Falling for a W/G is the Biggest Mind-Fuck

[Ron89]

What i find most suprising Ron is that with 143 notched up reviews you've been hit with EAS for one particular girl. 

Yep I’ve never had a problem separating punting from emotions but this girl was my 10/10.

[usroads]

Maybe more realistic to go for an 8.5/10 civyland gal Ron - then work with her on the missing 1.5 bit?

[Asmodeus]

What i find most suprising Ron is that with 143 notched up reviews you've been hit with EAS for one particular girl. 

Funnily enough, that does make sense though... think about the old cliché of soul mates, and out of 8 billion people, there is one person you're destined to be with.

Statistics and all that would suggest that it isn't just going to be just "the one" though!

So 1/143 doesn't sound completely unrealistic for EAS! I would say my ratio is a bit lower, but I'm a sap!

[Stevelondon]

This is how it is. If the idea of a relationhip is coming on remember - whores are natural born liars, lying to family, friends and neighbours and they wil certainly be lying to you.

      As are punters.

[usroads]

Absolutely agree.

[Lou2019]

This is how it is. If the idea of a relationhip is coming on remember - whores are natural born liars, lying to family, friends and neighbours and they wil certainly be lying to you.

That’s a bit of a sweeping statement, just for the record we are NOT all natural born liars.

[usroads]

Apologies for the all inclusive statement Lou - but have you told your family, friends and neighbours you are a sex worker?

[Lou2019]

Apologies for the all inclusive statement Lou - but have you told your family, friends and neighbours you are a sex worker?

Why should it matter? have you told your family, friends and neighbours you visit sex workers 
Just for the record no I haven’t told my neighbours, why would I  it’s none of their business as they don’t feature in my life.

[usroads]

No of course I haven't Lou... that's why I agree we're all liars when it comes to punting and providing sexual services.

[Lou2019]

No of course I haven't Lou... that's why I agree we're all liars when it comes to punting and providing sexual services.

Again we are not all liars

[MysteryManNo.7]

I've managed to avoid EAS likely thanks to I've actually dated a WG and would not recommend it! I have also been asked out by a few and find it easy to turn them down thanks to my past experience.

I'm actually surprised I did not get EAS when I started in this hobby. I mean my reviews at first were very fluffy but apart from that I count myself lucky.

[MissWolf]

Again we are not all liars

I have to agree here with Lou

And yes my family know, my friends that matter know, some of my work colleagues know and while my boss doesn't know I'm a sw he knows I did it as a young woman in my late teens and he knows I run (deleted  this isn't freeads)

I'm sure at least some of my neighbours have figured it out after 6 years but they all still talk to me so 

[donro]

Happened to me with one WG a few years ago. So I can definitely relate to dreading her green light coming on and seeing reviews. Luckily for me, I’m quite a cold person emotionally, so it wasn’t too hard to deal with, and looking back, I can laugh about it now. Things that reinforced the EAS was allowing me huge chunks of extra time outside of the paid hour, Whatsapping and going for food. I like to think that experience has benefitted me now and I won’t fall for one again.

[usroads]

I have to agree here with Lou

And yes my family know, my friends that matter know, some of my work colleagues know and while my boss doesn't know I'm a sw he knows I did it as a young woman in my late teens and he knows I run Escortinghub

I'm sure at least some of my neighbours have figured it out after 6 years but they all still talk to me so 

That's all good Wolfie, but I'd bet sw's who are open and honest with family and friends about what they do are a very small minority.

[Lou2019]

That's all good Wolfie, but I'd bet sw's who are open and honest with family and friends about what they do are a very small minority.

Can I ask why this troubles you so much ?

[lamboman]

I have written a few. My first was published in 1964 - have banged out 7 or 8 since. Currently going mad because I'm collaborating on one with two other writers - tricky.

As a rule I put something out on line 5 days a week; this is just for fun, as with everyone else. I think writing about sex without making a fool of yourself is incredibly hard.

I am constantly amazed at how many people on here cannot spell or write properly. A terrible comment on how bad teachers are. Mind you, when you write about sex excitement easily takes over and you end up spewing out drivel.

