SP giving too much away. Should I tell her?

[jimbobted]

Met a girl a while ago (review to follow, I always leave it a while). She was friendly and quite chatty, and told me quite a lot of "anonymous" information about herself.
I'm a curious sort. So 2 minutes of Google produced photos in the local rag of her "normal" life, her home address, real name, names of family members, real social media pages etc. Obviously I did nothing further other than marvel at how this sweet looking lady had transformed herself into a super slut. But someone else might.
I open it to the floor - do I have a moral duty to tell her she's inadvertently giving out too many breadcrumbs, or do I trust the fact she's an intelligent adult and would be more circumspect with someone who wasn't such a gent? I don't want to be accused of stalking!

[pythondan]

I can understand your concern but it would be difficult not to appear as a bit of a stalker.

Maybe if you see her a couple more times you might mention it but tread wearily.

How long has she been on AW (assuming that's where you found her)

[webpunter]

Asking the question suggests that you are nearly as clueless as her 

[Stiltskin]

I'd leave it well alone if I was you. It might be a case of 'shooting the messenger'.

Some of these girls are really careless with their personal info. If they work from home, as soon as you have their address you can often get their real name, face pics and all sorts of history. I'm not bothered about the personal details, but if I can find a face pic it could save me a wasted trip. The last search I did led me to a face pic & work profile on a company website, which supported her claim of just being a part timer.

[jimbobted]

I'm not seeing her again so will leave it I think.
I have a regular who works from home that she shares with her BF. Obviously those working from their own home I assume don't care/have no worries about being outed. Those working from hotels under a pseudonym I would assume have more to lose and therefore would be more careful.
But perhaps I'm assuming too much 

[contentguy]

I had a similar situation when someone I met, over 10 years ago, said she was an author of a certain type of fiction. She was speaking at a book fair in the next week, etc.

Intrigued, I found her literary persona in about 10 minutes.

She’s still writing, though not escorting, which is a shame as she had lovely tits and gave a great service.

I saw her a few times subsequently, but never mentioned her ‘privacy’.

[daviemac]

I would question why would anyone want to pry into an escort's private life? Creepy as fuck as far as I'm concerned.

There would be an uproar on here if an escort was found to be doing it.

[jimbobted]

I would question why would anyone want to pry into an escort's private life? Creepy as fuck as far as I'm concerned.

There would be an uproar on here if an escort was found to be doing it.

Fair comment. I wasn't really prying but I can see why it might come across that way. Like I said, I'm curious, I assume anything out of a WGs mouth is 100% bullshit and it astonishes me the occasions that it's 100% true.
Reminds.me of the time a stripper took my number pretending she was going to call me for a 1:1 after her shift finished. Of course she was just trying to (successfully sell a horny drunk fool some more private dances). But guess who popped up on my Facebook feed a few days later as "People you might know". She'd only gone and punched my number into her real phone, and her profile was full of her real life business stuff. I did actually send her a message saying she was lucky I was a gent and not to be so stupid in future. Didn't hear anything back and didn't expect to, but did what felt was right.

[webpunter]

A massage burd who i had seen a few times had her 'certificate of the institute of massage' type thing on the wall in a frame
With her name on it
A pretence to look a bit legit

I politely suggested to her that not the best idea to have her name clearly visible
Or the certificate at all
And a few reasons why not
Like if she sees enuf punters one or a few of em will be on the nutter / infatuated scale
Especially those whose eyes are on stalks saying that they've never met anyone like her blah blah
She replied that she knew what i was referring to, like rabbits caught in the headlights

[she wasnt that fit, but was local ish, nice with it, easy to book & v.good at R&T's]

The massage burds response was thank-you
And a self deprecating roll of her eyes & i didnt think of that [obvs not]
It was removed there & then never to be seen again

[webpunter]

Not much !

I have a regular who works from home that she shares with her BF. Obviously those working from their own home I assume don't care/have no worries about being outed. Those working from hotels under a pseudonym I would assume have more to lose and therefore would be more careful.
But perhaps I'm assuming too much 

[Slow grinder]

Not often I agree with Mr Mac...but very creepy...I think that you need to hope nothing happens to her, or by virtue of your creepy prying you'll be a suspect.

[ik8133]

It happens quite a bit with SBs, they often come up on FB as "people you may know".

