When punting is just not for you.

[Metalgear2018]

I think I'm not cut out for this punting hobby. At the age of 30 I rely on the blue pill every time I visit an escort. When I exchange money with her I always have in the back of my head "i have 30mins to perform " the negative thinking plays on my mind and interferes with my performance.

When the punt comes to an end i feel like i have wasted my money and i feel down and slightly upset with myself.

I scroll through other punters positive reviews and it seems like they have an amazing time and they enjoy this hobby. As I'm writing this I'm kicking myself because I saw a lovely polish sp. But in the 30mins session it lasted 10 mins because the blue pill did not work. I told her I'm finished and she jumped of the bed and looked at me in a bizarre way and said "are you sure?" I lied to her and said "yes".

Fuck my life.

[EasyJet]

Book those who you couldn't catch in real life and fuck them hard

If your putting pressure on yourself to perform the Viagra is useless

Book an hour and use the blue pill for round two and three

[hw189]

You are probably rushing at 30 minutes. Relax a bit, book an hour or more.

[redally]

I am fairly new to punting and on quite a few occasions I felt the same as you - what a waste of money. However the older SP's, who are more in my age group, tend to have given me a better time than the younger ones. They might not attract you visually but at least you can relax with them and enjoy the punt. This will give you more confidence although unfortunately you will still experience a bad punt. ce la vie.

[freeze44]

Dont be so hard on yourself fella. Sure we all had some failures etc and just need to find the right wg. As others have said reckon the pressure to 'perform' mostly in the mind for many of us.

[Silver Birch]

Whilst I don't have any physical reasons not to put in a good performance, I simply cannot be arsed to perform these days, so mostly go for massages.

Perhaps you could try a couple of massages with HE as this as it would take the pressure off you, and might build your confidence?

[Littlefoot]

Whilst I don't have any physical reasons not to put in a good performance, I simply cannot be arsed to perform these days, so mostly go for massages.

Perhaps you could try a couple of massages with HE as this as it would take the pressure off you, and might build your confidence?

+1 it's usually cheaper and I don't need any chemical assistance as I do for FS. 

[Metalgear2018]

Whilst I don't have any physical reasons not to put in a good performance, I simply cannot be arsed to perform these days, so mostly go for massages.

Perhaps you could try a couple of massages with HE as this as it would take the pressure off you, and might build your confidence?

Thank you. This could be a possibility and I guess I don't have to pop a blue pill. I will definitely give this option some consideration.

[Ali Katt]

I am fairly new to punting and on quite a few occasions I felt the same as you - what a waste of money. However the older SP's, who are more in my age group, tend to have given me a better time than the younger ones. They might not attract you visually but at least you can relax with them and enjoy the punt. This will give you more confidence although unfortunately you will still experience a bad punt. ce la vie.

Total bad advice. Why pay to fuck someone you don't fancy?

[theoldmaggot]

Book an hour then if you are not cut out for 30 minutes

[Visionist]

I treat punting as a way to build up my sexuality after having a testicle removed. I had trouble at first but the last ten or so girls I've simply flipped them over and plowed them from behind until I was ready to cum. It's increased my confidence in the sack and I even came twice in an hour recently (she was exceptionally hot however). When I started I couldn't cum even in 90 minutes.

Find what works for you and build upon it.

[king tarzan]

Total bad advice. Why pay to fuck someone you don't fancy?

100% el correcto!!!

[tynetunnel]

Definitely book longer, and don’t have any rules. If you don’t fuck, you don’t fuck! But you go home with the taste of a sweet pussy on your lips. 

[willie loman]

I think I'm not cut out for this punting hobby. At the age of 30 I rely on the blue pill every time I visit an escort. When I exchange money with her I always have in the back of my head "i have 30mins to perform " the negative thinking plays on my mind and interferes with my performance.

When the punt comes to an end i feel like i have wasted my money and i feel down and slightly upset with myself.

