Asking a SP out on a date (non paid/non sex)

[IAmNotFamous]

Sorry to the mods for starting another thread. I’m crying out for some help and have no where to turn to.

If you piece together the threads I have started there is a theme.

As a background I’ve been seeing an SP regularly. So much so we now communicate on personal phones sharing personal non sexual photos asking how each other are and how our days our going sharing positive motivational messages. I even brought the SP a gift from a vacation I took. And she appreciated it.  I know about her life and she knows mine.

I took a break (to make sure it wasn’t an obsession or infatuation) but saw the SP again and now the feelings have erupted again. Can’t stop thinking about the SP.

I’m now at a point where I’m going to take the leap and ask the SP out. It’s going to be a huge dive because I’m happy to let the universe dictate where this leads to and how it looks and how it works. In fact, I will have no issues if the SP continued working. If they’re happy I’m happy.

Am I making a silly move?

Truth be told she may turn me down. Then we’ll be friends and I meet up and pay for a good time. But see less frequently to get over the infatuation. I’m confident she say yes.

Thoughts please? (Responses from Service provides on this forum I’d like to hear your views)

[Tender.french.kiss]

Clear case of EAS.
Are you sure you want to take that risk. You think that even if she turns you down you'll still see each other as before. Nothing less certain.
This proximity with her might be just very acute business sense from her, you never know.
I wouldn't but then again, we only live once and you won't know what you might be missing.
The major risk being in case their is an imbalance of implications / motivation from you both. You could easily end up scarred emotionally or financially

[hendrix]

I'm assuming that you're an adult, so do what you want and live with the consequences.

Nobody knows who you are, or who the whore is, so any "insight " is frankly meaningless beyond generalities.

[daviemac]

Sorry to the mods for starting another thread. I’m crying out for some help and have no where to turn to.
Thoughts please? (Responses from Service provides on this forum I’d like to hear your views)

You're on the wrong site for that, have another read of the rules, this is not a chat platform between punters and SPs.

There's loads of threads on EAS, try reading one of those.

There's a 7 page one here from earlier this year. -  https://www.ukpunting.com/index.php?topic=339277.0

[Colston36]

Sorry to the mods for starting another thread. I’m crying out for some help and have no where to turn to.

If you piece together the threads I have started there is a theme.

As a background I’ve been seeing an SP regularly. So much so we now communicate on personal phones sharing personal non sexual photos asking how each other are and how our days our going sharing positive motivational messages. I even brought the SP a gift from a vacation I took. And she appreciated it.  I know about her life and she knows mine.

I took a break (to make sure it wasn’t an obsession or infatuation) but saw the SP again and now the feelings have erupted again. Can’t stop thinking about the SP.

I’m now at a point where I’m going to take the leap and ask the SP out. It’s going to be a huge dive because I’m happy to let the universe dictate where this leads to and how it looks and how it works. In fact, I will have no issues if the SP continued working. If they’re happy I’m happy.

Am I making a silly move?

Truth be told she may turn me down. Then we’ll be friends and I meet up and pay for a good time. But see less frequently to get over the infatuation. I’m confident she say yes.

Thoughts please? (Responses from Service provides on this forum I’d like to hear your views)

Others have commented on this. I generally get quite fond of the women I see, but one simple solution for your quandary is see what happens if you ask her out: will she ask you to pay for her time while you're having lunch or whatever?

[Punting2022]

Dont do it, You will get hurt and being a escort cash is always king to them. She will likely ask for a reduce payment. Escorts dont do nothing for free.
She will just use this as an excuse to get extra cash etc. If you want dinner dates, go on other sites where if you get feelings you wont be hurt etc.

[Mutinyonthecounty]

I would strongly counsel against getting involved emotionally with a Service Provider, regardless of whether you are single or not. It is a potentially bad combination.

You should not allow the 2 worlds to collide. In all the many years I have been involved in this, I have met many really nice and engaging girls. But you need to guard against what I would describe as inappropriate emotions.

You are buying a service from these girls. I’m not saying that all of them see us as walking ATMs, but the context of the relationship is transactional and commercial. Once it strays from that, I can imagine it would result in all kinds of complicated problems.

Of course, just my personal view based on my experience.

[Dogfather]

IAmNotFamous, why are you thinking of doing this?

[HailWood]

Ahh - I see why you started that other thread…

IMHO - it sounds like she likes you. Whether or not she likes you enough to date you, you won’t know unless you ask.