[contentguy]

Well, I was intrigued by my ‘author’ experience, I don’t care about SP’s lives and hope they take a similar approach.

I’ve had a number of occasions where I’ve googled an SP’s number before seeing her, it’s part of my due diligence, and found that she’s using the same number for classified ads (selling tat) or for another unrelated business.  I’ve never mentioned it.

[LLPunting]

Fair comment. I wasn't really prying but I can see why it might come across that way. Like I said, I'm curious, I assume anything out of a WGs mouth is 100% bullshit and it astonishes me the occasions that it's 100% true.
Reminds.me of the time a stripper took my number pretending she was going to call me for a 1:1 after her shift finished. Of course she was just trying to (successfully sell a horny drunk fool some more private dances). But guess who popped up on my Facebook feed a few days later as "People you might know". She'd only gone and punched my number into her real phone, and her profile was full of her real life business stuff. I did actually send her a message saying she was lucky I was a gent and not to be so stupid in future. Didn't hear anything back and didn't expect to, but did what felt was right.

Actually yes you were prying, if you weren't you wouldn't be discovering her private personal information which she hadn't disclosed to you as a matter of doing the business you paid her for.  When you're having a chat with people in the pub or meeting new work colleagues do you go back to your PC and try to find out where they live or what they do in their spare time when they haven't given you leave to do so?

Also now that you have confirmed her info is discoverable any a-hole abusing this site can take note of your future reviews and try to compromise (or worse) the ladies you mention because they are assured that one of them can be found.

[Stevelondon]

Actually yes you were prying, if you weren't you wouldn't be discovering her private personal information which she hadn't disclosed to you as a matter of doing the business you paid her for.  When you're having a chat with people in the pub or meeting new work colleagues do you go back to your PC and try to find out where they live or what they do in their spare time when they haven't given you leave to do so?

Also now that you have confirmed her info is discoverable any a-hole abusing this site can take note of your future reviews and try to compromise (or worse) the ladies you mention because they are assured that one of them can be found.

Do you know what. I never would have thought of that.
What a devious mind you have sir. 

[jimbobted]

Actually yes you were prying, if you weren't you wouldn't be discovering her private personal information which she hadn't disclosed to you as a matter of doing the business you paid her for.  When you're having a chat with people in the pub or meeting new work colleagues do you go back to your PC and try to find out where they live or what they do in their spare time when they haven't given you leave to do so?

Also now that you have confirmed her info is discoverable any a-hole abusing this site can take note of your future reviews and try to compromise (or worse) the ladies you mention because they are assured that one of them can be found.

Yes I do sometimes Google people I meet to see what they do for a living etc.
Nope, nobody is going to be able to identify her real life when I review because I'm not stupid enough to repeat the info she told me here (or anywhere else for that matter).
Perhaps I shouldn't have opened this can of worms

[mr.bluesky]

I had a similar situation when someone I met, over 10 years ago, said she was an author of a certain type of fiction. She was speaking at a book fair in the next week, etc.

Intrigued, I found her literary persona in about 10 minutes.

She’s still writing, though not escorting, which is a shame as she had lovely tits and gave a great service.

I saw her a few times subsequently, but never mentioned her ‘privacy’.

I hope you bought her book .

[contentguy]

I hope you bought her book .

I’m not saying what her niche is, but it’s of no interest to me!

[webpunter]

Weird
If there's a fit civvy a little research to help line up a potential meet is OK
LinkedIn FaceB etc 

Yes I do sometimes Google people I meet to see what they do for a living etc.

Far from it
Least we know what you are all about

Perhaps I shouldn't have opened this can of worms

[Atrueyorkie]

Leave it. Don’t mention it, definitely come across as weird/stalker even if your intention is for her to be more conscious.

Probably won’t hear the advice and only the part “I googled you”.

Keep it simple. Punt. Go. Don’t muddy that line. No matter how much you “get on”.

[jimbobted]

Far from it
Least we know what you are all about

By "people I meet" I meant people I meet in the pub etc, which was the example given, not escorts I meet.

[jimbobted]

Leave it. Don’t mention it, definitely come across as weird/stalker even if your intention is for her to be more conscious.

Probably won’t hear the advice and only the part “I googled you”.

Keep it simple. Punt. Go. Don’t muddy that line. No matter how much you “get on”.

