I wasn't the most confident at school, was raised by a strict Catholic mother who was totally anti-sex and anti-girls so I didn't have a clue how to talk to girls. Eventually became an issue - the whole sex thing hanging over me made me very nervous whenever talking to girls, so in the end I decided to punt to get me over it. The sex the first time was a bit of an anti-climax frankly which definitely helped. Punted a couple of times in the UK, then a handful of times during trips to Amsterdam's RLD, all of which were not exactly great experiences but got me over my nerves around women. Had no problem chatting women up after that. Dated a bunch before finding someone and getting married. All fine for 10 years, was never remotely tempted to punt, but then over the last 3 years the sex dried up and when we finally split punting was the first thing on my mind.
Not in any hurry to try a civvy relationship again - not through commitment phobia, just need some time to a) tick off a bunch of items on my sexual bucket list and b) decide what I actually want from another relationship. I dare say if I found a lady who was a total nympho I could be persuaded to commit again.