Punting with permission from wife ?

[BJvirgin]

how many others here are married, wife lost all interest in sex and tired of being asked to fuck/suck, so you're given permission to splash with a WG ?

I have a "don't ask, don't tell" arrangement. Not yet punted (here learning how to make the first one a positive experience)

[Tailpipe]

Happy days .

[StevenS]

Yep my wife is very relaxed about it, but in the spirit of give and take, the deal is that she would take me to the fucking cleaners, cut of my cock and ruin me generally if she ever found out.

[BJvirgin]

Yep my wife is very relaxed about it, but in the spirit of give and take, the deal is that she would take me to the fucking cleaners, cut of my cock and ruin me generally if she ever found out.

I'm confused  I presume "relaxed" is a relative term? ie NOT at all relaxed

I'm confused as to why my wife would prefer I go and fuck a prossie rather than let me fuck her for 5 mins. Better than being totally deprived of sex I suppose

[Tailpipe]

Yep my wife is very relaxed about it, but in the spirit of give and take, the deal is that she would take me to the fucking cleaners, cut of my cock and ruin me generally if she ever found out.

Been there done that divorce cost half my life times work , cock remained intact 

Best answer is don,t get married if you do don,t get divorced .

[Happylad]

What baffles me is this - why on earth get married in the first place if you don`t want to fuck her brains out at every available opportunity.  Surely better (and more economical) to stay single and play the field.

[RedKettle]

I would not trust "permission" for this - it would come back to bite the balls off later.  I had "permission" for a weekend away with the mates and never heard the end of it when I actually arranged it.

[Owwhatanight]

What baffles me is this - why on earth get married in the first place if you don`t want to fuck her brains out at every available opportunity.  Surely better (and more economical) to stay single and play the field.

It's called love ...and women change once they have those comfy slippers on and got your wage pkt every month.
But you can play the field if you work away a lot

[iPad3]

I would not trust "permission" for this - it would come back to bite the balls off later.  I had "permission" for a weekend away with the mates and never heard the end of it when I actually arranged it.

Couldn't agree more, if you do punt I'd do as most of us do and say nothing, IMO she'll change her tune completely if she finds out you have and take you to the cleaners by applying the classic female logic of "it's ok for me to do x but if you do it your being a cunt etc etc"

[Daffodil]

There's a certain whiff of bullshit around the op. This does not sound plausible to me.

Even his username hints at him never even having had a blowjob (although I accept, if you're married, it may feel like that).

[SamLP]

Unless you're both into the swinging scene, I wouldn't trust any permission the wife gives. It will come back to bite you.

[Tailpipe]

I would not trust "permission" for this - it would come back to bite the balls off later.  I had "permission" for a weekend away with the mates and never heard the end of it when I actually arranged it.

So many married blokes would relate,to this post .

[raylondoner]

Was this permission in writing and witnessed? 

[BJvirgin]

There's a certain whiff of bullshit around the op.

go fuck yourself 

the username is correct. until I do my first punt that is

[BJvirgin]

Was this permission in writing and witnessed? 

she won't ever ask. I won't ever tell. I can punt without guilt or fear

[Dr Yes]

I guess there are some advantages to being a widower   

[dilettante]

Can't believe any wife would actively "assent" to this, though they might turn a blind eye - women are notoriously cagey about giving any proactive indication of anything and are far more likely to practise on you to make you make all the decisions so they can throw it back at you later if necessary - they won't be "held to account".

As for the OP, well I never had more than 30 secs of BJ until I saw WGs either, so good luck to him!

[raylondoner]

without fear of contraception?

[vt]

she won't ever ask. I won't ever tell. I can punt without guilt or fear

This does smell of BS, so you will be tested on this...

First up...Whose idea was this...hers or yours??

[Daffodil]

go fuck yourself 

the username is correct. until I do my first punt that is

So you're married and yet have never had a blowjob? 

If that is true (and it's a big if) then you're truly tragic 

[BJvirgin]

If that is true (and it's a big if) then you're truly tragic 

true. it is tragic. but when you're young and fucking often you enjoy what you get, rather than focus on what you don't get. now that there's no longer any fucking, you wake up to the fact that you made a big mistake. but ... divorce is expensive, more expensive than punting

[CatBBW]

So you're married and yet have never had a blowjob? 