Good advice. Thank you.

[jimbobted]

I did once have an MMF with another punter. We exchanged phone numbers to make arrangements. I googled his and likewise ended up with all of his personal details.
Pointed it out to him when we met up and he was very grateful for the heads up.
But maybe that's slightly different.

[king tarzan]

Your concern  is to enjoy and fill the mouth or Johnny..
Pants up bye bye walk off..

Stop searching up her ass!!

[Mr Sinister]

I would question why would anyone want to pry into an escort's private life? Creepy as fuck as far as I'm concerned.

There would be an uproar on here if an escort was found to be doing it.

Cause near everyone does it these days people have a natural tendency to look someone up especially to check out their social media profiles that's why its important you are careful with your digital footprint.

I would say to OP some things are just best kept to yourself, this WG is an adult if she wants to tell whoever under the sun her personal details that's her business

[Waterhouse]

I hope you bought her book .

External Link/Members Only

[workinallweek]

had a girls facebook appear  on people you may know and their instagram account   one girl sent a pic of her passport when i asked about her age ....

[Hobbit]

Met a girl a while ago (review to follow, I always leave it a while). She was friendly and quite chatty, and told me quite a lot of "anonymous" information about herself.
I'm a curious sort. So 2 minutes of Google produced photos in the local rag of her "normal" life, her home address, real name, names of family members, real social media pages etc. Obviously I did nothing further other than marvel at how this sweet looking lady had transformed herself into a super slut. But someone else might.
I open it to the floor - do I have a moral duty to tell her she's inadvertently giving out too many breadcrumbs, or do I trust the fact she's an intelligent adult and would be more circumspect with someone who wasn't such a gent? I don't want to be accused of stalking!

I don't believe that you being curious is your motive for stalking this person. You either have EAS or are some weirdo with some kind of anger issues. Also, the fact that you did the deed and then are now on here seeking advice makes it even more strange.

It still baffles me how people come on here asking the most stupid questions which seem to be quite commonsense to the intelligent folk.

If I was you I would stop stalking her and not mention it. And if you do have EAS, I would suggest to take a break from seeing her and start seeing someone else.

[daviemac]

Cause near everyone does it these days people have a natural tendency to look someone up especially to check out their social media profiles that's why its important you are careful with your digital footprint.

I would say to OP some things are just best kept to yourself, this WG is an adult if she wants to tell whoever under the sun her personal details that's her business

Do you look up everyone you have a business transaction with?     Would you be happy if an escort you had seen was looking for and finding all the details of your private life then telling you about it.   

[Mr Sinister]

Do you look up everyone you have a business transaction with?     Would you be happy if an escort you had seen was looking for and finding all the details of your private life then telling you about it.   

Yeah I look people up from time to time there's nothing wrong with it although I'm not searching for WG personal business I have come across their socials cause they posted up pics/vids on their profile from their insta/tik tok showing the handle.

I'm very careful with the information I give me about myself, my digital footprint and they way it is presented. If a wg finds out my personal info then that's on me, cause I may have used a non punting phone, told her about the company I work for, where I live etc..then it just becomes the case I'll need to tighten things up.

We live in a digitally connected world it's down to you to control what you put out out there and how easy it is for people to find you.

 

[daviemac]

Yeah I look people up from time to time there's nothing wrong with it although I'm not searching for WG personal business I have come across their socials cause they posted up pics/vids on their profile from their insta/tik tok showing the handle.

I'm very careful with the information I give me about myself, my digital footprint and they way it is presented. If a wg finds out my personal info then that's on me, cause I may have used a non punting phone, told her about the company I work for, where I live etc..then it just becomes the case I'll need to tighten things up.

We live in a digitally connected world it's down to you to control what you put out out there and how easy it is for people to find you.

 

So you are quite happy for escorts to go out of their way to find out personal information about you, you wouldn't say anything on here that they'd done it to warn about their lack of discretion.