Whether you do or not is a matter of risk/reward. She agrees to a date, that’s a win. She says no and feels you have crossed a boundary then your current relationship is likely to change for the worse.

Good luck OP.

[versace]

Sorry to the mods for starting another thread. I’m crying out for some help and have no where to turn to.

If you piece together the threads I have started there is a theme.

As a background I’ve been seeing an SP regularly. So much so we now communicate on personal phones sharing personal non sexual photos asking how each other are and how our days our going sharing positive motivational messages. I even brought the SP a gift from a vacation I took. And she appreciated it.  I know about her life and she knows mine.

I took a break (to make sure it wasn’t an obsession or infatuation) but saw the SP again and now the feelings have erupted again. Can’t stop thinking about the SP.

I’m now at a point where I’m going to take the leap and ask the SP out. It’s going to be a huge dive because I’m happy to let the universe dictate where this leads to and how it looks and how it works. In fact, I will have no issues if the SP continued working. If they’re happy I’m happy.

Am I making a silly move?

Truth be told she may turn me down. Then we’ll be friends and I meet up and pay for a good time. But see less frequently to get over the infatuation. I’m confident she say yes.

Thoughts please? (Responses from Service provides on this forum I’d like to hear your views)

Let me be blunt with you mate. Wake up and Stop this nonsense obsession over this prostitute. Stop calling her a SP as in service provider, here is a reality check for you - She sells her body for money, she sucks dick for money. You might want to sugar coat things and call her a service provider etc. but in reality she is a whore who fucks loads of men every single day. That’s her job. Do you really think you will be happy for her to continue this line of work?! Of course not.

Stop obsessing over her, block her, delete her number and go punt other women.

[Timv]

You just want someone to justify you, nobody here will do.

Just do it and live with consequences.

[sensualencounter]

You’ve said you’re going to ask her, so do it and you’ll have your answer. Of course her job is to make you feel good but escorts are only human and it is possible for love to happen. But don’t be surprised if she isn’t in love with you, even if you are good friends. Not all friendships between men and women are because of mutual love.

As for making it a long term relationship, then there are so many things to consider that may have been hidden by the mists of love but again only time will tell.

And all this is assuming you’re free and single and not kidding yourself that you’re going to leave your wife and kids and lovely big house. Because that’s a whole other ballgame!!!

[MissWolf]

Dont do it, You will get hurt and being a escort cash is always king to them. She will likely ask for a reduce payment. Escorts dont do nothing for free.
She will just use this as an excuse to get extra cash etc. If you want dinner dates, go on other sites where if you get feelings you wont be hurt etc.

Oh do shut the fuck up you are like a broken record ffs 

[yandex]

You just want someone to justify you, nobody here will do.

Just do it and live with consequences.

+1

OP - I don't understand what you want from the forum 

If people don't encourage you to 'ask her out', you do so anyway and it goes tits up, it's your problem to deal with.
If people encourage you, you ask her out and it goes tits up, it's still your problem.
If people encourage/don't encourage you and you don't ask her out, you'll continue to agonise and eventually resort to one of the above.

You say you have no issues with her working as a prostitute, personally I don't think that's true given the other threads you have started, otherwise you'd have asked her already.

Ultimately just make a decision and move forward with your life.

[daviemac]

Dont do it, You will get hurt and being a escort cash is always king to them. She will likely ask for a reduce payment. Escorts dont do nothing for free.
She will just use this as an excuse to get extra cash etc. If you want dinner dates, go on other sites where if you get feelings you wont be hurt etc.

Will you give it a rest, 6 times you've posted this type of thing over several different threads.

You can't state your opinion as fact, you don't know how other people will react in any given situation. You can't know what an escort might do in any situation. I'll repeat what I said earlier.

You are obsessed with this, you are posting the same crap all over the forum, you can only speak fir yourself, you can't tell others what they should do or how they should think.

I suspect you are speaking from personal experience and at some stage you have discovered your partner was or has become an escort. I don't think you've joined this site as a punter but to vent your anger and I would suggest you seek professional help.

[willie loman]

whether a girl is a wg or not, they always make it obvious if they want asked out, ignore all these men of the world, who seem obsessed with girls sucking dick,do as you feel like,

[Poopster]

Has anyone ever followed the advice of others and been satisfied with it without finding out for themselves?  Have they fuck. 

