Real identity

[Ess0]

Obviously often for personal reasons and security we all like to keep our anonymity, that’s why us punters have burner phones as I’m sure a lot of the girls do, and why we have stage/user names different to our actual names but has anyone ever been exposed and there real details been given away.

The reason I ask is I can across a working girl the other day (not literally) who I have subsiquently realised I know who she is, I don’t know her personality but I now know her real name ect ect.

Should I tell said girl that her real information is readily accessible for anyone that looks, as I’m sure this could be a safety issue.

[lewisjones23]

not your problem

[Thecunninglinguist]

not your problem

+1
A few weeks ago l was checking out a WG and intending to call her the next day put her number in my punting phone. Almost straight away she came up on my FB as a possible "friend". It was her of some of the pics were the same. Full name, parents, siblings, friends and a  partnership in another business, that because of it's nature would have been manna from heaven to mumsnet. Emailed her advising she might want to be careful. Nothing back and still the same now. Can't do anything with stupidity!

[joe diddley]

Definitely not if it's unlikely someone else who knows her as a prostitute will find out her identity in the same way as you did. You'll only freak her out. If you think she's producing a real security risk to herself in terms of leaving her identity really open to whomever wishes to find it out, then you might think of a subtle way to get her to tighten up a bit but don't get involved any further.

The culprit is often enough in this kind of situation the letters on the floor or near the door waiting to be picked up or attended to. In that kind of situation, and I have encountered it, I never say anything.

[hungrypunt]

I told a girl in chester once, she was grateful. Her email gave her real name away

[shagmore]

Not really your problem, but no harm if you do

[Ess0]

Thanks for the replies guys. I think I will just leave it for now. Unless I can just subtly drop it into conversation next time I meet her.

[Gomez42]

Ive seen this a couple of times, that's why I won't have the Facebook app on my phone, or let FB have my number. There are other apps available if you need FB access.

I've told a couple of girls that I think they need to beef up their security, they all have when they realise how much can be found.

It really does depend on how you get on with the girl, it could make you sound like a stalker :-)

[Romney]

I think there's probably no "right" answer to the OP's question.  Some wg's might be very appreciative of your informing them, and others not so much.

In fact I remember reading about a similar situation, either here or on UKE, I don't remember which, where a punter informed one of his regs that he learned of her real name somehow, and she ended up dropping him as a reg because she was so freaked out that he knew her personal details.

Do what feels best to you, but realizing that you can't know how she'll respond....

[joe diddley]

I somehow sense that in quite a few cases telling her will bring out the bunny boiler in your bunny.

[Fallen58]

I told a girl in chester once, she was grateful. Her email gave her real name away

Ditto. I've come across a couple of girls in the past who have used their real names in their email address

[bbwandy72]

I know the real identities of several girls, including a few very well known porn stars - including some I've paid to see. Some I found out because they were careless. Others because I put in a bit of effort to dig up the information. Why? It's what I do. My job includes digging through mountains of data to find interesting information. It was purely to satisfy my curiosity. I don't intend to do anything with this information or to share it with anyone else. I haven't told any of the girls in question that I know their identities, nor do I plan to. Not least because there's a risk of being seen as a stalker. I did tell one girl when she accidentally used her real name on a social media post from her porn alias account. Not her full name (which I already knew), just her first name. She was grateful for the tip off, but decided to leave it up because once it's on the Internet it's in the public domain forever anyway, and also because she had decided to retire and wasn't as bothered about her name being known (she's still in the business, just no longer in front of the camera).

[daviemac]

I know the real identities of several girls, including a few very well known porn stars - including some I've paid to see. Some I found out because they were careless. Others because I put in a bit of effort to dig up the information. Why? It's what I do. My job includes digging through mountains of data to find interesting information. It was purely to satisfy my curiosity. I don't intend to do anything with this information or to share it with anyone else. I haven't told any of the girls in question that I know their identities, nor do I plan to. Not least because there's a risk of being seen as a stalker. I did tell one girl when she accidentally used her real name on a social media post from her porn alias account. Not her full name (which I already knew), just her first name. She was grateful for the tip off, but decided to leave it up because once it's on the Internet it's in the public domain forever anyway, and also because she had decided to retire and wasn't as bothered about her name being known (she's still in the business, just no longer in front of the camera).

Digging up info on escorts to find out their real names makes you look like a wierdo or stalker in my opinion.      

 Why on earth would you want to.     

