Would you go out with an ex/current escort?

[jaydefo24]

Somehow I’ve ended up in this situation on more than one occasion... although fun idea at first the novel idea wore off quickly. Never got much beyond taking advantage of a few free ‘punts’.

That was usually because of their choice of intoxicants more than profression.

Always smokers + boozers. Plus worse in one case.

[Lalalaveets]

Personally, I never would

[The Bandit 5342]

So what did you expect? Saints?

[MilleMiglia]

I've seen a lot of conversation on this subject, although mostly related to strippers and pole dancers rather than actual escorts, on unrelated forums. Steer well clear.

[hamchang]

Would you advise your daughter to go out with an "Ex" punter?


....Leopards never change their spots, but it is more likely that a hooker will stop hooking than a punting will stop fucking whores.

[cueball]

....Leopards never change their spots, but it is more likely that a hooker will stop hooking than a punting will stop fucking whores.

That's a good point, prossies usually retire but punters seldom do.....

Once a punter, always a punter

[HarryZZ]

I've met a lot of fantastic girls who under almost any other circumstances I would take out at the drop of a hat, and not just the ones who anybody would think were completely out of my league, but I'd struggle not to think about their job, what they're doing while I'm at work, it's one thing having a bloke looking at your Mrs and fancying her, it's something else when he's horsing it into her. Perhaps an ex WG under the right circumstances.

Obviously my reasons reflect my own insecurities rather than due to any implied stigma on the current or former SP. I'd feel it wouldn't be long before we were having the "it's not you, it's me" conversation.

[myothernameis]

never, to much baggage to do this, and how do you explain who the escort is, to your family, to much of a risk

hi, this is Karen my new girl friend, and by the way, she is also an escort

[hamchang]

The flip side to that comment is blokes who are married to Asian girls. There is an instant casual racism in the UK especially where any bloke with an "oriental" bird must be married to a whore. Frankly it is disgusting, and not helped by racist bullshit like those little britain program with their ting ton character - after all, would the UK public be happy if a white bloke blacked up as a john john and was selling drugs on the street corner because it reinforces an incorrect stereotype? No.

So some people might be concerned about the image of having married a whore. But just imagine if you didn't, but the country treats your spouse as if she was a whore, and some are even rude enough to say it!

[Sir Lance-a-lot]

Personally, I don't think I'd have a problem with it.  As long as I'm getting freebies, I wouldn't care who else she's shagging, none of my business.

[Anadin]

Yup for an ex-sex worker but only if we were financially sorted.

[pewpewpew]

The flip side to that comment is blokes who are married to Asian girls. There is an instant casual racism in the UK especially where any bloke with an "oriental" bird must be married to a whore. Frankly it is disgusting, and not helped by racist bullshit like those little britain program with their ting ton character - after all, would the UK public be happy if a white bloke blacked up as a john john and was selling drugs on the street corner because it reinforces an incorrect stereotype? No.

So some people might be concerned about the image of having married a whore. But just imagine if you didn't, but the country treats your spouse as if she was a whore, and some are even rude enough to say it!

Whenever I see a guy with an asian woman I always think mail order bride. Not whore. I've never even heard anyone call them whores. Where do you live?

[hungrypunt]

No Never, I couldnt take my mind off other blokes cumming on her, in her, and then theres all the other rough shit you see and hear about.

Plus the hi honey how was your day ?
"oh I had a kick off with a bloke who wanted to piss in my mouth and shit on me thats not one of my services, he threatened to twat me and out me" etc etc

I couldn't handle that and probably  end up arrested after spending many wasted hours trying to find out who he was.

No not for me.

[hungrypunt]

Whenever I see a guy with an asian woman I always think mail order bride. Not whore. I've never even heard anyone call them whores. Where do you live?

Same, or ? did I see her in the chippy last night. Dunno what the post was about to be honest

[EnglishRebecca121]

Most of us have partners.... escorting is simply a job and when i shut the door im no longer "rebecca"

no different to anyone else

[Autopunter]

I'd be happy to FWB a hooker or ex-hooker. Might even date a swinger; but seriously no, not date a WG while she is still working. Mutual jealousy aside (because there is no way in hell I would accept being monogamous if she isn't), she'd be physically exhausted and emotionally tapped out from other guys by the time she came home. Not to mention the phone going off at all hours because some horny fella wanted to give her a good ploughing.

