Married guys, for what reason(s) do you punt? Do you think about the risk?

[snaitram99]

these are the quoted figures. I offer no evidence for/against them, but I do class my marriage in that.

Quoted from where by whom?

[bigboy]

Am not married but at the time when i was with my ex gf i was with her for a while but as we do we fantasies about other women. I was getting regular sex but it started to slow down and having sex with the same girl for years was boring me because we have a 69 in the morning then vanilla sex in the evening but times where it was me that couldn't be bothered because i knew the routine. What got me started was when i was in work and everyone knew i had a gf but i was all ways scared of the risk of seeing other women. until a married women at my old work wanted to have sex with me. She was much older than me think she wanted a toy boy cut long story short i had the balls to fuck her because she was married to i had a gf so was a good secret. That was it my confidence started to walk in to parlours and book escorts because having sex with different women turned me on. Also the secret too and still now i get that feeling of walking into a parlour picking the girl am going to fuck, searching on AW who to book and the rest goes on

[bristolqwerty]

Variety ~ simple as that.  As many Asian ladies (gorgeous) as I can.  Doesn't effect my relationship one dot.  In fact makes me happier, nicer to be around, away from home legitimately very often so it works for me.  I even got a wow for RO skills from OH which I learnt from various escorts.    If you can afford it, if you enjoy it then life is far too short.  As long as no one gets hurt.   Plus I agree there's a bit of "dirty bastard" in all of us when enjoying pounding a 19yo student. 

[threechilliman]

I even got a wow for RO skills from OH which I learnt from various escorts

'I've been practising on whores just for you dear'

[Spacecowb0y]

Quoted from where by whom?

you seem to have a bee in your bonnet about these figures. I remember the figures,but not the origin,so sorry can't help you any further. You can choose to believe them or not,but I go along with once a month (and often less) as defining a sexless marriage. It depends on what the two people within that relationship quantify as regular sex ultimately.

[Titti Tatti]

you seem to have a bee in your bonnet about these figures. I remember the figures,but not the origin,so sorry can't help you any further. You can choose to believe them or not,but I go along with once a month (and often less) as defining a sexless marriage. It depends on what the two people within that relationship quantify as regular sex ultimately.

I think he has a point, no doubt you read them on the internet and unless you can remember what the source is, it has zero credibility.


For my part if I got monthly sex at home I doubt I'd ever have visited a wg. So I wouldn't class that as a sexless marriage. Now that I've started....

[bristolqwerty]

'I've been practising on whores just for you dear'

It allows me to close my eyes and go to my special  place 

[shagmore]

You know its on a slippery slop when they start telling you to hurry up, and that if they even allow you to have sex with them.
I wish I had punted when I was married, to me sex is a very big part of a relationship and my life. After my divorce I said I would not b beholding to a women again if she did not keep the sex going. I stopped punting when I got a gf, the sex was great, but after about 6 months it slowed down, still to an acceptable level 3-4 times a week. But now its once a month if that, and hence why i punt.
I think its about time to get rid of gf and find a new nymph.
Risks - the risks are getting caught, you have to accept that

[anonymous312]

My s/o just doesn't enjoy it anymore so I'm lucky if I get it once a year  I used to punt before her but it started again when we hit a rough spot.

[snaitram99]

I think he has a point, no doubt you read them on the internet and unless you can remember what the source is, it has zero credibility.


For my part if I got monthly sex at home I doubt I'd ever have visited a wg. So I wouldn't class that as a sexless marriage.

Thanks. Glad someone gets my point. The bee in my bonnet is that the definition is nonsense. Maybe if it was said to be insufficient or something then ok but 9 somethings a year is not something less.

[Motherfooker]

How else do I get to fuck a stunning girl who also happens to be a lesbian?

[rabari]

Lets put it this way,(fast forward) Me and the OH are(will be) both in our eighties, the children have grown and left home.

One night me and the OH whilst alone have an almighty row but due to old age neither one of us can do anything about it other than live together and  hurt each other verbally.

Imagine that night whilst arguing  she, in an attempt to crucify me, claims to have had the Vicar, the Milkman, the local shop keeper and many more in our marital bed while I was busy, busy working 24/7 to make ends meet.

If the above scenario were ever to become true then I am simply collecting ammunition for that one fateful day when in my eighties I wont be able to do anything about it. That`s why I punt!

[Sinz]

Lets put it this way,(fast forward) Me and the OH are(will be) both in our eighties, the children have grown and left home.

One night me and the OH whilst alone have an almighty row but due to old age neither one of us can do anything about it other than live together and  hurt each other verbally.

Imagine that night whilst arguing  she, in an attempt to crucify me, claims to have had the Vicar, the Milkman, the local shop keeper and many more in our marital bed while I was busy, busy working 24/7 to make ends meet.