If that is true (and it's a big if) then you're truly tragic 

I've known a few women who wouldn't put their mouth near a cock. (And likewise, known a few men who wouldn't ever want to do RO.) One of my best friends when I was younger used to heave at the thought of sucking cock, she was soooo easy to wind up, I would just start talking about it and she would be practically throwing up Sadly it looks like the OP managed to marry one of these ladies, and after the "I do" she still didn't change her mind.

As to the OP - yes, some women are happy for their husbands to go pay for it, it's not as complicated as an affair where feelings are (can be) involved, and one night stands can be emotionally messy, so paying for it means the husband can get to experience safe (hopefully!) sex and exploration while still being part of the family - emotionally, financially, physically etc etc. I wouldn't think most women would see it like this, however, you would need to have a pretty open-minded wife to begin with, and wives who don't want to give blow jobs tend not to be sexually liberated enough to cope with husband seeing prostitutes.

Hope your first punt goes successfully, BJVirgin

[SirFrank]

true. it is tragic. but when you're young and fucking often you enjoy what you get, rather than focus on what you don't get. now that there's no longer any fucking, you wake up to the fact that you made a big mistake. but ... divorce is expensive, more expensive than punting

If you've genuinely made a mistake you need to think about a long term solution. Divorce is expensive but staying in an unhappy marriage (which it seems is what you have? Maybe wide of the mark here?) will eventually destroy you both

[GeeWiz]

the username is correct. until I do my first punt that is

Why would you marry someone who never gave you a blowjob when you were courting?

[StevenS]

I'm confused  I presume "relaxed" is a relative term? ie NOT at all relaxed

I'm confused as to why my wife would prefer I go and fuck a prossie rather than let me fuck her for 5 mins. Better than being totally deprived of sex I suppose

I was being sacastic. Maybe understanding sarcasm has a direct correlation to having received head.

[BJvirgin]

Why would you marry someone who never gave you a blowjob when you were courting?

simple. I am stupid. I cannot defend that sadly

[squeezebox]

If you've genuinely made a mistake you need to think about a long term solution. Divorce is expensive but staying in an unhappy marriage (which it seems is what you have? Maybe wide of the mark here?) will eventually destroy you both

So profound and so true.   

Once you free those shackles, and get your punting boots on, you'll never look back.

[BJvirgin]

you would need to have a pretty open-minded wife

correct, she is not open minded. this is more about compromise rather than being OK with it.

Hope your first punt goes successfully, BJVirgin

thanks, that's appreciated. definitely looking forward to it

[dilettante]

true. it is tragic. but when you're young and fucking often you enjoy what you get, rather than focus on what you don't get. now that there's no longer any fucking, you wake up to the fact that you made a big mistake. but ... divorce is expensive, more expensive than punting

You are a scholar and a gentleman - it can only be downhill from now on.

[Quesadilla]

how many others here are married, wife lost all interest in sex and tired of being asked to fuck/suck, so you're given permission to splash with a WG ?

I have a "don't ask, don't tell" arrangement. Not yet punted (here learning how to make the first one a positive experience)

Separated from my wife this year after we became "friends without benefits" over the years - we just stopped enjoying sex together, so it stopped feeling like a marriage and felt just like we were room mates.  Life's too short for that and we never had kids so decided to move on and do our own thing.

End result I am now able to punt guilt free but we are still great friends so we can talk about it openly which is a bit odd.  She's seeing other men (from legit dating sites not AW / UKP type!!  ) and she asks my advice which is also odd I suppose. 

BTW if you have no kids divorce does not have to be complicated or particularly expensive.  Sure you have to split the assets but if you can manage to do it amicably, then no leeches - I mean divorce lawyers - are needed, you just need to work out a fair settlement between you.

Seems crazy to stay together with someone you're not completely happy with - it's your life and you only have one! 

[JV547845]

Your wife gives me permission to punt OP  .

[Dani]

A woman giving permission is fine until the questions start.  Was she younger than me?  was she prettier than me?   Did she do things I wouldn't?  what did you do to her?  No point lying on this as she will find out the truth eventually and if you answer yes to any of the questions then you will have hell to pay
The old you have permission to do so and so it a womans way of basically saying IF YOU DONT LOVE ME you can do so and so.  By giving permission she is expecting you to say No I would rather go without than be with anyone else.  Its a bit like when a woman says Fine, or do what you want.  It means don't you bloody dare.