Oh I had no idea where can one find these books?

[Link7]

Interesting post OP. You express yourself very well and I've enjoyed reading.

My honest take on this (which I hope doesnt sound scornful - not my intention at all) is that there's an element of immaturity to it. That's not to say you (and the many others who clearly experience this too) must be young, or that only young kids get EAS. But I do suspect an emotionally mature man is much less likely to.

You're only there for an hour or two (unless you go for overnights - which seems unwise at best if you're aware you have a predisposition to feeling this way) each time. And as nice as the girl may be, as friendly the exchange may be, it's undoubtedly a business transaction - how could it be mistaken for anything  else when you don't even know her last name and pay her to allow you access to her body? It would be different if you'd had an opportunity to really know or come to value something about her, but what are these feelings based on - isn't it fundamentally her body and willingness to satisfy your needs? Unless you are paying just to meet/talk, without also 'using' her, I'd suggest so. Having your needs tended to in an expert and charming manner can be enchanting, for sure - but it's a much less pure and actually far more self-centred thing than love. I guess we might call it infatuation, as opposed to love - but I'd suggest that it's a shallow and illusionary emotion.

As good as the service may be, sex is only a physical act. There's no meaning attached to it inherently. Developing genuine feelings for someone goes beyond the physical (and transforms the sex you have, by ascribing meaning to it). Such sex is fairly unrecognisable from the sex that you have with a prostitute. Perhaps this prossie gives great OWO for example - and great head is really great, don't get me wrong - but it's what she does for you that you 'love' (and/or how it makes you feel - which is still about your needs) not the person providing it. This also partly explains, I think, why you as a customer are consumed by jealousy - whereas, if a prossie is in a relationship/has a partner, that person may actually be more able to accept her job (since his feelings for her would likely transcend the physical).

I link this all to maturity mainly because I think that's what enables a person to see and appreciate things in their true context.

[Lou2019]

Oh I had no idea where can one find these books?

I’m rather intrigued also

[MissWolf]

That's all good Wolfie, but I'd bet sw's who are open and honest with family and friends about what they do are a very small minority.

20 or even 10 years ago I'd have agreed with you 100% and while I think they are still a minority I'd hazard a bet that the are growing in numbers.
Not to the extent I'd like to see, as for me I'd like this industry to be as open and acceptable as any other but thats for another thread I think as we are straying off topic from the original op 

[lamboman]

whores are natural born liars, lying to family, friends and neighbours and they wil certainly be lying to you.

That is such a crass term particularly as you use WGs.

[Lou2019]

but thats for another thread I think as we are straying off topic from the original op 

My fault I poked my nose in and went off on a tangent, just for a change 

[MissWolf]

My fault I poked my nose in and went off on a tangent, just for a change 

Not like you Lou 

[usroads]

Can I ask why this troubles you so much ?

It doesn't trouble me at all Lou - I'm just responding to your post.
I reckon that most, if not all, sw's are natural born liars and anyone who is bordering on EAS should be aware it's in no way reciprocated - any show of commitment is intended to deceive to keep the cash flow coming in.

[MissWolf]

It doesn't trouble me at all Lou - I'm just responding to your post.
I reckon that most, if not all, sw's are natural born liars and anyone who is bordering on EAS should be aware it's in no way reciprocated - any show of commitment is intended to deceive to keep the cash flow coming in.

But this I feel is where we need to be selective with what language we use and in what context.

Natural born liars in the way you used it can be seen very negatively,  like a slur, but you could say we are all natural born actors,  because essentially that is what we are doing, we are acting, is acting a form of lying? I guess so, but do we say all actors are natural born liers, no, we would say natural born performers?

[proton.punter]

I have written a few. My first was published in 1964 - have banged out 7 or 8 since. Currently going mad because I'm collaborating on one with two other writers - tricky.

As a rule I put something out on line 5 days a week; this is just for fun, as with everyone else. I think writing about sex without making a fool of yourself is incredibly hard.

I am constantly amazed at how many people on here cannot spell or write properly. A terrible comment on how bad teachers are. Mind you, when you write about sex excitement easily takes over and you end up spewing out drivel.

