Meeting Someone with no History?

[Gman1994]

Hi all,

I appreciate that this topic has maybe come up before but how do you handle meeting someone with no history?

I've been speaking to someone who lives about 15-20 miles away from me with a view to arranging a femdom session. Her account was set up for online only but she responded to me saying that I have good feedback (another domme reviewed me positively) and she's happy to make an exception and accommodate me tomorrow.

Her profile has a name which is unique, no trace of it on the search fields here and her image isn't connected with anything that comes up on Google from what I can search. Are there any other techniques or questions I can ask to assess her legitimacy? I get decent vibes but I'm aware it's a vulnerable position to be and there's very little way of knowing from a profile like that.

[daviemac]

Have read through your post again and imagine its me who's asking the question, how would you answer me, what advice could you give me.   

[Ali Katt]

Dom(me) is all about trust. No trust don't bother, regardless of whose doing the domming it applies.

15-20 miles is a very short distance IMHO. Don't worry about that or the time it takes.

[Fabaceous]

Book a session.
Be prepared to walk away.
Keep your money in your pocket until you are 100% happy.
Check out the address on google maps.
Write a review after your meeting.
Make sure you treat her well 

[myothernameis]

Are there any other techniques or questions I can ask to assess her legitimacy?

Why not ask her yourself

[GingerNuts]

Why not ask her yourself

Why not ask her what her can ask her to assess her legitimacy?

[Waterhouse]

Hi all,

I appreciate that this topic has maybe come up before but how do you handle meeting someone with no history?

I've been speaking to someone who lives about 15-20 miles away from me with a view to arranging a femdom session. Her account was set up for online only but she responded to me saying that I have good feedback (another domme reviewed me positively) and she's happy to make an exception and accommodate me tomorrow.

Her profile has a name which is unique, no trace of it on the search fields here and her image isn't connected with anything that comes up on Google from what I can search. Are there any other techniques or questions I can ask to assess her legitimacy? I get decent vibes but I'm aware it's a vulnerable position to be and there's very little way of knowing from a profile like that.

If you post up a link some of the super-sleuths on here maybe able to spot something that'll help you with your decision i.e. profile looks legit or possibly fishy.

[Thecunninglinguist]

You might get a good idea what she is like if you spoke on the phone?
As it is often said here punting is not for the feint hearted. Do your due diligence, as you are but in the end the decision is yours.

[Gman1994]

Thanks for all replies, profile is here if there are any amateur detectives

External Link/Members Only

Cheers!

[Waterhouse]

Thanks for all replies, profile is here if there are any amateur detectives

External Link/Members Only

Cheers!

How much did she want to charge for an in-person meet?  Did she ask for a deposit upfront?  If she did then that should be setting your alarm bells off.

[Gman1994]

How much did she want to charge for an in-person meet?  Did she ask for a deposit upfront?  If she did then that should be setting your alarm bells off.

£150 for an hour, no mention of a deposit yet but I'm going to ask if we can chat on the phone before hand.

[ik8133]

£150 for an hour, no mention of a deposit yet but I'm going to ask if we can chat on the phone before hand.

Sounds a sensible approach to me.  If you ask for a rough idea where she is located, that'll help in determining if all is good.  You'll kind of have to go with your gut feeling on this on how she responds.

[ulstersubbie]

I would be very wary mate, how long has she been offering BDSM, she seems to have popped up out of nowhere. Hope it works out for you, tread carefully though....

[Malvolio]

Suggest you make the booking, but ask a few questions before you hand the money over.

There are no guarantees in this game - sometimes you just have to take a punt.

[rathbone]

If you ask for a rough idea where she is located, that'll help in determining if all is good.

Definitely ask which part of Dundee she's based in that may give you a strong clue.

If in doubt the other option is to wait until she has some feedback from other people, then book her.

[Marmalade]

Am I right in thinking it was you who made the approach? If so, you should have thought of asking yourself before you did that surely. If it was she who offered out of the blue and it is a dom-sub position where you would be very vulnerable then I’d certainly think twice. At the very least I’d take precautions (no credit cards or ID on your person, no more cash than the agreed amount, and which you would be prepared to lose, wary of any traceable info you may have given out online.

[Marmalade]

Unlike regular prossies, experiences doms usually have a decent reputation. (Depends on your level, but equipment etc can set them back a bit, so they should be able to reassure you that you are dealing with a professional person...

Or have a mild session first ffs.

Excuse me for saying, but we don’t know you, or how experienced you are in this game. If you are not honestly an experienced sub (in real paid face to face terms, not online) then start slowly.

[s0whatsnew?]

Couple of things:  She has a history.  Very pretty face, i'm assuming Dundee is a bit of a backwater, so why is she there rather than a bigger city?  As someone else says, dommes usually graduate from escorting.  Given that its a brand-new profile, what is the history that we don't know?  For sure she's hiding a lot.  Whether thats a reasonable hide (her private life, f'rinstance) or unreasonable (professional misconduct) we just don't know.