There are a few exceptions as in women who are very open minded but she doesn't sound open minded at all.  Wont even try to give a BJ means her mind is closed as wont even try to give you what most men and women see as part of normal sex.

If you are going to do this tell her you are not going to take her up on her offer as it wouldn't feel right and would feel like cheating and then do it without her knowing.  It will save a lot of heart ache.

[akauya]

In an ideal world if prossies were more reasonably priced I think most wives (who no longer fuck their husbands) most probably wouldn't care. Try explaining to her that you just blew most of next summer's holiday budget with a couple of prossies though and she will hit the roof.

However, if you are both loaded then you can enter into an agreement. You say to the wife... you buy yourself a couple of Louboutin shoes and for the same price I will go and fuck some prossies

[Tjkooker]

go fuck yourself 

the username is correct. until I do my first punt that is

So you've never had the balls to stand up for your sex life with your wife but you think it's ok to abuse long standing members of the forum!
I would have said respected member but it's Daff and he's a cunt anyway 

[Daffodil]

So you've never had the balls to stand up for your sex life with your wife but you think it's ok to abuse long standing members of the forum!
I would have said respected member but it's Daff and he's a cunt anyway 

Can't argue with that 

[hockogrockle]

A girl in a massage parlour in Bristol once told me she had been (as an outcall) to a threesome with a man and his wife. Does that count? (The girl concerned was-and presumably still is- bisexual, by the way.)















 

[threechilliman]

Sad situation for the OP. Me and Mrs tcm had reached a dead end last year but thankfully we've managed to steer ourselves back on track and now enjoy a better sex life than we've ever had - nights away just so we can have sex at our leisure. She's now watches porn (always a bugbear with her) and even enjoys it and for the first time ever the other day, sent me the link to a video she'd found, enjoyed and thought I might like it. I was at work at the time, so it was a very pleasant surprise.... it had the desired effect later in the day as well so i guess she got what she wanted

You can change IF you both want to but it may be Mrs BJV need some professional help to get over whatever is in the way of her enjoying sex.

Mind you, it hasn't stopped me punting, but I'm a greedy, selfish bastard in reality!!

tcm

[SirFrank]

I could never go the distance with a girl who didn't smoke beef and smoke it well. I'm a huge fan of oral, sadly there's much more to it than sticking it in your gob. I've had some shit BJs over the years, including with girls who gt paid for it

[SamLP]

Why do you need your wife's permission to punt? Her knowledge can only be bad. Don't fool yourself into thinking it will make you feel less guilty because when she wants to wield it against you in the future you will be regretting it. If you're going to feel guilty, don't punt, otherwise do so without her knowledge.

[AnthG]

I have a "don't ask, don't tell" arrangement. Not yet punted (here learning how to make the first one a positive experience)

Two bits of advice.

1. You may think you have this arrangement, and she may think she has this arrangement, but then when you do it, you may find she cannot handle this arrangement and its over (as you cannot then put the bolted horse back into the stable).

Think of it this way, a lot of people think they can go parachuting, but then when sitting in the plane ready to jump it hits them in the face that they find they cannot go through with it.

Your wife may be ok with it till it hits her in the face what you are doing and then its too late.

2. There unfortunately isn't anyway to ensure your punt is a positive experience. Two of my worst punts have been with girls who everyone else who has seen them rate them as the crem de la crem of my region I am based. There are many factors that mean a punt is good or not. And many beyond your control. I would say one major factor is whether the girl came to work and could be bothered to put an effort in. Or has had a terrible punter just before you turned up and thus is annoyed herself. These are totally beyond your control to change.

[nova painted floozie]

End result I am now able to punt guilt free but we are still great friends so we can talk about it openly which is a bit odd.  She's seeing other men (from legit dating sites not AW / UKP type!!  ) and she asks my advice which is also odd I suppose. 

It isn't odd at all, it's lovely! Jealousy doesn't have to be the default setting. You can care about someone and be ok with them seeing others. It sounds like although you are no longer a couple you still have a bond between you and that is great. 

[Dr Yes]

Think of it this way, a lot of people think they can go parachuting, but then when sitting in the plane ready to jump it hits them in the face that they find they cannot go through with it.

