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riskyricky88

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Good day all, I'm a virgin at 28 looking to get the deed over with and hopefully lose my fear of sex and girls lol I'm in east midlands area and looking for any suggestions on girls that are noob friendly I guess. Been spending a lot of time on AW looking for a girl around my age or younger, but I dont want to come out feeling more insecure than when I went in. I want a girl with patience, whos not gonna be freaked out and can possibly teach me a few things. Im looking for a slim girl, nothing against bigger ladies its just not my thing. Again someone with patience to put up with my nervousness and any issues that may arise from that.. or not arise lol

Maybe I'm over thinking it and anyone will do, but thought I would ask here. I am local but travel is possibe. Thanks chaps
« Last Edit: April 20, 2017, 04:39:54 pm by riskyricky88 »

Offline Jamesbattersea

Dude, i only started punting a couple of years ago myself and it started by visting a massage place to get my back done but was offered a happy ending and descided to take up thd offer i loved it and it was an easy way to brake yourself in. No pressure to perform, it's realaxed and it's all about your enjoyment they will not judge you if you cum quick or don't come all. They massge you, which should clam your nerves then you get a body 2 body massage which is a lovely feeling having a naked fit girl sliding up and down your naked body (i like this as much as the hand job at the end) then a nice oily hand job to realis the pressure on the valve.
I suggest you have a wank a couple of hours before you go so your not too trigger happy.
Once you've got the first experuence out the way you can have the confidence to move on to better things like the full works like a WG that does massage then finishs you with the full service.
Just a suggestion but i think a good way to go about it.
What kind of women do you like ?
Where do you live?
I can recomend bubbles in nottinghan or heavens above in Lincoln as a garenteed Happy ending massage (no full sex though) Channel would be a good first time girl as she is very aperthetic and gives great service.
« Last Edit: April 20, 2017, 10:13:43 pm by Jamesbattersea »

riskyricky88

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Thanks for the suggestion, anything to ease me into would help. I'm actually really into asian girls, but anything thats got a nice body really. I'm actualy in the Nottingham area, thanks for the advice man, I'll look into it.

Offline Steely Dan

Choose who you like.  The escorts with multiple positives have that since they are liked by many - Mandy and Lucie and Woofie and other top girls on the list are fine for a new punter too.

Start with a girl you fancy.

I trust you have read the wiki (link below).  Don't be tricked by myths.

Offline PepeMAGA

have you tried meeting a girl conventionally?
having nerves is tough, but given enough exposure, youll change.
losing your virginity to a WG seems drastic to me.

Offline Jamesbattersea

have you tried meeting a girl conventionally?
having nerves is tough, but given enough exposure, youll change.
losing your virginity to a WG seems drastic to me.

I agree it is a bit drastic especialy in these days that iternet dating is normal.
 I was 22 when i lost my V which is quite old but only cos i had a drunken roll around with a friend she was n't my type but it didn't matter it was easier with a friend. I didn't have a proper girlfriend though till i was 30 so i know how you feel it's like the fear of rejection makes you turn to jelly and you chicken out of asking girls out. It will happen for you i've now been married for 15 years.
If you like asian girls poni thai orchid in nottingham has a lot of good reveiws on here i saw a girl called lilly that was lovely and freindly i don't know if she still works there but she also worked as a carer a care home. I've always found Thai girls better than chinese. There are loads of threads on here about oriental massage places in nottingham .
Maybe if you just go for a simple massage and Happy ending it will give you the confidence that you need to go on an internet date. Don't just go for your ideal woman on a dating site because they don't really exist and every man needs to shag a few mingers sometime in his life they make the good ones even better.

Offline Jamesbattersea

Oh dude just thought!
Mimi at bubbles in Nottinghan is Asian but Indian rather than oriental.
She's a british born indian that has a really pretty face, fantasic tits, lovely body, softly well spoken and really nice personality she's inteligent and nnice to talk to as well. 9.5 out of 10. If you like asians.

Perfect!

riskyricky88

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have you tried meeting a girl conventionally?
having nerves is tough, but given enough exposure, youll change.
losing your virginity to a WG seems drastic to me.

