely.

This is just how it is!

[SUMO61]

Guys is this not a bit sad?

For context I'm not married and my longest relationship has only been 2 years so I fully accept that I might be naïve but surely there's no point staying in a loveless marriage?

Now I know that sexless =/= loveless but from what some of you are saying it seems like you feel such indifference towards your wives if not outright disdain.

Why keep yourself in an unhappy situation? Wouldn't it would be better for both partners to go their separate ways?

Good plan, if you're unhappy, but i'm not.

Sex is just one aspect of a relationship, which I now manage my way. It's a natural, normal, healthy function that needs to be addressed, like tens of thousands of men do, through punting.

[ciderhead]

My wife can no longer have sex due to a medical condition and has told me she would be fine with me seeing a prossie, now I've been married long enough to know what a woman says and what she thinks are two different things so I reassured her sex was not important and just carried on punting like I have for the last 20 years in ignorant bliss

[bilbo]

My wife can no longer have sex due to a medical condition and has told me she would be fine with me seeing a prossie, now I've been married long enough to know what a woman says and what she thinks are two different things so I reassured her sex was not important and just carried on punting like I have for the last 20 years in ignorant bliss

You know I'm pretty certain they know but it just remains the elephant in the room

Certainly I my case it seems to be a ask no questions tell no lies type arrangement with the other half

[Grumpy Pumpy]

I have a great active sex life with my OH
I punt because I am a dirty fuckers and love young curvy women

+1

An active, albeit pretty vanilla, sex life with my OH. And I love the variety on offer through punting

[_Bender_]

What's this sex with a wife? It will never catch on!

  I haven't a fucking clue!! 

Not had any intimacy with my wife for just over six years, matter of fact, I think pussy's either healed up or packed it's bags and fucked off!!

[itk]

Very occasionally, but I don't go looking for it now. I know it'll be the same routine, a 90 sec bj followed by me spending ages down on her till she's cum a couple of times and the spoons till I shoot my bolt. Hardly ever any change to that which is why I've tired of it. Thing is she now looks great after losing weight, but having had a regular SB from SA the last few months I've been exhausted. With that now over I still not tempted to try with OH, so it'll be back to WG's

[_Bender_]

Personally, I can't understand blokes who punt and still shag the missus.

I don't understand it either, even if it was a bit monotonous, I would do my best to make things spicy & exciting.

[Steely Dan]

I don't understand it either, even if it was a bit monotonous, I would do my best to make things spicy & exciting.

Some others don't understand how ANYONE could punt.  We each do our own thing, for our own reasons.

[An tUasal Liathroid Mor]

No.....she has her magazines/silly TV shows/coffee mornings etc......I have Punting , Football and gigs.....

Sensible Arrangement!!

[bigmanbigman]

Divorce 50% spill of everything value £50 and over  and the kids must have a home . Not so simple .

[threechilliman]

I don't understand it either, even if it was a bit monotonous, I would do my best to make things spicy & exciting.

It comes down to likes lists for me and the fact that I enjoy shagging different women!

tcm

[The Vicar of Dibley]

No.....she has her magazines/silly TV shows/coffee mornings etc......I have Punting , Football and gigs.....

Sensible Arrangement!!

+1 on that. Although I sometimes feel if my OH does initiate proceedings and I turn her down or appear uninterested she may get suspicious that I am getting it somewhere else. She would probably guess affair before prossie though.

[An tUasal Liathroid Mor]

+1 on that. Although I sometimes feel if my OH does initiate proceedings and I turn her down or appear uninterested she may get suspicious that I am getting it somewhere else. She would probably guess affair before prossie though.

Well  in that case...you just have to maintain a certain 'service level'...maybe as little as once or twice a month could be sufficient to allay her suspicions...

[webpunter]

Came back the other day from two seperate punts and the OH had decided that she wanted some action that day too 

Two punts in a day is pretty impressive.  3rd time - especially with the OH    How did you manage to explain the dribble of harry munk that fell out of the end of your cock ? 

[Cadwala]

Haven't shaged the OH for 16 years! Basically after birth of 2nd child. When asked all I kept getting was "Soon", eventually gave up and left it to her to initiate which she never did. Held out for a few years then had a couple of affairs but was just too scarey organising my time and keeping it all secret, too much to lose so took up seeing those lovely obliging chinese massage girls and lately turned to escorts as well.
No hassle, getting serviced by a couple of fit YOUNGER ladies. Wish I'd started this earlier. Married life is so much easier now!

[MrMatrix]

I decided to stop on two counts:

1. I was fed up of asking/taking the initiative, then getting a crap shag.
2. That the whole STI /punting thing was a total head fuck, so if I didn't bang the wife, I could stop worrying about passing anything on.

Six years on now, she hasn't asked why and I don't worry anymore. And that all suits me fine.

Personally, I can't understand blokes who punt and still shag the missus. It's very risky with the stuff you can't control e.g. herpes/warts.

Thats identical to me. However I didnt even get a crap shag, just didnt get any thing in the end

[doughboy]

Still have sex with the wife but not as often. We've been married 20 years now and it's only just the past 12 months that she's decided to lose interest in the physical side. It's been a good long 10 years or so since she stopped giving oral (and receiving it to) but the sex was still great, usually at least twice a week. But since last summer, it gradually went from twice a week, to once a week to maybe twice a month and now, if I'm lucky, I might get it once a month.

If I'm honest, the punting has probably affected my sex life with the wife in that I now no longer initiate any lovemaking (whereas in the past I'd try my luck every single night). I don't know if she's relieved that I ask for less sex, or if she wonders if I'm getting it elsewhere. She did make a comment a couple of weeks ago and repeated it the next day, which made me think she knows I'm up to something.