[dadio]

A while back I messaged a new SP on AW for a contact number. As is the case with every new SP I see, I googled the number to make sure there wasn't anything fishy about her.
It turned out that the number she'd sent was her personal number as she hadn't got a "work" number yet, and it brought up a lot of information which I'm sure she wouldn't have been happy others knowing about. In her community, she would have been fairly well known.
Anyway, when I met her, I told her, and she was very grateful as she hadn't thought about the implications. Her AW promptly disappeared. I do still see her occasionally but won't do a FR as she's not advertising anywhere that I know of.
Since I have returned to see her more than once, you'll infer that I do enjoy her company and the fact that her real persona is known to me, our time together is all the more enjoyable. She's even offered a threesone with one of her friends but having shown me a picture of her, I decided against it 

[jimbobted]

Do you look up everyone you have a business transaction with?     Would you be happy if an escort you had seen was looking for and finding all the details of your private life then telling you about it.   

Pretty much, yes I do. That's what LinkedIn etc is for.
I'm sure some escorts do look up punters, I'm always careful to be very non committal if asked about personal stuff. Even to the extent I once told a WG she looked just like somonee I used to work with (and had always wanted to bed) - she said "Oh, which company were you working for?". "I'd rather not say"

I don't have a punting phone because my wife would find it. I use my real phone and make sure the number doesn't lead to Facebook. I'm on Twitter but with a completely different handle and avatar. Used to use work phone for punting but then I realised a Google search takes you straight to my mugshot on the company director bio pages. Whoops.
If a WG finds me then that's my fault - I take precautions to ensure they can't.

[Hobbit]

Pretty much, yes I do. That's what LinkedIn etc is for.

Urmm no. LinkedIn is for networking with work or professional colleagues. It is not for stalking.

Personally, I don't do any social media. It's something for the new young generation and a waste of time.

[markballoon]

There was a girl on AW last year who had her full name and Facebook link on her profile.   It showed everything about her.  I thought of mailing her but in the end thought better of it.   You have to be care in this day and age.

[Tyramhall]

This site is full of wrong uns ☹️

[daviemac]

Pretty much, yes I do. That's what LinkedIn etc is for.
I'm sure some escorts do look up punters, I'm always careful to be very non committal if asked about personal stuff. Even to the extent I once told a WG she looked just like somonee I used to work with (and had always wanted to bed) - she said "Oh, which company were you working for?". "I'd rather not say"

I don't have a punting phone because my wife would find it. I use my real phone and make sure the number doesn't lead to Facebook. I'm on Twitter but with a completely different handle and avatar. Used to use work phone for punting but then I realised a Google search takes you straight to my mugshot on the company director bio pages. Whoops.
If a WG finds me then that's my fault - I take precautions to ensure they can't.

You, like Mr Sinister, are avoiding the question, we know it's up to the individual to take care of their own security but if you found out an escort was going out of their way to find out about a punter then told the punter they knew everything about them would you find that acceptable or would you post a warning on here. 

This site is full of wrong uns ☹️

Never a truer word spoken.

[king tarzan]

Let's just stick to have fun and go no deeper than the pussy

Simpletto signor 🙌🙌🙌

[Punterperson1971]

Let's just stick to have fun and go no deeper than the pussy

Simpletto signor 🙌🙌🙌

For once KT has spoken some sense that we should all understand and follow

[LLPunting]

The fact that someone inadvertently gives you some information that you can look up is NOT an invitation to pry.

If the person says "Here are my socials" fine.  If a person gives you their number and says "Call me" it is a specific invitation to use it for that purpose only.  If the number is a work number or you suspect so then in the context of this community (or any business transaction) we look it up for reports of service and any other business communication they may've published.  Trying to deep dive a person's personal and private digital footprint without their consent is prying.

Part of the problem about today's privacy issues is that people have assumed they have a right to pry because they were foolish enough to give away their privacy to commercial ventures.  That does not make it right.

The very fact that the persons above admitting to digging through an SP's private matters also say they guard their privacy is so fucking hypocritical.  They condemn themselves by the admission that the details they are seeking are the same details they don't want others to know about them.   

What pillow talk you engage in is rarely if ever preceded with a statement by the SP saying, "Feel free to tell anyone about personal things I share with you."  That would be absurd!  Sharing it makes one at least a gossip and that already makes it wrong.  The fact punters recommend having a punting alias, a fabric of lies and perhaps innocuous truths, is precisely to protect against indiscretion.  SPs are due the same respect about anything not related to or required for the services paid for.

[LLPunting]

Let's just stick to have fun and go no deeper than the pussy

Simpletto signor 🙌🙌🙌

Alas some are so blessed they may go deeper in a gifted throat.