Perhaps more importantly, I've heard the opinions of some SPs on sex workers' BFs (actually BFs, not just a pimp). As one once said to me about her flatmate's BF, "What kind of man comes home and asks his GF how her day has been when she's been screwing other guys all day?"

Women can be more into macho norms than guys on occasion and between my insecurities and her's, I doubt any relationship with an active WG could sustain itself or be a happy and equitable one. Of course there will always be exceptions to this general rule, but what are the odds your relationship would be one of them?

[hamchang]

Whenever I see a guy with an asian woman I always think mail order bride. Not whore. I've never even heard anyone call them whores. Where do you live?

What's the difference? Mail Order Bride? Really? so that woman who might well have more degrees and a better job than you is condemned to being a commodity bought from a catalogue?

Just call her a bargirl / whore / hooker / sex worker / prossie and be done with it. Casual racism. If you see a black girl do you assume she carries water on her head for 3 miles every day, and her dad married a goat? 

[YidArmy]

I would never go out with or date an escort. That's not to say i wouldn't have one as a fuck buddy or FWB. That can work.

But the second anything more serious was in danger of developing i'd jack it in. That may sound callous but i don't have any interest in being the partner of an escort. It takes a certain type of man to do that and i'm not him.

The dynamic between BF/GF is totally different to that between punter/WG and should stay that way.

[YidArmy]

Most of us have partners.... escorting is simply a job and when i shut the door im no longer "rebecca"

no different to anyone else

Does your partner fuck other women all day though? How would you feel if that was his job?

[Northerndave666]

What's the difference? Mail Order Bride? Really? so that woman who might well have more degrees and a better job than you is condemned to being a commodity bought from a catalogue?

Just call her a bargirl / whore / hooker / sex worker / prossie and be done with it. Casual racism. If you see a black girl do you assume she carries water on her head for 3 miles every day, and her dad married a goat? 

The difference, as you seem to be avoiding is that people normally think that as the bloke will be in his 60's/70's and the young ting tong macadandang with him will be in their 20's/ So yes it's absolutely reasonable to assume a mail order bride, the same way that a 20 year old hot model dating a 70 year old man is probably going to be a gold digger.  Or a felon dating Green's daughter isn't doing it for his career or that Amanda Holden was with Les Dennis to further her career.

It sounds like you have a Thai bride due to your reaction, am I right ?

[Rotherhampunter]

I have dated a stripper before, and had no issue at all. I knew she’d come home to me at the end of the day. As is par, boyfriends weren’t allowed in the club, so I had no problems with jealousy. I wouldn’t rule out dating an escort, but it would depend on who the girl was.

[Scotpunter]

I think it will depend entirely on your mindset. If you have insecurities or jealousy issues it won't work.

I think I could cope with having a WG as a gf. I have taken part in swinging and providing you and your partner know that at the end of the night you go home with each other, then I could live with it.

[PepeMAGA]

I would date one, but wouldn't be serious unless they retired

[Bogof60]

Mmmmm
Difficult one this.
I have met some great women while perusing this hobby.
Some I would even regard as partner material if the dynamics of the situation were different.
So if the OH suddenly shuffled off the mortal coil or simply kicked me into touch would I date a WG or probably an ex WG?
Probably Yes as many hookers I have met are more adjusted mentally than a lot of civvie women in my own age bracket.
Could I cope with them still working?
Hypocritical I know but probably no

[bbwandy72]

Yes, I would. While I haven't yet done so, I've sort of come close in as much as I'm in a non-monogomous relationship with my wife. While my wife doesn't take payment and isn't an escort, she has slept with others during our relationship. As someone else mentioned, jealousy doesn't come into it. Regardless of who she sleeps with, I know that she's going to come back to me each night.