I find it difficult tbh, I know it sounds drastic but I'm nearly 30 (op says 28, but I fucked up I'm actually 29). its hard to even try for me, because I get this feeling I'm gonna be a failure, she'll laugh, walk out, tell her friends and so on. Its embarrasing and girls can be cruel and I have enough pschological issues as it is without feeling worse. Conventional girls are looking for a good time, I've only kissed one girl when I was drunk at 18 and I cant even remember that, no confidence when it comes to sex.

I don't even know If I could get hard, never experiencing something with a real girl. Or I cum instantly. Neither of which I want to do with a girl I meet and possibly want a relationship with or even just fun times. Shes after fun times too, an escort just wants my money and isn't going to tell all her friends about the creepy experience with a near 30 yr old virgin.

It seems drastic? I've been going so long without any, its frustrating, I just want to get it over with. Virginity is not special to me, it doesn't bother me to have to pay to lose, I feel I'll come out better knowing I can fuck and what to expect, and will confidently be able to meet girls knowing I can even perform. Basically I want the akward part gone so I can move on with life.

Thanks for your concern though mate.
« Last Edit: April 21, 2017, 05:12:29 pm by riskyricky88 »

riskyricky88

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Cheers James, it is difficult. For me its more knowing my dick will even respond well or just be like "who this?" And shrink away. So maybe I'll try a massage and happy ending, at least I'll find out.

Hard shagger

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Do yourself a favour and book an appointment with Riley in Mansfield, I think she would be the perfect lady to loose your virginity to

mediumjoe

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Well Ricky, sorry to hear that you are worried what the girls will think of your first time, please believe me when I say that at least half the wg's that I have seen have been really nice helpful and kind, the sort of women who would love to " mother " you through this.

I think you should stay away from parlours till you are a bit more experienced. Suggest an independent in her own property to put you at your ease.

Others will give opinions, one of the first I saw who was as described above was Naughty Nina in Lincoln, feel sure she would be good for you.

 Very best of luck, you are worrying too much about it - break your duck & get it over with.  Joe

Offline geoff 1171

Completely agree with rec to go to Riley, the perfect personality for a first timer and a great service as well. Good luck.

Offline nickshadow

best thing is don't tell them it's your first time or that your a virgin, it's more obvious if a girl is a virgin than a guy, trust me that when things start moving along, nature will take it's course and you'll wonder what all the fuss was about before hand.

Offline Steely Dan

best thing is don't tell them it's your first time or that your a virgin, it's more obvious if a girl is a virgin than a guy, trust me that when things start moving along, nature will take it's course and you'll wonder what all the fuss was about before hand.
That is your view.  The more common view shared on this site, and on UKE, is it is best to tell them.  A top rated girly like Riley or any of the other top rated girls wont take advantage.  It is true a poor girl might take advantage - hence why a new punter should really not TOFTT.

Offline Jamesbattersea

So Tricky Ricky have you been for the big day yet?
How did it go.?
Don't keep uz all in suspence!

Offline jayuk99

i remember my first parlour visit, up close to a pussy just wanted to lick it, but i got starter in a BJ and lasted all of a minute, ANother visited i rememebr my entry into a pussy and again lasted mintues.
Over time - you will end up lasting longer and getting your moneys worth, i would go for the cheapest option in the first few visits

Offline egamar

I would not visit a parlour for my first time, I have visited one only once (Victoria House in Lutterworth), and I found it a bit clinical for my liking.

I lost my virginity in an upmarket whorehose in Amsterdam (the Yap Yum Club, IIRC). It was a memorable experience - it would have been more memorable if I hadn't had to get thoroughly intoxicated to overcome my nervousness.  My boss paid, btw ...

I would not go for a girl your age - you might find the pressure of 'measuring up' (in both senses of the phrase) a bit too much, especially if she's a stunner.

Me? I'd go for an older lady with a 'kind' profile.  Me?  I'd let her know in advance of your adventure and establish a bit of a dialogue (not too much though - it can be seen as time-wasting) so that she knows what's what and gives you an idea of what to expect.   Maybe (depending on your finances) if she offers 'direct chat' via AW you could talk to her that way, and she'd know you are not a TW.