If the above scenario were ever to become true then I am simply collecting ammunition for that one fateful day when in my eighties I wont be able to do anything about it. That`s why I punt!

You are one weird individual

[Spacecowb0y]

I think he has a point, no doubt you read them on the internet and unless you can remember what the source is, it has zero credibility.


For my part if I got monthly sex at home I doubt I'd ever have visited a wg. So I wouldn't class that as a sexless marriage. Now that I've started....

we have different amounts of sex we need to keep us happy in a marriage. Once a month isn't very much at all,if it's a 1 pop ,20 minute quickly in missionary.

[Deeeazy]

Not big time punter maybe once a year so and few massage sessions with happy endings.

Have a soft spot and weakness for south east Asian girls specially Chinese.  I'm also surrounded by beautiful fit Chinese girls everywhere I go as you can't avoid them in London.

Had always fancied Chinese girls since I was very young and have had a few Chinese girls friends. Maybe should have married one ? Now I'm starting to fancy Romanians too 

Anyways that's my reason.

[MrMatrix]

Had I known what would happen after getting married, I seriously doubt I would have tied the knot. Now, my Mrs was never great in the bedroom - she would pretty much just lie there but as I was desperate to settle down, I accepted that poor sex was better than no sex and at least with her I could finally settle down.

When we got wed, the day we returned from honeymoon was the day she turned off the tap. I couldn't believe it was that quick and that brutal. I expected over time the amount of sex to reduce but this was ridiculous. I tried many times to talk to her about it but she never gave me a proper answer. It felt like 'I'll have sex with you until I get the ring on my finger then I won't need to anymore'.

After a couple of years of staying faithful with no action, I stopped trying to initiate sex and moved back to punting (I had punted for many years before the Mrs came along).

I can honestly say that I have never felt guilty about punting. Not once. If anything, it kept me with the Mrs because I stopped resenting her for turning the tap off and I was getting better sex than I ever had with her.

As for the risks associated with punting... I am careful in that I don't punt too close to home, always use protection and get checked regularly at the clinic just incase a miracle occurs and I get a chance at home.

Blimey that even worse than me. At least I had regular sex for the 1st three weeks, before it was rationed out. My views and experience are pretty much the same as yours. I'm not looking for a miracle at home now. OH has got her sexless marriage and shes knows it remains a big problem. I actually feel a bit sorry for her as she's missed out on so much and she knows she screwed up. My punting has helped our relationship. 

[Titti Tatti]

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I can honestly say that I have never felt guilty about punting. Not once. If anything, it kept me with the Mrs because I stopped resenting her for turning the tap off and I was getting better sex than I ever had with her.

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May be worth a thread on its own?  our relationship has improved since I found a new way of getting my kicks after several frustrating years. During the same period It's been a stressful time for us and we are coping with some huge life issues better and more together than we have coped with problems in the past
This seems to go against all conventional thinking on marriage?

[Deepstroker]

I think the clue is in your title MARRIED! Once the ring is on the legs close.....allegedly. 

But i wonder why this is? Do the women just get tired of being fucked by the same guy? The same moves,the same technique? Some of them must do as they are screwing other guys/having affairs. Or is it more basic than that? Man fertilises woman,woman has child,job done. No further need for sex. You then slip into maintenance mode as the idea of the financial ruin,the hassle of living alone, finding new relationships is all too much. You just live with it.

[MrMatrix]

[quote author=Shybloke250 link=topic=175100.msg1857171#msg1857171
I can honestly say that I have never felt guilty about punting. Not once. If anything, it kept me with the Mrs because I stopped resenting her for turning the tap off and I was getting better sex than I ever had with her.

May be worth a thread on its own?  our relationship has improved since I found a new way of getting my kicks after several frustrating years. During the same period It's been a stressful time for us and we are coping with some huge life issues better and more together than we have coped with problems in the past
This seems to go against all conventional thinking on marriage?

The punting has basically complimented my relationship. I'm in a better place and we work well together. I would much rather had vanilla sex with the OH than ended up punting. Her attitude forced me into looking at this option. But punting is way better than any thing I had before and it deals with that itch we all have. Having regular sex means my life is more balance and a lot healthier.

[dave_59]

What other way is someone nearly 60 going to get to pull a 25yrs looker.
Well unless they've a couple of million in the bank.

As I don't qualify on point two it's back to point one.

I do get it at home but have an occasional liking to visit younger ladies.

It's uncomplicated sweaty fun.....

[BillGoldberg]

Because regardless of how good the sex is at home, I don't think I could ever be sexually satisfied by just one woman.

Yes, I'm selfish, yes I'm dishonest, yes I want to have my cake and eat it too, so sue me, its in my genes.

Punting is far more pragmatic, convenient, safer and easier than multiple affairs.