FWIW, I also know a couple of escorts personally. Oddly, despite my permissive marital situation, I haven't slept with any of them. For whatever reasons, my relationship with them has always been platonic. I suppose maybe that might change one day, but I think it would feel a bit odd. From talking to them about it, they both very much see it as a job. When they're not working, they're not an escort, they're just a regular person. It's no different to you or I coming home from a day at the office, other than that the nature of their work is slightly unconventional. Could I cope with that? Sure, I don't think I'd have a problem with it.

[hungrypunt]

Most of us have partners.... escorting is simply a job and when i shut the door im no longer "rebecca"

no different to anyone else

I could live with that. But cmon...the stress and strain if u have a bad customer on the phone at tescos about the beans bein charged wrong is slightly different to punters trying to push boundaries...or "stripe you up" as i seen in one post on uke lately.
Its not the same Rebecca....not at all

[Daiawn]

Personally speaking, I wouldn't have a problem with it so long as there was a fair degree of honesty involved (on both sides).

[shagmore]

No, not a chance, once a whore always a whore.
Just think, she might think I want that nice hand bag, "o" no money, I know how to get some quick cash.
Its alright shagging these WGs knowing that many a guy has been through her before, but not when its your GF
 

[5th Musketeer]

If I were single I would have no problem in dating a former WG, but probably not if she had been working as one for many years.  Some WGs need money and do it for a short time to get out of financial difficulties, others enjoy sex and don't see why they shouldn't get paid for it.  Looking at it from the other side, would a normal civvy woman want to date someone who has punted with lots of WGs - or even with lots of civvies?  I believe It all comes down to how the two individuals view each other.

[Redbull4]

I've known quite a few guys who have and some still are dating Escorts. Ranging from ultra macho men to just normal guys. If they are both happy I don't see why not. I've seen more complex and diverese problems with people without this dynamic included in the equation.

Personally I wouldn't rule it out myself.

[king tarzan]

Consensual business transaction basis only..

No need for boyfriend /husband with a escort

As the great mike Tyson once said on his new york stage show a few years back

" money gone whores gone".....

[hamchang]

The difference, as you seem to be avoiding is that people normally think that as the bloke will be in his 60's/70's and the young ting tong macadandang with him will be in their 20's/ So yes it's absolutely reasonable to assume a mail order bride, the same way that a 20 year old hot model dating a 70 year old man is probably going to be a gold digger.  Or a felon dating Green's daughter isn't doing it for his career or that Amanda Holden was with Les Dennis to further her career.

It sounds like you have a Thai bride due to your reaction, am I right ?

No to your last question. I don't judge people on race, age or looks though. What is this mail order bride bullshit you keep talking about? Made up by the tabloids, propagated by jealous fat white female bitches, and repeated by idiots. Old man with a young white lady does that make her a whore / hooker / commodity? No, because she is the wrong colour but could come from Albania where the average wage is about the same as SE asia, with as much poverty. Alas, it's just racism. Nothing more, nothing less.

Sounds like you have never left your working mans club, and if you did, your copy of the daily mail was tucked under your arm. Enough of this off topic nonsense even though I started it (sort of...). I'd rather have a younger SE asian wife than some stinker shitty arse white bird any day of the week.

 

[S.X. MacHine]

So the consensus seems to be that, no, you wouldn't go out with a former escort.
Well, I did. We had a good time and enjoyed each others' company until, sadly, she moved to another country.
Her former profession was never at the front of my thoughts, I just saw a good looking, intelligent and interesting person; just like dating a normal woman. Hang on; isn't that what escorts are, when not working? (a point Rebecca makes earlier)

[EnglishRebecca121]

Hang on; isn't that what escorts are, when not working? (a point Rebecca makes earlier)

Nope apparently we are just prositutes not humans

[eyeseebee]

I would have no issue whatsoever if my partner was an escort. In fact  I'd find it a turn on. Maybe I'm just a weirdo.

[sparkus]

I've transitioned an ex-WG into a FB and she hinted at making it more. We didn't really have anything in common beyond the snagging though, at all.

Hear you about the Asian birds thing. Friend's brother married to a delightful curvy thing and his family always whisper it behind her back, doesn't help herself with her wild spending and disinterest in her kid. She doesn't say much but something in her eyes tells me she's no stranger to our world for some reason...