I scroll through other punters positive reviews and it seems like they have an amazing time and they enjoy this hobby. As I'm writing this I'm kicking myself because I saw a lovely polish sp. But in the 30mins session it lasted 10 mins because the blue pill did not work. I told her I'm finished and she jumped of the bed and looked at me in a bizarre way and said "are you sure?" I lied to her and said "yes".

Fuck my life.

Ringing a door bell and fucking a complete stranger from a standing start is not for everyone, its not for me as a rule, that's why I prefer brothels, get to know the girls, find a regular, not necessarily the best looking girls, but one who knows how to make you hard.

[hendrix]

It's not a "performance" - whores certainly don't care about how you "perform"

Relax, and enjoy yourself.

[EnglishRebecca121]

are you booking pse escorts? prehaps book a gfe?

[Metalgear2018]

are you booking pse escorts? prehaps book a gfe?

No I have never booked a gfe session.

[EnglishRebecca121]

No I have never booked a gfe session.

Well there could be the answer x

[Home Alone]

Which perhaps brings the OP back to the advice - which, fwiw, I happen to agree with - offered by redally earlier in the thread.

The OP seems to have 30-minute sessions but hasn't told us the kind of meet he goes for. If he goes for half an hour of fairly hectic sex; maybe, just maybe, he'd find less pressure to perform in, say, an hour's GFE??

[Ali Katt]

When I'm punting I don't think of the money, calculating it by the second to get the best value by aiming to cum every 20 minutes or whatever. I just enjoy the experience, if I cum after a few minutes so what? If I can't keep hard so what? I just do something else instead. I've put in some shocking performances, more so last year. I won't lie it felt like I missed out as there were things I wanted to do, but overall I still enjoyed myself.

[Ali Katt]

Which perhaps brings the OP back to the advice - which, fwiw, I happen to agree with - offered by redally earlier in the thread.

The OP seems to have 30-minute sessions but hasn't told us the kind of meet he goes for. If he goes for half an hour of fairly hectic sex; maybe, just maybe, he'd find less pressure to perform in, say, an hour's GFE??

It doesn't matter if it's PSE, GFE, 1 hour or 2 hours the pressure will always be there. It's better he picks what he enjoys.

[Corky]

I think I'm not cut out for this punting hobby. At the age of 30 I rely on the blue pill every time I visit an escort. When I exchange money with her I always have in the back of my head "i have 30mins to perform " the negative thinking plays on my mind and interferes with my performance.

When the punt comes to an end i feel like i have wasted my money and i feel down and slightly upset with myself.

I scroll through other punters positive reviews and it seems like they have an amazing time and they enjoy this hobby. As I'm writing this I'm kicking myself because I saw a lovely polish sp. But in the 30mins session it lasted 10 mins because the blue pill did not work. I told her I'm finished and she jumped of the bed and looked at me in a bizarre way and said "are you sure?" I lied to her and said "yes".

Fuck my life.

It could be that you aren't attracted to the girl.

[peter purves]

I think I'm not cut out for this punting hobby. At the age of 30 I rely on the blue pill every time I visit an escort. When I exchange money with her I always have in the back of my head "i have 30mins to perform " the negative thinking plays on my mind and interferes with my performance.

When the punt comes to an end i feel like i have wasted my money and i feel down and slightly upset with myself.

I scroll through other punters positive reviews and it seems like they have an amazing time and they enjoy this hobby. As I'm writing this I'm kicking myself because I saw a lovely polish sp. But in the 30mins session it lasted 10 mins because the blue pill did not work. I told her I'm finished and she jumped of the bed and looked at me in a bizarre way and said "are you sure?" I lied to her and said "yes".

Fuck my life.

Have a seat my good friend, as I put on my psychoanalysis coat .

No seriously, just a few thoughts if you not doing so already. How about leaving aside the idea you have to perform, rather than just try and enjoy the experience?