I have enjoyed many excellent experience with independent escorts and only one or two disappointing ones - I think the secret to success is research: find a lady you like the look of, read her profile and see if something clicks with you, read her reviews, make contact.   Don't rush - and expect to enjoy the experience.  If you do come in the first minute (and I imagine many of us have!) then if you've established a dialogue (or at let let her know of your situation) I'm sure you'll come again  :rolleyes:

Me? I'm looking to end a longgggg period of chastity, but at 60 and being a very fat bloke I myself am having to screw up my own courage.

Good Luck!
« Last Edit: May 04, 2017, 11:33:52 am by egamar »

riskyricky88

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Wow thanks a lot for the info guys, its much appreciated. Sorry I've not got back any sooner. I've not gone theough with the deed as of yet because of bloody work keeping me busy past couple of weeks. But I'm still itching for it and am going to have a look through this week and hopefully get something sorted in the next couple of weeks. Just gotta get over my nervousnes. I've been thinking of going with a independent escort off aw over a parlour. Thinking it might be more straightforward, maybe just get an hour session and see what happens, maybe just a bj maybe the full works Depending on performance. Again, thanks for the help.

Offline fearofthedark

Thought I would post here as saves having another thread, if thats not a good idea just tell me and i'll make my own post.

after completing a B2B with happy ending the other day to get over my nerves and push me to try going for full service.  So with that in mind is there anyone close to Loughborough, (Thats not too hard to get to as i'm on foot/public transport) that you would advise for a first time full service.  Was thinking maybe just a blow and go, again work my way up type of thing.  I've looked through the reviews and there is a couple like Tolly that have caught my eye but don't know how they are handling newbies. 

Sillypig

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I'd personally vouch for an VIP b2b massage with jaquzi fun at Bubbles in Nottingham. Very very sensual and erotic. I've seen Nikita myself. It will get you used to being intimate with a sexy lady, and no pressure to perform as it's happy ending.  :thumbsup:

Offline Steely Dan


after completing a B2B with happy ending the other day to get over my nerves and push me to try going for full service. 
May I suggest the opposite?  If you don't deeply want full sex then don't.  Real punting is expensive, risky, and so on.  It is not some goal to be reached.  No one is judging you and we are just pixels so as if you care anyway.

So if you are not so desperate for a shag that you you throw money and caution to the wind, perhaps save your money and stick to a massage with HE?

Offline Jamesbattersea


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For this kind of thing I wouldn't book a working girl as it will be an awful experience for your first time. Have a coupe of happy ending massages with some of the Thais or Chinese. Slap their arse and grope them a bit. But for the big one, save up a few quid and take a trip to Barcelona, or even better Thailand, where you'll be able to get a girl for the whole night / week and feel a lot better about it all.

Offline Steely Dan

For this kind of thing I wouldn't book a working girl as it will be an awful experience for your first time. Have a coupe of happy ending massages with some of the Thais or Chinese. Slap their arse and grope them a bit. But for the big one, save up a few quid and take a trip to Barcelona, or even better Thailand, where you'll be able to get a girl for the whole night / week and feel a lot better about it all.
So your advice is don't book a working girl, save up and book a working girl?

Randolph

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So your advice is don't book a working girl, save up and book a working girl?

Save up and get a decent one that isn't gonna kick you out after an hour. Plus, if he likes it he can pig out for the next few days of his trip and forget ever being a virgin while getting plenty of practice in, too  :cool:

Offline Jamesbattersea

For this kind of thing I wouldn't book a working girl as it will be an awful experience for your first time. Have a coupe of happy ending massages with some of the Thais or Chinese. Slap their arse and grope them a bit. But for the big one, save up a few quid and take a trip to Barcelona, or even better Thailand, where you'll be able to get a girl for the whole night / week and feel a lot better about it all.



We all know about Thai working girls. But is Bacalona famous for it's gifls as well? I would love to know more. It will be soo much easier to get a weekend end away with the lads in Barcalona than in Bangkok. Wife won't be suspisious.!
Plus Spanish girls are lovley.

Offline womanlover



We all know about Thai working girls. But is Bacalona famous for it's gifls as well? I would love to know more. It will be soo much easier to get a weekend end away with the lads in Barcalona than in Bangkok. Wife won't be suspisious.!
Plus Spanish girls are lovley.

Can I come too!

Offline Jamesbattersea

Can I come too!