That makes a lot of sense, I always enjoy reading Colstons posts but never quite put my finger on why. I think it’s the perfect grammar paired with the depraved reviews that seem at odds with each other

I blame a lot of spelling mistakes on autocorrect by the way!

[usroads]

That would have been a better way of putting it Wolfie - my aplogies. However, the principle still holds true

[datwabbit]

I think falling for a sugar baby is a harder hit. Happened to me recently. You can know a lot more about her which increases the connection so when it's over, it can be a bit of a hit.

[usroads]

Whats the difference between a sugar baby and a whore? You're probably one of many sugar daddies she has.

[usroads]

Emotional entanglement with any sex worker is simply ludicrous

[Lou2019]

Whats the difference between a sugar baby and a whore? You're probably one of many sugar daddies she has.

Are you just trying to antagonise people as your comments don’t seem to be adding any worth to the discussion

[Lou2019]

Emotional entanglement with any sex worker is simply ludicrous

See my previous comment

[usroads]

Whilst we've gone off at a tangent - what really amuses me are the euphemisms we use - Escorts, Sugar Babies, Sex Workers etc are all  simply Prostitutes - clear and simple. I presume the euphemisms are used so as not to hurt the prostitute's finer feelings.

[JontyR]

Whilst we've gone off at a tangent - what really amuses me are the euphemisms we use - Escorts, Sugar Babies, Sex Workers etc are all  simply Prostitutes - clear and simple. I presume the euphemisms are used so as not to hurt the prostitute's finer feelings.

The converse is true, that your choice of language is used to deliberately try to cause offence.

[Nagilum]

Hey Ron, perfectly normal and perfectly natural what you have described. Some are a little more immune to this than others, but we are not impervious, no matter how hardened one pretends to be. It just means (as you said) that you met the ideal type and in any other scenario you would pursue her. I think we forget as punters that its a very intimate thing we are engaged in and sometimes feelings do develop and sometimes we choose to pursue it. Just read the many posts on here about punters that pursue and the perils.

Personally, I allow myself to feel attached to my regulars and the sex is better when you have an understanding, I see it more as a friendship at that point. I have had two instances where the girl has expressed interest and outright said it too. However, there is that line which I do not cross and as you said its a total mind fuck if you do.

Just enjoy it, visit her and continue doing what you do. Nobody here can tell you its wrong or what you should be doing, because we are individuals

*Edit Just saw your last post about the guy pounding her. That will do it alright.

Curiously who is the SP, no problem if you don't want to disclose 

[MissWolf]

Whilst we've gone off at a tangent - what really amuses me are the euphemisms we use - Escorts, Sugar Babies, Sex Workers etc are all  simply Prostitutes - clear and simple. I presume the euphemisms are used so as not to hurt the prostitute's finer feelings.

See again we are on the subject of language,  prostitute is absolutely right  no issues at all but whore is somewhat different and can be used as an insult, the tone of your post within which you used whore was where the problem lay and is what it making others react in the way they are.

But you are a smart man and you are fully aware of how your posts are coming across

Prostitutes are actual humans don't forget that

[JontyR]

My honest take on this (which I hope doesnt sound scornful - not my intention at all) is that there's an element of immaturity to it.

^^^This ^^^ particularly the jealousy element which seems off the scale. I used to have pretty bad jealousy when I was a young man. I think that shagging women that were attached or married and later punting really eroded this. Probably because you realise that everyone is shagging someone and it decreases emotional detachment.  Admittedly if you do struggle with jealousy, falling for a SP is just about the worst thing you could do.

I'd really want to know that the OP has read and considered DocH's post.  I think some of the obsessive behaviours and reactions expressed are worth some self reflection and investigation.

[Asmodeus]

... that there's an element of immaturity to it. That's not to say you (and the many others who clearly experience this too) must be young, or that only young kids get EAS. But I do suspect an emotionally mature man is much less likely to....

I respectfully disagree! We're all human, the human condition is to connect with others. Under the right circumstances, anyone is vulnerable to EAS. Does it make me emotionally immature to want to connect with someone who gives me equal back? Or does it just make me someone who is happy to give and receive affection?