OP, ask the lass out, you might get your heart broken, you might get rinsed, you might live happily ever after.  Go for it, you'll never know until you give it a go and no amount of advice either way will make a blind bit of difference.

[versace]

whether a girl is a wg or not, they always make it obvious if they want asked out, ignore all these men of the world, who seem obsessed with girls sucking dick,do as you feel like,

“Do as you feel like!” Is that the best you can come up with? That’s the worst advice possible.

The OP is obviously obsessed with the girl in question, creating all these threads etc. He stands to lose not only his money, but his heart, his pride and self worth in the process if he carries on the way he is. Best advice for him would be to Stop and walk away!

I wonder what your advice would be for a person who suffers with depression and has suicidal thoughts? Let me guess, just do as you feel like?! 

[Moby Dick]

In fact, I will have no issues if the SP continued working. If they’re happy I’m happy.

I thought it was just a date?
Getting social time for free?
This suggests you are expecting to live together / a “relationship”

Getting ahead of yourself 

Why not give her access to your bank accounts and credit cards.
See how long the “relationship” lasts.

[lillythesavage]

As a background I’ve been seeing an SP regularly. So much so we now communicate on personal phones sharing personal non sexual photos asking how each other are and how our days our going sharing positive motivational messages. I even brought the SP a gift from a vacation I took. And she appreciated it.  I know about her life and she knows mine.

So you are basing this on being given another number to contact a regular? And she replies to your messages?  . Can be a lonely life, especially in downtime, so a bit of friendly banter does not go amiss, more so if she is working away from home.

Most would not refuse a gift  .

Has she been charging you the going rate for your punts with her? Are you sure she is working alone?

From what you have said it is a classic case of befriending a friendly guy and keeping a handy regular, and you are overthinking it, are you ready for rejection if that happens?, from what you say you are not.

[willie loman]

“Do as you feel like!” Is that the best you can come up with? That’s the worst advice possible.

The OP is obviously obsessed with the girl in question, creating all these threads etc. He stands to lose not only his money, but his heart, his pride and self worth in the process if he carries on the way he is. Best advice for him would be to Stop and walk away!

I wonder what your advice would be for a person who suffers with depression and has suicidal thoughts? Let me guess, just do as you feel like?! 

i have no idea what the op is like, but i do know that sex workers and customers are always hooking up, if thats what you want , go for it.

[marc_hotsteppa]

Sounds like EAS.

Remember OP Punting isn't dating.

[tynetunnel]

The only way you’re going to find out, is to do it. Or die wondering!

You risk that she is so horror struck that she deletes your numbers and you never see her again. Equally there’s a chance that she’s been wanting this and that the two of you live happily ever after. Or possibly the outcome will be something in between

I think you know the answer. Life is a gamble, and you’ve got to be in it to win it. Let us know how it goes 

[ConanTheKuffar]

Don’t you think she would ask you out on a date if she wanted to be your girlfriend? Or do you think she is too shy?

[finn5555]

Do it if you can handle dating a woman who fucks every Tom Dick and Abdul for a living 👍🏻

Just remember most have issues you will have to contend with as well

[Lou2019]

Do it if you can handle dating a woman who fucks every Tom Dick and Abdul for a living 👍🏻

Just remember most have issues you will have to contend with as well

Another one posting repetitive nonsense 

[versace]

Do it if you can handle dating a woman who fucks every Tom Dick and Abdul for a living 👍🏻

Just remember most have issues you will have to contend with as well

Spot on! 

Another one posting repetitive nonsense 

Nonsense? Really? Everything he said is true though

[dexpunt]

I think you have to see it from her POV. she will be nice to the punters she likes so that she can rely on repeat business. Is it possible that you are confusing this professionalism for real affection?

[Lou2019]

Spot on! 

Nonsense? Really? Everything he said is true though

Most do not have issues, most of us are just boring normal run of the mill women just doing a job. Now I think I’m repeating myself 

[Poopster]

Most do not have issues, most of us are just boring normal run of the mill women just doing a job. Now I think I’m repeating myself 

I think we all know that isn't quite true.  Anyway, the point wasn't an attack on prostitutes, more that any man getting into a relationship with a prostitute has to come to terms with the fact that the love of his life is sucking dick left, right and centre. 