Yeah man! The more the merrier.
We just need to know were now.

riskyricky88

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Well I'm back again and still a virgin lol, I've been browsing some more through AW and being a bit of a picky bugger really. But I don't want to regret it you know.. anyway I've been looking at darlingsophies page for a few days now, and finally have some time off to make the booking. Im thinking the first one will be a disater anyway on my part so might as well get stuck in.

I see a lot of people recommending massage and HE but I can just get this from an escort anyway, right? Plus a shag if I'm up to it lol

Any opinions on sophie? She looks great in her pictures, I know you guys have given me plenty of suggestions already and you've been a big help.

Offline Picti

My advice would be:

1/ Choose someone with a good reputation for comms, reliability, etc. If you're already anxious about the sexual aspect then the more smoothly everything else runs the better.

2/ It might seem intimidating to have your first experience with a well-known, popular WG, but they achieve that status and reputation for good reasons. So choose someone consistently well reviewed on here (perhaps especially for GFE). She'll probably love the opportunity to take a cherry, as it'll be a nice contrast to dealing with all us hardened punters.

3/ Openly explain your situation by e-mail as you'll feel less anxious about less direct contact initially. Then maybe ask for a brief phone chat to get over the hurdle of speaking to her directly. Don't overdo the comms though, you might want lots of reassurance but it's easy come over as a timewaster.

4/ Go and enjoy the experience, then break your UKP review cherry.

There are other potentially good options, including some of those mentioned above. Sophie would also be a good choice as she's intelligent, caring, etc.


Online MajorPayne

Good day all, I'm a virgin at 28 looking to get the deed over with and hopefully lose my fear of sex and girls lol I'm in east midlands area and looking for any suggestions on girls that are noob friendly I guess. Been spending a lot of time on AW looking for a girl around my age or younger, but I dont want to come out feeling more insecure than when I went in. I want a girl with patience, whos not gonna be freaked out and can possibly teach me a few things. Im looking for a slim girl, nothing against bigger ladies its just not my thing. Again someone with patience to put up with my nervousness and any issues that may arise from that.. or not arise lol

Maybe I'm over thinking it and anyone will do, but thought I would ask here. I am local but travel is possibe. Thanks chaps

whether you decide to go to a parlour or an independent, do some research and this way you are less likely to be disappointed.   You may wish to consider staying away from Romanians for your first time and having a British girl to minimise any language barrier.    As a general rule the first time I visit a girl I go for 30 minutes, that way if she is crap I haven't waste too much money.   That said some girls I have seen in the past did an hour for £80 so I just took the plunge.

If you are unsure, just ask here for advice.

Online MajorPayne

Well I'm back again and still a virgin lol, I've been browsing some more through AW and being a bit of a picky bugger really. But I don't want to regret it you know.. anyway I've been looking at darlingsophies page for a few days now, and finally have some time off to make the booking. Im thinking the first one will be a disater anyway on my part so might as well get stuck in.

I see a lot of people recommending massage and HE but I can just get this from an escort anyway, right? Plus a shag if I'm up to it lol

Any opinions on sophie? She looks great in her pictures, I know you guys have given me plenty of suggestions already and you've been a big help.

Just noticed this.  Please remember to include links, much easier then for us to give advice on a particular girl.

riskyricky88

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Thanks chaps, some good advice. Think it's going to be darlingsophie for me, going to try and get a booking soon and hopefully not let the nerves get to me and pussy out. I'll let her know in advance that I'm a virgin and have no idea what I'm doing, and hopefully take some of the pressure off.

Edit: You're right maverick, heres a link to darlingsophie External Link/Members Only
« Last Edit: August 08, 2017, 10:58:47 am by riskyricky88 »

Online MajorPayne

Thanks chaps, some good advice. Think it's going to be darlingsophie for me, going to try and get a booking soon and hopefully not let the nerves get to me and pussy out. I'll let her know in advance that I'm a virgin and have no idea what I'm doing, and hopefully take some of the pressure off.

Edit: You're right maverick, heres a link to darlingsophie External Link/Members Only
She looks nice and particularly like the fact that she does CIM end swallow.  Expensive for 30 minutes but £120 for an hour is a good price.  Would choose her myself.

One of the things I have found I enjoy since I started punting is getting the girls to give me a foot job in their stocking feet.   My pet fetish :dancegirl:


Online MajorPayne

Remember to shower well before you see Sophie and if you feel inclined trim off your pubic hair.  Just something I do but the girls I see seem to appreciate it.

