Forming a relationship with a WG

[Stud01]

I am sure everyone has a regular girl that they punt with, Is it possible to develop feelings for a WG or even have a friend relationship?

There is one particular girl who is a regular and have been seeing coming up to 8 years in January. I have punted with so many different girls (some are other regulars) over the years to get my head away from her but I always end up going back. Worse yet, her service has been shit recently and strictly business like. I don't know what I can do to get away from her as I think I may have to admit that I have fallen for her.

I know I might get hammered for this but what the fuck do I do? 

[Spunky34]

Go and see someone else?  If your reg asks why, tell her that her service has declined.  You don't owe her anything.

[Troydor69]

If her service has just turned shit maybe she knows how you feel and doesn't want to give you the wrong signals. Might sound harsh but probably best to get away from her and get with other WGs.

I find that shooting my load into a tight 21 year old pussy tends to take my mind off a lot of my problems.

[Stud01]

thanks guys for the legit responses. Believe me when I say I have punted with so many other girls over the years to forget about her. I still can't though. I think you are right Troydor, she may know.

[daviemac]

thanks guys for the legit responses. Believe me when I say I have punted with so many other girls over the years to forget about her. I still can't though. I think you are right Troydor, she may know.

Try putting EAS in the search facility, there's loads of posts on the subject.   

[Home Alone]

Why would you want to? Not dissing our SPs; but don't you realise she's a woman you pay for a shag?

Many years ago, my mantra on the 'small black volume' was that, "I punted for a shag; not a relationship."

Then I developed E.A.S. for a WG. BIG mistake! It got to a stage where I was actually enjoying punts with another  SP more than I was with the woman for whom I had E.A.S.

Long story short, I stopped seeing the one for whom I developed E.A.S. & saw a WG with whom I developed a good rapport. She's astute enough to know I might develop E.A.S for her so she's now encouraging me to see a variety of other WGs. Which I'm doing, hence the variety of FRs I've posted recently.

[chet]

chances are that Troydore69 is most probably right . . , there are some pretty bright cookies out there and their experiences help them identify when punters may be getting a little too close. It can work both ways of course but, you could always just broach the subject but suggest you prepare yourself for the answer you're not looking for. 
Then you'll know . . . , and just have to accept it & walk away. 

Banging away at other WG's doesn't always disperse the emotional attachment . .  . , but as it may not have been her fault to begin with, you can try changing your feelings about her by starting to build up the dislike in the way that you now feel she is treating you. She may actually be trying to help you here. 

Good Luck with this one. 

[JV547845]

I hate to be all like a teenage girl's agony aunt but for Fuck's Sake

HAVE YOU TRIED TALKING TO HER??!!

[Stud01]

Bloody hell, did not ever come across the term EAS before. That's what I have. 

Tbh, I would not even know what to say to her or how to even begin. I am getting the impression that she knows and is being distant now.

One thing I don't get though is when we usually meet, it is really great and a fun time. However, communicating with her when not face to face via calls and messages, she is completely different and abrupt. I don't tend to contact her unless I am trying to meet her. Then I get mixed signals when she texts me occasionally for general conversation. 

[Spunky34]

She sees you as a punter, not as a boyfriend, or even as a friend, most likely.    When she texts you it isn't for general conversation, it's to see if you want a paid meet.  That's why it seems like she is giving mixed signals unless you are seeing her for a meet.

Sorry if that sounds harsh, but it's the truth.

[bigmanbigman]

May be ask her for a free no payment meet it may help you from the answer she gives

[stevedave]

8 years? Christ, that's longer than any civvy relationship I've had, let alone a WG!

Stick a link up, sit back and read all the reviews from your punting brethren...seeing countless other guys plough through her should help disattach some of the emotion.

Harsh, buy true.

And yeah, I'd say if her service has become lacklustre it's probably as she may know the score. Or she's just completely taking you for granted, she sees you as a cash cow, a regular bundle of twenties and nowt more.

