But your looking at the situation in the way as SB, The problems isn't with the victim the problem is with the much older man who in my mind took advantage of a sexually vulnerable little girl.
If SB wishes to see what happened to her as ok then that's up to her in my opinion but fundamentally the nonce who took advantage should have had the full weight of the law brought upon him irrespective of SB's wishes or not.
Why the hell SB feels the need to bring this up so often beggars belief as she knows full well how much of an emotive subject it is
No, I'm looking at the situation from my own personal experience. I wanted any woman to have sex with me - would have been extremely grateful frankly and if I had not been an ugly little fat kid maybe I might have got laid at an early age and not gone through life with loads of sexual hangups that I'm only now shaking the cobwebs out of. In that instance - someone having sex with me would absolutely not have been taking advantage of me at all - on the contrary I would have been taking advantage of her because I was a dirty minded little perv.
And to respond to you and Fraserlad both -
Consent is consent regardless of an arbitrary age applied by law - which has changed over the years in this country, and is still as low as 12 in other countries. So yes technically of course if a woman had sex with me when I was 12 she would be a criminal in this country. But it would have been unjust if she had been arrested / imprisoned and permanently labelled as some kind of paedo / sex offender because of it as I would have been seducing her as much as the other way round.
I am not suggesting we change the law I'm just saying the law is a blunt tool at best.
I am also not trying to suggest that every real pervert / paedeo should get away with it by saying "he / she was asking for it". I'm just telling you that sometimes at least, when an adult who has an affair with someone underage says "but he/she seduced me!" it actually can be true and I can say that from my personal experience.
Also, personally much as I might be flattered American Beauty style if the neighbour's kid (a la Mena Suvari) came on to me I would not go there for fear of the legal consequences. So yes to that extent the guy who did this was a bit of a nonce but hardly a disgusting padeo IMHO (and in SB's experience opinion which really is the only one that matters).
I think we should just let this lie - clearly as you say it raises temperatures.