...It would be different if you'd had an opportunity to really know or come to value something about her...

And herein lies the rub! For me, EAS had developed when I have found out more about a WG. I knew a lot about my first EAS WG in a short amount of time... where she lived, what her surname was, how many children she had etc. Our relationship transcended more than just physical quickly. Don't get me wrong the physical was and always was great, but we had a connection where we could talk to each other about anything and everything, without ever feeling judged.

I mentioned previously I got jealous because I wanted exclusivity with her. I knew she was fucking other guys, didn't care about that. But she had a particularly close relationship with some guy. I wanted that for me! Oh what a tangled web (mess) we weave for ourselves!

[lillythesavage]

Emotional entanglement with any sex worker is simply ludicrous

Why is that then? Because they are not human?

Read my posts on the subject of monogamy, and you would think I can handle it and do not give a fuck, but as @colston has pointed out very early on, the lifestyle leads you to get entangled at times, I have stated I have moved in after meeting on a punt, got entangled in all sorts of ways at different points in my life, some not good that most would walk away from and ignore.

It happens, @Payyourwaymate has taken stick for comments similar to yours, just not so ignorant, and put his hands up when he got a little  ENTANGLED, life throws curve balls, shit happens, sometimes good things happen. You never know where anything will lead unless you follow it.

The hardest part of life is knowing when to twist and when to throw your hand in, getting out at the right time, but in your obviously insular life the cards are set out in your mind. You ain,t got a winning hand.

[Colston36]

Oh I had no idea where can one find these books?

As you can imagine, the last thing I want to do is tell the world who I am. One member has worked it out, but is discreet and that's enough.

[Colston36]

I’m rather intrigued also

Curiously enough several ladies I see know who I am and this doesn't worry me. You're not one as we've never met, though I'm pretty sure I would trust you.

[Colston36]

That is such a crass term particularly as you use WGs.

Agree 100%. A hypocritical slimebag.

[lamboman]

As you can imagine, the last thing I want to do is tell the world who I am. One member has worked it out, but is discreet and that's enough.

I'll find them  but will be discreet.

[Tomcat]

lts a paid for shag.lts her job to make you feel special and it sounds as if she is doing a damn good job of it.lf you find yourself developing feelings for a WG,the best thing to do is move on and find another .....it is only ever going to end badly.This topic has been discussed at length before and the end result is nearly always the same.Find ,fuck and flee

So true, it's all about money then giving that special person feeling, I can hear the tills going kerching kerching

[WelshClipper]

So true, it's all about money then giving that special person feeling, I can hear the tills going kerching kerching

Honestly some wgs take the ‘special person’ feeling to another level and they can do it poker faced as well.

I hate the line ‘Your wife is a lucky person’   ..............NO!! 

[Colston36]

Whilst we've gone off at a tangent - what really amuses me are the euphemisms we use - Escorts, Sugar Babies, Sex Workers etc are all  simply Prostitutes - clear and simple. I presume the euphemisms are used so as not to hurt the prostitute's finer feelings.

Curiously and eccentrically enough I usually call them ladies or women = unless they're young in which case I guess girls is ok. .

[Colston36]

Emotional entanglement with any sex worker is simply ludicrous

This is a sweeping and even silly remark. I have come across and even engaged in "emotional entanglements" with women who were not "sex workers". I imagine many men have, And the "entanglements" were just as stupid, ill-advised and often far more costly. Paul McCartney's second marriage comes to mind for one,

[lamboman]

Are you just trying to antagonise people as your comments don’t seem to be adding any worth to the discussion

Spot on.

[Stevelondon]

Emotional entanglement with any sex worker is simply ludicrous

Is this another of your sweeping, know it all statements based on what exactly. ?

I've read through some threads lately, but your posts in this one have been ludicrous if nothing else.

[WelshClipper]

I use whatever term comes to mind at the time. The English language is riddled with words of very similar meaning. In fact I was taught in school never to use the same word ( noun, verb) in the same sentence.

In general I use Working Girl more than anything else but swap in the odd Escort or Prostitute if I am using WG too many times.

[usroads]

Based on personal experience SL