[Lou2019]

I think we all know that isn't quite true.  Anyway, the point wasn't an attack on prostitutes, more that any man getting into a relationship with a prostitute has to come to terms with the fact that the love of his life is sucking dick left, right and centre.

I disagree like I say, but these type of threads usual do end up as an attack on prostitutes. They always bring out the bitter SSs who have succumbed to EAS or hold some sort of deep hatred of us 

[Poopster]

I disagree like I say, but these type of threads usual do end up as an attack on prostitutes. They always bring out the bitter SSs who have succumbed to EAS or hold some sort of deep hatred of us 

That feels awfully like you've got something you want to accuse me of but are trying to stay on the right side of the line.

[versace]

I think we all know that isn't quite true.  Anyway, the point wasn't an attack on prostitutes, more that any man getting into a relationship with a prostitute has to come to terms with the fact that the love of his life is sucking dick left, right and centre.

Spot on again, in fact I’m willing to bet, she is sucking dick right now while the OP is reading these replies and continues to fantasise about her… oh well.

[Lou2019]

That feels awfully like you've got something you want to accuse me of but are trying to stay on the right side of the line.

Make of it what you will 

[JD1]

Ask her on a date and see what happens.. Could be a reality check for you if she says no or will only do it if you pay for her time. Or who knows.. maybe she will say yes and she would love to go on a date with you free of charge and you’ll get married and live happily ever after.

[Poopster]

SP moans about the potential for a thread turning into an attack on SPs, then throws out the tired old misogyny line at punters.  What a shocker.

[Doc Holliday]

OP - I don't understand what you want from the forum 

If people don't encourage you to 'ask her out', you do so anyway and it goes tits up, it's your problem to deal with.
If people encourage you, you ask her out and it goes tits up, it's still your problem.
If people encourage/don't encourage you and you don't ask her out, you'll continue to agonise and eventually resort to one of the above.

You say you have no issues with her working as a prostitute, personally I don't think that's true given the other threads you have started, otherwise you'd have asked her already.

Ultimately just make a decision and move forward with your life.

Agreed.

However he seems 'all over the place'?

And for the OP…falling in love with a SP is different to emotional attachment syndrome. I should know. I have the T-shirt lol

... so either his head is all over the place, or he is playing out a fantasy on the forum?

[Lou2019]

SP moans about the potential for a thread turning into an attack on SPs, then throws out the tired old misogyny line at punters.  What a shocker.

Yawn 🥱

[MissWolf]

... so either his head is all over the place, or he is playing out a fantasy on the forum?

Nailed it

[Poopster]

Yawn 🥱

Just what I was thinking.

[Lou2019]

Just what I was thinking.

Stop responding then lol

[yandex]

Nailed it

Agreed - you beat me to it

[Colston36]

Oh do shut the fuck up you are like a broken record ffs 

All these responses ignore the fact that everyone is different. I lived with an ex-call girl for two and half years when young. We split because she was insanely jealous - thought I was playing around. As George Bernard Shaw said, the golden rule is there is no golden rule.

[Jackinthebox22]

 can you just do it already and let us know how it goes please

Life is short so just do it

[Poopster]

Stop responding then lol

I'm not sure you understand the point of this forum.  We're all here as guests, but the forum is made for me, not you.

[versace]

All these responses ignore the fact that everyone is different. I lived with an ex-call girl for two and half years when young. We split because she was insanely jealous - thought I was playing around. As George Bernard Shaw said, the golden rule is there is no golden rule.

So you didn’t end up married with 3 kids living in a detached house?

Go figure

[Lou2019]

I'm not sure you understand the point of this forum.  We're all here as guests, but the forum is made for me, not you.

Yes I’m more than aware of that fact, I have been around for a lot longer than you

[Poopster]

Yes I’m more than aware of that fact, I have been around for a lot longer than you

Have you, aye?  So are you a previously banned returning user? 

[Lou2019]

Have you, aye?  So are you a previously banned returning user?

No? Why? If I was a previous banned user (SP) I wouldn’t have be able to return, right?

[Poopster]

No? Why? If I was a previous banned user (SP) I wouldn’t have be able to return, right?

Well it's just that you appear to have become a member here 4 years after I did, yet you're adamant that you've been around longer than I have.  I mean, boasting about length of membership is pretty dumb, but coupled with the fact it's inaccurate... well, that just makes you look silly.  Unless you're a returning banned user?