Have been a recent convert to the Group/Party Scene I wonder what stopped me partaking years ago. Imho VFM is good, I have been lucky with the organisers and the WG's who are very professional. Thinking back I was concerned about how I would feel performing in front of men and if there was underlying homosexual undertones. Interesting to see what other members think about the scene, pros and cons.
I am a convert to parties after thinking for many years such a thing wasnt for me. The fact is you never know until you give it a go, many punters had felt the same as me before going.
The pros with a good provider are they obviously give me the chance to punt with multiple WGs for less than punting with them 121.
The cons are some providers are blatant lying pricks like GP Parties now gone were in 2008 and Desire Parties also now gone became a bait and switch outfit from late 2009 onwards despite being good in my experiences in 2008.
Another con is some hosts are useless including the one at LAPC Parties where i go sometimes. He doesnt supervise the WGs as he should, those like at LMP that do can make a huge difference to how good a party can be.
Another con can be hoggers, punters who treat a party like a 121, few in number in my observations but complete arseholes who can spoil a party. Parties have an etiquette that punters soon pick up, only these hoggers dont care about following it.
IMO the most important thing after the cost of a party is its length, two hours is the minimum of interest to me. Then the ratio of WGs to punters, the lower the better for the punter, but this will mean it costs more usually, although a punter might be lucky and go to a cheaper party like i did at Desire in 2008 at £100 for 4 hours and have 2 WGs including Keira Pharrell to myself for most of it as the two other punters left. Great for me, terrible for the WGs money take of course. Over a 3.1 ratio it can turn into a scrum, i saw it at 6.1 a couple of times at GP including in a small box room at their Bow flat, total waste of my time.
The more WGs the better for me, this is why i stopped going to Gangbangs which were cheap but only had one sometimes two WGs but 8-20 punters. Too much boring hanging about for my liking.
I also went to some Bukkake events but what finally put me off is a guy spunked on my arm, he didnt even apologise, the WG did though, i immediately had a shower and left. As with Gangbang parties too many other punters for my liking.
The crucial thing about parties is they can be like chalk and cheese, just being called a party can be the only thing they have in common. I dont compare LAPC to LMP anymore than i do a Ferrari to a Ford Ka. They are worlds apart.
What is needed in London now GP and Desire which i am glad have gone and Sacred Rose which was good at one time but went downhill towards the end is more parry providers in my opinion that offer a good service.