[Scotpunter]

Bloody hell, did not ever come across the term EAS before. That's what I have. 

Tbh, I would not even know what to say to her or how to even begin. I am getting the impression that she knows and is being distant now.

One thing I don't get though is when we usually meet, it is really great and a fun time. However, communicating with her when not face to face via calls and messages, she is completely different and abrupt. I don't tend to contact her unless I am trying to meet her. Then I get mixed signals when she texts me occasionally for general conversation. 

Sorry to be blunt, but have you considered she maybe considers you a bit of a nuisance when your messaging or calling her with random daily shit.

Imagine you are a waiter and have a regular customer. You obviously will have that bit extra banter with them which comes with knowing that customer a bit more than most. However, if that customer were to text you when you were on your night out having a meal with friends, you would think to yourself, thats a bit cheeky and presumptious. It is likely this girl views you in that way, it is a job for her.

[Stud01]

I can't put her link up or reveal her profile. The responses would be too much for me to take. 

Yes, almost 8 years which is why it is really difficult for me. I have never bargained with her over fees. Sometimes we have overran but usually the booking is organised and completed on time.

Fact is I know that to her, I am just another couple hundred quid for the day, who does not give a shit or gives a minutes thought about me once I leave her location. Yet, I am still drawn to her!

[James999]

Tell her you have grown to respect her in her own right, and you no longer wish to treat her as a pro$$ie and as such you will not be paying her for sex anymore as you feel that would degrade your relationship, you will continue to make love to her (Shag her) but just not cheapening it by paying her.

Should do the trick 

[MrMatrix]

Its not easy to break out of EAS, even when you haven't seen your favourite prossie for a couple of years. Trust me they are only interested in your money. She has been a good SP to you and thats her job- she's good at it.
Of course you could just ask her up front what the problem is and walk if you feel pissed off.The preceding advice should be a good guide. Best of luck OP, its not easy to break away. 

[Spunky34]

I can't put her link up or reveal her profile. The responses would be too much for me to take. 

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Fact is I know that to her, I am just another couple hundred quid for the day, who does not give a shit or gives a minutes thought about me once I leave her location. Yet, I am still drawn to her!

Sorry, for me this thread has just passed over into attention seeking now. 

[smiley9]

A good WG will make You feel Special and that you are a cut above her other punters! You are Not !!! 

[Stud01]

not sure how I am looking for attention here! Anyways, thanks to all for the points today, I am genuinely going to make an effort to lose contact and stay away from her now. See if it makes any difference.

[HughJardon]

Don't continue paying for Bad service though,  that's just mental. As the poster above says, there's nothing quite like fucking a 21 year old stunner to get your mind off matters.

But It does sound like your feelings are not being reciprocated,  it's time to man up and move on.

[Muffdiver39]

My number 1 of my punting commandments is

"these hoes ain't loyal"

[CheeseBoard]

Sounds like you need a clean break
1) Delete any messages between you
2) Clear out any call history logs
3) Block her number
4) Delete her number

That way you'll be rid and are forced to go elsewhere, and she will realise her cash cow regular has wised up and seen her for what she is.  Just a shag

CB

[chet]

. . . why not PM a couple of sensible WG's here on this site to get their take on it . . . , there are quite a few despite what some may say . . , and it always helps to get a another view point!

You have nothing to loose.

[bigmanbigman]

You are now thinkong about doing something so that is the first step .

[James999]

. . . why not PM a couple of sensible WG's here on this site to get their take on it . . . , there are quite a few despite what some may say . . , and it always helps to get a another view point!

You have nothing to loose.

Are you one of them?

[GreyDave]

  pop down to the local coffee shop have Quattro expresso, throw away your punting phone and get a new one other wise you will be throwing away more cash and time

[bigmanbigman]

Are you one of them?

i agree this poster is a wg . ?

