Apologies in advance that this is so long but I'm replying to many people over 3 pages of posts.
… Your first contact must not only be good English but unambiguous and no inuendos…
Good English, insofar as I can understand what the person is talking about (you’d be amazed how some just don’t make sense at all) and not too smutty because over the years I’ve found the worst TWs to be the ones who do lots of flirting/dirty talk (and never book of course).
Anyway, hello Hawkwind
. Thanks for reviewing me and I’m really sorry if I somehow had a go at you
. If you want to email me privately and discuss it feel free. It’s not like me at all and I’m struggling to remember what could have made me so cross as I’m normally extremely patient and tolerant. I don’t care at all about spelling and grammar (beyond being able to understand what someone is trying to tell me of course), so maybe it was a combination of a few “faux pas” that were inadvertently made or something that was misunderstood and taken as an insult. Anyway, sorry again. The only time I ever pick anyone up on spelling is when they repeatedly call me “Laura” instead of “Lara”.
Unfortunately I really struggle with conveying emotion in writing, and have in the past been accused by some of being “too business-like”. My style, no matter how much I try otherwise is to the point, which is ideal for writing succinct scientific reports but absolutely rubbish when trying to convey friendliness via email or text.
RE my 2 hour minimum rule…
I used to offer 1 hour bookings, and met many lovely men from these appointments, but that was when my location was more discreet than my present one. Also, I have to factor in that as my availability is so limited now it no longer makes sense to offer shorter appointments unfortunately. I can completely understand that it doesn't suit everyone. It wasn’t a case of weeding out TWs or anything like that, it was purely practical.
She's a no for me now too as she would probably not like the way I speak. I am from Dudley and have a black country accent
Nowt wrong with a Black Country accent, my partner has one, as do a couple of my regulars
Absolutely agree 'Nomeansno'... She sounds like a right snob to be honest; the type who thinks she is above her customers and that she is doing THEM a favour…If i do change my mind I might have to interview her cos I have a better education and more £dough than her ... so she may be too thick and poor, for me....
LOL, I probably am thicker and poorer compared to you. My clients are always teaching me things, (including correcting my spelling!) and I like it like that. I wouldn’t want them to feel inferior so try very hard not to put a foot wrong.
Nomeansno, anyone who’s met me will most likely say I’m hardly a snob, and I see my clients (or possible clients) as equals not beneath me in any way. Their education or wealth doesn’t factor into it (because there are many who are more educated than me, and I’m not materialistic so not motivated by money). Pretty down to earth actually.
…i understand she feels this is what she needs to do for her own security; but it doesn't give me any security and leaves me exposed…
I fully understand how it probably puts off the majority of interested men. It was a difficult decision to make; getting the balance between my security and unsettling potential clients was really hard. It was based on the numerous horror stories I’d heard about badly behaved clients and the potential damage they can do – I do believe that us WGs have more to fear from rogue clients than men have to fear from us - and I realised I fall right on the side of putting my peace of mind first. I don’t blame anyone for going “sod that, no way am I giving her that info!”
…She was a member of UKP a few years ago and from her posts she does not sound as though she would be particularly offended by bad language - she does not write as though she is too affected by airs and graces…
Thanks Placebo. You’re right, bad language isn’t a problem. I have to watch my Ps and Qs myself; time and a place and all that
Asking for personal details like a utility bill or ID is not a "verification process" it's a shakedown. Unless she is travelling to your hotel, why does she want to know your actual name and address? By asking for those details she is basically saying "Watch what you say about me, I know who you are" Of course they always try and claim that it's for safety or that she is "selective" about who she sees or some such bollocks. Some sad punters even get an ego trip out of the idea that they got through the verification process or were selected…
It’s not about a selection process at all, it’s purely my peace of mind. After a few times of turning up at homes and hotels where the clients weren’t there, i.e. I’d been set up by deliberate TWs, I realised that I had to be a lot more careful. Unfortunately there are some people out there who make it their full time hobby trying to wreck the lives of WGs, and I’ve heard too many horror stories, much worse than no-shows! WGs put themselves in a very vulnerable position every time they meet a stranger for sex, and nice men perhaps forget this.
By asking for their details I’m actually saying “if you commit a crime that is worthy of me contacting the Police I will know where to direct them”. I realise I won’t be able to please everyone all of the time and sometimes I mess up (then look back and cringe!) but I always used to ask for feedback after bookings, including asking for bad FB so I knew if I’d done something wrong. I stopped doing it because it felt like clients were reading that it was mandatory and I felt awkward about that. I’m considering reinstating it, although most give FB afterwards anyway.
Also she could possibly try and blackmail if she was not happy if she got negative feedback
Despite being a prostitute my moral compass is working very well, and there is no way I’d blackmail someone no matter how much of an arse they were. I take pride in the fact that for the 15 years I’ve been doing this no-one has come a cropper.
Yeah, even the guys who have seen her and nothing untoward has happened cannot GUARANTEE that in 3/6/12months, she doesn't have a meltdown and do some sort of expose'
You do have a very valid point Jimi. When I leave the business in a couple of years I plan to exit the stage quietly and live a peaceful life, leaving my escort years behind. I hope I’m allowed to do this from men I’ve met/not met! That chapter will have closed. As for having a meltdown, I’ve been through some dark times and was able to gain the tools to keep emotionally buoyant from then on. In the unlikely event I did have a meltdown I would likely abuse myself not other people. That’s more my style. Also, unless a man is a celebrity he simply isn’t going to get named and shamed in some dodgy prossie’s expose.
Also, this constant nonsense I read on profiles about this need for correct grammar, well written e-mails and spelling, begs another question. Why are these so-called classy, intelligent ladies looking for this perfect prose on prostitution sites? …
The reason I say “no text speak” is that, apart from the fact I don’t understand half of it, it usually comes from young men having a laugh. Not only do I want to cut down on TWs but I can’t guarantee to be able to physically can’t keep up with the under 25s and I'd hate to disappoint.
I'll leave it there because this is long enough. I just wanted to give my side of the story.