[snaitram99]

Once a month isn't very much at all,

I agree and in fact don't even achieve this much, but don't think I could truthfully call it "sexless"

[billymuggins]

Ha! Ha! Some great honesty in this thread, thanks for sharing.
My excuse is - "it's the new me, I'm doing it because I like it!" Happy Christmas.

[Sinz]

Ha! Ha! Some great honesty in this thread, thanks for sharing.
My excuse is - "it's the new me, I'm doing it because I like it!" Happy Christmas.

Ha Ha .... maybe you should start sharing your experiences, instead being a leech.

[stampjones]

Because regardless of how good the sex is at home, I don't think I could ever be sexually satisfied by just one woman.

Yes, I'm selfish, yes I'm dishonest, yes I want to have my cake and eat it too, so sue me, its in my genes.

Punting is far more pragmatic, convenient, safer and easier than multiple affairs.

Couldnt have put it better myself.
No one woman can be all the different women you could have.

[Spacecowb0y]

The punting has basically complimented my relationship. I'm in a better place and we work well together. I would much rather had vanilla sex with the OH than ended up punting. Her attitude forced me into looking at this option. But punting is way better than any thing I had before and it deals with that itch we all have. Having regular sex means my life is more balance and a lot healthier.

my punting thus far hasn't been regular enough to get me to this point. It's where i want to be,so the destructive feelings towards her actually dissapear.  She entertains sex more for when she (and i) are in the mood,but can't (or won't) understand my need for sex is higher. I am past the anger,but resentment towards her attitude still surfaces far too often. Hoping that frequent punting in 2018 will help.

[BillGoldberg]

Couldnt have put it better myself.
No one woman can be all the different women you could have.

 

[DoggyD]

Like many others have commented being in a long term relationship the amount of sexual contact has greatly reduced hence me punting over the years.

In fairness to the other half we hadnt done anything in about a month but the last two nights have been a success so that will curb my punting intention but when we have that gap of a few weeks or a month then I will punt. For me I dont usually have full sex with a working girl as that is saved for the missus as even though she is pretty vanilla I still prefer the passionate encounter with her and of course bb is the preference & I wouldnt do that with a WG.

Punting for me is about a variety of busty girls of all ages, sucking cock & letting me come in their mouths / faces which the OH doesnt do or like. Also the chance to get the girl to dress a specific way is something I dont get at home so that adds to the punting interest for me.

Now if the OH just upped the amount, dressed slutty and took a load in the mouth I wouldnt punt but hey it is what it is and guilt does come into it but with the pressure of demanding some sexual relief I honestly feel I'm nicer to her though I do harbour some animosity towards here as after so many years she knows me & holds it back & only does it on her terms. No regrets & I have an inkling she might know to a degree.

[Mr_Shins]

The risk though if you are married is a costly divorce... all that money could have been spent punting. A lot of punting...

[Spacecowb0y]

For reasons I won't explain online, I'm pretty sure my wife wouldn't divorce me. My things would be moved permanently to the doghouse, but the marital bed has been mostly for sleeping, therefore no big loss.

[Punter115]

It is really quite simple why I punt ...because I get F.A. at home and although I am now an old man I ain’t yet in the box......given I ain’t had any sexual relations with the wife for over 10 years
 ( yes ...very sad)....I don’t think I have to worry to much about the risks involved, although I do go to the clinic once or twice a year to be checked out.

[MrMatrix]

For reasons I won't explain online, I'm pretty sure my wife wouldn't divorce me. My things would be moved permanently to the doghouse, but the marital bed has been mostly for sleeping, therefore no big loss.

Interestingly enough my OH thinks bed is just for sleeping in as well. I mean what other uses could a bed have!!!!!!!

It is really quite simple why I punt ...because I get F.A. at home and although I am now an old man I ain’t yet in the box......given I ain’t had any sexual relations with the wife for over 10 years
 ( yes ...very sad)....I don’t think I have to worry to much about the risks involved, although I do go to the clinic once or twice a year to be checked out.

Like you I go annually to the clinic. Not my favourite place, but I think its a responsible thing to do. Even more so had I being having sex with my OH, which of course I dont and haven't for some time now.

[Jonestown]

Being married or not getting any at home has nothing to do with it, once you get a taste for a bit of “strange” it never leaves you, you have to have it, wouldn’t matter that you were married to the hottest chick ever and you just had to click your fingers and her knickers would be down by her knees, you’d still be out looking for something you’d not had before.

[Drayki]

I punt simply because Ive forgotten what its like to fuck the mrs  end of

[wolfiesmith69]

Plenty of action at home with the OH but you can have a fantasy fuck with a 20 plus fucktoy for a few pounds which at my age is impossible to get hold of for free !!!!!