[Jonestown]

Let's be honest if after eight years you two haven't got it together and formed a relationship you are never going to.

[Monsieur69]

I saw one WG for more than 5 years and mostly only her. I had a really bad case of EAS. It was like being a teenager again and emotionally very hard, an obsession with a much younger beautiful woman but nevertheless a whore who had up to 8 men a day.
I even told her about it and she just said " It's up to you whether you cum and see me or not. I can handle being a friend and a SP if you can " Anyhow after a while, she began to fall for me also. I helped her through some bad times and we became very good friends. At this stage she said " Look I really like you a lot but I don't want to have paid for sex with you any more, so please see other SPs " When I reminded her that she had said she could handle paid for sex and friendship, she relied " Well that was business wasn't it! "
So in conclusion ( at last! ) by all means be friends with a whore.
Good friendship is hard to find.
Sex isn't.
Keep the 2 separate otherwise you will regret it.
Did you really want to be a SPs partner?

[JV547845]

I saw one WG for more than 5 years and mostly only her. At this stage she said " Look I really like you a lot but I don't want to have paid for sex with you any more, so please see other SPs "

Ouch dude.  A hell of a  reminder that no means no.

[bigmanbigman]

A wg has a pussy to make money but also some heart
So doesnt not want heart ache  that simple

[MrMatrix]

I saw one WG for more than 5 years and mostly only her. I had a really bad case of EAS. It was like being a teenager again and emotionally very hard, an obsession with a much younger beautiful woman but nevertheless a whore who had up to 8 men a day.
I even told her about it and she just said " It's up to you whether you cum and see me or not. I can handle being a friend and a SP if you can " Anyhow after a while, she began to fall for me also. I helped her through some bad times and we became very good friends. At this stage she said " Look I really like you a lot but I don't want to have paid for sex with you any more, so please see other SPs " When I reminded her that she had said she could handle paid for sex and friendship, she relied " Well that was business wasn't it! "
So in conclusion ( at last! ) by all means be friends with a whore.
Good friendship is hard to find.
Sex isn't.
Keep the 2 separate otherwise you will regret it.
Did you really want to be a SPs partner?

Thanks for the story Monsieur, brings it more into focus that we should keep friendship and sex apart when it comes to WG's. I too got caught out some time ago. An expensive lesson learned. 

[Belisknor]

Been there too got to a point that I preferred the chat afterwards more than the main event  Were pretty good friends for a while ( used to speak a lot on the phone for 3 hours or more ) but she dropped me like a hot potato as soon as she retired from escorting and haven't heard from her since.

My advice when money is involved and your paying for there time you ultimately can't trust them as you have no idea what there agenda is with you.

[MrMatrix]

Been there too got to a point that I preferred the chat afterwards more than the main event  Were pretty good friends for a while ( used to speak a lot on the phone for 3 hours or more ) but she dropped me like a hot potato as soon as she retired from escorting and haven't heard from her since.

My advice when money is involved and your paying for there time you ultimately can't trust them as you have no idea what there agenda is with you.

I know, me too I liked the chat. I too was dropped in the same way, don't you feel a complete tart when you realise whats happened. Mine is still escorting but I will never contact her again even though I do think about her. 

[Belisknor]

Have come to the conclusion that you can't get to friendly with escorts, be nice yes but don't get to attached these girls are ruthless and manipulative and will do and say anything to keep the money coming in regularly and if they can talk there way through most of the booking even better for them.


Ironically I made the mistake of telling another escort that I had became far to friendly with another escort and it wasn't long before she was trying to manipulate me into thinking I had a shot with her too until I mentioned the money issue and the excuse she came up with was "while I really like you and would be interested in a relationship, I'd like to get to know you a bit better as I need to be sure your not just after free sex "

So in conclusion if your paying don't fall for the charm only way to be sure it's real is to say you know longer wish to pay then see how they react, my bet with the majority it won't be the answer you want and it's the only way to be sure there not playing you for a fool !!!