IMO, anyone who jumps out of a fully serviceable aeroplane should be certified insane 

I think the same applies to anyone who thinks they have the "permission" of their Missus to go punting, as it will only come back to bite ( rather than suck  ) later, as so many others on here have pointed out. IMO, the only possible exception, again as previously pointed out, would be husband and wife going "swinging" together when both have full knowledge of what is going on. 

[Wowgeek]

I could never go the distance with a girl who didn't smoke beef and smoke it well. I'm a huge fan of oral, sadly there's much more to it than sticking it in your gob. I've had some shit BJs over the years, including with girls who gt paid for it

Then you definitely aren't a former work colleague of mine, his favourite line was 'describe the worst blowjob you've ever had..................................................fucking amazing!'

[Sparquin]

My first wife refused to give oral and it created huge resentment and eventually we divorced, albeit for more reasons than that. Think carefully about how you will feel towards her if things do not change and then discuss it with her. Maybe using a flavored condom could help get her more accepting of what you want. Try to change her attitude before you punt. Once you start there is no going back as others have said as, done properly, a BJ is often better than penetrative sex.

My second wife has lost interest in my sexual gratification and I cannot remember the last time I had a BJ from her. I have made clear to her that I not prepared to go through the rest of my life without emptying my balls into a woman's mouth at one time or another. I do not think this constitutes permission but at the very least she knows where I stand and if she wants to improve matters then she knows what to do or accept that others will do it instead.

Of course this might mean killing me......

[CBPaul]

Have to agree with those who detect a distinct whiff of bullshit about this one.

But.  It's one thing for an OH to give theoretical permission but once she gets the slightest idea that you're off banging prossies who are younger, fitter and more attractive then she'll get jealous / paranoid and your testicles will be on the chopping block like everyone else's.

Not wanting to start the 'oh well we're not shagging each other senseless like we did when we first got together so there's no point in being married' debate all over again, but IMO if you go along the open relationship route you are either naturally suited to having multiple partners or doomed once the desire to split or loathing of each other overcomes the inertia of your current situation.   

[BJvirgin]

Have to agree with those who detect a distinct whiff of bullshit about this one.

to all those thinking this thread whiffs. I am being completely honest. this is not a fabrication

thanks to everyone for their constructive feedback and warnings on what permission really means in reality. I do intend to punt with extreme caution, and never share that info at home. luckily my work schedule allows for opportunities.

my home situation is not unhappy, so apart from lack of sex I have no need to make changes. will punting satisfy the sex needs? I don't know, but keen to find out.

[Quesadilla]

...my home situation is not unhappy, so apart from lack of sex I have no need to make changes...

Seems like a complete contradiction in terms to me but to each their own I suppose...
You might want to at least consider taking her to Relate for couples counselling.  Didn't fix things for me and the ex but made it crystal clear that things weren't ever going to improve and helped me make the decision to end it.

[JV547845]

It's probably worth bringing up that if you do get divorced (the lady `cashing out' as they call it on harpie forums) your wife knowing you punt is going to heavily count against you.

[Toshiba]

Seems like a complete contradiction in terms to me but to each their own I suppose...
You might want to at least consider taking her to Relate for couples counselling.  Didn't fix things for me and the ex but made it crystal clear that things weren't ever going to improve and helped me make the decision to end it.

No it doesn't

Seems normal to most married punters.my home life is good, the sex is better, id hate to lose it all

But im a cunt and i like filthy sex with nsa 19/20yr olds

[Quesadilla]

It's probably worth bringing up that if you do get divorced (the lady `cashing out' as they call it on harpie forums) your wife knowing you punt is going to heavily count against you.

One of the biggest mis-conceptions about divorce is that committing adultery is instantly going to result in your wife taking you for every penny which is just not the case.  You can file a statement along the lines that your sex life had become intolerable leaving you feeling you had no choice but to look elsewhere. Divorce courts recognise that there are usually two sides to the story with adultery and generally it makes no difference to the financial settlement.   The financial side is really just an asset splitting exercise and the law doesn't take sides - any marital assets are added up into a pot and split 50/50 - again unless there are kids involved which complicates the process because you are expected to continue supporting them.

The only way I could see punting specifically counting against you in a settlement is if your wife knows how much you spent over the years - if it was tens of thousands they could argue they were entitled to a share of that.