Then after that maybe you can explore the issue of the viagra whether it is physical or more psychological?

What sprung to my mind initially is there any issues of guilt surrounding punting??

Anyhow all the very best mate!!

[Charliehutton]

Book those who you couldn't catch in real life and fuck them hard

I hadn't thought of it in quite those terms, EJ, but you've come up with the perfect punting philosophy. 

[pewpewpew]

Probably all in your head. The negative thoughts start with "what if it happens again?" and the more you think it, the more likely it will happen.

You just have to get over this hump. Don't wank for a week or 2, book a stunner for 1 or 2 hours and get the job done

[s0whatsnew?]

No I have never booked a gfe session.

Whats made you go for this particular choice?   Try ALL possibilities; GFE, massage w HE, B2B, lap-dancing clubs, etc etc.  There's a huge number of possibilities.

[Bonker]

At your age, go find a girlfriend. Get to know her, get some affection and enjoy what follows.

Carrying on punting in your state of mind will make you more and more unhappy.

[ProtocolDroid]

I hadn't thought of it in quite those terms, EJ, but you've come up with the perfect punting philosophy. 

It's what I try to do as well. Trouble is, genuinely hot WGs are not easy to find, especially since AW/agency profiles often don't match reality.

I'm fed up with disappointment in this area -- expensive disappointment -- so have become more risk averse. Been a very quiet year so far, though with a nice punt recently, to be reviewed when I find the time.

[twaff]

I started punting later in life than you but found it hard to cum when I was expecting to explode when a younger sexy woman worked her magic on me, basically had been wanking too much and needed to readjust things.
Read a couple of threads on here and now wank using couple of fingers, what a difference when punting and although I can't see wgs often it has made huge difference to the experience.
I can't meet up with wg's more than I do so don't want to stop wanking but certainly good balance now and worth the effort making the change, which felt a bit daft doing after wanking like a demon since fuck knows when!

Edit
To be honest reading your reviews I'm not entirely sure this is a legit thread but I'll leave it at that

[Pete556]

It's not a "performance" - whores certainly don't care about how you "perform"

Relax, and enjoy yourself.

Exactly right.  Book massages for 90 minutes and go along not caring whether you come or not.  It'll just happen when you relax. Just enjoy what their hands and fingers are doing to you.  Also try going along without the blue pill a few times. Don't ask for HE and so you'll feel no pressure to perform.

[Formicahunt]

Have you spoken to anyone else about this? 30 is too young to write yourself off. Do you have problems with civvies or just  WG's? Did you self medicate with blues? Get yourself to the doctors, explain everything, they won't judge. Danger is not getting this sorted properly and your head going. Punting should be about laughs and ego boosts and you're getting neither.

[Ali Katt]

Exactly right.  Book massages for 90 minutes and go along not caring whether you come or not.  It'll just happen when you relax. Just enjoy what their hands and fingers are doing to you.  Also try going along without the blue pill a few times. Don't ask for HE and so you'll feel no pressure to perform.

Bad advice. Why do something which is presumably sexually unsatisfying for the punter? Paying £100 for a massage and not even getting a handy is a total waste of money. The issue isn't with what's on offer, it's how he feels psychologically. I've had massages as part of a sexual service and I've not felt anymore relaxed.

[LoneWolf2020]

Put yourself on a bit of a wank ban, 3 to 4 weeks, dont watch porn in that time, in fact don't glance at so much as a pair of tits, then book someone for an hour (you might not be cut out for 30 minute meets, i know im not), pop a V and see how it goes. Only ever use V for punting, dont ever use it for just a normal wank at home, thats a slippery slope you want to avoid.

[Joe112]

You are probably rushing at 30 minutes. Relax a bit, book an hour or more.

hey mate - this; and also, take a break from it.

[The Owl]

I think I'm not cut out for this punting hobby. At the age of 30 I rely on the blue pill every time I visit an escort. When I exchange money with her I always have in the back of my head "i have 30mins to perform " the negative thinking plays on my mind and interferes with my performance.