Don't trust them there a bunch of cunts !!!

[Home Alone]

Have come to the conclusion that you can't get to friendly with escorts, be nice yes but don't get to attached these girls are ruthless and manipulative and will do and say anything to keep the money coming in regularly and if they can talk there way through most of the booking even better for them.


Ironically I made the mistake of telling another escort that I had became far to friendly with another escort and it wasn't long before she was trying to manipulate me into thinking I had a shot with her too until I mentioned the money issue and the excuse she came up with was "while I really like you and would be interested in a relationship, I'd like to get to know you a bit better as I need to be sure your not just after free sex "

So in conclusion if your paying don't fall for the charm only way to be sure it's real is to say you know longer wish to pay then see how they react, my bet with the majority it won't be the answer you want and it's the only way to be sure there not playing you for a fool !!!

Don't trust them there a bunch of cunts !!!

This will come across fluffier than I mean it to, but I'd say there are exceptions to every rule.

[Belisknor]

This will come across fluffier than I mean it to, but I'd say there are exceptions to every rule.

Your probably right I tend to be a bit fluffy at times myself which could well explain why some girls seem to target me !!! Just be careful if it sounds to good to be true it probably is !!!

[bigmanbigman]

Best your get is 10 mins free at end of booking ( love no come back yes .pay yes )

[Muffdiver39]

They only want your money!

We only want their pussy!

Simple

[MilleMiglia]

Your probably right I tend to be a bit fluffy at times myself which could well explain why some girls seem to target me !!! Just be careful if it sounds to good to be true it probably is !!!

Very accurate. I read something recently with regards to gold diggers/rinsers - you may think that you have the measure of the woman, and can handle her, but the fact is, she chose you because you can't. Some of these women are very perceptive, not to mention manipulative, and can spot an easy/vulnerable target a mile off.

[bdc82]

At risk of ridicule, EAS?

[tesla]

Emotional Attachment Syndrome

but you could try the search facility next time you have a question

[pking_paul]

A wg has a pussy to make money but also some heart
So doesnt not want heart ache  that simple

But pussy ache is fine? 

Just to say it sounds to me as if she has got the measure of you I'm afraid, she knows how you feel but wants to still make a bob or two. So easy to slip into EAS, especially if it has been that long.

Look after number 1 pal

[Belisknor]

Very accurate. I read something recently with regards to gold diggers/rinsers - you may think that you have the measure of the woman, and can handle her, but the fact is, she chose you because you can't. Some of these women are very perceptive, not to mention manipulative, and can spot an easy/vulnerable target a mile off.

Agree with you 100% re spotting an easy target I may convey that sometimes so try to stay away from seeing escorts more than three times total and any sign of manipulating me then I don't go back period.

[Mr_Shins]

It happens a lot.

Maybe sometimes the WG doesn't want to continue doing it and would happily form a relationship with a favourite client, but you have to be careful not to get too involved if it is not reciprocated.

It is far easier for us to walk away and stop seeing someone.

I have got involved myself with some of these women in a way deeper than just a punter->WG relationship.

[Belisknor]

Have a feeling that a few of us who have commented on this thread deep down are looking for more than just sex in there lives (myself included) and use escorts to fulfill the physical side so are maybe more susceptible to being manipulated by escorts who pick up on it.

[Madone1]

The quickest cure for EAS is ask for a freebie the reply will help you put everything into perspective. Then go for a clean start with some new hottie there are plenty out there.

[MilleMiglia]

Have a feeling that a few of us who have commented on this thread deep down are looking for more than just sex in there lives (myself included) and use escorts to fulfill the physical side so are maybe more susceptible to being manipulated by escorts who pick up on it.

+1

[bdc82]

Emotional Attachment Syndrome

but you could try the search facility next time you have a question

cheers i did have a look but didn't see the meaning anywhere. Thanks

[Mr_Shins]

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