[Romney]

I know the real identities of several girls, including a few very well known porn stars - including some I've paid to see. Some I found out because they were careless. Others because I put in a bit of effort to dig up the information. Why? It's what I do. My job includes digging through mountains of data to find interesting information. It was purely to satisfy my curiosity. I don't intend to do anything with this information or to share it with anyone else. I haven't told any of the girls in question that I know their identities, nor do I plan to. Not least because there's a risk of being seen as a stalker. I did tell one girl when she accidentally used her real name on a social media post from her porn alias account. Not her full name (which I already knew), just her first name. She was grateful for the tip off, but decided to leave it up because once it's on the Internet it's in the public domain forever anyway, and also because she had decided to retire and wasn't as bothered about her name being known (she's still in the business, just no longer in front of the camera).

That does seem like you're crossing a line imho.  How would you feel if the WG's you see did the same with you, and discovered your real identity "purely to satisfy their curiosity"?

I know I would be very concerned if that happened to me....

[Fallen58]

Digging up info on escorts to find out their real names makes you look like a wierdo or stalker in my opinion.      

 Why on earth would you want to.     

One of the girls I found info about had been convicted of various offences including drug dealing. Just gives a bit more info to consider when deciding which WG to see

[gary03]

Theres a girl in peterborough who turns up on my facebook as possible friend shows her complete civvy profile.think facebook can interrogate our contact list on mobile

[Sinz]

One of the girls I found info about had been convicted of various offences including drug dealing. Just gives a bit more info to consider when deciding which WG to see

Let's face it, none of the girls punters intend to meet are saints or angels. If you are going to dig around for information before every punt, it definitely is a bit stalkerish. Not to mention, just because you did not find any information on her, does not mean that she is in the all clear. More likely they are from countries where you will not be able to access convictions or other information from. So does not make any sense.

[daviemac]

One of the girls I found info about had been convicted of various offences including drug dealing. Just gives a bit more info to consider when deciding which WG to see

In my opinion anyone who digs around for personal info on an escort is a bit of a weirdo, there's just no need to do it. All you need is the information regarding her profession, as in reviews and comments on how bookings went. If she provides a good service then that's all that matters, you aren't forming a relationship with her or taking her to meet your family.

They are entitled to as much privacy and discretion as we are.  Have you noticed you aren't allowed to post personal information about them on here, not even street names. Does that not tell you something.   

 

[midnightcowboy]

I have a female friend whom I call a stalker sometimes as she seems to monitor social media information in a slightly weird way. She doesn't seem to see an issue with it, and fair enough, we are choosing to make the information available. It's a field day for the socially anxious. I just dont trust how other people view the boundaries.

What I am concerned about is any reverse stalking. I have nothing to hide, but let's say that somebody wants to dick with you. Perhaps they are a little crazy?

This is why I use a burner phone. It's not linked to anything. I have a few contacts in that phone only.

(And she hates being called a stalker..)

[bbwandy72]

Digging up info on escorts to find out their real names makes you look like a wierdo or stalker in my opinion.      

 Why on earth would you want to.     

Like I said, pure curiosity. It was an intellectual exercise to see if I could, nothing more. The fact that you (and perhaps others) think it makes me look like a stalker is precisely why I haven't told any of the girls about it. To be clear, I wasn't actually doing anything underhanded, or getting access to any private data. I was just collating publicly available information.

[bbwandy72]

think facebook can interrogate our contact list on mobile

Well duh! If you install the Facebook app, it explicitly asks for permission to do that. That's why you have a separate punting phone that has no access to your social media.

[midnightcowboy]

Like I said, pure curiosity. It was an intellectual exercise to see if I could, nothing more. The fact that you (and perhaps others) think it makes me look like a stalker is precisely why I haven't told any of the girls about it. To be clear, I wasn't actually doing anything underhanded, or getting access to any private data. I was just collating publicly available information.

Yes yes, that's what everybody says - I'm one of the good guys, so don't worry. We will uphold our principles to ensure your safety. That is until we get an offer so good that we can take the money and employ a legal team, life gurus and do a little blame shifting to tell us that we are still the good guys. Then, admitedly, it might become a bit confused. But don't worry, our intentions are pure.

I see no problem with finding out what people might know about you, and an intereset in what information you have made publicly available, but a curiosity in finding out about other people is a bit stalky.

[Anadin]

Like I said, pure curiosity. It was an intellectual exercise to see if I could, nothing more. The fact that you (and perhaps others) think it makes me look like a stalker is precisely why I haven't told any of the girls about it. To be clear, I wasn't actually doing anything underhanded, or getting access to any private data. I was just collating publicly available information.

