"Shadylad" your name itself is provocative unless you're a habitual parasol carrier?
You have singularly failed to do the proper research because pretty much everything you "can't find" is on this site either by inference a minor could manage (called reading comprehension) or actually in the detail given. Thus YOU are the troll for asking something that didn't need to be asked by someone with no credibility.
Also, being aware of the unforgiving attitude here you could've formed a less provocative question using the information you had been able to find. Clearly thoughtlessness is your forte and perhaps one of your issues.
Another Troll characteristic is that of virtual bravado, you are all spit and vinegar and aggressive indignation in the anonymous virtuality of an online forum, but you are unable to deal with the physical confrontation of walking into an establishment and asking them these questions directly. Furthermore you appear unwilling to challenge any practices they might dictate which you don't agree with and at the same time unwilling to accept that you may have to choose to walk away.
Suggest you save your punting money and put into better therapists who will support you through emboldening exercises and real world challenges until you become a functioning member of society.
I'll respond to this one, and not the other two since I've gone through a few posts and have since discovered that how Marmalade comes across is how he treats everyone pretty much, and he wasn’t being hostile and vexatious to me for the sake of it being me as that's just how he is so I shouldn't read into anything into it and ignore it on principle.
The name, ShadyLad was picked when I developed an interest in the field of sex for money, and it isn't in relation to my carrying a parasol (Though I do always carry an umbrella, it's Scotland, it makes sense) and not fully as you might think, originate with illicit or amoral dealings, but was actually picked in this instance because I like the dark or the shade because I'm light-sensitive and the word-play that you hinted at fitted in nicely. In short, it amused me.
I did attempt to do proper research as it so happens, but searching 'saunas' on here in actual fact didn't provide me any valid information, as I in fact previously mentioned (Perhaps your own reading comprehension is faulty too?) and Google and a few other sites likewise proved to be less than helpful in providing me with adequate information.
Credibility or not, I asked it because I required the knowledge, you can perceive that in any manner you choose to. To paraphrase a wise man, it's better to ask a question and be thought a fool for a minute, than keep your mouth shut and remain a fool forever.
You say being aware of the unforgiving attitude, I should have formed a less provocative question, so allow me to ask, how is asking for clarification on things I'm unaware of, and been unable to procure answers for, for myself, considered to be provocative exactly? Surely trying to educate oneself about that which they are interested in, yet unaware of, cannot be considered a bad thing.
And yes, thoughtlessness could be considered one of my issues, but the same could be said for countless neurotypical people so I fail to see any real correlation in this instance.
I won't argue with you over the virtual bravado thing, you're unlikely to believe me anyway. What I will say is I am pretty much the same way on here as I am in real life. When I'm going to any place new, or engaging in any new event or activity, I quiz people about what they know, what to expect, what not to do etc, and yes, if they act like yourself, Marmalade or indeed anyone else who might react negatively, I'd respond with the same way, by trying to remain polite and calm, explain my position, try to deescalate the situation yet not back off or give up my ground.
As for walking into these establishments, like I mentioned above, I try to research every new place or event I know I go into. Doing so helps me control my anxiety, which when stressed or pushed results in outbursts of aggression and the flight or fight response kicking in. I don't need more on my record because I choose to knowingly go blind into a situation I might react badly to. That's a fool's mistake, and while I might not be street-smart, I'm no fool.
I can't form a reply to this "Furthermore you appear unwilling to challenge any practices they might dictate which you don't agree with and at the same time unwilling to accept that you may have to choose to walk away." As I can't actually understand what you're meaning, inferring or referring to here. If you'd care to elaborate, please feel free to do so via a private message.
I don't need to save up any additional money, my finances are secure enough to handle all my interests, though in relation to your mention of therapists, I would refer you again to my actions in the original post, of wanting to gather information, it's something a psychiatrist did actually suggest doing to help with my anxiety, so you're effectively getting on at me for doing one of the things I was told to do to help me become a 'functioning member of society.'
But anyway, I'm done with this thread as DaVINCI was more than kind enough to link me to TKovac's thread, which was all that was needed. It's a shame helpful and informative posts can't be stickied as it could have prevented a lot of this engagement in the first place.
My thanks to those who tried being helpful, it was appreciated.