[tintin100]

The flip side to that comment is blokes who are married to Asian girls. There is an instant casual racism in the UK especially where any bloke with an "oriental" bird must be married to a whore. Frankly it is disgusting, and not helped by racist bullshit like those little britain program with their ting ton character - after all, would the UK public be happy if a white bloke blacked up as a john john and was selling drugs on the street corner because it reinforces an incorrect stereotype? No.

So some people might be concerned about the image of having married a whore. But just imagine if you didn't, but the country treats your spouse as if she was a whore, and some are even rude enough to say it!

Hate to say this but two guys that I know well, did both married ex asian prostitutes.
 

[hamchang]

Hate to say this but two guys that I know well, did both married ex asian prostitutes.

why hate to say it - not saying it doesn't happen. In fact I would say that 80% or so from poor countries are ex bar girls / hookers, and that includes south america, Europe and asia as well. Alas though it is just the automatic assumption though that an asian girl is a hooker that grinds my gears. As for the mail order bride bollocks, its hard enough for a bloke to get his wife into the country nowadays if she has a PhD and married for a decade thanks to the twat tory pricks, let alone the idea of seeing some bird in a catalogue and saying "I'll have one of them please" and she'll be sent by Yodel the next day. It's tosh - spread by morons and racists, notably the hideous white birds of this country.

[raylondoner]

One part of me is thinking that I could handle it on the basis of it being just her job, but the other part is thinking that I might struggle if I was alone too often whilst my partner was doing overnights.

Worst still, how about a situation where you say “how about going away this weekend”, only to get a response of “sorry but I’ve got 3 gangbangs planned both days” 

Only my thoughts though as I’m not intending to go there, but guess I’ve answered my own question.  😄

[lostandfound]

In the past I would always have said no. But I've warmed to the idea. I think I'd prefer her as a good fuck buddy to as a partner, and I'd probably prefer to keep paying. So in practice, I think I prefer the existing "professional" relationship.

[sparkus]

Hate to say this but two guys that I know well, did both married ex asian prostitutes.

An ex was still in touch with her former ex as he had two kids who she doted on and often had them round. Their mother was Thai and she routinely referred to her as "that Bangkok hooker" (I've no idea if she was or not)

So the association is hard to shift. I dare say men married to Japanese women probably hear it less though.

[joe diddley]

With a former WG, no problem, all other things being equal. With a currently working WG, I'd say "no". Nothing to do with any moral stance. Rather a bit too much unpredictable stuff going on in their lives that might potentially blow up, I'd guess, rather as is the case for policemen and women. Wouldn't go out with a policewoman for the same reason (or a policeman if I was a woman). Would prefer a partnership that guarantees (or at least promises) a little more tranquility.

[Romeo Sensini]

Ex WG probably, current WG never, as I would be far to insecure. Half her clients would have a bigger cock than me, half her clients would be better in the sack than me, half her clients would be richer than me, half her clients would be more of a laugh than me and so it would go. They might claim to be able to switch off but my self esteem would be fucked. YMMV.

[Bogof60]

Ex WG probably, current WG never, as I would be far to insecure. Half her clients would have a bigger cock than me, half her clients would be better in the sack than me, half her clients would be richer than me, half her clients would be more of a laugh than me and so it would go. They might claim to be able to switch off but my self esteem would be fucked. YMMV.

I think your self esteem is fucked already with 4 halves to your self 

[Romeo Sensini]

I think your self esteem is fucked already with 4 halves to your self 

Multiple Personality Disorder is no laughing matter. Have a word with yourself. 

[Bogof60]

Multiple Personality Disorder is no laughing matter. Have a word with yourself. 

[PepeMAGA]

Nope apparently we are just prositutes not humans

hatched out of hooker eggs.

[streetstroler]

Tempting though it might be, but how would you keep your punting activities secret, she would always be suspicious. The fact that she was shagging other guys and might actually be enjoying it would get to me, and while I was shagging her for free,always in the back of her mind would be that she could be earning money if I was someone else.

[lewisjones23]

Imagine being in a relationship with a WG and being the one responsible for support for all the tales of woe that ' happen ' to WG 

relatives sick / sudden sickness / car broken down / boiler broken etc etc

[streetstroler]

Not to mention Prossie Logic.