Yeah i guess that sounds weird but then to be honest with you I kind of mildly Internet stalk virtually everyone I've ever met. Usually that only includes a quick Google search, Twitter, Instagram that kind of thing which I assume everyone would be doing to me to anyway, but that is stalking I suppose.

[Jimmyredcab]

I don't worry too much about being "outed" ------------ I am single and do what I like when I like.   

Just recently my facebook account has been suggesting a new "friend" -------------- it is a pro$$ie that I saw quite a few times in the past, now "retired".

This probably has something to do with the E-Mail account that I use for facebook.

[FBman78]

I have to agree with the folks saying leave it alone purely because by you telling her it could look like you are either stalking her or looking to blackmail her. Also if you ever thought about punting her she would be more inclined to say no because you know of her real identity.

[hamchang]

Told a couple in the past, and always been grateful. Also telling them if their pictures reverse image to reveal them as well, again with them being happy. A lot of people are not very IT savvy, where as a lot of weirdos and stalkers are.

[midnightcowboy]

I don't worry too much about being "outed" ------------ I am single and do what I like when I like.   

Just recently my facebook account has been suggesting a new "friend" -------------- it is a pro$$ie that I saw quite a few times in the past, now "retired".

This probably has something to do with the E-Mail account that I use for facebook.

Being single now 'so it doesn't matter' is a bit of a short term view IMO. Imagine that you got together with a girl, and perhaps she knows the prossie. You don't know what she knows. She see's that you are both facebook friends, cue some potentially awkward questions..

[Cumberland]

Recently a wg sent me a face photo to help me decide on booking her. As AW email doesn’t allow attachments she sent it to my punter email from her wg email. When I tapped on the photo it gave the date it was taken and popped up a location map of where it was taken. Location services does this automatically if enabled I believe. We did meet and I told her this photo shouldn’t be used as it gave away her home location. She was grateful for the info and could tell I wasn’t interested in using it !

[Gomez42]

Don't let FB have your phone number, don't use the official FB app on your phone. Use a 3rd party app like FAST.

A female friend was getting pestered by a bloke she met in a pub, asked me if I could find any info on him, so she could tell the police.  Ten minutes on the internet found his address, his car reg and the for sale advert for his fish tank!

People are so naive with data.

[midnightcowboy]

I keep data to a minimum, but the heads up on a 3rd party facebook app is very welcome. Thank you.

[McSwell]

Thanks for the replies guys. I think I will just leave it for now. Unless I can just subtly drop it into conversation next time I meet her.

If your going to do it dont do in a punt meeting, it will make you seem like a creep who is trying to worm his way in.

It depends how you have the info,   if its through a friend of a friend type of thing  say nothing because you'll look like a stalker.

If has others have said its  Facebook or email link then just drop her a text  sort " I just thought I'd better let you know etc etc"

[king tarzan]

None of my business her real true identity
I am 100% there to rent her hot honey physical existence for 30 mins to an hour to fulfil my physical lust upon her delicious looks and then move on to another honey..

I have no interest in her name address how many kids she has how many personal partners she has what social media outlets she is on.. that's NONE OF A PUNTERS CONCERN...

They the honeys want be lapse at leaving loopholes so someone can discover there real identities and cause a mess for them THEN THAT'S THERE PROBLEM

we pay for sex NOT SOCIABLE INTERACTION AND SOCIAL CARE TO THE THEM

[Marmalade]

If you find someone you know as a friend is working as a prossie then ffs treat her as you would maybe liked to be treated in that position — if you get all sneakit about it then it’s not much of a friendship.

But on these things generally, I’m not denying that some people are a good judge of character. But please remember that lying and being a good actress is part of a prossie’s job — or so many of them think. Trusting punters don’t mean that the prossie is worthy of trust. The biggest nightmare story in UKP history happened to a very nice guy. And by a prossie who had a fairly ok profile up to that point. Work out what you have to lose. For some, it’s not much: for others a lot.

[Cumberland]

Trusting punters don’t mean that the prossie is worthy of trust. The biggest nightmare story in UKP history happened to a very nice guy. And by a prossie who had a fairly ok profile up to that point. Work out what you have to lose. For some, it’s not much: for others a lot.

So true. I had a tendency to be overly trusting of the WGs and give away basic info on myself. But when you piece it together (true first name, job type, nationality, location of workplace) and tap this string into a google search I saw for myself that I then popped up, face photo the lot !! Never had an issue but now I’m much more cautious. I tell myself even if the girl seems genuinely honest, imagine in a months time her evil new boyfriend finding out what she does and pushing her to give him the info for blackmail. Again, probably over stated but it’s a scenario that keeps me in line, as it’s all very possible,