Like with everything else, I'll get bored of it and move onto something else. Been punting for about 15 months now, started off as a once a month thing which then became a once a week thing and I'm looking to get it back to once a month.

[Romeo Sensini]

Very rare these days, usually only occasionally on holiday or if away for the weekend. TBH it feels like a chore anyway and on the rare occasion when I do try my hand usually gets "clamped" across her stomach!

[GreyDave]

Two punts in a day is pretty impressive.  3rd time - especially with the OH    How did you manage to explain the dribble of harry munk that fell out of the end of your cock ? 

Few times when I have been at parties and after my walk-up sessions OH has started  I go though motions and if all that comes out is a drip I fessup that I knocked one out earlier in day cause I was bored or say straight up I fucked a big titted blonde at lunch time she never believes that line,

[claretandblue]

Still have the odd shag but it's dropped off for various reasons which have covered elsewhere in this thread.

In a nutshell it's pretty boring when we do it and like others I find the possibility that I may pass some sti to her just makes the whole thing not worth the aggravation

[mh]

We've done this topic so many times, I fear I just repeat myself, but things have changed for the better fairly recently.

Barely any sex with my OH for best part of 15 years is what got me into punting 6 years ago but the situation started improving a little a couple of years back. It is impossible to know why. It might be because the kids are now pretty much independent; it might be because I just stopped asking for any service. It is still no more often than once or perhaps twice a month but when it happens it is far more satisfying than punting.

It's still also generally a bit vanilla compared to punting but, taking inspiration from my punting, I started to try out a few dirtier things such as fingering her arse and pushing my dick near it and while she rebuffed many of these attempts occasionally she responded more positively. Finally my efforts paid off with some messing around turning into full anal sex, something that I would never have believed possible just a year ago.

There's been no repeat of that so far, but we did have a great session recently just after she got out of the bath when I turned a 69 into rimming her for the first time ever, something that rather threw her (in a very good way). I'd be too squeamish to do it any other time!

I'm planning on working on ways to get to roleplay, watersports and filming, then I can save up my punting fund for really special occasions! You didn't think I'd stop punting, did you? 

[webpunter]

or say straight up I fucked a big titted blonde at lunch time she never believes that line,

Many true words are spoken in jest
Reminds of the joke about a bloke shagging his PA.  When they finish up the PA asks him if there is anything else she can do for him.  He says yes - please can you go outside & get some mud on my brogues.  When he gets home the OH asks him what he's been doing.  He says shagging his PA.  The suspicious wife takes one look at his shoes & says 'you lying fuck - you've been to the golf club again'

[madmania]

Many true words are spoken in jest
Reminds of the joke about a bloke shagging his PA.  When they finish up the PA asks him if there is anything else she can do for him.  He says yes - please can you go outside & get some mud on my brogues.  When he gets home the OH asks him what he's been doing.  He says shagging his PA.  The suspicious wife takes one look at his shoes & says 'you lying fuck - you've been to the golf club again'

 

[charger70]

Its an interesting one ,and it seems a lot of common factors between the guys reporting in, albeit some are still getting some from the OH.

For me, its been over six years now, probably eight, if I calculated it! and I be been punting now for just on two years.

As has been mentioned sex is only one aspect of a marriage, and there is a lot of baggage and issues holding couples together , kids and financial  matters, maybe shared business's also, and after over thirty years together things are always going to get a bit boring, aren't they?

Its easy for someone to say, why do you stick together, but if the split is acromonious, then  life would be  very tough afterwards probably  for all parties.
For me, punting has taken the stress out. I can have what service I need from a girl who I really fancy ,and indulge in many an activity which was off the menu from the OH, so its been a great way to keep sane.

I view it as a hobby, I don play golf or any other such thing, so its great  way to relax.

So the interesting question is, for those of us that are here and admit to punting, I do wonder how many others are also at it! and what percentage of guys do we represent?    I bet that over 40% of guys in our situation are or have been  keeping themselves  occupied  away from home!

[mediumjoe]

    Good point Charger, when I'm out with my mates I sometimes think I  wonder how many of you shag prozzies like I do, but some of them are so under the thumb,  and another  friend  of mine who is Mega Mega minted- I really envy his situation.   I sometimes wish that I could talk to them about it or even recommend It ,  but it will never happen. Joe

[bobbles1945]

Charger 70 says “So the interesting question is, for those of us that are here and admit to punting, I do wonder how many others are also at it! and what percentage of guys do we represent?    I bet that over 40% of guys in our situation are or have been keeping themselves  occupied  away from home!”

Well there is the National survey of sexual attitudes and lifestyles which surveys every ten years (External Link/Members Only) and gives an answer and the results published in a paper “The prevalence of, and factors associated with, paying for sex among men resident in Britain: findings from the third National Survey of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles (Natsal-3)” which is available here for free  (External Link/Members Only ). Now of course it is likely that there is some underreporting as buying sex is stigmatized but essentially around 11% of men have reported ever buying sex and 3.6% admit to doing it in the past 5 years. The paper notes that those who have had larger numbers of civvy partners are more likely to have paid for sex-this supports the randy sod theory. From other studies it appears that hobbyists-those that punt regularly are about 3% of the male population.

Certainly many surveys of the motivation of those buying sex suggest that lack of sex in a marriage is a motivating factor to seek solace in the commercial sector

As for the proportion of those who are in sexless (or near sexless) marriages who find other outlets ( WGs, affairs, FWBs, SBs, masturbation) who knows? I doubt it is Charger's 40% I think most grimace and bear it.

I suggest a great source (Sex by numbers by David Spiegelhalter External Link/Members Only ) for those interested in such topics.