When the punt comes to an end i feel like i have wasted my money and i feel down and slightly upset with myself.

I scroll through other punters positive reviews and it seems like they have an amazing time and they enjoy this hobby. As I'm writing this I'm kicking myself because I saw a lovely polish sp. But in the 30mins session it lasted 10 mins because the blue pill did not work. I told her I'm finished and she jumped of the bed and looked at me in a bizarre way and said "are you sure?" I lied to her and said "yes".

Fuck my life.

If you're walking away from a punt thinking about the money you spent rather than the good fuck you just had either you're booking some totally shit escorts or punting isn't for you. It's really simple, either book escorts where quality of service is their selling point or have a wank to some porn then do something else with your money.

[Ali Katt]

If you're walking away from a punt thinking about the money you spent rather than the good fuck you just had either you're booking some totally shit escorts or punting isn't for you. It's really simple, either book escorts where quality of service is their selling point or have a wank to some porn then do something else with your money.

I agree 100%. It shouldn't feel like an exam where you are re-evaluating your performance.

[Pete556]

Bad advice. Why do something which is presumably sexually unsatisfying for the punter? Paying £100 for a massage and not even getting a handy is a total waste of money. The issue isn't with what's on offer, it's how he feels psychologically. I've had massages as part of a sexual service and I've not felt anymore relaxed.

Don't agree.
£100?   No - £40-£45. The issue is in his head.  So, don't go steaming in for 30 mins expecting to perform. Take it easy. It'll happen.
I know - I have been there!!

[Ali Katt]

Don't agree.
£100?   No - £40-£45. The issue is in his head.  So, don't go steaming in for 30 mins expecting to perform. Take it easy. It'll happen.
I know - I have been there!!

If think metalgear is London, I can't imagine getting an hour massage with HR for that price. He's also reviewed massage girls, the issue isn't the sexual service or whether he takes his time, it's how he feels overall.

[Pete556]

If think metalgear is London, I can't imagine getting an hour massage with HR for that price. He's also reviewed massage girls, the issue isn't the sexual service or whether he takes his time, it's how he feels overall.

My point was - go for a massage with no expectation of HE so no pressure. As the massage progresses he may then feel like HE.
If he does then pay the extra at the time not at the beginning.
It's a question of taking things step by step and gaining confidence. 

But London yes may be more expensive. I was thinking Midlands prices.

Cheers

[Payyourwaymate]

Why are you concerned about your performance?  You're the paying customer, should it not be the other way round?

If you finish quickly it's unlikely she's going to badmouth you to her friends and even if she did you're not going to see her again. Furthermore, what does it matter if you give a her a shit fuck your paying man bloody hell it's supposed to be about you at the end of the day lol.

Are you sure you do not have deeper issues you need to address? If you keep going like this, punting will make you miserable. All the best, hope you sort things out.

[LoneWolf2020]

Don't agree.
£100?   No - £40-£45. The issue is in his head.  So, don't go steaming in for 30 mins expecting to perform. Take it easy. It'll happen.
I know - I have been there!!

Did you use viagra to help you get back? Ive had terrible self confidence issues of late, been to punts and not even managed a semi, in fact its been shriveled. I found laying off wanking and those little blue pills have really got me back on track, dont think I'd punt without viagra ever again tbh, its just too much money at stake.

[Pete556]

Did you use viagra to help you get back? Ive had terrible self confidence issues of late, been to punts and not even managed a semi, in fact its been shriveled. I found laying off wanking and those little blue pills have really got me back on track, dont think I'd punt without viagra ever again tbh, its just too much money at stake.

No.  My issue was confidence and putiing myself under pressure to come.
Not helped by girls who thought I had to come to enjoy myself.
In the end I just stopped thinking about the climax and enjoyed the feelings
on the way there. Now I just let it happen and don't worry one bit if it doesn't.
In fact I usually tell the girl not to put me under pressure to come as I may not.