And if you plan on kissing also brush your teeth.

All obvious stuff but you still hear of punters not doing the above.
« Last Edit: August 08, 2017, 11:14:08 am by MajorPayne »

riskyricky88

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Remember to shower well before you see Sophie and if you feel inclined trim off your pubic hair.  Just something I do but the girls I see seem to appreciate it.

And if you plan on kissing also brush your teeth.

All obvious stuff but you still hear of punters not doing the above.

Yup, I'm up to scratch on that and will definitely be giving myself a trim.

My only concern now is nerves and performance, I'm not expecting the best experience for my first time but will be disapointed if I spend my hour with a stubborn flacid cock because of nerves lol

Offline Picti

Remember to shower well before you see Sophie and if you feel inclined trim off your pubic hair.  Just something I do but the girls I see seem to appreciate it.

And if you plan on kissing also brush your teeth.

 :lol: and get your mum to sew a name tag onto your pants so you don't put the WGs on afterwards by mistake!



My only concern now is nerves and performance, I'm not expecting the best experience for my first time but will be disapointed if I spend my hour with a stubborn flacid cock because of nerves lol

Seriously, don't overthink this. It's sex, it's fun, it's pleasurable. Don't wank for a couple of days beforehand, and go to the punt with a two pop strategy. If the nerves do hit you then don't fret or consider it down time, turn it into learning time and ask the WG to show you some techniques that women like. By diverting your attention from yourself and your cock, you may be surprised by how you react.


Online MajorPayne

Sounds like good advice generally girls enjoy reverse oral a good skill to learn.

riskyricky88

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:lol: and get your mum to sew a name tag onto your pants so you don't put the WGs on afterwards by mistake!

 :lol:

Well cheers guys, was gonna book for this friday but I'm gonna be to stretched for time and don't wanna be rushing about and need time to get there, and I don't think shes available for a weekend meet. Gonna try for next friday, at least It gives me more preparation time I guess

Offline spurs

i would like to suggest tanya based in ilkeston ,very pretty lady kind and attentive would suit a first timer perfectly

Offline Robin Hood1

Im a big fan of Danny at Bubbles in Derby, also Sam, very good at their job.

Offline EatsShootsAndLeaves

My suggestion is pick up the phone, call Sophie right now and make an appointment to see her. Having the conversation will be a huge weight off your mind and then you just need to focus on getting there, clean, with cash and a smile - nothing else.
Sophie's a good choice and was one of my first too. She has a nice place, is very pleasant to talk to and will be sympathetic to your situation. Don't worry about CIM, RO, CG, facials and all the other stuff, just go and enjoy.
You can do it. If it helps, imagine you're booking a haircut.
Good luck and do it now.

Sillypig

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My suggestion is pick up the phone, call Sophie right now and make an appointment to see her. Having the conversation will be a huge weight off your mind and then you just need to focus on getting there, clean, with cash and a smile - nothing else.
Sophie's a good choice and was one of my first too. She has a nice place, is very pleasant to talk to and will be sympathetic to your situation. Don't worry about CIM, RO, CG, facials and all the other stuff, just go and enjoy.
You can do it. If it helps, imagine you're booking a haircut.
Good luck and do it now.

Pretty good advice!

Offline Jamesbattersea



"Seriously, don't overthink this. It's sex, it's fun, it's pleasurable. Don't wank for a couple of days beforehand, and go to the punt with a two pop strategy."



See I always have a wank 2 hours before a punt so I'm desensitized and get longer staying power thus getting better value for money, personally I think it's too short to recover for a 2 pop punt in an hour unless you got viagra.
« Last Edit: August 13, 2017, 08:30:27 pm by Jamesbattersea »

Offline Picti


See I always have a wank 2 hours before a punt so I'm desensitized and get longer staying power thus getting better value for money, personally I think it's too short to recover for a 2 pop punt in an hour unless you got viagra.

It's great that you've worked out what's best for you. I'm naturally blessed / cursed with staying power so the pre-punt wank would do me no favours. However, the OP is 28 years old and a virgin, so I was guessing that a quick pop would calm his anxiety and allow him to enjoy the progression toward the next. Only a suggestion though.