Next; her offerings seem very vague.  Most dommes give a very specific list of equipment and activities available.  And also, very importantly, quite specific no-no's.  The lack of that here would make me very suspicious.

But hey, nothing venture, nothing gain.  Try negotiating a very mild and short session to test the water.  If she's unwilling then that's in itself a bad sign, IMO anyway.  Good luck.

[Gman1994]

Am I right in thinking it was you who made the approach? If so, you should have thought of asking yourself before you did that surely. If it was she who offered out of the blue and it is a dom-sub position where you would be very vulnerable then I’d certainly think twice. At the very least I’d take precautions (no credit cards or ID on your person, no more cash than the agreed amount, and which you would be prepared to lose, wary of any traceable info you may have given out online.

Correct. To be honest, I was a bit naive but I was a bit intrigued by her profile and just thought that I'd ask if she'd do real time sessions and it just took me back a bit by how quick she was to say 'Yeah, go on I don't normally but I will'. I was just curious when I made this thread if there were any specific alarm bells ringing at her profile rather than the lack of history.

Anyway, I met her this afternoon and....

Good stuff. She was what was advertised, she was a very nice person, good looking and really good at providing the services offered in a clean environment. We spoke for a bit and it was genuinely just a case of her starting camming last week for extra pocket money and thinking 'fuck it' when I approached her as I had a good feedback rep and she wanted to experiment - it was her first time.

I suppose it was a risk to take but she made the effort to call back this morning and I had good vibes from that and then taking a wee drive round the area.

[Waterhouse]

Correct. To be honest, I was a bit naive but I was a bit intrigued by her profile and just thought that I'd ask if she'd do real time sessions and it just took me back a bit by how quick she was to say 'Yeah, go on I don't normally but I will'. I was just curious when I made this thread if there were any specific alarm bells ringing at her profile rather than the lack of history.

Anyway, I met her this afternoon and....

Good stuff. She was what was advertised, she was a very nice person, good looking and really good at providing the services offered in a clean environment. We spoke for a bit and it was genuinely just a case of her starting camming last week for extra pocket money and thinking 'fuck it' when I approached her as I had a good feedback rep and she wanted to experiment - it was her first time.

I suppose it was a risk to take but she made the effort to call back this morning and I had good vibes from that and then taking a wee drive round the area.

Pleased to hear it all turned out well in the end for you.  Did you get the impression she would or is seeing other clients for in-person meets, and not just camming?

What sort of services did she provide with you? Maybe a review would help?

Cheers.

[Gman1994]

Pleased to hear it all turned out well in the end for you.  Did you get the impression she would or is seeing other clients for in-person meets, and not just camming?

What sort of services did she provide with you? Maybe a review would help?

Cheers.

Cheers mate.

I'll put one up in the right section later. She was playing the role of a dominatrix and there was a lot of pussy worship and a bit of role play.

She said I was the first and only one she's ever done, just by chance (she was curious, it was her day off and I am mid 20s with good feedback), and the only other thing she does is camming - my instinct is that she was being sincere about that. I don't know if she'll do it again in the future or enter it more but I'll deffo be back in touch when my pocket money accumulates.

[Waterhouse]

Cheers mate.

I'll put one up in the right section later. She was playing the role of a dominatrix and there was a lot of pussy worship and a bit of role play.

She said I was the first and only one she's ever done, just by chance (she was curious, it was her day off and I am mid 20s with good feedback), and the only other thing she does is camming - my instinct is that she was being sincere about that. I don't know if she'll do it again in the future or enter it more but I'll deffo be back in touch when my pocket money accumulates.

 

[felixhendrix]

Please post a review...I'm Always up for a good Domme session.
Is she strong and forceful?

[Kelgon85]

I must admit, I have done it a couple of times. I seem to recall that on a couple of occasions I lucked out, and it paid off. But on other occasions it didn't, and I ended up having a crap experience. It’s definitely a shot in the dark.

[django0700]

Hi all,

I appreciate that this topic has maybe come up before but how do you handle meeting someone with no history?

Once bitten twice shy, that's why I don't usually meet someone like this.....however it has got me to ponder on the fact that there were always brave souls who TOFT, who fucked and reviewed every working girl on this site..

[cueball]

Book a session.
Be prepared to walk away.
Keep your money in your pocket until you are 100% happy.
Check out the address on google maps.
Write a review after your meeting.

This ^^

I'll add this too.... Always have a phone speak, you can get a much better idea of someone's attitude by speaking. It's not infallible but it's far better than emails and texts.

I don't know about this Sub dom pollarver but that's my method with a new face that has no history or info base.