Everyone is different of course.

[Plan R]

My suggestion is low cost face sitting.
Find a really hot EE and book a 30 min / 60 quid effort.

You can wank yourself off = no pressure
It only costs 60 quid = no pressure
You get a face full of gorgeous mid 20s euro-fanny = yum yum

A few months of (no performance pressure) punts like this might put
you back on the path of righteousness
 

[Randy Mcknob]

Can you get more specific with what the performance problem is.  I find it really hard to pump the spooge if I take viagra.

[horsa]

My suggestion is low cost face sitting.
Find a really hot EE and book a 30 min / 60 quid effort.

You can wank yourself off = no pressure
It only costs 60 quid = no pressure
You get a face full of gorgeous mid 20s euro-fanny = yum yum

A few months of (no performance pressure) punts like this might put
you back on the path of righteousness
 

where are the £60/30min hotties? 

[cotton]

My suggestion is low cost face sitting.
Find a really hot EE and book a 30 min / 60 quid effort.

You can wank yourself off = no pressure
It only costs 60 quid = no pressure
You get a face full of gorgeous mid 20s euro-fanny = yum yum

A few months of (no performance pressure) punts like this might put
you back on the path of righteousness
 

Thats what i did on my first ever punt , only difference was i got the girl to wank me off aswell.  Its a good suggestion for a beginer tho.

[Flunt]

I think I'm not cut out for this punting hobby...

The short answer is, it's just sex. Don't compare yourself to other punters, don't compete in turns of performance or financials.

If cash is an issue, then reward yourself with a punt from other aspects of your life. Decide what works for you and what pleasures you want to experience.

I've reached a stage where turning up to a strange place, meeting an unfamiliar woman and sticking my cock in a couple of holes while she attempts to extract spunk in the most efficient manner, is a waste of time and money. That being said, I want to punt? I want to spend time in the company of a sexy young woman but I also want lasting memories and greater experiences.

A few years ago, I was spending about £5000 a year punting which was a lot for me! The disappointments last longer in the memory, the mediocre were instantly forgettable and the good still make me smile. Of the £5000, probably £4000 was a waste of money and that stings.

I did SA for a while, with the ups and downs that offers, the ratio of positive experiences from arrangements was a lot higher, along with the cost of each experience. Now, I travel. I enjoy both punting and non punting trips.

It's your life, your leisure and pleasures which are important. Do what you want to do, how you want to do it and where you want to do it, you earned it.

[workinallweek]

  At the risk of sounding fluffy ...

I get that waste of time money etc feeling more with a short punt or a punt designed from the outset to be gfe or pse ....

My preferance is for a longer punt  2 hours with some contact before hand (maybe a bit of banter) and then let the punt develop as it goes .

Rarely does a meeting where i have a menu in my mind end up as planned or as much fun (kind of the reverse of the girl being mechanical i suppose )

Above all do what you need to to enjoy the time  (well thats what i try to do )

[Flunt]

  At the risk of sounding fluffy ...

Nothing wrong with being fluffy, it's a sign you're enjoying yourself.

It's a strange quirk of pro$$ies. If some hairy arsed bloke wanted to pay me for sex it would cost him a fortune, time would be a separate issue. There's an old story of the man who offers £50,000 to a woman for a night of passion which she accepts. He then offers her £500 for an hour, to which she takes offence and asks, "What type of woman do you think I am?"

His reply, "We've established that, now we're negotiating the price."

If I were a pro$$ie I'd be on SA offering overnights at £3-400, looking to enjoy myself. Longer bookings with a personal interaction are far more enjoyable, for me, than a 30 minute pump and dump. The problem with that is: the average pro$$ie wants £200+ and for another £100 I can have a night of relaxed pleasures.

[Ali Katt]

Still waiting for a reply back from metalgear. I think there's been some good advice so far, taking a break is definitely a good idea.