[jimbobted]

You, like Mr Sinister, are avoiding the question, we know it's up to the individual to take care of their own security but if you found out an escort was going out of their way to find out about a punter then told the punter they knew everything about them would you find that acceptable or would you post a warning on here. 

If she messaged me or next time we met said  "Hey, thought you ought to know that it's very simple for someone to find out x, y and z about you" I'd thank her.
If she messaged me saying "I know who you are and I'm gonna tell your wife and employers unless you pay me" I'd post a warning on here.

[southcoastpunter]

Do you look up everyone you have a business transaction with?   :

Pretty much, yes I do. That's what LinkedIn etc is for.

Urmm no. LinkedIn is for networking with work or professional colleagues. It is not for stalking.
Personally, I don't do any social media. It's something for the new young generation and a waste of time.

You are being a bit unfair Mr Hobbitt. Almost everyone who, in my business life, meets me or contacts me has usually looked me up on LinkedIn before meeting/contact and if i am initiating contact with someone else i look them up- its usual business practice. Sometimes, even in business, people will search other forms of social media. Its what you do with the information that makes the difference between genuine business use and stalking!

[jimbobted]

 
What pillow talk you engage in is rarely if ever preceded with a statement by the SP saying, "Feel free to tell anyone about personal things I share with you."  That would be absurd!  Sharing it makes one at least a gossip and that already makes it wrong.

Completely correct and that is why I have not and will not share the details of the lass concerned, nor mention what she told me that outed herself to me.
I did say right at the top it goes no further. I'm not a creep/blackmailer/someone who gets a kick out of outing WGs, but plenty are.

[daviemac]

If I want to employ a builder, joiner, plumber or any other trade (or escort) I will try and find out as much as I can about how they conduct their business by using review sites etc, I wouldn't dream of trying to find their personal social media to learn anything about their private lives. It seems some others on here don't share my views and will search for any private information they can about anybody they deal with regardless of the fact it has no relevance to the business being conducted.

'Nowt so funny as folk' as me granny used to say.   

[Hobbit]

You are being a bit unfair Mr Hobbitt. Almost everyone who, in my business life, meets me or contacts me has usually looked me up on LinkedIn before meeting/contact and if i am initiating contact with someone else i look them up- its usual business practice. Sometimes, even in business, people will search other forms of social media. Its what you do with the information that makes the difference between genuine business use and stalking!

You're right, I will give you that. And this is exactly why I do not have any active social media accounts. Because of people like the OP who would look me up for their weird and perverse reasons.

[Private Parts]

OP

You are playing with fire.

Sir

[Punter S Thompson]

Not having a burner phone leads me to having no end of SP's pop up Facebook as "people you might know." This has ended up pretty favourable in a few instances and is always good for having a bit of a nosey. Nothing creepy about it at all.

[jimbobted]

OP

You are playing with fire.

Sir

How so?
Isn't this just the equivalent of a "white hat" hacker who finds a vulnerability in a computer system and instead o exploiting it earns the owner of the system so they can secure it properly?

If I'd revealed who this SP was, or any of the details I'd agree with you, but I haven't and will not.

All I'm wondering is whether I should want her or not. The majority seems to be no, but more based upon the assumption that I'm some kind of creep rather than any practical reason. Of those not accusing me of being a creep, about half seem to be "No because she'll think you're a creep", and that seems fair enough. But some seem to understand where I'm coming from.

[daviemac]

How so?
Isn't this just the equivalent of a "white hat" hacker who finds a vulnerability in a computer system and instead o exploiting it earns the owner of the system so they can secure it properly?

If I'd revealed who this SP was, or any of the details I'd agree with you, but I haven't and will not.

All I'm wondering is whether I should want her or not. The majority seems to be no, but more based upon the assumption that I'm some kind of creep rather than any practical reason. Of those not accusing me of being a creep, about half seem to be "No because she'll think you're a creep", and that seems fair enough. But some seem to understand where I'm coming from.

What I find puzzling is you don't understand what you have done wrong. She didn't pop up on your social media through linking phone numbers so in effect presenting her private life to you, she told you something during a paid booking you had with her, you have then used that information to go on the internet and use Google to deliberately search for things in her private life. Creepy stalker behaviour.